Can I be Forgiven ?

One must be forgive to be forgiven. In the short story “Marriage Is a Private Affair” Has enormous diversity in nationalities and cultures throughout the world often can create obstacles to developing relationships between those who choose to be narrow-minded and prejudiced about ethnic groups outside their own. Nnaemeka is deserving of forgiveness because as a individual he has the right to choose what kind of life style he wants to live.
Nnaemeka grew up where tradition played a very important role in the way of life, because of this reason it was taken for granted that he would do as his people did in the past. His father expected him to follow the traditional rules of living. But when Nnaemeka got older he moved to a city and into a completely different culture. Leaving his home town he still knew what was expected of him but he disregarded those feelings. He knew that choosing a bride for him was the job of his father and yet he got engaged all on his own. Nnaemeka is deserving of forgiveness because as a individual he has the right to choose what kind of life style he wants to live. Nnaemeka is making a complicated decision because he must choose between the man who raised him or the woman he loves. It was also difficult because if he chooses his wife, then his father may never speak to him again, but if he chooses his father, then he may never experience true love ever again. For example If it had occurred to him that never in history of his people had a man married a woman who spoke a different tongue, he might have been less optimistic."(p.26). This also show why Nnaemeka deserving forgiveness . Unlike Absalom in “Cry The Beloved Country ” Nnaemeka decision did not physical harm anyone. For example Nnaemeka says “ I wish I were sure it would be happiness to him. “(p.22). This quote shows that although Nnaemeka worried for his father happiness and wish that his father would be happy with his decision. In the story “Marriage Is a Private Affair ” had a lot of verbal abuse . Even tho Nnaemeka went through a lot of verbal abuse he never disrespect his father.
Throughout the story Nnaemeka did respect his father difference and still had respect for his culture. For an example “…never in the history of his people had a man married a woman who spoke a different tongue…” (p. 26) .Nnaemeka understood and respect his father difference but Nnaemeka is in love and wants to follow his heart. Nnaemeka is deserving of forgiveness because he still being respectful and following his heart and living his life how he want to. I believe that his father should forgive his son and start a ne relationship with him.