...Letter to the Editor on Children of Divorce In the article of “Is Divorce Bad for Children?” by Hal Arkowitz and Scott O. Lillenfeldm, talks about how children are affected, when their parents are going to split up. I had felt so many things, when my parents split up, luckily I was old enough to understand, but yet I felt all kinds of pain and emotion’s going through my head. I know how it feels, when I see children go through so much mixed emotions. Growing up with my nephew’s who lived with me for 20 years went through their parents divorcing. From what I know, divorce is a bad separation, because it can cause children to have bad grades, they can be affected emotionally, and mentally. Everyday the divorce rate is growing rapidly. Which means that half of American families are likely to split up, and more than half of the kids from these families are likely to be depressed and poor academic in school. First, American families are likely to split up, and more than half of the kids from these families are likely to be depressed, and poor academic in school, has become a major issue in today’s society. Today, many people see divorce as a bad or good thing. I personally think it is bad for every child to go through this. Although couples that are divorce, benefits them because they are no longer suffering from each other and their children can stop seeing them argue. And “a separation may be in the best interest for the child in the long run, but tangible change is difficult...
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...and Effects of Divorce Nancy Marie Brown January 1, 2002 "In the 1970s, divorce escalated like crazy. Women were entering the labor force in incredible numbers. Are those two things related," asks Alan Booth, "or aren't they? "And if divorce is not related to women working, what is it related to?" Booth, a Penn State sociologist, has been asking that question for 20 years. He himself has been divorced and remarried in the meantime, as has his co-investigator on the National Longitudinal Study of Marriage, Paul Amato. More to the point, they and their colleagues have amassed hours of survey data on 2,000 married men and women, interviewed by telephone, paper, or computer survey up to six times over the 20 years, "through a whole marital history, if you like," says Amato. "Some people in the study are on their third or fourth marriages. We've followed them through divorce, singlehood, and remarriage." They've also interviewed many of their children. Then in 2000, the research team interviewed a completely new random sample of 2,100 married individuals. "So we can look at two different kinds of change," Amato explains: "How individual marriages change over time, and how the population of married couples has changed between 1980 and 2000." Their results are changing the way people think about marriage and divorce, and particularly about the effects of divorce on children. "I think it's our study," says Booth, "that put the capstone on the idea that divorce can be bad for children....
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...Effects of Divorce in Adolescents Danielle Nicole Mickens Holmes Community College Abstract Lately there has been an increase in the divorce rates in the United States. While there may be ways to prevent it, it affects the lifestyles of adolescents’ and other people around them. Usually children and adolescents take divorce harder than the adults involved. This review shows how adolescents can be psychologically and emotionally affected by divorce. It also reviews how they may be able to cope during the process of divorce. The Psychological and Emotional Affects of Divorce in Adolescents “Till death do us part” are the vows people normally say when they get married. People often dream of a fairy tale wedding and they also believe that they have found what they may call their soul mates. Apparently as years go by, those vows and beliefs seems to decrease. Divorce is known as dissolving the legal union of marriage. And with that being said the divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. 50% of marriages end in divorce. However, children and adolescents that are involved in the divorce can be psychological and emotionally affected by it. Divorces can change a person’s lifestyle. (Wendel, 1997) One out of every two marriages that end in divorce includes children and adolescents. Research collected gives an understanding on how adolescents psychologically act, emotionally feel, and the resources they have to cope with the divorce. There...
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...Divorce is always bad for children Divorce, which is usually defined as the legal dissolution of marriage or the termination of an existing relationship or union, is unfortunately familiar in today's society. In marriages with a lot of conflicts, divorce seems to be a final solution. However, the result is not only the legal end of marriage, but also the effect of divorce which children have to experience. For adults, divorce is a conclusion, but for children it is the beginning of the uncertainty. Knowing that things are going to be different after a divorce, but not knowing how can be frightening for most children. In addition, one of the biggest fears for children is change. With divorce, the family they have always known will be different, changes will occur in many ways. Children may have to learn to cope with new things, new schedules or new routines. Moreover, they may no longer have contact with some friends and extended family members; such as grandparents or cousins. However, divorce is not always bad for children. Being in the environment of high conflict marriage can cause children to face multiple stressors. They may want stay away from home as much as possible in order to avoid the tumultuousness at home. Divorce could be a relief to the children and offer them a happier life. The diminution of stress allows them to spend more quality time with family. Nevertheless, this does not mean that a divorce is the only way out of all problems. To sum up...
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...Examine the reasons for changes in divorce rate since 1971. Divorce has been an increasing trend due to numerous reasons such as changes in attitude, changes in law and changes in the economic position of women. In 1941, the grounds for divorce were widened meaning that ‘irretrievable breakdown’ was allowed as grounds for divorce. Irretrievable breakdown means that a marriage stopped working, but there is no blame on the people within the marriage; the marriage simply broke down and the people within that marriage were no longer happy with each other. This lead to an increase in divorce because previously couples who did not love each other had no specific grounds for divorce, such as adultery, and this is why the divorce rate doubled in 1972. In 1993, divorce rates were at the highest they had ever been, peaking at 180,000. This may have been down to high expectations of what marriage would be like, and these expectations not being met. Functionalists such as Fletcher believe that over the last few centuries, and idea of ‘romantic love’ has become dominant; when the love dies, people see no reason to stay together. The obsession for finding ‘the one’ can be pursued after divorce. Another reason for divorce rate increasing is that the stigma that used to be attached to it is disappearing. People used to view divorce as shameful, the church condemned it and would refuse to marry people who had been divorced. However, divorce us now seen as bad luck for those involved rather than...
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...Divorce or dissolution of marriage is a legal process in which a judge or other authority dissolves the bonds of matrimony existing between two persons, thus restoring them to the marital status of being single. A divorce does not declare a marriage null and void, as in an annulment, but rather declares that a fully consummated marriage is irretrievably broken and that it should be dissolved, allowing the parties to marry other individuals. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world. Divorce is not permitted in some countries, such as in Malta and in the Philippines, though an annulment is permitted. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support, child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt, though these matters are usually only ancillary or consequential to the dissolution of the marriage. In some jurisdictions divorce does not require a party to claim fault of their partner that leads to the breakdown of marriage. But even in jurisdictions which have adopted the "no fault" principle in divorce proceedings, a court may still take into account the behaviour of the parties when dividing property, debts, evaluating custody, and support. In most jurisdictions, a divorce must be certified by a court of law to become effective. The terms of the divorce are usually determined by the court, though they may take into account prenuptial agreements or postnuptial agreements, or simply ratify terms that the spouses may have...
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...------------------------------------------------- The effects of divorce on your child’s classroom behavior Christian Johnson Abstract For children, divorce can be stressful sad and confusing. As a parent you can make the process and its effects less painful for your child’s stability. References: * Growing up Great: Understanding Children's Reactions to Divorce * University of New Hampshire Cooperative Extension: The Effects of Divorce on Children * Plainview-Old Bethpage Congress of Teachers: Children and Divorce * Family Facts: How Home Shapes Children's School Experience effects of divorce on your child’s classroom behavior will vary based on the climate in your household during the divorce, your child’s disposition and their ability to handle change., “the most important factor for children’s well-being seems to be limiting the amount and intensity of conflict between parents.” In short, you can minimize such disturbances by limiting your child’s exposure to negative dynamics. I will explain four main categories such as: Depression a California child therapist Lori Rappaport, explains that depression is common among children whose parents are divorcing or who have recently divorced. Your child’s depression might present in the classroom through tearfulness and being sad and withdrawn. Likewise, a child who was once talkative in class might become withdrawn and quiet and have difficulty coping with any academic pressures or challenges...
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...men would get sexually agitated. Secondly, the men are on the side of the Bimur and the arch as it is said that the men concentrate more on praying than women do, which shows more respect towards the Jewish religion. Thirdly, the men are only called up to the Bimur as firstly they concentrate more on pray then women. Secondly, if a Women went up to the Bimur it is said that the men will get sexual aroused by the Women and that they will lose their concentration which will put them out of their spiritual zone in the Synagogue. Explain Jewish beliefs about divorce. The Jewish belief about divorce is very mixed as some people disagree and some people agree with. Firstly, Divorce in Judaism is seen as a very bad thing as the splitting of two humans show disconnection in the Jewish religion which shows that there is problems in the religion which doesn’t give Judaism a good name for itself. Secondly, divorce is seen as a bad option as by two humans splitting their...
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...Divorce Time to Say Goodbye When it comes to breaking-up and ending a relationship, the song by The Manhattans released in 1976 says it best “Let’s Just Kiss and Say Goodbye”. The song has deep and meaningful words, even though it is about a man ending his side relationship with his lover, it holds true for any relationship that is ending, especially a marriage. There are several reasons why people decide to dissolve their marriage. No matter, how they arrived at the decision, the end result not only affects them but it will affect the children, pets, family, and friends. They must determine the best way to inform their loved ones about the dissolution of the marriage. They must also decide who will have custody of the children and pets. When a man or woman is fed up with their spouse mishandling of finances, lack of communication and unfaithfulness; they feel divorce is the best solution. Money is a touchy topic regardless of the situation but there are several reasons why people may mishandle their finances. Although, the reasons may vary, some couples divorce over finances because of bad investments, addictions, and lack of maturity. A person should never invest their money into anything without a lack of understanding because when something sounds too good to be true it usually is and the damage it does cannot be changed. Addictions are no longer limited to drugs and alcohol; gambling and porn is on the rise as well. Gambling and purchasing porn can...
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...Sociologist and political groups all have different views of social policies, some believe that they are a good way of achieving something and others see them as bad because they may only support one view point and not others. To start of here is the definition of a social policy; it is an action, plan or programme that the government puts in place that aims to deal with a problem or achieve a goal. These social policies are mainly based on laws, which provide the framework for agencies to follow. The first social policy that will affect the family is marriage. There are different laws in place to discourage certain behaviour inside marriages, a few examples of these would be; marriages must be monogamous where only one person can be married to one person at one time, in the UK it is illegal to marry or have children with your brother/sister but is legal to marry and have children with your first cousin, etc. Laws like these would have an effect on a family as having an affair on your partner is illegal and therefore if this happens then the marriage may breakdown and may end up in a divorce. Divorce is another social policy that will have an effect on the family. Divorce was granted legal in 1857 but it was very hard to get one up until the late 1960’s which made divorce become more popular as it was easier to declare. However, a divorce can only be granted if one of the following applies; Adultery – when one partner has a sexual relationship with another whilst in a marriage...
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...Arranged Marriages- Good or Bad? The way in which arranged marriages are handled determines whether or not they are cruel and old-fashioned. I am now going to provide a balanced argument that takes all the different views into consideration. Islam is one religion that uses arranged marriages. Not only are the marriages arranged by the parents but also by older relatives as well. They believe that the parents know all about their children so they are capable of choosing a suitable partner whom may enable the couple to have a successful marriage, all though if either the bride or groom disagrees the wedding cannot go on. The details of the marriage are set out in a contract which is a legal document. Hinduism is another group of people who have arranged marriages but not to the same extent. Hindus believe that a marriage is based on more than physical or emotional attraction and at one stage Hindus were strict about arranged marriages where the parent’s decision was final. Marital incompatibility has been found to be a major reason for divorce. When the parents arrange the marriage they will have found someone who is compatible so that the marriage will work. When the parents pick someone they are drawing from experience typically 20 years of married life and they went through the same process no doubt. There is also a lower divorce rate in arranged marriages. When in a arranged marriage situation there is a lower expectation because neither side knows what to expect...
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...` Cohabitation Before Marriage Huynh Thi Thanh Tam Nguyen Kim Ngoc Quyen Le Dang Phuong Luong Thi Thanh Thao Tran Huy Bao Phan Thi Ai Hoa Luu Ho Xuan Quynh Nguyen Truong Vinh Phat Academic Skills November 14th, 2012 Professor Douglas M. Foster Cohabitation Before Marriage Love between man and woman is the precious one of human that people must spend a lot of time and effort to seek. However, there is a perceptive difference of love between Western culture and Eastern culture. Westerners find out freedom and satisfaction in love and marriage is a great importance of their life, therefore they often cohabitate to learn about their partners carefully to get a better marriage in the future. “More than two-thirds of married couples in the US say that they lived together before getting married” (Jayson, 2005, Cohabitation is Replacing Dating, para. 2). In opposite, the feudal reflection, which affects Easterners culture and makes contrary between cohabitation and culture. Therefore, cohabitation is not common in Eastern countries. Nowadays, society is more and more developing and modern. In pace with that trend, cohabitation lifestyle of Western has entered and influenced on the Eastern thought, so cohabitation becomes more acceptable in Eastern. Especially in Vietnam, the rate of which Vietnamese adults want to cohabit is high in both male and female. According to the survey of...
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...Millions of married couples in America file for divorce everyday. The causes are numerous ranging from boredom of the spouse to violent treatment. Couples who get a divorce often have children, which are the most affected when a divorce occurs. Divorces usually lead to separation of belongings (including children), absence of one parent during children’s growth, and destruction of the family unit. When a divorce is filed it means that a couple has reached a point in which they can not stand to be with each other. The ones who suffer the most in these cases are the products of the love the couple once had for each other: their children. After a divorce takes effect, each of the parent’s belongings are usually evenly divided. The things that can be easily divided include a house, car, and bank accounts. But, children are not things that we can sell or divide. For this reason, divorced couples fight in court for the custody of their children. Each parent has to present their case and demonstrate that he or she is the most capable parent to take care of the children. This includes economic, social, and other aspects of life. Once a judge decides who the children will stay with (usually the mother) the other parent will have no other choice but to limit himself to visitations to his or her children. Some might even be obliged to pay a monthly amount for child support. After custody is won by one of the parents, children will have to adjust to living with just that parent most of...
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...work. The New Right are a perspective who believes that government policies do not support the traditional Nuclear Family and the roles that should be upheld within that family. One of the main policies that are thought to undermine these traditional roles and values is that of the Divorce reform Law of 1969. This law made divorce, especially women, easier, less costly and less shameful for the women who were involved. It also introduced the concept of family courts which helped to protect the children who were almost, inevitably involved in the rare divorce of their parents. The reform of the law is something that the New Right doesn’t agree with. They feel that the law encourages divorce and in this way it does not support the Nuclear Family. They feel that because divorce is no easier for the majority of people then more people are going to get a divorce and become lone parents and because they believe that the Nuclear Family has to consist of two married parents and their children then this is a policy that doesn’t support that way of family life. Although the New Right and the Functionalists do not agree with this policy, the Feminists and Marxists do. The Feminists see it as a good thing as it provides women with greater independence and gives them freedom to make their own choices about their lives. The feminists also agree with this as it undermines the patriarchal society which they view...
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...Developmental delays are easily distinguished if you pay close attention to the development and milestone periods contained by children; for example if you notice a child having a low attention span, they can’t stay still, they’re highly active and energetic all the time, that’s perhaps due to attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, known as ADHD. There are so many different things that can cause developmental delays and children aren’t always born with developmental delays. Although, developmental delays can be genetic or born with, there are times when trauma at different ages can cause developmental delays such as a child being abused and suffering brain trauma, concussion, which could cause memory lost. Or there could be an accident and a child or adult undergo serious injuries to the spine, eyes, etc. Spinal injuries can be of damage to you motor skills. Spinal injuries or brain injuries if serious can lead to you basically having to start over as if you were a baby learning to walk, read, jump, or talk. The Shaken baby syndrome also can be a trauma that can cause brain injuries. There are numerous of things that have major components to play in developmental delays. Trauma definitely plays a one of those major parts in developmental delays. There are a number of Trauma’s that can cause development delays. It doesn’t always have to be...
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