...Introduction This paper is an exploration of William Glassers Choice Theory. Firstly I will briefly look at definitions of counselling and how counselling has evolved. I will then look at his background, the philosophy and theory behind his therapy and how it is applied. Finally I will discuss what I feel are some of its strengths and weaknesses before finishing with my conclusion. Definitions of Counselling. There are many definitions of counselling, but most share the same idea: it is when one person helps another. To me counselling represents one word more than any other: CHANGE. One person is unhappy with some area of their life and wants it to change while the other person helps to facilitate that change. Just as there are many definitions of counselling there are many types of counselling with different philosophies. In fact “Karasu (1986) reported having come across more than 400 distinct models of counselling and psychotherapy “(McLeod, 2008, p.10). There is evidence of unhappy people in every society in history and the treatments were as varied in the past as they are today. As far back as the fourteenth century asylums were used to house the mentally ill, which also included people with speech disorders, epilepsy and depression. Up until the 19th century these places were more interested in removing them from the general public and locking them up than helping or curing them. Thankfully we have come a long way from this to a more accepting way of dealing...
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...After reading an article on “can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in marriages”. I feel that self disclosure in relationships is important to know where your partner stands or feels about certain issues that might come up. My wife and I sometimes have discussions with one Another to try and find out ways to make each other happy because according to her I am a grouch. We try our hardest but it’s like everyday there is always something different. I believe that self disclosure is important because it relates to having a good intimate relationship. I believe it is a blue print to one’s emotions and it bears great weight on intimate relationships. In regards to gender similarities, I notice that woman are more sensitive when it comes to intimate communication they need to verbally hear “I love you” and desire a great deal of attention. I know this first hand my wife is telling me that all the time and I say ok. She wants me to kiss and tell her that I love her all the time. On the other hand, men seems to cater more to non verbal body language; they desire to be depended on and be ask for their guidance and their leadership in most major decisions. This is so true instead of hearing my wife tell me that she loves me a million times I would rather see her cook me a meal. That lets me know that she loves me. I tend not to say I love you that often but I think she gets the hint by me doing things when she asks me to do things. This type of action makes men...
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...Consensual Relationship Agreements CHIP HAMMONDS Business 520: Leadership & Organizational Behavior Dr. Adrienne Garabedian October 30, 2012 Consensual Relationship Agreements are good in my future workplace because of the following assertions and facts. The average employee spends forty or more hours a week at the workplace. In essence this is a considerable amount of time. Therefore, a common bond naturally occurs among employees. Men and women work side by side for extended periods of time. This has not always been the case. This closeness allows individuals to form likes and dislikes. Over a period of time working together, employees tend to create bonds with one another based on physical, emotional, and socio-economic similarities. It's human nature to become attracted to someone with similar likes. CRA's are needed to thwart charges of favoritism, sexual harassment, preferential treatment (Miller v. Department of Corrections).In this case a warden was alleged to have had concurrent relationships with three subordinate women. One woman reportedly bragged to coworkers that her promotion was secure because "she knew every scar on his body" and could take him down. Two other females brought a sexual harassment claim, alleging that the only way to get promoted was to engage in a sexual affair with the warden. The California court concluded that consensual workplace affairs do not normally constitute sexual harassment, but when "sexual favoritism'...
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...customer service professional aiming to develop a career within customer service, possessing exceptional interpersonal skills combined with a wealth of customer service experience. I have spent the last year developing my team management skills where it is used to strengthen relationships and maximise sales opportunities. Combined with excellent commercial awareness, a proven track record of building long-term relationships geared towards meeting and exceeding targets and ensuring a first class service is received by all my clients. SUMMARY OF QUALIFICATIONS University of Bournemouth: 2012-Current BA Television Production Nescot College- Level 3 National Diploma in Television Production 2011-2012 BTech- Distinction, Distinction, Distinction GCSEs [11 A -C]: inc. Maths, English, Double Science, Physical Education, German, Urdu 2003-2008 CAREER SUMMARY Fulham Football Club (FFC): Senior Supervisor/Duty Manager [2008 - Present] Effectively delegating and leading the customer service team, ensuring everyone is aware of their objectives as well as having a-hands on role coordinating day to day activities and ensure all opportunities are maximised to increase sales. I have developed my interpersonal and communication skills immensely within this role, whilst gaining valuable experience in running...
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...10/3/2010 Lecture Map: We Are Here... Lecture Map: We Are Here... Individual •Biographical Traits •Personality •Values & Attitudes •Ability Group •Communication •Other Groups •Conflict •Power & Politics •Group Structure •Work Teams •Leadership •Decision Making Organization •Culture •Structure •Design •Technology •Work Processes •Selection Processes •Training Programs •Appraisal Practices Lecturer: Cheryl “Nyahra” Gittens •Perception •Motivation •Individual Learning •Decision Making 1 Lecturer: Cheryl " Nyahra" Gittens 2 The Motivation Process What Is Motivation? Motivation The processes that account for an individual’s willingness to exert high levels of effort to reach organizational goals, conditioned by the effort s ability to satisfy some individual conditioned by the effort’s ability to satisfy some individual need. Effort: a measure of intensity or drive. Direction: toward organizational goals Need: personalized reason to exert effort Motivation works best when individual needs are compatible with organizational goals. Exhibit 16.1 Copyright © 2005 Prentice Hall, Inc. All rights reserved. 16–3 Copyright © 2005 Prentice Hall, Inc. All rights reserved. 16–4 MAJOR THEORIES OF MOTIVATION Why is Motivation Important? I. Need / Content Approaches: ‐ Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs ‐ Alderfer’s ERG Theory ‐ Herzberg’s Two Factor Theory ‐ McClelland’s Learned Needs Theory II. Cognitive/ Process / Contemporary Approaches: ‐ Expectancy Theory...
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...What is romance? Romance is a feeling of deep attachment, affection and infatuation one feels for someone. It is an emotion of the heart that gives a new outlook to life. It makes you feel good; feels like you are in heaven. A person in romance needs nothing more than his/her beloved. That is romance! When you look at the clouds flying across the sky, when you suddenly start enjoying everything around you and when you marvel at the beauty of nature that seems to have gotten so exotic ever since you fell in love. You feel inspired; nothing looks impossible. We usually study in ancient and modern literature that love is not always easy- it comes with great many difficulties. But true love is what motivates lovers to keep going and do anything for each other. Romance can’t be easily defined but only experienced. One who has never felt romantic will never understand about love. Lucky are those who fall in love because Love is Beautiful! I remember we had a family friend, Sara. She was a hard-working and smart person who always kept her friends and family (esp. Mum and Dad) as her foremost priority in life. She was a gifted artist and wanted to be a designer but she fulfilled her parents’ wish, did MBA and took responsibility of their family business. Sara never really got what she dreamed of, for she was just too scared to express her feelings in fear that the people around her might oppose. Even afterwards she never had time for her personal life. One day Sara dealt with a new...
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...between my best friend and I, through via text message and the score we received was 0.72. My best friend and I have been close since we were in the second grade; I believed the way that we used our words affected our score. I do not believe the website score was accurate because of the closeness that we share, and the understanding that we have with each other. There are times we can finish each other’s sentences because we know each other thoughts on certain subjects. I thought that we would get a higher score than what we received. I do not know how they come up with the scoring on this test, the information that they used to compute the scores. I do not believe that language style matching is a thorough way to predict the quality of interpersonal relationships or any kind of relationship. I think test like these are for certain kinds of people given by a certain kind of person. Bower express the idea that if two people work in two different career fields, they will use different...
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...Questions for Review Elysia Stephens Week 11 and 12 Chapter 10 1. What is an orientation designed to do? What are the characteristics of an effective orientation? * The training model identifies the design inputs as the training needs from the TNA, the organizational constraints, and the training methods based on learning theory. For the hypothetical example, we have identified the training needs. Before determining what training methods to use, we need to consider the constraints. 2. How are organizations dealing with diversity? Are the methods effective? Why or why not? * The Bank of Montreal won the prestigious Catalyst Award for its effective diversity programs, promoted vigorously by its senior management. Then there is IBM; it developed a diversity program that resulted in an increase in black executives and female minority executives in about two years. Carrier Corp formed diversity councils in all business units. It develops diversity business cases to assist in training and has successfully increased the percentage of black people in executive positions. 3. What are the important components of an effective sexual harassment strategy? * Defining sexual harassment when it relates to a hostile environment is difficult, and care in determining what is enforceable is important. Those who develop and conduct training must not bring their own values into the training. Rather, they must present situations that are irrelevant and could quite likely...
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...Table of Contents • Introduction 3 • Interpersonal Dimensions 3 i) Strength 3 ii) Challenge 4 • Conflict Style 5 • Conclusion 7 • References 9 Introduction In the class, I was given an elaborate overview of interpersonal relationships. I was taught about the different impacts of interpersonal relations on an individual and how these can determine his personality, quality of lifestyle and the status of his relations with those related to him personally and professionally. I was also given an idea about human communication, the chief features of human communication and its major determinants. The class also gave me an idea on how can I identify the strengths and weaknesses of my personal interpersonal relationships and how can I implement ways that can rectify my weaknesses and help me in redesigning my personality. I believe that the class notes will be of immense help in the personal as well as professional aspects of my life. Interpersonal Dimensions i) Strength After going through the class lectures and notes, I have analyzed that my interpersonal effectiveness lies in the fact that I am a great provider of feedback. The way in which I deliver my instructions and the way I train my teammates to function as per the instructions have always proved successful. Thus, I believe that I have the basic skills of a good team leader and qualities to mould my teammates to agree...
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...University of Phoenix | Attachment Style and Relationships | PSY/220: Part 1 & Part 2 | | Lyndsey McMahon | 11/4/2012 | | Part 1 Sternberg's Theory of Love describes three components that make up different combinations or levels of love that can be shared between two people. The three components are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy refers to understanding and concern for the other person. This component deals with warm affection and getting to know each other on a deeper level. Passion refers to stronger feelings of emotion, excitement and physiological attraction. This component usually deals with sexual attraction and desire. Commitment refers to the conscious decision to stay in the relationship through the ups and downs. This component deals with putting in an effort to maintain the relationship and carries a sense of devotion for that relationship. By combining any of these components, you get different varieties of love. When combining intimacy and passion you get what Sternberg calls romantic love. For example, a summer love shows high levels of intimacy and passion, but no commitment to extend the relationship further. When combining intimacy and commitment in the model you gets what's called companionate love. An example of this...
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...calls, video conferencing, and virtual workspaces are all prevalent in today’s working environments. Managers and employees must be able to adapt to these technological advancements designed to increase productivity and reduce the cost of doing business. Incorporating new technologies allows employees to work more efficiently and effectively but can also present challenges that are more subtle and difficult to measure. Relationships become difficult to establish due to a lack of interpersonal communication opportunities. Employees working remotely at GE do not feel as connected to the larger organization as employees working in office sites. A common theme at GE is that the company does not want employees to feel like islands to themselves. The company acknowledges that its utilization of new technologies has created a certain disconnect among employees and subsequently is constantly looking for new ways to help them feel more connected. Additionally, there is a sense of a lessening of interpersonal communication skills among their younger workers who are more adept at utilizing new technologies. Establishing, building, and fostering relationships still remains...
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...for 10 exciting days, May 3rd - 12th, 2013. As one of our grandest events to date, we'll need a team of volunteers to make the Festival a remarkable experience for all our audiences. Get involved, meet new people, and discover films from Europe. The festival committee of Europe on Screen 2013 will recruit +/- 25 volunteers this year to help with the festival activities in Jakarta. Requirements: • Minimum 18 years old • Can locate themselves in Jakarta during the Festival • Passionate about film • Skilled with intermediate level of English. • Able to work for minimum 5 days during the festival • Able to work from 11am – 10pm • Willing to be placed in any festival venues in Jakarta. • Excellent interpersonal communication skill • Highly initiative, friendly, reliable and a supportive team players • Able to follow the rules/guidelines given by Volunteer Coordinator • Remain professional at all times while working with a diverse group of festival committee, audience, guests, and other volunteers. Volunteers Job Description: 1. Technician/Venue Coordinator • Responsible for the execution of all film screenings in the designated venue. • Responsible for the order and performance of the other volunteers in the same venue. • Responsible to write a daily report according to the brief of the Volunteer Coordinator of the festival. 2. Information & Ticketing • Responsible to provide correct...
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...works towards the determination of a hierarchy during the storming stage. Conflict is a part of the storming stage. As the group flows into the norming stage, the group will begin to become solid and work together. This is also the time when individual relationships begin to develop within the group. People are more comfortable with their position within the group and interpersonal relationships begin to form between people. Once a solid group has formed, it will continue on to the performing stage. During this stage, the group is functional and works toward completing the task at hand. The final stage is called the adjourning stage. When the group has completed the task at hand and is preparing to go their separate ways. This stage includes basking in the outcome of the task as well as some depression about the loss of friendships built during the group (Robbins & Judge, 2011). Relationships form during the development of a group. Once the uncertainty of forming and the conflict of norming have passed, relationships will begin to develop within the group. During the norming and performing stages, interpersonal relationships develop and grow. The adjourning stage may see sadness and depression relating to the loss of the relationships developed during the group. Group communication plays a very important part in the department. In this company we value our employees. It is important that managers keep the...
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...Everyone needs good friends that can hold uphold good characteristics and Christian values. The characteristics of a good friend are honesty, love, service, loyalty, and receiving. •Honesty - Will you tell me the truth? The best gift that someone can give me is honest affirmation (don’t patronize me) and honest correction. (For more on this idea read this post). Not everyone has the “right” to speak into my life this way. This right is earned by the demonstration of the second characteristic… •Love – Will you love me when I’m at the top of my game? Will you love me when I’m in a slump? Love that transcends the “seasons” of life is the “stuff” that genuine friendship is made of! Some people call this “unconditional love.” •Service - Will you help me? Friends help one another. These last few weeks we’ve been blessed by our friends who have helped with meals, prep for the yard sale, words of encouragement, babysitting, etc. To all of you, we are grateful to have friends like you. Thank you for your help. •Loyalty - Will you “stick it out” with me? Will you defend me when I’m being attacked? Will you stick up for me when I’m not there? A friend is someone who would not have to change the conversation when you walk up. •Receiving - Will you receive from me? A friendship is only as strong as the neediest friend. If you’re always helping me but I do not help you, in time you will grow weary of me! BUT when you help me, and allow me to help you we strengthen one another and the relationship...
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...Relationship Advice Dear Jamie Thank you for writing me with regard to the issue of whether to stick with a long-distance relationship. According to your letter, you have been with your boyfriend for two years and the last year you were in a long-distance relationship. Due to your graduation program, you might have to be in a long-distance relationship for two more years. Thus, you are struggling with the idea that whether to stick with the relationship or not. From my point of view, I suggest you keep your relationship and make more effort to maintain it. To support this idea, I will explain the reason for the maintenance and include some advice for you. The reason why I suggest you keep the relation bases on the lecture note of the sexualities and relationships course. According to the note, whether a long-distance relationship will work depends on: how long the separation is; how established the relationship already is; how serious the relationship is; expectations of each other; strengths/ weaknesses of each other; past experiences with long-distance (Long-Distance Relationship Lecture Notes, 03/20/2013). What I am going to talk about are the time of separation, the previous establishment of the relationship, how serious the relationship is and your expectations, which are relevant to your letter. Firstly, in your letter, you told me that you would have a two-year graduation program but you haven’t told me what your boyfriend’s future plan is. As the note showed, the long-distance...
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