...involvement and divorced father’s psychological well-being. According to Ryff (1989) psychological well-being is active engagement in a number of existential challenges. The father not successful in marriage or divorced was not achieved Erikson’s generativity which they were unsatisfied and not well-being. However, the positive relationship between father’s senses of competence involvement in child-related activities was stronger for divorced fathers. Research consistently shows that positive father involvement provides important benefits to children. Father involvement is negatively associated with divorced father’s psychological wellbeing...
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...split up, which can be very difficult for some children to deal with. At some point a mother and a father are the two most important people for a child’s future in life. It’s two people who can’t be replaced by anyone. Therefore most children feel caught between their parents after a divorce because they want both sides to be happy. This is clear in the Essay ‘Compass and Torch written by Elisabeth Baines. The boy whose parents are having a divorce seems to be a bit of insecure when it comes to his mother and father. He’s eight years old and lives with his mother and her new boyfriend Jim. He doesn’t like when his parents are fighting or arguing. He just wants peace and for them both to be happy. This is emphasized on p.7, lines: 16-26. The boy overhears his mother complaining about the boy’s father and he wants her to stop. He knows how to stop it by walking into the room. This is a sign of him wanting anything but peace between his parents. He’s very attached by the divorce and does what many divorce children do; blame themselves. This is why he’s seeking his father’s approval or attention. This is shown on p.8, line 34-35 when the boy emphasize that Jim is not his dad and never will be. Here it’s clearly that the boy only seeks his father’s approval and it’s only his father’s confirmation that is important to him. The relationship between father and son seems to be damaged by the divorce. It’s four months since the father has seen his boy. Yet it appears to me that both...
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...Father's Name? Father's Occupation? Father's Address?" What am I supposed to write? These questions are on every one of my college applications. Maybe I don't really have to answer them. I move on to other questions and hit another tough one. "Are your parents divorced, married,single?" I check divorced. "What is the date of their divorce?" I have no idea. "Hey, Mom!" I shout. "When did you get your divorce?" "November 1982," she replies after a pause. One year after I was born. "Let me show you something," she says. "I don't wanna see anything," I shout back. "Just come and look at this." I walk into her room; the hope chest is open and I smell mothballs. When it's open she's walking down memory lane. She thrusts a paper in my face. "This is what I got in the divorce." The hope chest is on the list. "That's great. I don't care!" I say and walk out. I don't care about the stuff, but I do care that I've never met my father. These college applications must be getting to me. Most seniors filling them out aren't pondering their father's name and address. They're worrying about the essays while I'm stumped by simple questions. I pick up the Profile Application. I need to apply for financial aid, just like everyone else, but I need it badly. My father never paid child support and my mother has worked hard to support me. But hard work only goes so far and definitely doesn't come to $30,000 a year. I'm bitter about that. I should have money coming...
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...Chapter II Theoretical and Conceptual Framework This chapter presents the relevant theory and related literature and studies, conceptual framework, and the operational definition of terms used in the study. Relevant Theory This study was conceptualize and guided by the following relevant theory: Social Learning Theory. Bandura’s (1993) vicarious conditioning/social learning theory stressed that behavior patterns are developed through observation and direct experience within biological limits. It emphasizes that human behavior is the mutual interaction between cognitive behavioral and environmental dominants. People are affected by external forces although they can choose how to behave. Bandura further claims that one effect of observation of models can lead to the acquisitionof responses and to the change of frequency of behavior already learned. Social learning theory explains human behavior in terms of continuous reciprocal interaction between cognitive behavioral and environmental influences. Within the process of reciprocal determinism lies the opportunity for people to influence their destiny as well as the limits of self-direction. A direct and complex interaction may positive interactive reflection of a good relationship. It is clearly important that for any individual, a constructive environment may help to maximize his full potentials in dealing with future undertakings; the parents and significant others place more importance influencing the total-well-being...
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... I seemed to recall when he stepped through the door. Leaving behind a bittersweet reminder as I held the pastry in tiny palms, my world was torn asunder that afternoon. From that moment, the recognitions from childhood to adulthood encompassed my mother. The outcome of my father’s absence was a tightened clutch on my mommy’s sleeve when I was a little girl. Flooding emotions swayed by her gentle words of comfort blossomed into adoration for my mother’s accomplishments and determination in the face of adversity. These reflections shall merit my opinion that women play a greater role in raising children in society than men ever could. The first experience to verify my presumption was the first day of elementary school. Children clung to their father’s as though they were their foundations. My mother’s hand was tender, like she was cradling me in her palm. When she guided me through the door of the classroom, I recall her gentle words of encouragement were very different from the stern unmoving speeches by my classmate’s fathers’. A father’s lesson was spoken like a lieutenant to a trainee soldier. I always despised their methods and saw them as intimidating. Yet, when the moments came of moral and ethics, my mother told me stories and fables. They were scriptures of fantasy and folk-lore that still etched a lesson of life into my thoughts. My best friend would tell me that her father was a “magic man”, who would take her to lost ruins and bring back history in...
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...Millions of married couples in America file for divorce everyday. The causes are numerous ranging from boredom of the spouse to violent treatment. Couples who get a divorce often have children, which are the most affected when a divorce occurs. Divorces usually lead to separation of belongings (including children), absence of one parent during children’s growth, and destruction of the family unit. When a divorce is filed it means that a couple has reached a point in which they can not stand to be with each other. The ones who suffer the most in these cases are the products of the love the couple once had for each other: their children. After a divorce takes effect, each of the parent’s belongings are usually evenly divided. The things that can be easily divided include a house, car, and bank accounts. But, children are not things that we can sell or divide. For this reason, divorced couples fight in court for the custody of their children. Each parent has to present their case and demonstrate that he or she is the most capable parent to take care of the children. This includes economic, social, and other aspects of life. Once a judge decides who the children will stay with (usually the mother) the other parent will have no other choice but to limit himself to visitations to his or her children. Some might even be obliged to pay a monthly amount for child support. After custody is won by one of the parents, children will have to adjust to living with just that parent most of...
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...This film, written and directed by Noah Baumback, takes place in Park Slope Brooklyn 1986. Some critics claim that the film reflects the writer’s personal experience of his parents divorce. Both were involved in the literary field. The film was cited as a letter of hate towards the writer’s own father. While the film is ostensibly about a divorce and a family in crisis it is in principal a sensitive coming of age story primarily from the perspective of a 16-year-old adolescent. It is also a fascinating portrayal of the obstacles that a parent with narcissistic features can present in the child’s struggle for independence. The Squid and the Whale is about divisions, about clashing forces; the mother and father, the child and parent, the intellectual and the philistine, the appearance of things and their true nature. Underlying each of these conflicts and every scene in the film is the battle between cynical detachment and vulnerability. The opening lines “Me and Mom vs. You and Dad sets the stage for an excessively competitive doubles tennis. Younger son Frank sides with Mom where older brother Walter proudly joins the father who gives some questionable advice regarding her backstroke. Competitive games are repeated throughout the film’ boxing, ping-pong. The fiercest competition is the literary competition to publish that both parents are engaged in. In this area the father condescendingly tries to give advise for his wife to improve her writing. Characters ...
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...Torch”, this desire is described through a young boy’s perspective. The boy experiences an extremely absent father, which barely notices him, throughout the whole text the boy seeks for the acceptance from his father. Torn between his parents caused by their divorce, the young boy feels split. The parent’s hatred for each other sparks between them as explosives ready to blow up, which has a huge impact on their son. The boy lives with his mother and her new boyfriend, Jim, who in the boy’s eyes never can replace his father in any way. His absent father is only infrequent visiting him, and does not play a huge impact on his son’s daily life. It is clearly that the boy’s mom sees the father’s non-attendance, as only another way to mock on him, she is defiantly angry with him maybe reasoned their divorce. In contraction to the boy’s point of view where the father represents his hero, his role model. Unfortunately, the boy sees the world from a bit of an equivocal angle, where he not only sees the bright and positive points of things but also the darker and negative points. It appears difficult for the boy to separate and distinguish this from each other. This becomes clear for instance in the way that he observes his mother, since it becomes obvious that the boy cannot distinguish...
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...House Divided Summary The article is basically about how divorce affects children home lifestyle changes and their transition into different home. In the article it describes the living arrangement of Courtney Seale who lives with her mother for two weeks, then with her father for another two weeks. Because her parents are divorce and as stated in the article by Courtney ''It's like going away on vacation for two weeks and then having to unpack.'' Courtney parents like most parents wants her to transition easily into her new lifestyle. Than it tells about Courtney's friend Jacinthe Sasson-Yenor who has a more complex living arrangement with her parents because one lives in luxury and the other doesn’t. When it’s a school day she stays with her mother in her New Jersey loft, and on weekends she stays with her father in his 1861 farmhouse. Although every other Saturday, she spends the day with her mother not allowing much time with her father like most children experience from divorced parents. Also, the article discusses how divorce is difficult and how it's by no means comfortable for children moving from house to house. It tells of how Courtney parents share joint custody and how they try to make it more comfortable. The article describes the children’s bedrooms and how each show different stages in life from the other for example it stated “Jacinthe's two rooms reflect different stages in her life. The room at her father's house was the one she started out in as a baby.” The article...
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...divorcing (Wallerstein 450). Parental strife can be initiated by disrespectful comments that can lead to a nasty fight and eventually domestic violence. Simply, domestic violence is any kind of intimidating behavior, violence or insults between the parents who have been intimate. The children of these parents suffer physically and psychologically when they observe such incidences in their homes. Parental strife has a great impact on the children unlike other traumatic events that children face because; in most cases they are usually uncontrollable. Conflicts between the parents can be controlled in front of the children. It is the main cause of divorce in many families and the spouses can later become frustrated and desperate. For example, David Vann’s parents divorced after undergoing many conflicts that were caused by his father’s extramarital affairs and he explains how his father underwent stress and depression after the separation. He says “His movements came in cycles that were closing in steadily around him. He kicked wildly at the...
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...boy. His mother and father are divorced. The boy lives with his mother and her new boyfriend Jim. He does not see his father very often. The boy is desperate for his father’s acknowledgement and is refusing to accept Jim as a replacement for his father. “”It’s a good one,” said Jim, pointedly approving, handing it back. “Yes,” said the boy, forcing himself to acknowledge Jim’s kindness and affirmation. But Jim is not dad.” (p. 8, ll. 33-35). The boy knows that Jim is only trying to be nice but does not believe anyone can do anything better than his dad. Jim is much more open and friendly towards the boy than his real father is but the boy can’t or will not see his father flaws. His mother does not believe the father will obtain to restore the broken relationship with his son. The boy’s knowledge of this only fuels his idolisation of his father. The father and the boy are not very close. They have not seen each other in four months prior to this camping trip. As much as they both want to be close, there is a distance between them. The father is first introduced as the man. The broken relationship as made them more as strangers than father and son. It is not until after we read about the flashback where the boy’s mother is talking about how she does not believe that the father can relate to the boy, that the man is called the father. This could be because the boy’s faith in his father grew stronger after hearing his mother’s displeasure with the trip. His father’s movements...
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...Harwick, who runs away from the sinister influence of a loveless stepfather. This discovery made them reveal and share their own engrossing, heart-rending stories filled with hurting and healing moments.The main characters that I choose is Richard Clayton Harwick because he faced a lot of obstacles in his life and finally managed to overcome them in the midst of sadness. One of his obstacles is rejection of love. Richard felt that his love was being rejected by his mother and his sister as his mother never defended him when his cynical stepfather confronted him. His sister never supported him when he gave his opinion. Richard tried to run away from this obstacle by running away from home to work at sea. The second obstacle is when his stepfather sent him to Mordanger School. This is because his stepfather wanted to teach him to be good and not rebellious. However in Mordanger School Richard had learned nothing except how to freeze , how to starve and he was also bullied and beaten. Her mother said that everything his stepfather did was for his own good, so he will grow up strong and manly and be a son whom they can be proud of....
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...Challenges Single Moms Face Liberty University Abstract The purpose of this paper is to inform our society of the significant challenges single mom face. Raising children in this era is a very difficult task for couples and it brings greater challenges when is done by a single parent. This paper explores the emotional, psychological and financial aspect of raising children as a single mom as well as the main reasons why. It will review the causes and consequences in which it affects children, parents and entire families. There is data that has been collected where it indicates the reasons why there has been an increase and the impact that it has on children and adolescents. There are ways single moms overcome challenges. II. Introduction to Challenges Single Mom Face According to DeBell( 2008), about half of American children will spend part of their childhood in a single- parent family. DeBell stated that the absence of a father in a child’s home, the most consequential trend of our time, leads to social disaster(Pg. 427). Goldenberg (2008), states that a dysfunctional family, by definition, has failed to fulfill its purpose of nurturing the growth of its members. Single-parent families are more common in today’s society and are...
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...countless surveys, focus groups and opinion polls. There are some who disagree as to exactly how culpable absent fathers are for many of the social ills we’re seeing in our society today, but there’s no denying it is a problem. This paper will endeavor to show that in spite of often heroic efforts by single mothers to rear their children as productive members of society, there is an overwhelming amount of data indicating fatherlessness as a significant factor of violent crime, educational under-achievement, high rates of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), teenage pregnancy and behavioral disorders and it is vital that children have a father proactively involved in their lives wherever possible. Arguably the most desperate reason for fathers to engage in a positive way in their children’s lives is reflected in the statistics of violent crime. The young men of society today are growing up without fathers to guide them and teach them right from wrong. This has produced a generation of young men who are astonishingly angry. According to a report by Criminal Justice and Behavior, “Eighty percent of rapists motivated by displaced anger come from fatherless homes” (Children of Divorce and Separation – Statistics, 2001). This means that a male growing up in a fatherless home is ten times more likely to commit rape. Obviously there are copious other factors that play into this extreme level of violent behavior, but it is no coincidence that where fathers have taken perpetually diminished...
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...His and Her Divorce Perhaps nowhere is this difference more evident than in the debate over which partner—the ex-wife or the ex-husband—is the primary victim of divorce. Both are affected by the divorce, but often in different ways. The first year after divorce is especially stressful for both ex-spouses. Divorce wields a blow to each one’s self-esteem. Both feel they have failed as spouses and, if there are children, as parents (Demo and Fine 2010). They may question their ability to get along well in a remarriage. Yet each has particular difficulties that are related to the sometimes different circumstances of men and women. In this discussion, we are primarily speaking of divorced men and women who are parents. Her Divorce Women who were married longer, particularly those oriented to traditional gender roles, lose the identity associated with their husband’s status. Getting back on their feet may be particularly difficult for older women, who usually have few opportunities for meaningful career development and limited opportunities to remarry (Yin 2008). Women of the baby boom generation and later have usually had significant work experience, so they may find it easier to reenter the work world, if they are not already there. Divorced mothers who retain sole custody of their children often experience severe overload as they attempt to provide not only for financial self-support but also for the day-to-day care of their children. Monitoring and supervising children...
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