...Ten Minutes of Communication Cynthia O’Brien COM200 Interpersonal Communication (ACM1546D) Instructor: Reginald Doctor December 6, 2015 At the University of Michigan, a researcher named Terry Orbuch studied hundreds of married couples over a twenty-year span. In the article Can we talk? Orbuch explains the role of communication and how this relates to having a happy marriage. The article will explain her findings to strengthen relationships. Moreover, then discuss our relationship experiences with self-disclosure how we may agree with it being satisfying in a relationship or how it may not be. Also, gender differences will be discussed to what type of similarities have been experienced. Some individuals have been at a restaurant or couples on a date that comment on that couple that has been sitting in silence. Sometimes you might independently think are they uninterested irritated, angry or all of the above. This article “can we talk” explains that a British dating site recently set off a comprehensive discussion claiming that a couple married for fifty years will be communicative to each other only three minutes an hour while having an evening meal (Schoenberg, 2011). Although Orbuch a relationship expert sees this as not a concern as she goes on to explain it is not about magnitude, it is the reliable superiority communication Terry Orbuch states, “you can have a two-hour conversation and not talk about anything of substance or value or quality (Schoenberg...
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...LE1028 Texts in Action Assignment 1 Katherine Luesley According to Suzanne Romaine (2000:21) ‘register is typically concerned with variation in language conditioned by uses… and involves consideration of the situation or context of use, the purpose, subject matter and content of the message, and the relationship between participants.’ Consequently, my interpretation is that register can be - but is not solely - identified through linguistic choices and style. It is dependent upon the linguistic context and social situation surrounding the text- which can be identified as genre. Therefore, register is the language variety which results from the genre. Genre differs from register in that it is mainly applied to literary texts or texts which hold strict conventions such as newspapers, poetry, fictional writing and legal documents. Naturally then, to carry out a genre analysis would mean looking at a complete text rather than an excerpt as stated by Biber and Conrad (2009: 17-18) ‘Text excerpts are not adequate for genre analysis, because they do not necessarily represent the linguistic conventions that define the genre’. The data I obtained [Item 1] shows clearly that during the 24 hour period I received a larger range of differing language registers in comparison to the quantity that I produced. Language varieties I received came from a variety of contexts surrounding the text for example, listening to a lecturer deliver a presentation was formal in its approach and address...
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...Language Planning in Malang Da Malang Da is a multi-cultural country. Six major languages are using in this country among different groups. These languages are Akang, Dazakh, Pulao, Lua, Kaw, and French. In 2013, Malang Da receives its independence from France after many years of colonial governance. The government’s Language Planning Commission is seeking new national language and official language for Malang Da. Language Planning Commission should adopt Dazakh as the national language and French as its official language. In this paper, I will provide reasons and examples to prove why this should be the best plan for Malang Da. A national language is a language that has some connection with the people and their country. A national language instance represent the national identity of a country. National language also has some goals. First of all, it has the unifying function. It offers equal opportunities for civics in the same country. Secondly, national language has separatist function. This function affords the country its own identity, so that others know it is an independent country. Thirdly, it has the prestige function. By speaking the national language, civics feel provide and prestigious about their country and culture. Last but not least, national language has the function as a standard. It set rules for the written form, grammar, dictionary and other related matters to make the national language as a standard language. An official language has pragmatic or utilitarian...
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...Critique: Talking Styles. Use the ProQuest database to locate and read the article entitled,“Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance.” Then, visit the Language Style Matchingwebsite and, using sample written communication between you and another person, follow thedirections on the website to retrieve your language style matching score. Write a two-page paper(excluding title and reference pages) about your thoughts on this article and your language stylematching score. In your paper, be sure to address the following:a. Do you think the results provide by the Language Style Matching website are accurate? Why orwhy not?b. Do you believe that language style matching is a comprehensive way to predict the quality ofinterpersonal relationships? Activity mode aims to provide quality study notes and tutorials to the students of COM 200 WEEK 2 ASSIGNMENT in order to ace their studies. COM 200 WEEK 2 ASSIGNMENT To purchase this visit here: http://www.activitymode.com/product/com-200-week-2-assignment/ Contact us at: SUPPORT@ACTIVITYMODE.COM COM 200 WEEK 2 ASSIGNMENT Week 2 Article Critique Talking StylesArticle Critique: Talking Styles. Use the ProQuest database to locate and read the article entitled,“Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance.” Then, visit the Language Style Matchingwebsite and, using sample written communication between you and another person, follow thedirections on the website to retrieve your language style matching score. Write a...
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...Language Style Matching COM 200 Interpersonal Communication Instructor: May 4, 2014 In this write up one will talk about ones own thoughts on the article of Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance In Dating Game, Conversationally Aligned Players Often Pair Up. Then after having a conversation with a co-worker have it graded with the language style matching website with ones own feed back whether or not one agrees with the website. Along with whether or not language style matching is a comprehensive way to predict the quality of interpersonal relationships. In the article of Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance In Dating Game, Conversationally Aligned Players Often Pair Up is about a research project that tests the level of language style matching up between two people. This article is interesting because one has never thought of how a simple conversation between someone would determine whether or not that person is willing to see or hear from you again. For instance with two people arguing at one another they are more prone to have a better language match then someone who is having a general conversation. Ones own opinion of language matching is more of how much you pay attention to that person and the conversation you have having with them. If anyone would have a conversation but no interested in hearing it then that conversation will not be compatibles between the two. Just like the example in the text where they studied forty conversations...
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...The article “Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance” gives an overview of how different elements such as function words play an instrumental role in determining the compatibility between men and women. In my opinion, this article represents both consistent and inconsistent information. According to Bruce Bower 2010, two people who hat one another will often exhibit a high amount of language-style matching. I believe this to be a true statement due to the fact that both individuals are experiencing the same feeling, so the language will be similar. Friendships are formed from characteristics such as language-style matching. Positive relationship stems from combining the two elements together. I am also a firm believer that communication is a two-way entity, and both parties must be willing to compromise certain aspects for the overall success of their relationship. The language style matching exercise is a great tool in measuring the compatibility but must not be set in stone. I’m also a firm believer that opposites do attract. An old cliché that states “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” gives a clear description of the differences between men and women. Men approach conversations with a distinct set of rules and interpretations of talk. Men focus on status and independence; women focus more on intimacy and connection. Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently...
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...I read the article, “Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance” by Bruce Bower. He talked about how the length of relationships can be based on your styles of communication. Bower also discusses how the use of function words such as; pronouns, articles, conjunctions, prepositions and negations”(Bower) can have an affect on conversation partners. He goes own to explain how language style matching “signifies not how much two people like each other but how much each is paying attention to what the other says”(Bower). After reading the article, I went to the Language Style Matching website and took the test. In this essay I will talk about my score and my thoughts about the Language Style Matching test. When I first read the directions to the Language Style Matching test, I was wondering what kind of results I would be given based on single conversation. I use a conversation between my best friend and I, through via text message and the score we received was 0.72. My best friend and I have been close since we were in the second grade; I believed the way that we used our words affected our score. I do not believe the website score was accurate because of the closeness that we share, and the understanding that we have with each other. There are times we can finish each other’s sentences because we know each other thoughts on certain subjects. I thought that we would get a higher score than what we received. I do not know how they come up with the scoring on this test...
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...relationships The article Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance was a very interesting article. I do believe that language style matching is a thorough way to predict the quality of interpersonal relationships in some cases. The LSM test examines the verbal connection between two people which also signify how much attention each person is paying to one another when they are conversing. As stated in the article language style matching is a form of using function words and words in other categories that relates to one another in some form or fashion. One thing I found very interesting about the article was that two people who truly hate one another will often exhibit a high amount of language-style matching,” stated by Pennebaker. He also states that “Two people locked in a bitter fight tend to talk, or yell, in similar ways.” Just based on real life experiences I would have to say this is very much true in many situations I have been faced with. There have been numerous times I have met someone and it seemed as if we were just on the same page. We thought the same way had the same outlook on life to a certain extinct and we seemed to be friends instantly but I never thought that having high language-style matching had anything to do with it nor did I know what it was until taking this course. I now understand better why two individuals who just click as stated in the article just click! It’s almost as if people with high language matching-styles are so compatible with one another...
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...by the language style matching were accurate. My family members and I were using a lot of communication between us. Our verbal communication was that we didn’t pay attention to the words we were using. We just talked everyday like we usually do. In the article, “Functions words tap into verbal coordination between two people because these words are independent of conversation topics and require shared knowledge to be used effectively.” Bruce Bower, U.S. News & World Report, Washington: Nov 2010, pg.1. Because we communicate with others, and they understand us, the word must mean the same to everyone else as it does to us. (Kreidler, 1998). My language style matching score was 0.86, which was an average score. Interpersonal communication; we communicate with people. I don’t think that language style matching is a thorough to predict the quality of interpersonal relationships. Why? Interpersonal communication is a social process. I think it is within people we communicate with others constantly. Once you have conversation with others you learn, listen, and observe people and he world around your. This is how we build and maintain relationships with others and meet our personal needs. Language style matching diminished as each relationship soared. Bruce Bower, Nov. 2010, pg. 1. Reference Bower Bruce, 2010 interview with Pennebaker J. science news 2010 U.S. News & world Report LP retrieved from htto://www.usnews.com/science/articles/2010/11/12/shared-talking-styles-herald-new-and-lasting-romance...
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...Talking Styles Com 200 Interpersonal Communication Talking Styles Communication has been a very important key in the presence in our world and always will be. Good communication is vital for personal and professional success, and they are vital to forming or maintaining a relationship (Sole K, 2010). When you think about it without this innocent ability our people would probably not be able to persist. In the article, “Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Relationships,” the author, Bruce Bower signifies that people you are friends with have a chance to last for a longer period of time if the language style is the same. I also think that the friendship is strong, that their language styles will match. The article,, was very interesting, yet quite impersonal. While I might go as far to say that a shared talking style can interest the intellectual side of me, I find feelings and emotions are more adept at fanning the love flames. The article claims that the use of function words hint as to the attentiveness that each person is giving to what is being said. This writer believes that when two people are involved in an interpersonal relationship and are closely connected, words are often not needed for effective communication. Communication experts generally agree that when two people are engaged in face-to-face conversation, only a small fraction of the total message they share is contained in the words they use. A large portion of the message...
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...Talking styles and language style matching are two very interesting topics. Talking styles not only teaches us about the way we communicate with others, it also teaches us to understand other peoples talking styles and the way that they are communicating. Language style matching, gives us an insight as to how we communicate with certain people and when our communications with them are more effective. When I first submitted an email to the Language Style Matching website, my husband and I scored a 0.69 which is low according to their reported outcome. The email consisted of my husband informing me that he would be home late and that if I had a chance, I should meet him up there to visit with everyone. My response was short, sweet, and to the point. After reading about the reasoning’s as to why we could have scored so low, I learned that when it comes to certain conversations with few words, scores may be lower compared to those which are more in depth. James Pennebaker stated in an article written by Bruce Bower, "Two people locked in a bitter fight tend to talk, or yell, in similar ways." (Science News) After contemplating the meaning behind this statement, I resubmitted an argument that my husband and I had via text messaging, and the way we not only expressed our emotions, but also how we worked it out. To my surprise, our Language Style Matching scored much higher because we were communicating on a much different level. A lot of our arguments start with misinterpretation...
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...Article Critique: Talking Styles Elaine Tate COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor: Robert Strain March 30, 2014 When we have good communication skills it will lead to a happier life, learning to communicate with others is to convey messages, thoughts, and emotions. In this assignment we will compare results acquired from utilizing the Language Style Matching website to see if they are accurate, and also to find out if the beliefs regarding the quality of an interpersonal relationship are based on the quantity of language match. What got my attention was the one sentence, “If you just click with somebody but can’t put your finger on why, there’s a fair chance that high language-style matching is going on”. (Bower, 2010). My score for the site was .75, I met this friend of mine at work she is younger than I but for some reason we just clicked, why I do not know because we have totally different lives, but we did click and now she calls me mom. “ If one friend works in an office building and another in a rock quarry, the two will use different nouns and verbs to talk about their work days but similar function words if they like and understand each other” (Bower, 2010). The friend I was discussing works as an RN with a Master degree; she was a Clinical Director which was my boss. Our jobs and lives were very different we understood one another and were very close. “You become a more effective communicator when you become a more responsible creator of messages. And...
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...me first begin by giving a definition for communication that I found in our textbook titled “Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communications.” Sole, 2011, chapter 1, section 1.3 defines communication as” A process by which we share ideas or information with other people.” With that said let’s look at the views of one a graduate student by the name of Molly Ireland and psychologist James Pennebaker both of the University of Texas at Austin who reported in an article written by Bruce Bower for Science news titled” Shared Talking Styles herald new and lasting romances” that “ Conversation partners related use of function words such as pronouns, articles, conjunctions, prepositions and negations- augers well for mutual romantic interest and stable relationships.” Ireland and her colleague proposed in an upcoming Psychological Science article that “Unconscious verbal coordination of this sort, dubbed language-style matching by the researchers, signifies not how much two people like each other but how much each is paying attention to what the other says.” I happen to disagree with these findings because the study that the researchers did with 40 pairs of speed daters of the opposite sex who talked using similar types and frequencies of function...
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...Talking Styles New studies are showing that key words can determine if people are more compatible. They also show talking styles with people whom talk similarly communicate better. Are these claims real or is it just happenstance? Communicating is how we let our words convey or thoughts and ideas. Being on the same page can bring people closer. People, who talk similar, communicate with each other similar. This can affect the closeness of friends or help in romantic relationships (Bower, 2010). Bruce Bower wrote an article titled: Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance. In this article claims are made that talking styles that are alike between people can predict lasting romantic interests. Researchers call this language-style matching (Bower, 2010).It measures how much people pay attention to one another. It states that even people who do not get along may have similar skills amongst themselves. Examples are given with speed daters: citing that those with the same language skill sets are more likely to get better results in longer lasting relationships. Another example is crisis negotiators. . We all communicate with each other based on our self-image and self-concept of our selves. Our listening skills and language skills change over time and depending on the person we are communicating with how we express ourselves (Sole, 2011). We adapt and change our language skills to meet the desired affect we want. Word manipulation is a skill...
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