JASMINE MEYNARD
08/29/2014
College success
Ms. Williams

Introduction

It goes beyond any worldly riches, I feel great every time I look into the face of my beautiful daughter Neyah, and I say to myself self; I am important to this world I help created this face that is mine and how wonderful is that. Then, in my mind I heard the sound Ru ru that Scooby Doo makes when he’s in danger. “Scooby Doo, the character who solves mysteries involving supposedly supernatural creatures through a series of antics and missteps (wikipedia.org).” then, reality kicked in. Being a teen mom is very demanding and difficult at times, especially when it comes with an unplanned pregnancy as a teen. The difficulties it came with social, mental, and emotional feelings by the sudden change in the course of life. In addition, I had to take on many more responsibilities. However, with an unplanned pregnancy I had to give up many things in order to be a parent. As a result, becoming a parent introduce me to many new responsibilities and difficulties. Motherhood changed my life, it’s not always an easy transition, but with any transition there is guaranteed change for sure. However, with an unplanned pregnancy I had to give up many things in order to be a parent.

The difficulties it came with social, mental, and emotional feelings by the sudden change in the course of life. To begin with, if it wasn’t for my mother support I don’t know what I would have done. Though my mom had eight children did not mean it was smooth sailing for me. I am the seventh to the last, the baby girl in the family. My parents had six boys and two girls. First, my parents are very loving. They love us all, though my dad was very strict. My mom’s balance him out. I missed my father deeply; my dad had passed away with an illness call “(Sarcoidosis (sar-koy-DO-sis). Sarcoidosis is a disease of unknown cause that leads to inflammation (NIH, 2013).” The poor outcome of the disease damage may occur over many years and involve more than one organ. Death usually is the result of problems with lungs, heart, or brain and that is how I lost my father. My mother being a CNA provider took good care of my father. Throughout my father illness I watched my mom care for my dad that was very emotional. My mother educated us all about this disease because it is inherited on my dad side of the family. So, my siblings and I got checked out. Dr. said it skip my generation however; the next generation may inherit the Sarcoidosis! Before I had my baby while pregnant, I was happy and scared at the same time. For instance I stayed on face book to occupy my mine from stressing; I had post my stomach hurts a few times and it did. I receive a few responses from friends. Some other friends of mine stop socializing with me. A few was supportive. Unfortunately, stressing caused the baby to come earlier then it was supposing to. I have been a mom for two and a half months; I feel that it is my greatest accomplishment that I have ever received in life. For this reason, if I’m in a bad mood, I just look at my daughter and

she makes my whole day better just by that simple smile. Indeed, I feel that I am very lucky and fortunate to have such a good baby. While my decisions were previously driven by my own needs and wants, they are now center around my baby’s own needs and wants. Eight months went by fast as one would have expected, by the sudden change in the course of life.
Being a teen mom, I had to take on many more responsibilities. It is very hard at times for me to take care of my daughter Neyea. On top of keeping up with my school work, and trying to keep my room clean. My boyfriend helps me out a lot on all of that even though he works like nine hours everyday and attend school. I still live at my mom’s house. One of the responsibilities I had to take on was making sure my baby formula was made. My mother helped me with that. However; as my mother taught me, she always had stories about her pregnancy and my grandma pregnancy and her mother pregnancy, my great grandmother. Nevertheless, I smiled no dought I started to hear the Scooby Doo sound again Ruru. Inspite of, to realize as a teen mom everyone made a big deal out of having a child at a young age when in fact, back in there day other parents, my grandparents got pregnant younger than I did! But, on the contrary they were married. In other words, they made it sound like it was the correct way. Providing that, my mom’s said that is why it’s call back in their day that in which, I laughed out loud. With this in mind, an unplanned pregnancy I had to give up many things in order to be a parent. My mother has such a beautiful soul; she love children and also taught at Port Chester, New York Kennedy Elementary School. When we had our mother daughter talk she would quote from an Indian mystic guru philosopher “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born, she never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother is something absolutely new (Rajneesh, Acharya).”

By the sudden change in the course of life, I have encountered situations and events, and decisions that I was not ready to handle though my mom’s was supportive there was situations I didn’t share with her. For example: My self-esteem was not too great before I got pregnant. I depended on others approval and love to make me happy. High school students can be very mean; I assume there was a lot of jealously because of dude which I am still dating, my I daughter’s father. He was very popular in soccer and received a scholarship for college. I realize, having a child so that you can have someone love you is not how it works, though my boyfriend said he love me, I was looking for more reassurance. To get back to the point, I had to teach the baby love first before it can love you. You can’t depend on a baby to fill your emotional needs. To conclude, you have to learn how to love yourself first before you can love anyone else or anyone else can love. Subsequently, sometimes I think about what I could be doing at this second, going out with my friends, to the beach, movies, parks, and I miss it. I am not saying that you still can’t do these things, but when you’re young pregnant, and have a baby you get looks and comments everywhere you go. In fact, a cute cuddly gurgling baby didn’t seem too strenuous. I am slowly realizing that not only is a baby a cute showpiece, but a ton of responsibility inside the womb and out. By the way, not to mention the crying and staying up all night, not getting any sleep, the changing of the pampers and how expensive it is. Thanks to the Port Charlotte County WIC program. “The Special Supplement Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children (WIC) provides federal grants for State for Supplemental food, health care referrals, and nutrition education for low-income pregnant, breastfeeding, and to infants and children up to age five who are found to be at risk (USDA, 2014).”

All in all, I had alot of life changes at first, learning all the basics and stuff. Having a baby young is very challenging but not impossible. I have learned a lot from my mother and I thank her and my siblings for the support. So far, I think I’m a hell of a great mother. Needless to say, I’ve been brought to tears on numerous occasions for one example: The church I attended gave a young couple the same age as me a baby shower. But not me, because I was not married and they were, however they were forced to get married. I thought that was hypocritical of the church. On the whole, I’ve learned it’s ok to miss your youth. I actually just realized it. My aunty always posts on my Facebook wall don’t only keep your head to the sky; look within your soul, and stand up for what I believe in no matter if I am standing alone. “Facebook is an online social networking service headquartered in Menlo Park, California. Its name comes from a colloquialism for the directory given to students at some American universities (Wikimedia).” I have finally found comfort in being a mom and still being young though in my opinion it did not matter if you had a baby young or much older as long as you loved your baby. I felt great writing this paper after all. To sum this up, my daughter gave me purpose. My goal was to get into a medical program before I got pregnant. My daughter Neyea helped me figure out this is still what I want to accomplish in life. I also would like to have my own blog to write and inspire others in my situation. She brought my inner voice out that I used to write down in secret journals. She gave me dreams that are bigger than I ever could have imagined and showed me that with love and hard work, I can conquer all.

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