LOVE IS A CHOICE

ITT Tech
August 26, 2014
People say love at first site is not a choice. For me it was. I answered the door expecting a friend who had called ahead. He did not mention he was bringing a girl with him. And there she was. I knew I wanted this woman in my life even if I had to meant losing friends in the process. Things got really hard really fast. I chose to tough it out and I am still happier in these four years than I have ever been in any other long term relationship. I have had several long relationships, some as long as nine years, but the second I saw her it was as if time stopped and I became instantly enamored. I know some would say this was where decisions stoped and hormones took over, but for me it became crystal clear. I knew what had to be done. I had to pull an old 1985 movie trick and make her fall in love with me. So I played it cool and left my wallet in her car knowing she would have to see me again eventually. But that eventually turned into friends asking me to pick sides and to think with my head and be more rational. Several people did everything they could to tear us apart when we had only just begun. The original friend who brought her over even shot a gun at me. That bro code is a bitch. I had to choose. Lifelong friends or who I knew was my destiny. I just didn’t know destiny had such a rocky road. As soon as we became engaged she was diagnosed with cancer. Then be both lost our jobs and right after she was cleared medically we married and made our first major move from Washington DC to Indiana. That choice lead to things falling apart. We ended up on food stamps and pregnant. So we set down as a couple and made another choice. We moved to security and back to where my wife’s former career as a teacher had been. We moved to the Arctic Circle of Alaska. Alaska has been difficult on me,