Shame, Guilt, and low Self esteem: LGBT
Despite many countries in the world giving rights to the LGBT community, there is a tendency among the people in general to alienate them. The LGBT community transgender face huge problems from the society and the societal norms. There are many issues that their families also have to face because of their choices in life. Alongside, the people who fall under any of the LGBT category have shame, guilt and self esteem issues that are detrimental to psychological development of any individual.
Parental issues According to Savin-Williams and Dube (1998), Research has brought forth many facts about the parental reaction to the same sex tendencies of their child. Parents usually behave in less than the ideal fashion one will expect from them. Their reaction goes through a series before they finally reach the child. Anger is one of the first things that the parents exhibit when they come to know of the sexual tendencies of their child. They exhibit anger and their anger is targeted more at the outside perpetrator who had spoiled their child rather than on the decision that his or her own child had taken. This helps the parents to reduce their sense of guilt and shame and blame this occurrence on some outside force. When this does not make much effect, the parents resort to bargaining. This is usually the second stage of the process. They bargain with their child not to tell anyone about his or her sexual tendency for fear of society. Many parents go into depression thinking that their child has such sexual tendencies. They are so shock that they have a child with such tendencies. They often feel alienated from their child due to these sexual tendencies. This leads them to negate their child has any homosexual tendencies. These beliefs can lead to further depressions, which many people could not understand initially.

Individual issues One of the biggest problems that the people of the LGBT community face is the feeling of shame, guilt, and low self esteem. This happens due to the effect of the stereotypes established in society. This leads to the lowering of their self esteem and an increase in the feelings of shamefulness in their minds. Greene and Britton (2013) mentioned that "Evidence of a negative relationship between shame proneness and self-esteem is available in the general population" (p. 196). This is not a healthy situation. According to Mays and Cochran (2001) the religious minded parents will ask the child to keep quiet on this issue and ask the child to lead an obedient life on his or her terms. This creates a sense of guilt within the child, and he or she thinks the personal belief is wrong not only from the parameters of religion but also from the perception of the society too. The element of guilt on being different from the others also creeps in their mind. These factors combine in an extreme way to lower the self esteem and make the person feel wretched about his sexual tendencies. The issue of shame, according to Oswalt & Wyatt (2011), fundamentally arises from the behavior of the parents. They disapprove their child’s move and continuously feed negative impulses into the child. When the child does not listen, there are chances of getting thrown out of the house by the parents. There are even parents who take their child to a religious organization to cure him or her of the choice of sexuality. They consider the sexual choices as a disease and hence this conversation with the religious man. These types of intervention may not have the desired result as they want, and this leads to depression among the parents and the child alike. Thus, the issue that started with shame ultimately translates into an issue of medical depression. There some individuals more prone to shame than the others. For them it becomes very difficult to handle the pressures of society on their different sexual tendencies. They form a sense of guilt and shamefulness in their conscious mind. This leads them to developing negative thoughts about themselves in the process also. This is highly drastic for the psychological wellbeing of the individual. According to Greene and Britton (2013), the feeling of Shame "can have a significant impact on LGBTQ self-esteem" (p. 195). If the individual has more coping capabilities, he will be coping with this issue by highlighting his worth in his conscious mind. This will help in the increasing of his self esteem. However, Yelsma, Brown & Elison (2002) mentioned, if the individual does not have good coping capabilities he will be self-critical and lead to the increasing of the negative feelings in the minds of the individuals. There is also a tendency among the people with such sexual tendencies to blame themselves. This causes them to lower their self esteem not only in their eyes but also in the eyes of the others. Their behaving differently or talking differently causes such an issue in their own minds that they are cannot behave properly in front of the others.
The LGBT community suffers from turmoil in their mind, and this leads them to become alienated from the others in the society. However, Brown & Trevethan (2010) mentioned that acceptance is the final stage in the life of the parents where they accept the sexuality of their child. This has been happening in recent times due to the efforts of the media, support groups, and educational materials. This has been effective in the bridging of the differences between the child and the parents on the issue of his or sexuality. However, due to the societal influences the parents cannot fully enjoy been the parent of a child with different sexual tendencies and the issues of shame, guilt, and low self-esteem becomes a part of the LGBT psyche.

References
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