...Positive discipline is one of the five main types of discipline that can address a variety of behavioral problems. However, many parents wonder, does positive discipline really work? Before jumping to any conclusions, it is important to educate yourself on some of the important principles of positive discipline. Build a Positive Relationship: Proponents of positive discipline recommend that caregivers spend quality time with children each day to build a healthy relationship. This quality time can include playing, talking, and simply enjoying one another’s company. During this quality time, it can be beneficial to talk to your child about the feelings he experienced throughout the day. For example, ask him when during the day he felt the saddest and when he felt the happiest. Then, share the same about your day. This provides an opportunity to learn about one another and build a strong foundation for the relationship while also teaching about feelings. Use Encouragement Liberally: Positive discipline focuses on encouragement over praise. Instead of praising kids for a job well done, encouragement focuses on a child’s efforts, even if there isn’t a successful outcome. Encouragement should celebrate a child’s improvements while motivating him to keep trying. Encouragement can help kids recognize their full potential. It also teaches them to be more independent as they will begin to see what they are capable of doing on their own. The key is to encourage kids in a way that...
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...Guidance when Discipline works well. Discipline mean different thing to different Families, Cultures, Religion and Individuals. Some see discipline as a means to impact knowledge, skills and teaching techniques. While others see discipline as punishment and control which makes some parents, adults and teachers avoid using the word discipline as a means of correcting or educating a child. There is a great deal of controversy about appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents, are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instil self-control in their children. When child A hits child B and parents of child A hits child A and said to Child A “hitting is not good”. As a discipline, it only stands as controversy and not teaching the child anything. In some culture and religion, spanking is a very good example of discipline. I am from Nigeria, and in our culture, parents uses spanking, time out, as a form of discipline but some culture sees it as punishment and the child learns nothing other than fears from being spank or hit in this kind of discipline. Guidance is preferable to use because it is part of modeling good behaviour and it encourages and support good behaviour. Parents believe guidance has some positive associations that are attached to it. MENA (Diversity in Early care and Education. P.g 134) Educators and parents believe Guidance help them to know how much they can expect from a child, and how better they can be able to guide that child successfully...
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...to establishing order in your child. As well, using the rod can affect the child’s long term mental behaviors, social norm, and the parental relationship. An article by John Fletcher titled, “Positive Parenting, not physical punishment” he addresses some of the concerns regarding corporal punishment. “Is spanking wrong? Clearly, hitting anyone in anger or when losing an argument is bad behaviour. To do this to children sets a bad example and may only teach them that violence is a means to getting their own way” (J.Fletcher 2012) By exploring the need of corporal punishment as it relates to it effect on children’s cognitive behaviors to punishment, alternative punishment methods and non-physical discipline may prove to be the best disciplinary method for children today. According to Miriam Websters Dictionary, corporal punishment as it pertains to children is defined as “punishment administered by an adult (as a parent or a teacher) to the body of a child ranging in severity from a slap to a spanking.” (M. Webster n.d.) Corporal punishment as it relates to children is sometimes administered in a school setting by administrators or teachers, however most corporal punishment is administered at home by a parent, guardian or other relative. Typically the discipline is given in the form of a spanking or whipping; sometimes discipline is given in the form of smacking or slapping the child. This type of discipline, although it has possibly shown positive short term results and changes...
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...their children to inevitably {hopefully} produce respectable adults. Often parents will emulate the style of discipline they experienced growing up. It is important to know the effects discipline may have emotionally on children. A few techniques that can be utilized in positive parenting are discipline, a child’s growth mentally and physically, and how to be consistent. Discipline is often a touchy subject when it involves a legal situation. Parents are often confused about where to draw the line between utterly innocent disciplining or perhaps overdoing things which can result in what could be considered abusive behavior. It is important to discuss the various styles of parenting. For instance; permissive parenting is someone who displays a lack of discipline with little or no boundaries, but is otherwise a loving parent. Setting boundaries helps children build confidence instead of insecurity. Next is Neglectful Parenting. One who may neglect their children by not making the effort to discipline or guide them as they are simply too lazy to expend the time necessary. Neglecting children can scar them deeply emotionally. Then, there is Authoritarian Parenting -someone that does not show any affection but is focused only on control and disciplining. This style of parenting can lead to unnecessary arguments and resentment between parent and child or parent and spouse. Last but not least there is an authoritative parent. Children’s growth will be stunted...
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...versus child abuse The most common misconception that spanking is a form of child abuse has now affected the proper discipline of today’s children and young adults. Some parents are actually afraid to discipline their children in the same way they were brought up due to fears of child abuse claims. Are you one of those parents? It is surprising how many of us are. Is there a right or wrong way to discipline children, and who has the say in it? Most experts on child rearing are against spanking in belief that it causes negative long-term effects, but parents who were spanked as a child tend to believe it is the only way to discipline their children when severe behavior problems arise. So do we act on an old-fashioned learned method or concede to following the expert’s advice and find other alternate measures for discipline in hopes that children will behave? Most adults can say they were spanked as a child and they turned out just fine, so what would be wrong with using that same form of discipline on their children? Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. Parents who do spank their children argue that if done properly and only when absolutely necessary, spanking can be an effective disciplinary tool. However, parents who choose not to spank their children, say that hitting a child only teaches them that violence is a way to solve problems that arise. At what age is it appropriate to start disciplining or spanking children? Teaching children discipline should...
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...Discipline Discipline is the process of teaching the child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable, it teaches a child to follow rules. Discipline may involve both punishment, such as a time out, and, more importantly, rewards. It sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline. Every parent wants their children to be happy, respectful, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising a spoiled brat. Our responsibility as a parent is to help our child become self-reliant, respectful, and self-controlled. Relatives, schools, churches, therapists, health care professionals, and others can help. But the primary responsibility for discipline rests with us parents. Take a look at current parenting styles. According to Baumrind there are three styles of parenting: • An authoritative parent has clear expectations and consequences and is affectionate toward his or her child. The authoritative parent allows for flexibility and collaborative problem solving with the child when dealing with behavioral challenges. This is the most effective form of parenting. • An authoritarian parent has clear expectations and consequences, but shows little affection toward his or her child. The parent may say things like, "because I'm the Mommy, that's why." This is a less effective form of parenting. • A permissive...
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...Child and adolescent psychology Name Institutional affiliation Children who, for many reasons are at a risk of losing their parents, or are living without their parents are exposed to discrimination and poverty. This makes them vulnerable to neglect, abuse and exploitation. Parenting can be defined as a dynamic process that depends on communication that takes place between children and their parents, families and environment. Parenting practices are vital in the development of a child, and are different for different generations. A study was conducted by (Frick, Barry, & Kamphaus, 2010), and provided the parenting practices across three different generations described in the table below. | | Generation 1 years children were raised (1950-1979) | Generation 2Years (1980-1989) | Generation 3Years ( 2000 to date) | Parenting practice 1Education | Monitoring | Yes | To some extend | No | Parenting practice 2Extracurricular activities | Child rearing | high extend | Higher than in G3 | To some extend | Parenting practice 3Discipline | Harsh discipline | To high extend | To some extend | No | Parenting practice 4Religious involvement | Positive parenting | To high extend | To high extend | To high extend | Discussion In terms of parenting practices that include monitoring, positive parenting, harsh discipline and child rearing, parents in these generations responded differently. From the table above, it is evident that child rearing is a complete development...
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...Guidance when Discipline works well. Discipline mean different thing to different Families, Cultures, Religion and Individuals. Some see discipline as a means to impact knowledge, skills and teaching techniques. While others see discipline as punishment and control which makes some parents, adults and teachers avoid using the word discipline as a means of correcting or educating a child. There is a great deal of controversy about appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents, are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instil self-control in their children. When child A hits child B and parents of child A hits child A and said to Child A “hitting is not good”. As a discipline, it only stands as controversy and not teaching the child anything. In some culture and religion, spanking is a very good example of discipline. I am from Nigeria, and in our culture, parents uses spanking, time out, as a form of discipline but some culture sees it as punishment and the child learns nothing other than fears from being spank or hit in this kind of discipline. Guidance is preferable to use because it is part of modeling good behaviour and it encourages and support good behaviour. Parents believe guidance has some positive associations that are attached to it. MENA (Diversity in Early care and Education. P.g 134) Educators and parents believe Guidance help them to know how much they can expect from a child, and how better they can be able to guide that child successfully...
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...BETWEEN DISCIPLINE AND OBEDIENCE FROM THE MONTESSORI PERSPECTIVE. EXPLAIN HOW DISCIPLINE AND OBEDIENCE ARE LINKED TO THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE WILL. The present document will focus on the relationship between discipline and obedience according with Montessori’s philosophy. I will explain to how discipline and obedience play a vital role in the development of a child and how both these are linked or connected to the development of the will. First, current definitions of the terms discipline and obedience will be discussed and will be compared with Montessori’s interpretation of these concepts. The influence of favourable environment in the development of the will and in discipline will be explained. Following there will be explained how the maturational develop of discipline is linked to the development of the will. Then there will be a consideration in how these aspects of development are the foundation of the development of obedience. I will then describe the there levels of obedience linking the first two relevantly to the spiritual and social embryonic stages of the absorbent mind. Finally I will conclude my argument by summarising the main ideas of this essay. The term DISCIPLINE is often define in the dictionary by “training to act in accordance with rules; drill; punishment inflicted by way of correction and training; behaviour in accord with rules of conduct;” This term is still very associated with punishment in your society. We say a child needs “discipline” when they...
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... Japanese ideas about child-raising and discipline are usually a riddle or an abomination to the newly arrived foreigner who begins to observe the local parenting scene. However, it is not always easy to discern what traditional ideas of Japanese parenting are. Japanese society has for some time been in a state of controversy over child-raising and discipline issues. Ideas of parenting in Japan have been in a state of flux as Japanese parents of the younger generations have been open to the advice of western parenting gurus, which usually sharply deviate from traditional ideas of child-raising. To make sense of parenting standards in Japan, you must first try to identify the traditional standards of conduct. As expected, most of the problems seen among the Japanese youths of today are attributed to permissive and indulgent parenting and to the lack of discipline or teaching on proper behavior and manners from modern-day parents. Children learn more discipline from school than from home. Japanese children are usually well mannered. Japanese mothers generally do not scold their children, and try to train their children as much as possible through encouragement and praise. Children are sometimes punished by getting locked out of the house. The discipline style of the Japanese has changed over the years and spanking children is not seen as a positive form of discipline today. The argument over spanking a child is debated in Japan as often as...
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...Banned in Homes? The spanking of a child, also known as corporal punishment, by their parent(s) is one of the most common forms of disciplinary action used to date. Although many people have different ideas of what spanking really is, the term universally means “striking the child on the buttocks or extremities with an open hand without inflicting physical injury with the intent to modify behavior.” (Bai) Some parents and researchers would say that spanking one’s child is a form of child abuse because it is practiced with the intent of causing physical pain to the child. However, the use of corporal punishment is necessary because a child who is not disciplined will not learn the difference between right and wrong and should not be against the law for parents to use in their home. When I was five, I got a “spanking” from my father for biting a family member. During and after the spanking I cried and was very upset with my father for what he had done. I thought it was unfair and “mean”. But like my parents, a recent survey estimated that ninety-four percent of parents with children age’s four to five spank their children occasionally. (Larzelere) While some call it discipline, others believe it is a form of violence. Research shows that corporal punishment leads to more serious problems than just getting your feelings hurt. In many cases when a child is spanked, it can leave a lasting impact and cause poorer relationships between a child and the parent. Also, there is an increase...
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...Has Discipline Gone Too Far? What is acceptable and for whom? English 105 Since the beginning of time it has been heavily debated about the use physical discipline in homes and schools around the world. It has been speculated that physical punishment is an extreme and inappropriate. Why punishment on a physical level in the eyes of so many is labeled wrong but in the eyes of others they believe it’s not only right, but effective. Who is right in this matter? Who has the right to tell a parent that they should not be spanking their child? How do we draw a line between what is acceptable and what is unacceptable and should the government step in and make an anti-physical punishment law? About 30 years ago this form of reprimanding a child was a norm. Many child psychologists and other health care professionals have been discussing and debating this very topic for many years now. In fact according to Dr. Gregory K Fritz’s article “Should Spanking a Child Be unlawful,” a survey was conducted 15 years ago of family practitioners and pediatricians and it was found that about two thirds supported mild spanking in some disciplinary situations. However, times have changed and so has the way we discipline our children. As time passes our world changes and adapts. Things are different, technology and the human life is constantly revolving. Therefore the way we raise our children has evolved to. Punishment for a child can be as simple as taking away their...
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...Child Discipline share with Twitter 194email this What is discipline? As part of their natural development, children sometimes challenge or test parental and adult expectations and authority. Sometimes, children simply choose to misbehave in order to gain something (e.g., attention, an object, power, peer approval). This is a significant part of the growth process of children, yet it should not be without consequence. Discipline is how children learn right from wrong, acceptable from unacceptable. Parental or adult discipline of children should be designed to help children engage better with others and to modify or control their behavior. Providing appropriate discipline to children is one of the most essential responsibilities of a parent. And providing consistent and positive discipline helps children grow into responsible adults. According to the Committee for Children (2004), the purpose of discipline is “to encourage moral, physical, and intellectual development and a sense of responsibility in children. Ultimately, older children will do the right thing, not because they fear external reprisal, but because they have internalized a standard initially presented by parents and other caretakers. In learning to rely on their own resources rather than their parents, children gain self-confidence and a positive self-image.” What about the use of physical discipline? American Humane, as a policy, opposes the use of physical discipline on children at home...
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...Abstract When it comes to disciplining a child, weather you are a parent, a day care provider, caregiver or baby sitter, anyone can argue that the job is in no way easy. Discipline requires effectiveness, consistency, and even a little bit of compassion thrown in. The difficult question is: “What is considered effective discipline?” How do you effectively discipline a child? How do you know if your techniques/tactics are not being effective or working the way you were intending? What will be the long and short term consequences of the way you are disciplining that child? Many adults do not put active thought into the actual structure of discipline; many use a trial and error method. For instance, telling the child no, then when that doesn’t work, putting the child in the corner, and if that isn’t effective, spanking the child. And so on and so forth. I have learned to take a step back, analyze the behavior, and decide the best positive approach to find a way to prevent the behavior-which will hopefully prevent discipline from being needed. THAT is how you know you are being effective! If no discipline is needed at all! In this paper, I will go over the different techniques for a positive approach towards discipline, tips to prevent discipline from being needed, and some effects of discipline on the child. How to Effectively Discipline Children How many of us remember discipline being a positive thing when we were children? Not many is my guess, I know I can’t answer...
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...The amount factors that influence a person’s upbringing are uncountable. Arguably, the younger a child is the more prone to influence they are. At a young age, what one learns and the environment in which they learn it will shape their work ethic and willingness to learn for all the years to come. Fortunately for me all of years of reaching maturity were exceptionally positive. In this paper I will attempt to outline the major aspects of my development and how these have shaped my values. I grew up in the Alpharetta/Roswell area (just outside of Atlanta), a sparsely populated yet relatively prosperous town then, now it is a very wealthy and densely populated city. Today it is, per capita, the wealthiest area in Atlanta. This change has led me to recognize and value growth and progress. I had a fortunate upbringing and I expect my future to be no less prosperous, and if it holds anything less for me I would consider my self a failure. I have become so accustomed to living with nice things in an affluent area, and anything less just would not feel right. From the time I was born to when I first went to school I lived in the same area and in the same house. It is hard to say how this has affected me, but I am well aware that changing location repeatedly can have a negative effect on a child. The house I lived in was relatively nice. It was a common middle-class home; not big but by no means was it small. The house we moved in to in 1994 was larger and in a much nicer...
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