...Shame is Worth a Try - Argument Dan M. Kahan Dan M. Kahan was born in 1963 and graduated from Middlebury College in 1986 and Harvard Law School in 1989, where he served as president of the Harvard Law Review. He clerked for Judge Harry Edwards of the U.S. Court of Appeals for the District of Columbia circuit in 1989–1990 and for Justice Thurgood Marshall of the U.S. Supreme Court in 1990–1991. After practicing law for two years in Washington, D.C., Kahan launched his teaching career, first at the University of Chicago Law School and later at Yale Law School, where since 2003 he has been the Elizabeth K. Dollard Professor of Law. His teaching and research interests include criminal law, risk perception, punishment, and evidence. Kahan, who has written widely in legal journals on current social issues including gun control, is coauthor, with Tracey Meares, of Urgent Times: Policing and Rights in Inner-City Communities (1999). From 2005 to 2006, he was deputy dean of Yale Law School. In the following essay, first published in the Boston Globe on August 5, 2001, Kahan argues in favor of the use of shame as a punishment that is “an effective, cheap, and humane alternative to imprisonment.” Shame Is Worth a Try Is shame an appropriate criminal punishment? Many courts and legislators around the country think so. Steal from your employer in Wisconsin and you might be ordered to wear a sandwich board proclaiming your offense. Drive drunk in Florida or Texas and you might be...
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...This is to say that shame can be felt when one is caught stealing, lying, or cheating. Notably, minimal people are able to experience no shame when the offense is brought to the public eye, or even to the eye of a few people influential in the life of the offender. Though people caught often feel shame, one can harshly self shame themselves as Reverend Dimmesdale did in The Scarlet Letter when he was too cowardly to admit his sin to the public. People with strong morality will punish themselves when they know what they did was wrong. In general, when a crime is brought to the public's eye, the offender is put through physical punishment and public...
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...when they succumb to shame–that when one gives up on himself, he in turn demonizes himself. I will hold this idea close to my heart for all of my life because if I can stop someone...
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...Sergi October 13, 2015 Brené Brown In the “The Power of Vulnerability” and “Listening to Shame”, Brown gave a great talk on the power of vulnerability, and listening to shame and how she utilized her years of research to discover and enlighten the existence of vulnerability and its importance. To give a better explanation, she began her talks with the stories about her journey researching about vulnerability and shame. She expressed many times that she was a person who hated vulnerability. She finds and identifies to the audience that vulnerability will eventually engender strength, innovation, creativity, change, and happiness. She also discovered that connection is important in our lives. Individuals need to have the capacity to interface with other people. She stated that shame is the fear of disconnection, or the sentiment of painful vulnerability. It is the something that always influences us to give up in life. Using her exploration to justify her statement, Brown says that the general population who felt the most deserving of connection was those individuals who express vulnerability. She specified that although vulnerability is a frightening thing to accept, the outcomes are worth the pain. She admired people who accept their imperfections and embrace vulnerability and gave them the name of “Whole hearted”. Brown also showed how society dislike vulnerability and try to neglect it. By doing so, society faces some negatives effect. She continues by saying that people...
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...hurt in the course of their conflicts and sometimes there is a significant breach of trust, Occasionally a family member will consider a certain offence unforgivable and will not seek reconciliation. Usually, however, family members try to recover a sense of personal and relationship wellbeing by endeavoring to forgive and reconcile. This can be a long and arduous process. Therapists are often consulted to facilitate such healing. My purpose in writing this paper is to share my understanding of some of the complexities involved. The perspective that I adopt is a social constructionist or ‘bringforthist’ stance. I assume that through caring conversation, it. is possible to bring forth preferred ways of thinking and interacting that can lead to forgiveness and reconciliation. MUTUAL HURTS The duration and effects of any particular conflict between family members depends on how differences are managed in the nuances of ongoing family interaction: Conflicts vary from brief disagreements that are hardly noticeable, to extremely destructive emotional and physical battles that last for years. During any major episode of conflict, all parties involved tend to feel unfairly treated by others. For instance, in an ordinary family argument each person will try to protect the self from unfair accusations by using defensive statements or counter-attacks that may end up disqualifying and hurting the other. In these situations, both parties in the conflict feel wronged and both contribute to...
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...sustain himself through this first stage. This provider is also going to be who this child is going to adapt to as long as the provider provides for this child. When the provider stops providing the child’s needs, the child will begin to mistrust the provider, because the child can no longer trust the provider. The book that coincide with this stage would be The Happy Book: Touch & Feel Fun for Every Little One by Diane Muldrow is a book of rhyming text and colorful illustrations that includes pages with touch and feel textures, scratch-and-sniff scents, glow-in-the dark surprises, and lift-the-flap messages. It’s designed to lift up the child’s feelings (Blessed to be . . ., n. d.). Erikson’s second stage consists of autonomy versus shame and doubt. This stage is from the toddler’s age of 18 months to 3 years old. This is when the child starts demanding his independence. The child begins to do things the way he wants to do them....
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...The short story, “The Scarlet Ibis” tells of an older brother who fights the war of pride over love upon his younger brother. Throughout the story Brother’s haughtiness gradually shrinks as his love for his younger sibling grows. However, the issue with pride lasts too long. Brother’s pride ends up as the root cause of Doodle, his little brother’s death. Once Doodle passes on, Brother no longer feels shame towards Doodle, but rather himself. Brother, during the beginning moments of the story, finds pain and embarrassment in his brother, Doodle, due to his disability. This shame causes Brother to pursue violent actions towards Doodle. When attempting to murder Doodle, Brother stops; due to the smile on his little brother’s face. “However,...
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...different perspectives and shown in different ways; however, people seem to agree on the fact that successful people must have well-paid jobs, gorgeous houses, and tasty meals in various fancy restaurants, but not Laurence Shames. In his article"The Sweet Smell Isn’t All That Sweet", he argues against the typical idea of success and claims that you should set your goals at an almost unattainable height. Even if you fail at the end, you would fail in a beautiful way and attain something greater, being a step closer to the ultimate target. Moreover, as a student, it's perfectly normal to have failures, because we are all learning. In order to achieve Shames's idea of "success", a student should accept failure as a positive instead of a negative and be determined to obtain his or her desires in life. Firstly, throughout college, students must confront failure bravely, which can ironically sometimes leads to success. For example, students in the science department are often assigned to do many lab reports and experiments and they always want to try something different. However most of time new lab results do not turn out as expected or the whole experiment fails due to the unpredictable errors, both of which bring about failure in the end. Therefore, according to Shames, we should have more tolerance"for the person...who aims gloriously high and falls unashamedly short"(213). In order to be successful, science students should be prepared to fail over and over again until they achieve...
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...and social organizations. Instead of bartering and creating social bonds, people try to get the most out of a trade/social interaction, while giving up the least of their possessions/money. Different cultures have developed means of using negative reciprocity to their benefit. Many societies have used negative reciprocity in their trade and sharing systems to both strengthen and fight existing relationships as well as ward off foreigners. Negative reciprocity is apparent in the fraternal polyandry that is practiced in Tibetan societies of North Nepal. Lee Cronk’s Reciprocity and the Power of Giving and Melvyn C. Goldstein’s Polyandry: When Brothers Take a Wife support the argument that the different...
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...come to mind when comparing the differences between the Elizabethan era and modern day; such as the great chain of being, extreme importance on religion, and the pride in defending your honor. These examples of the differences between the two eras are very noticeable in Act IV Scene IV lines 53-66, when Hamlet exclaims: Rightly to be great Is not to stir without great argument But greatly to find quarrel in a straw When honor’s at the stake. How stand I then, That have a father killed, a mother stained, Excitements of my reason and my blood, And let all sleep-while, to my shame, I see The imminent death of twenty thousand men, That for a fantasy and trick of fame Go to their graves like beds, fight for a plot Whereon the numbers cannot try the cause, Which is not tomb enough and continent To hide the slain? Oh, from this time forth, My thoughts be bloody, or be nothing worth! One way...
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...Antwone Fisher 10/27/2012 Erik Erikson, a developmental psychologist, stated the first stage of human development is one of the most important. Because an infant is entirely dependent upon his or her caregivers, the quality of care plays an important role in the shaping of the child’s personality. In the case of Antowne Fisher, with his unfortunate circumstance of the death of his father and the incarceration of his mother, he lacked the care and love only parents can provide. However, once he entered the foster care system, Mrs. Nellie Strange, a savior of sort and his foster mother, became the tool in his development through the first stage of Erickson’s stages of development. It is evident within the first stage of development; trust versus mistrust. “…The major emphasis is on the mother’s positive and loving care for the child…if we pass successfully through this period of life, we will learn to trust that life is basically okay and have basic confidence in the future” (Harder, 2003). During this time period of Antwone’s life, in contrast to what is to occur in the future, it should be addressed the profound care and attention he received from Mrs. Strange. His foster mother, Mrs. Nellie Strange, showed the genuine care and love a true mother envelopes her child in. The attachment of Mrs. Nellie to Antwone and his trust for his foster mother was evident as she begged to keep while Antwone “…let out a lust yell…” as he was removed from her...
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...Falling off your bike, missing a popfly coming straight to you, or not passing a quiz: failure surrounds us whether we like it or not. Failure always seems to discourage people from trying and that’s a shame. I’m comfortable with admitting my failures unlike most people. I take my failures and absorb the lessons from each one. . For example, I learn from all my losses in wrestling. I’m not the best wrestler, I’ll be the first to tell you that, but I always try my hardest in my matches. No matter the outcome of the match, I ask my coach what I did wrong and what I can do better just to help me learn. That’s the key to improvement. A good example of this is when I first learned to wrestle. The first time anyone does something, they’re probably...
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...holly (206), the handle of his axe (216), etc. In addition, Green Knight’s cloth stands out with the gold background (168), his mouth mane is tinseled with gold (190), and his bells are also gold (195). Meanwhile, the green girdle is also hemmed with gold. All of the said features are strongly associated with the Green Knight. That the girdle is of the same colors implies its connection and ownership with the Green Knight. Hence, if the Green Knight comes to offer a harrowing challenge, that girdle comes for a no different mission. In the words of Lady Bertilak, the girdle is a token of love. However, it is indeed a token of lust - another evil seed in human that ultimately guides Gawain to dishonesty. For that token, the greatness Gawain tries so hard to protect is mildly dishonored at last. Gawain resists the lustful temptation two times before, resists keeping something as an evidence of that lustful deed for two times as well. Refusing a glove (1799-1816), a ring (1817-1821), nor is he able to refuse a so-called life-saving girdle at last (1856-1869). By taking that gift out of...
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...He conceived persons with torn bodies to be peculiarly happy. He wished that he, too, had a wound, a red badge of courage.” Trying to justify his cowardice, when he returns to camp Henry lies about his wound, claiming to have been grazed by a shell, but his comrades see through it, which only contributes to his mental turmoil. Furthermore, to add yet another dimension to Henry’s complex, philosophical scrutiny of man, he is unpleasantly aware that the men with red badges of courage, who he envies so greatly, are suffering nonetheless, and will most likely die. The question of whether or not it’s all worth it rises in his mind and continues to resonate in the theme throughout the book. As time passes and Henry sees more and more battle, and more and more death, he becomes hardened. His internal struggles and his childish ways of talking himself out of shame never completely disappear, but certainly become overpowered by a sense of duty and...
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...benefited me in many in several educational situations. The most recent would be the last 2 sessions in which I have been taking math classes. I have no shame in say that math is not my strongest subject. Know that, I know that it was a class that I needed to take onsite rather than online. I know that I am a “visual learning” and it would be in my best interest to take class where I could see the instructor actually work the sample problems. I was able to comprehend and apply the information much better after watching the examples being solved first. I have found through my years that some things you just simply have to have some raw talent to do and it does not matter how many times you‘ve watched others perform the exact same task. For example, I spent a lot of time watching do-it-yourself shows on television. I have seen countless show on remodeling a bathroom and even have purchased a couple videos; however just because you watch someone else do it, that does not mean you will be able to duplicate it accurately. Needless, to say my own person bathroom remodel did not go over very well and I need to call in professional reinforcements. Page 195 #5 As an eyewitness to a crime, I would use strategies of improving long-term memory to help store my account of the facts. Specially, I would first write down the facts and then I would try to draw a diagrams to help categorized the information so that it would be easier to recall. If I were a juror, I would advice my fellow jurors...
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