“Loving to Be a Great Mom”
“To be a good mother is one of the greatest jobs for which “what it’s like to be a mother”
“It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever do but in exchange it teaches the meaning of unconditional love”
(Nicolas Sparks)
To be a great mother one must posses certain skills. Children might not approve these skills but to be a great parent is something different form earning favor with children. It is a difficult task to be as soft as children may pour out their hearts openly and as hard to keep rules firmly .It may be difficult but not impossible.
Here is a short list which may prove helpful to become a great mother. * Be aware of your child’s company. Where he spends his time? When does he come back home? * Know the place your child wishes to visit the most. * Provide your child with healthy and balanced diet. Proper nutrition is indispensable for growing brain and body. * Make him avoid over eating. Make him have his meals at right time to be active * Limit his time spending with television and other electronics devices. Provide him with other healthy outdoor activities. It helps children learn and grow well. * Make him give others their due sight and respect. Teach him proper communication skills as it is one of the best skills you can ever teach your child. Make them use utilize their abilities properly. He must not be physically or verbally abusive to anyone * Be consistent in rewarding for good behavior and punishing positively for bad behavior. Fulfill your promises persistently you have made for consequences for bad or good behavior. * Have honest discussion with them regarding social issues. Teach them the importance of relations and how to keep them healthy. * Teach them the skills necessary for adulthood. Know their views about personal safety, carrel affairs and money. Talk positively about these things. Know what your child thinks about these things. Do not make him listen to you only. Provide them with an opportunity to express themselves. For example “what would you do if some stranger offers you something to eat?” Express your opinion after having their response. * Know your child’s dreams, passions and hopes deeply. Do not make him pursue the target of your own choice. Make him develop his own passions and help him chase it. This may be the greatest help you can ever do to your child. * Finally, you are supposed to be the one you wished your child to be. If you wished him to be honest first be honest yourself. Asking him to lie to others gives him the message that it’s alright to lie to you when needed.
Positive and soft is a great blessing for the both. It makes your child listen to you patiently and offers you with an opportunity to provide appropriate guidance to your child.
“Patience is the backbone of good behavior”
Be curious to find out ways to have your child listen to have your child listen to you.
Punishment is the other way to impose control through power. It results in reactive behavior, no reasoning, no discussion or negotiation seems necessary. It is decreed, “Do as I say”. Child becomes vengeful, resentful and angry when bad behavior is corrected through punishment. Punitive consequences are counter productive.
Harsh behavior results in retaliation and resistance. It also results to cover up misdemeanors to avoid harsh behavior.
It will become more difficult to correct identify and correct bad behavior. It to help your child to have self control your child may difficulties in developing skills to solve the problems of life.
Most children show bad behavior some more often then others. Learn the step that will help you improving your kid’s behavior. It also helps you reduce the severity and frequency of bad behavior.
Develop a stable and loving relationship with your child. It is strongly required for his social development. Show your love by listening to him, by talking to him, by teaching to him and by playing with him. Your words and tone of your voice are keys to keep this relationship healthy. It may be strengthened by your laughter. Positive relationship provides a basis to teach your kid the skills and values of life.
Childhood is a continual process of adjustment and transitions. Make plan to know your child’s skills and temperament and the challenges of his ever-changing life. Provide direct guidance and instructions.
Plan to teach him the skills necessary to meet the challenges in his childhood journey.
Be attentive and respond promptly to your child behavior. Be crazy to learn behavior modification skills. It may help you plan good response and thus provides you to show provide you make positive reinforcement for your child’s behavior.
Child is tends to find connection between action and its consequence.
A mother’s response is the most powerful consequence for a child. It may be a reward or punishment. In both cases, it’s a power tool to shape his behavior.
In short, it can safely be said that children provide a sacred purpose to our life.
I would like to conclude my talk with the words of Lisa Wingate.
“Your children are the greatest gifts God will give you and their soul the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them, teach them to have faith in God, be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old nothing else you’ve done will have mattered as much”.

By: Faizah Ali
Email: faizahali_bhatti@yahoo.com