In life, things happen. Divorce just happens to be one of those things. In every marriage there are problems. No marriage is perfect. If the spouses choose not to share how they are feeling then chances of reaching a divorce at some point is very likely. I think that people do not take marriage vows serious. It seems that divorce is much easier than to work things out. “In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first marriages, and 60% of second marriages, will end in divorce. The most common reasons people give for their divorce are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse,” according …show more content…
Marriages should be nurtured. They will die without the right care and attention. A marriage cannot survive on its own. In order to have a successful marriage both spouses need to want to make it work. Both adults need to give each other mutual affection. They need to center on their partner’s desires, as much as their own. Lack of attention leaves both spouses feeling unvalued in the marriage and that is when the relationship leads to divorce.
Another most common reason that people divorce is lack of commitment. Marriage is a relationship based on trust. So whenever a partner is involved in infidelity; it causes pain to the other partner. Very few marriages can survive infidelity. This is why infidelity is one of the leading factors of marriage. When one starts being unfaithful the trust does not remain the same. Most of the time, the best proper solution comes in the form of divorce.
Lastly, another common reason people divorce is because they married too young. Marriage at a young age increases the chances of divorce. Couples who marry in their teens have higher divorce rates. On the other hand, those who wait to marry until their twenties are perhaps more mature. They are able to handle the trials of the married life better than those who marry …show more content…
Parents that go through divorce sometimes have children who experience problems with social skills, behavior issues, and academic achievement. According to www.uml.edu, “Mary Temke of the University of New Hampshire attests to this in her article, “The Effects of Divorce on Children.” Toddlers, for instance, often blame themselves for their parent’s divorce. They may see the divorce as the consequence of their misbehavior. On the other hand, adolescents may be moody, or cope by taking special responsibility for the family. Furthermore, teens may favor one parent, blaming the other for the divorce.” Parents that share the same views and practices weakens the negative impact divorce has on the children. Some reports even show that children from divorced homes are more likely to become divorced themselves. On the positive side, children from divorced families have been shown to benefit from their parents’ divorce only if each parent communication was effective with one another and also with their children. On the negative side, the children often times feel that they have to choose sides. In these circumstances children may suffer from deep depression. In my case, I watch my parents fight over the smallest things. They always expect me to choose sides and I am always left in an uncomfortable position. My life has changed tremendously. I have to watch the two most important people in my life go after each other and it breaks my