...Shame Is Worth a Try The argumentative Shame Is Worth a Try written by Dan M. Kahan is his point of view about shaming the public rather than sending useless harmful persons to jail. This article explains to readers about different shaming punishments and the way you perform these punishments. Also, Kahan discusses the courts choices and the way they see punishment by shaming. Kahan does a good job explaining and arguing the reasons behind why shaming is both good and bad. He explains the point of views from both liberal and conservative reformers. None the less the tone he uses, the diction he presents, and the example choices keep us wanting to know more. Kahan argues in favor of the use of shame as a punishment that is, “an effective, cheap, and humane alternative to imprisonment.” He tells us to think about the times when we were punished as children, and who punished us: teachers, parents or other authority figures. What kinds of bad behavior were we punished for? What type of punishment worked best to deter you from changing your ways? You may not remember everything from an incident but do you recall being ashamed and bashed in front of other people? The tone he chooses to get the point across is both sarcastic/funny and meaningful. He oddly adds phrases here and there to further the argument by using a stern tone to explain his seriousness. His quotes, that include different shaming requirements by law, help us better understand the circumstances in which shaming...
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...How Shame Impacts Women and Their Self-Concept. Lindsey M. Watts Norfolk State University Introduction Women have historically had to fight for their rights. When we consider issues like voting, being able to own and inherit property, and work in a variety of jobs, women have struggled to have equal rights. Our society has grown significantly in the acceptance of women in most roles previously considered to be masculine. While equal pay is still an issue it is still better than it used to be. As women have moved into the arena of working outside of the home new issues have emerged. Historically, women have provided the majority of the nurturing and guidance that their families and children needed to thrive. Their self-concept was wrapped up in their success as a mother and a wife. In today’s society women face many new challenges. How to balance working outside of the home with their responsibilities as a mother and a wife has become the focus. This has created new social and community expectations for women. For many women, these new expectations create a tremendous amount of stress and trigger feelings of shame when they are not successful at juggling all the responsibilities. Etiology of Shame We all experience shame. It is a universal emotion. Brown (2007) recognized after interviewing many women, that the first step to understanding shame was to define it in terms we can all understand. “Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing...
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...The Holy Trinity; Fear, Shame, and Courage The Things They Carried Essay Fear; the controller. Shame; the feeling of guilt. Courage; the sound of a lion's roar. All feelings align together like a perfect puzzle piece. Tim O'Brien in The Things They Carried does an impeccable job conveying the cause and effect relationship between fear and courage, shame and courage, and fear and shame. In The Things They Carried Tim O'Brien continuously shows the reader how fear drives courage and sometimes leads to an unthinkable, but act in a courageous manner. The chapter Enemies portrays how if one feels enough shame, this shame will lead to a courageous act. “Because late that same night he borrowed a pistol, gripped it by the barrel, and used it...
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...Chapter 1: Dishonoring the Dead[edit] In the first chapter of this text, Kozol examines the current state of segregation within the urban school system. He begins with a discussion on the irony stated in the above quote: schools named after leaders of the integration struggle are some of the most segregated schools, such as the Thurgood Marshall Elementary School in Seattle, Washington (95% minority) or a school named after Rosa Parks in San Diego, California (8000% minority). Kozol notes that most of the students within these schools are unfamiliar with the actions of the minority leaders their schools are named after. Kozol goes on to point out the lack of segregation within the urban communities that surround these schools, specifically mentioning the residential segregation in New York City, which matches levels from the 1960s. Introduction and Chapter 1 Summary The introduction talks about how Jonathan Kozol began teaching and he introduces the book. Kozol lets the reader know what to expect when reading the book. Chapter one is about how schools named after someone in history like Martin Luther King Jr. or Thurgood Marshall are not integrated, they are still segregated. Kozol also mentions how Dr. King said, "as long as the Negros basic mobility is from a smaller ghetto to a larger one," (33), but right now minorities are moving from larger ghettos to smaller ones. They are trying to get out and move into the suburbs, but when they move out they end up in the...
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...Shame reflects a decrease in stature while pride is the emotion reflecting an increase in stature. .... Denial: Denial, excuses, self pity, and blame only prolong the agony. Why are you ... Emotional Competency Explore the Logic of Passion Home Importance Recognizing Concepts Search Blog Resources References Shame We feel badly about ourselves We feel shame when we think of poorly of ourselves. It is our sense of our own incompetence or powerlessness. Shame is the emotion that encourages us to do our best. When we are ashamed we may feel vulnerable and even helpless. Shame reflects a decrease in stature while pride is the emotion reflecting an increase in stature. Definitions ShameFeeling badly about yourself. Dissatisfaction from your assessment of a decrease in stature Disapproving of your own actions or accomplishments. Failure to meet my own standard of behavior. Absence or deficiency of self-love. [Gil] Feeling inferior. Believing you are a bad person. Loss of honor. Blaming yourself for making a mistake. Knowing you did wrong when it was possible to do right. Not meeting your responsibility to yourself. Root: from Indo-European: skem-, from *kem- “to cover, to veil, to hide” Shame is closely related to, but distinct from guilt. While shame is a failure to meet your own standards of behavior, guilt is a failure to meet other's standards of behavior. Shame tell us “you have not done your best” guilt tell us “you have harmed another, you...
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...Assignment 3: Book Review What led you to choose this particular book from the list? The two books I have chosen from the list provided are Boundaries written by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend and the book titled Shame and Grace written by Lewis B Smedes. I had previously read the Boundaries book in 1997 when I was 27 years old. The book was recommended to me by a valued friend. I found the book to be both challenging and helpful to my personal growth and realized that it was a great tool that I could use, finding it to be practical to my needs. I learned to use these new tools that were discussed in the book in my life; through the use of modelling healthy boundaries to my son, as well as with friends and other relationships. So I thought re-reading this book would help me to identify areas that could be improved upon. I am aware that I am sometimes inconsistent in maintaining my boundaries with particular people. The topic of boundaries has always been a topic of particular fascination as they are so important in developing and maintain healthy relationships. I really struggled choosing my second book; I looked at many on the list and even started to read a few. I then decided the book titled Shame and Grace, written by Lewis B Smedes was easier and quicker to read. As my due date on my assignment was soon, a choice needed to be made, so I knew that I would be cutting it too close, if I kept on procrastinating. Which sections of the books material were particularly...
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...solely in Spanish. If I don’t understand a critical word, or a series of words, from his sentences I often become lost and tune out. When I am asked to answer a question or share my opinion I often become anxiety ridden and blank on whatever it is I would normally say. I think that I can attribute this partially to my high level of affect felt in class. I feel the need to perform well, and when I cannot do this I become nervous and/or frustrated. What I found surprising and heart breaking all at the same time was the level of shame that some of the authors speak of. As a child, or even adult, who moves into a new country and is expected to speak the native language, I think the hardest thing to deal with would be acceptance. When you don’t receive this acceptance you start to feel doubtful of yourself and are often encompassed by shame. Maxine Hong Kingston, author of From the Woman Warrior, explains this feeling quite well. “’A dumbness—a shame—still cracks my voice in two, even when I want to say “hello” casually, or ask an easy question in front of the check-out counter, or ask...
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...Shame. By: Sylvia Morgado Body-shame, everyone is talking about it, but do you know all the information about it. How it can affect, not only the mind but your body as well. Fat-shaming in today's society is enough to make anyone sick. Jean M.Lamont found a link between poor self-image and diminished physical health. Body shaming is;" unlike embarrassment, which represents a lighthearted response to the evaluation of social norms that others may find amusing, body shame involves a sense of social inferiority, and self-reproaol." So in other words it can in fact make you sick. It can affect you not only physically but also mentally. When people are constantly being told that they are fat, gross or too skinny, they will start to get depressed. Being told by multiple sources that people are "too fat", "too skinny", "you need to lose weight","she probably starves herself", are just the top of the iceberg when it comes to body-shaming. The problem with body-shaming, is that people do not recognize it as an "actual" problem. More the 24 million people of all ages stuffer. Not just woman but men too in terms of eating disorders. 95% of those suffering from an eating disorder are between the ages of 12-24. There are images all telling us to "loss weight" or "gain weight". Barbie, for example blond, skinny, what society "thinks" woman should look like. What is this saying to the younger girls, that you have to look a certain way to be beautiful? However, Barbies are not all...
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...sacrifices in order to advance myself spiritually and socially. Every Sunday I go to church alone; I can’t bare the thought of bringing our corrupt family with me. Of course I pray that our family members would be baptized, but I have to worry about saving my own soul. For this reason, I sacrificed for my sister, Laura, and raised her son, Tayo. During Laura’s lifetime, I was responsible for fixing her mistakes as I had always been more virtuous and spiritual than her. When we were young, Laura’s drunkenness and lust concerned our people and they feared they were losing not only her, but also themselves. I had to take on the burden of saving Laura for our people. I fought for her to come back to us but it was useless because she had too much shame. When our people failed to save Laura, everyone was humiliated. In turn, “they focused the anger on [Laura] and [my] family, knowing from many years of this conflict that the anger could not be contained by a single person or family but that it must...
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...One great piece of evidence is “This is my daughter Wave-ly Jong,” she said to whoever looked her way. One day after we left a shop I said under my breath, “I wish you wouldn’t do that, telling everyone I’m your daughter.” (pg 122) Waverly’s mother is ‘showing her off’ to everyone who looks their way. Waverly notices this and blurts that out without taking the paths it might lead her into consideration. This makes her mother very, very upset. Another great piece of evidence is “So shame be with mother?” She grasped my hand even tighter as she glared at me. I looked down, “It’s not that. It’s just so embarrassing.” “Embarrass you be my daughter?” Her voice was cracking with anger. (pg 122) I chose this because Waverly’s mother is getting very upset. She is hurting her feelings and it’s obvious. She spat out something quite nasty without thinking, and her mother took it to heart. “Embarrass you be my daughter” Shows that she took it quite seriously and is angry at Mei-Mei for offending...
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...characteristics by “doxxers” may in return create an opportunity to help catch these criminals and offering a safer place for people to live, which is shown through many examples to support his thoughts. After defining “doxxers” characteristics, Stryker reveals the problem at hand: the practice that has been popularized — by anonymous trolls and “hacktivists” — collectively terrorizing teenage girls and disabled government websites (Stryker 587). Stryker explains how the First Amendment protects all kind of speech and because of that people have found a new way to speak out without getting in trouble for it, social media. Stryker uses a quote to show how hard it is to catch someone over social media stating, “It’s difficult to encourage shame if they can easily disappear into other crowds or escape to the next town” (Stryker 588). This quote gives the author more evidences and strengthens his thoughts and deepens his ideas by giving reasons in why he is against the topic. Stryker...
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...Comparison Essay- Barbara’s letter In the extract from ‘In Cold Blood’, Capote uses metaphors to express the views of Barbara, writing to her brother Perry from San Francisco. She highlights her disappointment surrounding the events but says she’s willing to forgive him. “It’s no shame to have a dirty face, the shame comes when you keep it dirty” the adjective ‘dirty’ is used as a metaphor representing the sins and actions of Perry. She pointed out that she wasn’t too pleased with Perry’s actions, which had eventually ended him in prison. She was also aware that her criticism to him was going to result in resentment and actually thought of what could possibly happen “Not to hear from you at all or a letter telling me exactly what you think of me.” Barbara loved Perry dearly but was angry at him at the same time, and that was the driving force of this passionate letter. Again she wanted Perry to know about her feelings towards him and also to see things from someone’s point of view. She often admitted her faults and weaknesses as human and in the same way she urged Perry that he should take full responsibility of his actions and shouldn’t blame his dad for any wrong doing. “i truthfully believe none of us can take the blame” the adjective ‘truthfully’ reminds us that Barbara is showing her feelings towards what has happened and is speaking very openly with Perry, giving him an acknowledgement of her thoughts and feelings. Perry’s inabilities to show signs of sincere regret...
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...Public shaming has become a popular thing with the introduction of Modern Internet, it allows people to partake in it and share an incident without compromising their identity and anonymity is a big factor in modern internet. Monica Lewinsky gave a TED talk suggesting that the internet has created a culture of public shaming, it is true as the world have taken racism and other issues more seriously, often a simple Tweet on Twitter or a short comment posted on Facebook, could lead to devastating outcomes to their lives in terms of career and life. An important issue to note, why is public shaming still a thing and on the rise in this modern society? One reason is because of the rise of activist groups around the world, where they would bring awareness to serious issues happening and high profile celebrities backing them up by giving speeches in widely televised shows. This raises the awareness and a whole new level of exposure to issues that are serious such as endangered species or inhumane yet legal practices around the world especially in the rural regions such as slavery. Celebrities with many fans plays a huge impact in the rise of social awareness. Another reason is that because of the relative anonymity the cyberspace provides, shaming people on social media have become more common as it has allowed more people to find out about something stupid or offensive somebody has posted and for it to become viral in the world, Online, behind the screen, individuals can join with...
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...How does the author explore the Effects of the Murder in “The House Behind”? In the short story “The House Behind” recounting a murder that took place between two houses, the author uses the motif of the trashcan, the distinct shift in residences’ behavior and smell imagery to explore its effect. Through detailing the increased anxiety between the pair of houses that differ socially and economically and residents’ deteriorating spirits, the author emphasizes the consequences an event can have on those involved. The motif of the trashcan is symbolically used in “The House Behind” to express the growing unease between the house in front and the house behind after the murder. The narrator, a resident of the house behind, states: “Tenants in the front house are high civil servants, while the house behind is filled with shopkeepers, salesmen, retired post-office employees…” (1). The narrator then continues: “the trashcans were always a source of embarrassment” (1). Upon the murder, “the atmosphere has sharpened: the tenants from the house in front are afraid to empty their trash” (1). Clearly, the house in front and the house behind had always— even prior to the murder— been distinguished by their contrasting social and economic states. Though residents in the back house “can’t really blame the people in the front house for their wealth”, the well-established disparities triggered the “ill will that has always existed between the two houses” (1). Thus situated in the courtyard—...
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...Discuss the role guilt and shame play in the lives of the soldiers depicted by O’Brien. Cite specific (and numerous) instances that show the results of these characteristics. In Tim Obrien’s “The Things They Carried” several behaviors function as devices designed to avoid shame and/or guilt. Characters continually find themselves in situations where their performance is a response designed to minimize the obtaining of these emotions or the pain felt by them once obtained. Therefore, action is frequently inspired by the emotional burdens that guilt or shame present. Once category of behaviors inspired by guilt and shame in The Things They Carried includes adherence to societal expectations. Prior to witnessing war first-hand the author nearly decided to escape the draft because of negative emotions toward it. He experiences conflict within himself on this point though because the choice in avoiding the draft counter the expectations of his home community and family. As he reflected he stated, “What it came down to, stupidly, was a sense of shame. Hot, stupid shame. I did not want people to think badly of me.” (pg 49 On the Rainy River) (sigfig is this contributes...
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