COM 107 Fall 2012

On Koerner and Fitzpatrick’s Family grid, My family is high in conversation and high in conformity which means that my family is categorized as being “Consensual“. My family and I are high in conversation because we all have dinner every evening and have casual conversation about our day. Our conversations consists of talking about work, school, things that we disliked and things that we could change the following day. We also talk outside of dinner, every chance that we are around each other. As in conformity, my brother and I always listen to our mother and father. When they say something needs to be done, we get it done. If we were told that we had a curfew we understood and followed their rules without question. I like the fact that I can talk to my family about anything and they can either just listen or come back with a positive response. They never turn their back on me and when either of us need help, we are always there. I also like the structure my family has. There is nothing I dislike about my family. I would want my future family to be just as my family is now. A typical day in my future family, with myself as a parent would both be fun and hard. Every morning my wife, son/daughter and I would wake up and have breakfast (if our schedules permit). My wife and I would go to work and my son/daughter would go to school. When we all returned home from our day, my son/daughter would sit down and do their school work before dinner and before they go out or play video games. My wife and I would sit down with him/her and help them. This could be hard depending on the subject and how interested in the subject my son/daughter is. After, we would sit down together at the kitchen table, have dinner and talk about our day. We could all laugh and have great conversations. After dinner we would do activities such as chores, play video games and/or just relax. Anything to have a great time before bed. Around 9:30-10:00pm we would call it a night, tuck the little one into bed and get ready for the next day. In regards to Gardner’s Multiple Intelligences, my strongest area is Kinesthetic. I love to play sports and work out. Fitness has always been a big part of my life especially when I was serving in the military. I work out daily either at the gym or at home. I also when my disabilities permit me, play sports with friends or family as much as I can. I loved hiking when I was in the Boy Scouts and also in the Army. My weakest area is musical. I was never good in band or in chorus. It never really appealed to me and I was never one that could understand tone, pitch or rhythm. Of all eight, I would like to improve on Logic/ Math. I was never really good at it however, I was interested in how to find the outcome. Logic questions intrigue me and even though I have a hard time figuring them out, I continue to try because I like the theory behind logic. I could try to improve by taking 15 or 20 minutes out of my day and try a logical problem. During my regular day, I could work on math problems or use the computer program from my math laboratory. My MBTI is I-S-T-J. I agree with the fact that I prefer to communicate by writing. I have always preferred to write poetry or a story and I prefer texting or emails over phone calls. I learn best by reflection and practice. When someone shows me how to do something and I continue to practice it, that is the only way that I can efficiently learn. I also agree with the fact that I trust experience and focus on what is real and actual. I do not dwell with fantasy or things that are out of my reach. If someone tells me that something is right, unless I am the one to try it or look into it myself I don’t always believe them. I am tough minded, organized, systematic and I plan accordingly. I never quit even when I should. I always schedule things in my calendar and have to plan my days in advance as well as prioritize my day. I disagree that I am drawn to my inner world because I am mostly concerned with things that are happening in the outside world. I also disagree that I am present-oriented since although I think about what is here and now, I sometimes think into the past and try to see where things would end up if I did or didn’t do something in the past. I am not reasonable especially with forgiving. I lastly disagree about avoiding last-minute stresses. Sometimes that is my motivation. I procrastinate sometimes and that is when my best work arises. My spouse’s MBTI is E-S-F-P. We’re almost the exact opposite when it comes to personality with the exception of our sensing. I believe that it is good because she can bring new light to my personality. We can show each other new ways of living and we can also motivate each other. Where one of us is quiet the other can bring them out of their comfort zone and show each other something fantastic that we may have been too nervous or scared of to experience it previously. We may potentially run into issues because my wife’s life is flexible and I prefer to be systematic. Where she can fit something in anywhere I prefer to have a set schedule or routine which can cause an argument on either side. She is also spontaneous and I think that sometimes I may feel uncomfortable with certain situations but that is something that I can overcome. She may also feel like I am afraid to try new things and that I dislike going out and meeting people. Overall, the category that my family falls under is quite accurate. I with out a doubt, want to base my future family off of the current family that I have grown up with. I am very athletic and I love fitness. Music is also my greatest weakness and I want to work on logic and math to better myself at it. My MBTI is also very accurate and I agree with many things that it states. Lastly my wife and I are complete opposites according to our MBTI outcomes however, it can be a very positive thing not being the same.