Writing the book Motherload: Making it all better in insecure times, Anna Villalobos has in mind the core message of insecurity whose responsibility of ensuring secured growth of the children in a secure community in the United States of America has been left primarily to the women who are much more insecure in the time of fear and anxiety, marital uncertainty, economic uncertainty and marital insecurity. She goes ahead to show how women try with a lot of effort to create varying security forms thorough mothering which only backfire, as in most times they happen to neglect or unintentionally undermine family security as they blindly focus on mother-child relations as a source of security.
Women singularly focus on mother-child relations as …show more content…
Keith Garber, a nine months pregnant woman is scared of the experiences she is undergoing and the uncertainty of her future that she faces (Villalobos, 165). In her uncertainty she approaches her friends for advice even after acquisition of knowledge on what to expect when expecting a child.
Her act shows how in her own insecurities and effort of trying to secure her child’s future, she faces the fear of responsibility over her child. This can be attributed to her fear of the events that may happen during or after childbirth, she is uncertain of her ability to undergo the labor process, she is scared of the possibility of her baby being mentally or physically challenged and she is generally scared of her motherhood future.
Most women in the recent years are delaying or not having a child at all as they are afraid of losing their liberty and taking responsibility over a new life. These women living their lives pursuing their own goals are said to be liberated. The threat of getting committed to their partners and their children and taking over responsibility of nurturing new life to their life of freedom to choose and pursuit of their goals in exchange to focus on the well-being of an acquired family instills fear to women in the current …show more content…
The rate of childless women has exponentially increased over the past years and the time that they postpone engagement and family responsibility has grown longer trying to get their careers and financial security in order before taking the heavy hit of motherhood and abstraction of personal life over responsibility over family life especially that of their children.
This delay and resistance to commitment however is majorly contributed to the fear of parenthood with intimidating uncertain future and perceived enormity of the responsibility of motherhood with fear of being unable to correctly handle this task. It plays the major role on the decision of women choosing to be childless till the end of their lives on earth. Dephane, a participant in the interviews by the author confesses that fear of having a baby and the accompanying responsibilities especially the fact that there is a long term commitment that cannot be altered once undertaken no matter the challenges one