...Death and Loss Changes us all The death of a loved one is a harsh reality for all of us. In The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger, the death of Holden’s brother Allie changes how he is. Allie was someone that Holden looked up to. Allie “was two years younger than [Holden] was, but he was about fifty times as intelligent” (38). When Allie died, Holden lost that one connection that he has. And on the night Allie died, Holden lashed out he “broke all the goddam windows with [his] fist… [he] even tried to break all the windows on the station wagon [his family] had that summer”(44). In this instant Holden lashes out in anger and pain, as Holden continues he keeps lashing out angrily, and effectively alienating himself from others. Allie was someone...
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...Human beings recover from the death of a loved one differently. When a person is forced to move on and continue life without a loved one, it is difficult. In Our Town written by Thornton Wilder, Emily’s son and Mrs. Webb suffer losses of the same person, but it affects them differently. Emily’s son does not have a mother to grow up with. Mrs. Webb endured the same loss that the son had to go through, but to Mrs. Webb she lost her daughter. In the novel Sounder by William Armstrong, the mother of the main character lost her husband and her beloved dog. She had to go recover from these deaths too, even though it was hard. Thornton Wilder said, “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” Everyone heals from deaths on their own, but everyone has to go through coping....
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...PSY-100 Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, the term “grief” is defined as: a deep sadness caused especially by someone’s death; trouble or annoyance. In today’s culture and society, when we hear this term, it is often associated with the passing of a loved one. Though a very familiar terminology in culture and society, it is sometimes known but rarely understood. When it comes to the loss of a loved one or someone special in a person’s life, how one deals with and recovers from that is called the bereavement process. The approach to death and grief can be widely vast in the way a person reacts or expresses their grief during their rough time. Both grief and bereavement encompass a range of feelings from deep sadness to anger, and the process of adapting to a significant loss can vary dramatically from one person to another, depending on his or her background, beliefs, relationships to what was lost, and other factors. Grief is associated with feelings of sadness, guilt, regret, anger and so many others. The thought process during the grief process can also be challenging and difficult and can also range in its expression. Thoughts can vary from “there’s nothing I can do about it” to “it’s all my fault.” Grieving behaviors can shift from crying to laughter, and from sharing feelings to engaging silently in acts such as writing or exercising. One of the biggest issues associated with coping with and facing death is the issue of...
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...for everyone. With the end of a life brings mourning, and this process of experiencing death is unavoidable, and changes from person to person due to many different variables, but just as there are many ways death enters someone's life, there are just as many ways for people to overcome their own feelings of grief either in healthy, or unhealthy ways. Throughout history cultures and societies have had deep ritualistic ties to death. Universally religions tend to be very centered on the afterlife, and this faith tends to bring comfort to those who have recently lost a loved one. But does being associated to a religious group really reduce the depression and stress brought along with...
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...Sources of Loss Throughout life, individuals form countless attachments and in turn experience losses. Loss is experienced in numerous situations; from the loss of a loved one to the loss of a meaningful possession. There are different types of loss: Loss of possessions or objects, loss of a known environment, loss of a significant other, loss of an aspect of self, and loss of life (Potter, 2013, pg. 709). Necessary loss is a loss that everyone experiences and is the result of simply moving forward in life. Further, a maturational loss is a form of necessary loss and includes all losses normally expected as a person progresses through life. A sudden, unexpected external event may cause a situational loss. A situational loss results from a change in a life situation. This could be the loss of a person, object, physical/mental quality. In addition, losses can be actual or perceived (Potter, 2013, pg. 709). Ambiguous loss, is a type of disenfranchised grief that occurs when the lost person is still physically present but their personality or mental status is lost such is in severe dementia or brain injury(Potter, 2013, pg. 710). Nursing interventions and rationales for caring for the body after death The RN is responsible for providing safe and appropriate nursing care following death. Depending on the state and/or facility, different events may occur after death. Organ and tissue donation, and autopsy, may or may not occur depending on the circumstances of death and family/cultural/...
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...Grief counseling and children: Ambiguous loss and its effects on children: Implications and interventions for school counselors. By K. Guidy, C. Simpson, T.Test, and C. Bloomfield. Texas A &M University Commerce. * In addition to emotions, children experience physical responses to a loss such as exhaustion, insomnia, headache, stomachaches, and regressive behaviors. * Just like adults children process grief in different and unique ways, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. * Grief work is essential in order for the individual to become actively engaged in their own life again. * Children need adequate information, reassurance, routine, validation, active listening, and adult models to demonstrate mourning behaviors constructively and appropriately. * When a child losses someone in their family they are grieving the loss of the systemic role in the family, the loss of a relationship, loss of an emotional connection and the fear of possibly losing someone else in their family. * May have self-blame, confusion, fear, isolation, or alone * Faced to deal with the changes in their new family systems, adjusting to the remaining parents new way of life may be difficult * SC should build meaningful relationships with the student as well as validate, understand, listen, and normalize their loss when the child is comfortable enough to share with them * You need to meet children and families where they are, support them with patience, compassion...
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...CHAPTER I INTRODUCTION Grief was not a subject of scholarly attention until recently. Although assumed to be experienced since the beginnings of human attachments and separations, Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, was the first one to make a thorough study of grief and loss. His early paper “Mourning and Melancholia”, published in 1917, is regarded as a classic text on bereavement (Mallon, 2008). He contributed the idea that grief is not “pathological” and that grief occurs not only for the loss of a loved one but also for things, values, and statuses (Walter & McCoyd, 2009). Since then, the study of grief had been popularized. More experts have specialized in the field and more publications regarding death and grief were released. Kübler-Ross, Doka, Bowlby, and Worden are just few names who had pioneered the study of grief and other related studies. And in fact, a new field of science had been found which includes the study of grief; that is thanatology. Indeed, the study of grief was granted what academic interest it had been lacking before. The sudden spurt of studies in this field has certainly increased people’s understanding of grief in certain aspects. But it is ironic that despite being a subject of thorough research, the experience of grief remains more or less a vague occurrence which people has to go through at some point in their lives. Attempts had been made in defining grief but the definitions given by different theorists still vary to...
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...Everyone from infant to adult have a different attitude towards life and death. We all are aware of death and we know it will eventually come to us all. Death cannot be prevented. Death is an inevitable fact of life. Each individual react to death in their own way which differs from one individual to another according to their age and upbringing. People grieve at any age. The loss of something important to them will follow them throughout their life (Powers, 2007). There are different feeling of everyone towards death and life. The case scenario that has been provided is about 10 years old boy and the way how he influences his thinking towards loss and grief. This essay shows about the developmental factors of a 10 year old child toward death of a parent. The cognitive and psychosocial development factors are also clarified in the script below. Additionally, the developmental stage and response to loss has also been provided in accordance to the 10 years old boy. Cognitive development refers to how a person perceives, thinks, and gains understanding of his or her world through the interaction of genetic and learned factors. Among the areas of cognitive development are information processing, intelligence, reasoning, language development, and memory. French psychologist, Jean Piaget (1896-1980) built a theory with extensive observation of children, including his own, in their natural environments as opposed to the laboratory experiments of the other behaviourists that...
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...argue against Nagel’s position that the loss of intrinsic goods of life after one dies is considered a deprivation that one suffers. Firstly, the paper will explain Nagel’s view on the matter. Secondly, I will expand on my thesis by using examples and basic logic. Nagel proclaims the point that “If death is an evil at all, it cannot be because of its positive features, but only because of what it deprives us of” (1). This quote illustrates that if death were to be considered evil in any sense, then it would not be because of what suffering it might alleviate but rather what good would terminate when our life ends. Nagel also suggests that there are good components which, if added to one’s experience makes life better...
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...Anjana Khadka Student ID No: S00133749 Discuss how developmental factors are important in the way a 5 year old child conceptualizes and responds to loss. Introduction Almost every person in the world, at one time or another, experiences events that can be considered major losses (Harvey and Weber 1998). Loss weather personal, material, or symbolic will affect us all, children too can face different levels and types of losses (Hooyman and Kramer, 2006; Viorist, 1986) cited in The Person Health and Wellbeing,(1st ed.,pp.211). There is a misconception in our society that children cannot understand or have little knowledge about death. But children of various ages and stages understand death and loss in different ways. (TRAUMA AND LOSS: Research and Interventions, Volume 3, Number 1, 2003) Jean Piaget cognitive stages of development in children are proved to be very important in children’s understanding of death, dying and grief. Childhood grief and development factors are interrelated: the age and stage of development of a child at the time of his or her parent’s death will strongly influence the ways in which the child reacts and adapts to the loss.( Garber, 1988, p. 272) The Death of a Parent: Healing Children’s Grief September( 3rd, 2009);Beth Patterson, MA, LP) A child Understanding of Death A child understanding of death occurs in the age 5-7, when according to Piaget’s theory child progress through preoperational stage of development to concrete-operational stage. (Kenyon...
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...presented by Freud in his classic work ‘‘Mourning and Melancholia,’’ in which he proposed that successful adaptation to loss required the bereaved to detach his or her psychic investment in the deceased, or ‘‘relinquish’’ his or her attachment to the deceased, in order to complete the mourning process. According to Bowlby, healthy mourning occurs when an individual accepts ‘‘both that a change has occurred in his external world and that he is required to make corresponding changes in his internal, representational world and to reorganize, and perhaps reorient, his attachment behavior accordingly’’ Even among bereavement theorists who emphasize the role of CB in successful adaptation to bereavement, it is understood that the nature of the bond is different from what it was when the deceased was alive. Following the death, the connection is exclusively internal and no longer a bond involving the physical existence of the other. Accommodation to bereavement requires revising the mental schema of attachment to the deceased in accord with the reality of this new life situation Widows and widowers are willing for their feelings of attachment to a dead spouse to persist that their sense of identity is preserved and they can reorganize their lives along lines they find meaningful. However, certain continuing bonds can indicate the failure to adapt to the loss they have suffered. Continuing Bonds is an integral part of successful adaptation to bereavement. What is clear is...
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...repeat certain themes, thoughts, and reflections; they talk of the powerful and often conflicting emotions involved in "the pain of grief and the spiral of mourning; [they refer to] the heartbreak at the heart of things...grief's contradictions"; they speak of parents devastated by grief (Moffat 1992, xxiii). It is frequently said that the grief of bereaved parents is the most intense grief known. When a child dies, parents feel that a part of them has died, that a vital and core part of them has been ripped away. Bereaved parents indeed do feel that the death of their child is "the ultimate deprivation" (Arnold and Gemma 1994, 40). The grief caused by their child's death is not only painful but profoundly disorienting-children are not supposed to die. These parents are forced to confront an extremely painful and stressful paradox; they are faced with a situation in which they must deal both with the grief caused by their child's death and with their inherent need to continue to live their own lives as fully as possible. Thus, bereaved parents must deal with the contradictory burden of wanting to be free of this overwhelming pain and yet needing it as a reminder of the child who died. Bereaved parents continue to be parents of the child who died. They will always feel the...
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...breaks" in real life until I found myself with a close friend one night, trying to comprehend the loss of her older brother, who had just been killed in a car accident. The circumstances required me not only to cope with my own sense of grief but also to understand and respond to the intense trauma her and her parents were experiencing. Since that night, I have considered how parents respond when a child dies. Given the complexity and gravity of individual human responses, I hope is that this paper will provide insight into my experience as well as help members of families and friends to better understand how the loss of a child affects parents and siblings while highlighting ways to provide meaningful support. For most bereaved parents, the consequences of the death of a child cannot adequately be expressed in words. Despite extreme efforts to empathize, those who have not experienced a child's death cannot fully know what it is like. However, I have found that knowledge surrounding bereavement can provide a helpful glimpse of understanding, as well as ideas for how to respond to parents and needs when their child dies. For most people, our family defines who we are. We do not identify ourselves simply as mothers, fathers, spouses, in-laws, or grandparents, but as family members. For example, "I am not a mother of 3 children. I am a mother of Haley, Emma and Brent." A child's death challenges our sense of identity. It is best summed up by a quote I read from a bereavement scholar...
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...Running head: GRIEF, LOSS AND FINDING MEANING AND PURPOSE Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose Darren Pedro Grand Canyon University Psychology for Everyday Life PSY-100 Amanda Laster-Loftus May 21, 2014 Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose While dealing with death is never an easy process, knowing how to handle the grieving process could prove to be beneficial to you and those around you. How we deal with our loss will play our in various emotions. In this paper we will take a look at the emotion a person goes through when dealing with death, how a person deals with death in their own way, and finding the meaning and purpose of dealing with grief. Death is never an easy subject to approach. When a person loses a loved one, various emotions come into factor. These emotions trigger feelings which otherwise would not be compromised under normal circumstances. However, the various emotions that a person deals with assist them in the mourning process. There are different stages of emotions a person deals with after having lost a loved one. It is perfectly normal to have experience these emotions and should go through each stage of these emotions. It is believed the common stages of coping with death are as follow: shock and disbelief, sadness, guilt, anger, fear and physical symptoms (Smith & Segal, 2014, p. 1). According to the article done by M. Smith and J. Segal; these emotions are onset early stages in the grieving process. They also stated it...
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... In conjunction with this review of grief we will consider the work of Nicholas Wollsterstorff in his epic Lament for a Son, written to express his still lingering grief at the loss of his son Eric, who tragically fell to his death while mountainclimbing at the age of 25. As we study the process of grief, one must bear in mind that for people suffering grief a range of emotions will come to the forefront"disbelief, sadness, anger, guilt, and selfreproach, panic, anxiety, loneliness, listlessness, and apathy, shock, yearning, numbness, depersonalization" (Bruce 2007) . Also, one must remember that grief is a natural response to losing a loved one. While looking at grief’s lingering effects, we will also discover how Wolsterstorff managed to find meaning, even joy, after the loss of his son. Stages of the Grieving Process All people experience grief and mourn at the loss of a loved oneit is a universal experience. To understand the grieving process better, it helps to focus on the five stages of grief as proposed by KüblerRoss in response to one’s “own terminal illness, the loss of a close relationship, or the death of a valued human being” (Axelrod, 2016). KüblerRoss ' A prominent doctor, Elizabeth KüblerRoss, took death out of the shadows with her seminal book On Death and Dying, published in 1969. Here she focused on what she called "the 3 HEALTHY GRIEVING: A COMPARATIVE ANALYSIS...
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