...Summary Ron Deal wrote “Dating and the Single Parent”. He starts his book with a foreword, as most books do. However, this is one of the most powerful portions of the book because it gives the reasons for the book. While the content will be summarized, many people (especially the church), have not been dealing or addressing the blended families that are in need of help because the single parent is so prevalent and many people are not going into marriage of blended families with an awareness of how to do this effectively. Here are some shocking, but not unbelievable statistics: 1. “Forty two percent of adults are in a step relationship of some kind. 2. Thirty percent of marriages to attend Family Life’s Weekend to Remember marriage getaways are in blended families. 3. Two-thirds of marriages where one or both partners brings children into the relationship end in divorce” (Deal, 2012). He continues to explain upfront that many of the issues are understanding the difference between “coupleness” and “familyness”, and that the latter is what will create a legacy. The book chapter’s attempts to guide both the single parent and the person interested in dating the parent advice and guidance in the process. The first portion of the book consists of five chapters and it titled “Getting Pas the Butterflies and Warm Fuzzies.” The first chapter “Dating in a crowd: Dating with purpose” (pg. 29) starts off the book with a reminder that when one dates a single parent...
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...mercy. That is how you can call yourself Christian. What you eat is your personal preference. However eating the right thing will not get you nor keep the title Christian from you. So by all means eat pork hot dogs. Eat them for Sunday Supper or any supper. Pork has no correlation to being a Christian. The end of the world is near. Jesus is coming for judgment day. You should be anticipating, and constructing yourself for his return, things such as spreading his word and trying to renew hearts. Marriage and sex just get in the way of preparing for God’s judgment. I do not applaud to any use of pornography. However, if you feel you have to have sexual pleasure, internet pornography is a better choice than sex and marriage. Marriage pulls your attention away from God, and there is no need for a relationship so close to the end of the world. Webster-2 Pornography will distract from preparing yourself for the end, but it will be less distracting than marriage and sex itself. You should...
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...Research Paper – The Benefits of Premarital Education Liberty University LIFC 301: Marriage Coaching October 8, 2012 * * * * * * * * Abstract The divorce rate in the United States continues to hover around the fifty percent mark and within the ranks of faithful church attenders the percentage of marriages that end in divorce is almost equal to those from secular society, but the actual numbers are higher due to the fact that born again believers are more likely to marry than their secular counterparts. Divorce leaves much greater damage in its wake than just the broken hearts of the divided former couple. Families are torn apart, economic structures are rent asunder, children have their support systems abolished, and it is often left up to the community at large to pick up the pieces. Premarital education, counseling, or coaching shows promise in helping marriages to remain intact. Couples who engage in premarital preparation reduce the likelihood of facing divorce by as much as thirty percent. By helping pre-married couples to learn a relatively small skill set a coach, counselor, member of the clergy, educator, or lay facilitator can enable a couple to not only reduce the learning curve towards a vitalized relationship, but they can improve their odds of crossing the until “death do us part” finish line still together. Introduction While it is often quoted that the divorce rate in the United States is at or above fifty...
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...revolution. She is forbidden to marry because of the families’ tradition of the youngest child to take care of the mother in her old age. This tradition has a profound effect on Tita’s life throughout the story. In January her recipes are Christmas rolls and sausages she says that preparing sausage is a family tradition for them so everyone has a role one day while they were preparing the sausages she tells her mother that Pedro Muzquiz would like to ask for her hand in marriage. Mama Elena tells Tita that it is useless for Pedro to ask for her hand in marriage because Tita, being the youngest, is obligated by family tradition to care for her mother until death. Pedro and his father show up at the ranch to ask for Tita's hand in marriage, and Mama Elena refuses and offers Rosaura her sister to him instead. Pedro takes her sisters hand in marriage because he claims he is doing it to get closer to Tita. In February the recipe is for a Chabela Wedding Cake. This is the wedding cake that she is going to use for her sisters weeding. She was mad at her sister for marring Pedro so she missed the engagement party because of a "headache". Mama Elena punished here by giving her the assignment of preparing the food for the 20-course meal there where going to serve. After the ceremony ends Pedro grabs Tita and convinces her that he only loves her. In March Pedro brings her a bouquet of roses to congratulate her on her new position as head cook. However when Rosaura pregnant with her first...
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...Following the Revolutionary War, traditions in the United States continued to mimic those of Europeans. Despite this, the newly founded Republic, based on freedom and personal liberty, urged women to gradually develop new roles in society, while still remaining in their tradition roles. Hannah Webster Foster provides a glimpse into the life of women and their gender roles in her novel The Coquette, depicting the value marriage, motherhood and women’s education in the turn of the 18th century. The conflict within The Coquette arises from society’s demand for marriage. Eliza Warton, receiving affection from both Boyer and Stanford, while feeling pressured to marry, is forced to choose between personal freedom or accepting society’s expectations...
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...because of the martial strife I went through in my previous marriage I love my mate Marietta. She feels no need because we are getting along good but to my dismay I believe we are different because of our backgrounds I’m from America she is from the Philippines. Just that mere fact that we come from different cultural backgrounds ensure differences of opinions and we would be leading into an interracial marriage.” This could be a hard seeing that this is my second marriage and the divorce rate is 60-67% more likely” (Duzak, 2013). I feel very uneasy with not having a pre-nuptial agreement because of my past experience with divorce. I love you Marietta, but I want to be safe for financial and family reasons I have a son and I have amassed a nice financial situation for me and my son and I would not want to jeopardize our security for if we don’t work I just need you to see this thru the eyes of a man that has been through a lot mentally and financially because of not preparing the first time around. “The rights of my pre-nuptial agreement consist of keeping finances separate, protecting each other from past debts from and providing for my son from my previous marriage and also keeping property in the family.”(nolo.com). I would want to do this to ensure my rights are legally accepted in this union. I want to reiterate that I really do love you but I want to have all my legal options open just in case this marriage fails. This would be a reason to say yes and have options also...
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...community LGBT organization in the State of North Carolina. The June 26-decision Obergefell v Hodges invalidated provisions of the North Carolina constitution that prohibited same-sex marriage. The state public television network has asked the organization’s founder and president, David Mitchell, to appear on a program where a panel will discuss Obergefell. David has asked for your help in preparing for the program David wants to understand the basis of the majority opinion and whether the arguments of the dissenting opinions are valid. Specifically, David wants you to answer the following questions: • The majority opinion concludes that “the right to marry is fundamental right inherent in the liberty of the person, and under the Due Process and Equal Protection Clauses… couples of the same-sex may not be deprived of that right and liberty.” What are the chief criticisms that Chief Justice Roberts’ dissent makes of the conclusion that the right to marry is a fundamental right? • Do you agree with the majority or with Justice Roberts on whether the right to marry is a fundamental right, and why? (Definition of “marriage” is part of Robert’s analysis of whether the right to marry is a fundamental right and is also part of the majority opinion, so you have to get into what the word “marriage” means) • Justice Thomas’s dissent states his view that substantive due process is wrong. He also says that, even if were “defensible”, “the concept of ‘liberty’ [that the majority...
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...each other and their environment in meeting basic human needs for affection and meaning. In today’s world there is a variation of single-parent, stepfamilies or blended families, dual-career families in which both parents work, married couples without children, cohabitating couples, and gay and lesbian families are more typical of the diverse family patterns today. For this assignment I chose a blended family, this is a family consisting of a couple and their children from this and all previous relationships. In this case, the father and also the step parent is thirty five years old and the mother is thirty two years old. They have an older male child who is the son of the mother from a previous marriage and is ten years old and the smallest child is a girl from this current marriage who is six years old. All four of them are white in race and Hispanic in ethnicity. In the family that...
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...identity in the Enlightenment age. Education played a prominent role and became encouraged more than ever before, but mainly on the basis of their eventual role as mothers. Women’s reproductive function became their sole claim to significance. Mothers and wives were elevated as man’s partners in preparing a new generation of enlightenment thinkers and workers. In order to fulfill the enlightenment idea of femininity, an eighteenth-century women needed the social position, the fertility and the resources of the middle class to permit her to focus all of her attentions upon nursing and educating them. Many such as career woman, Mary Wollstonecraft, vigorously protested against the subjection of women and argued against being reckoned as a frivolous sex and ridiculed by writers. She made the argument for women to receive a careful education in order to contribute to society and become more notable and against the slavish obedience to share rights in order emulate the virtues of man. Other scholars such as J.A Sharpe criticized the view of a women’s first duty as obedience and subordination to her husband, as well as how marriage consisted of mutual support and equal contribution. This view of marriage became a milestone for the role of women in the eighteenth century as women progressed from being obedient and subordinate to their husband. This idea was supported by the growing opinions that women should be educated too, and how they showed a desire for education and ability to gain access...
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...tied to ideologies of gender roles and expectations. Immigrants of South Asian descent often struggle to integrate into the norms of the Western lifestyle, and continue to uphold to the male dominated structure. This means that women are often accustomed to doing the household chores including cleaning and cooking. It's more than just a food, it's an identity. it provides for impacts on social,historical,and political grounds in north American communities and also around the world. Food is a highly significant cultural symbol of ethnicity, and an important means for constructing ethnic identities (Brenda L. Beagan, 2012)-. Biryani and rice both play a vital role, and bring people together whether it be preparing, eating, or purchasing the preparation of ingredients for it. The different ideologies that govern biryani and plays a vital role in the communities which prepare it, is gender. ‘It could be paid or unpaid (voluntary)’ (Jennifer Brady, 2012), but the female gender roles in the south Asian communities in Canada have an identity defined by the food they cook, and this is seen in various traditional dishes worldwide. This paper will explore in a narrower scope, the implications that the...
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...Change Wheel Reflection Ten years ago marriage exposed me to fear of the unknown, I was happy that I was married to the man of my dream, but at the same time I had fear if I was truly making the right choice. Will my marriage be a happy one? Will I be able to have my own children? Will my husband be there for me in sickness and in good health? All these fears created anxiety in me which has flown out of the window after achieving success in my marriage these past 10years of marriage. Driving in USA also created fear and anxiety in me but today I have achieved success and have built a huge confident in me because I believe in myself and that is the reason I am making it. A lot of things have happened in my life and in the world today but I am still making it. Having children created a big fear, I had many questions in my head-(will I be able to provide for my children? Will I be able to combine going to school family and paying bills?) All these fears combined with the global fear of shooting in America, shooting in the primary school, bombing, accidents, and hardship created more fear and anxiety knowing that the world is a difficult place to live in. with all these challenges in the world I am determined to succeed. How well- prepared do I feel for school? I started preparing myself the moment I had the feeling of going back to school. I reviewed my math and English and came to ITT to take the entrance exam which I felt very happy when I passed....
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...We had our first daughter in Germany and a year later, his European tour was completed and we relocated to the United States. We then had our second daughter in Texas and soon after, I began to realize our marriage was less than ideal. As the years went by and our marriage became more tense, I formed a stronger bond with my two daughters. Although I was no longer emotionally involved in our marriage, it was my daughters that gave me the courage to continue, despite the difficulties I was facing daily. After 13 years of marriage and a lot of contemplating, I finally decided that I wanted to give my daughters a better environment to be raised. Initially the transition was difficult, but we formed an emotional support system. It became my purpose to provide for my daughters and teach them that life is not easy, but you can overcome challenges by working hard and never giving up. I have been able to provide for my daughters a comfortable living working three different jobs, but I realized, I don’t want this for them. I don’t want them working...
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...Ann, is struggling for inner satisfaction and happiness in her marriage. Her name is used only once in the literary work illustrating that she has very little individuality; she feels she is simply an extension of her husband, John. Her motivation is caused by her selfish attitude and propensity to focus on John's flaws; this derives from her desire for John to change. As a farmer's wife she feels an increasing isolation, especially during winter months with "the silence weighing upon her" (Ross 139) and "the clock [that] tick[s] on like a glib little idiot" (166). Ann's perception of John and her isolation motivates her decision to sleep with Steven. In the story “A Temporary Matter” we see a couple that has lost the spark in their relationship after Shoba gave birth to a still borne, ultimately leading to her ending the relationship with Shukumar. Both of these stories show how any relationship, if not kept healthy, honest, and maintained can lead to a lack of trust or in severe cases, a breakup. Both Shukumar and Waythorn experience a sense of isolation in their marriages, yet Shukumar is the character who has to endure more by the ending of the story, due to a broken heart, the dependence on his wife and the time he invested in their relationship. 1) What does the darkness symbolize for Shoba and Shukumar and how does it affect their relationship? For Shoba and Shukumar, the darkness represents an opportunity for them to reconnect and avoid the troubles and grief of the day...
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...After just two years of marriage, film star Halle Berry is getting divorced for the third in her life. She and her current husband Olivier Martinez have an infant son together. also has an elementary school aged daughter from a previous relationship. They say they still love each other and the divorce is supposedly amicable, in spite of some sources describing the marriage as having always like a roller coaster ride. Remember these 3 Lessons Learned From Halle Berry's Divorce: 1. Geography matters. Where you live can be a deal breaker Because of her acting career, Halle makes her home in Los , California. Her husband Olivier was born and raised in France. He was never entirely comfortable in L.A. Given their claim that they love each other and the divorce is amicable, something had to be a deal breaker. Perhaps this was one of the deal breakers. Making a marriage work is hard enough in this day and age, you do not need to add stressors of this sort to it. There is more to life than your home life. If you aren't both happy to be in the same place, you may not be able to work it out....
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...the mortgage yourself if you are not already doing so. Make it documented that you have a claim to the property. (could be wrong on that last part, discuss that with your attorney, but by doing so you may get better positioning on rights to the house.) Things to get done immediately: Create a “Paper Trail”, get everything documented and in writing * Collect all Personal Data * Full addresses, phone numbers, and Social Security numbers of both parties. * Full names, birth dates, Social Security numbers, and addresses of all children of the marriage, and their schools and grades. * A copy of any domestic contracts (e.g., the date and county of the marriage, a prenuptial agreement etc.). * Information about any previous legal proceedings between the spouses or involving any of the children. * Dates and particulars about any previous separations, attempts at reconciliation, or marriage counseling. * Financial Data * Both Your previous year's income tax return and any related data from the IRS. (not just last years but several years of returns if possible) * Information about both your current income, (e.g., a current pay slip). * A list of substantial assets and liabilities of both spouses. * Copies of any applications for credit, such as mortgage applications which often contain a wealth of helpful information. * Get the terms and rates...
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