...now, nobody knew what happens to them. Few month back then, the mainstream media reported and follows the Tweet of Maira Nari, 17 years old daughter of Andrew Nari, one of the crew for that unlucky flight. “Come home fast dad, it’s the only thing I want” “Daddy, Liverpool is winning the game. Come home, so you can watch the game! You never miss watching the game. It’s your very first time” Judging from all those tweets, we can see that her daughter’s strength, emotion and loves to him, as a credits and the results him being a good and example parent, where his lost felt deep by his daughter. This is what my speech will elaborates about, what does it takes to be a good parents. Yes, you can find hundreds of websites, thousands of books, and no shortage of magazines about parenting, but if you ask few people about the most important parenting quality, you will likely end up with just as many answers. Some would say love, attention, money, wealth, food. Some would say spending quality time with them while others would say discipline. But what is it actually? Which and how these factors would make parents, good? The truth is, it is hard to say because a parent is not intrinsically bad or good; they are just a parent who makes good or bad choices. Parenting actually is an ongoing process that has some trial and error, and requires you to accept and learn from your limitations. It is exactly like baking a cake. You put everything that you thought would make your cake tasty,...
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...Defining a Parent Growing up in a single-parent home for all of my life, I’ve learned a lot about parenting. Being a parent is a role that is often underestimated. Parents seldom realize the impact that they have on their kids, and how they can impact the kids’ lives for the better or worse. The world we live in today defines a parent by the house they live in and the car they drive. Being a good parent these days is based off of qualities that are unimportant and unrelated to actually being a good parent. Contrary to popular belief, this is not the way it should be done. Regardless of money and power, a parent is defined by their love, their ability to forgive, and their supportiveness. Parents love for their kids can make a huge difference in their lives. If this love is only temporary, or when their kids do something right or well, that can emotionally hurt the kids worse than many may realize. Conditional love will act as the root of all evil in a relationship between a parent and their kid. It shows the kid that they will be loved based off of what they do and how well they do it, not because of who they are. Unconditional love however, can make all the difference in a relationship. Kids who are loved unconditionally learn that they also should love unconditionally, and that it is the greatest kind of love. They learn that they are loved because of who they are and not what they’ve done. As Margaret Paul explained, “Our children become a mirror of our own behavior, discounting...
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...sense of confidence from Chua as she repeatedly contrasts Western-parenting ideals from Chinese-parenting ideals. As far as her credibility as an author, it is questionable. She writes, “ Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything. The reason for this is a little unclear…” Her credibility begins to slip when she uses the word “unclear”. This statement suggests that she does not even know herself why she is parenting the way she is parenting. It also presents a perfect opportunity for opposing people to make an argument against Chua’s style of parenting. Another instance where Chua’s credibility becomes uncertain is when she writes of mimicking her husband when he intervenes in a dispute between her and their daughter. It shows that she is unwilling to listen to the other side of her argument and has this my-way-or-the-highway complex—which is not necessarily an attractive outlook to have. It seems that an author who is open to looking at both sides of an argument is a more respectable author. Chua’s use of pathos is particularly insensitive. She uses it more to take a jab at Western culture rather than to make an appeal on either side. Several times Chua makes up these hypothetical scenarios and discusses what Western parents would do and then what Chinese parents would do. Her idea of how...
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...What makes good parents The bond between parents and children is one of love and affection; yet we come across people who hate their parents and also people who feel that their parents have let them down. Why it this the case ? Are these people unnatural or are they justified ? Perhaps in some cases they are justified. Most men and women get married and have children but not all of them are worthy of being parents. Parenthood, like other responsibilities, needs devotion, dedication and a lot of preparation. Prospective parents must recognize their responsibilities and realize what parenthood involves. The first essential of good parenthood is the acceptance of the role. A man who marries when he is young may resent his first child for it would be a rival for the affection of the lady of the house. Similarly. a woman may resent her first child because it suddenly puts her in a different class of women. Couples who become parents can no longer call their time their own. Often the newcomer may necessitate changes in the household routine, giving up of a job on the part of the mother and various other sacrifices. The world of affection which should surround a child should precede its birth. It is here that good parenthood begins. Fondness, however, is at no stage a synonym of pampering and spoiling children. Parents have the responsibility of cultivating those qualities in their children which may help them to face life, make them brave and likeable human beings, impart...
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...explains different concepts about what makes an adult, not what is consider an adult by law. Feinberg talks about parents patriae which is the parents power to look over their children’s own good. Parents decided for their children because children do not have the capacity to do it for themselves. Its protecting children’s right, if parents torture, beat, mutilate children, or who refuse to permit children to be educated parents patriae will intervene for the child’s well being. Feinberg talks about self-determination and self-fulfillment, which are the concepts of how children become adults and the responsibilities that come as an adult and its decisions. Self-determination has two concepts which are the capacity and sovereign authority. Self-fulfillment is when the individual fulfills his/her own good. Feinberg defines an adult based on their capacities and knowledge to know what is the best for them, not their age. Depending on their abilities is how people get treated. It would be an adult legally but acts like a...
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...Parents need to look at the similarities and differences before deciding whether home schooling or private schooling is better for their children. When you went to school there was a good chance you were going to go to a public school or private school. Back then the choices where very simple. Not anymore, today schooling is an interesting topic for our nation. There are many questions asked what the times they will be in school is, do they have to wear uniforms, what kind of extra circulators do they have, and how much does it cost. Every parent wants to make the best decision and now that home schooling is an optionand more and more are switching their kids. The behaviors, health, and attitude are better. What more could a parent ask for that is what every parent wants and only the parent acan make thst happen. Know that there is a choice to home school your child it is more ongoing in this country because of the better outcomes with the children. Home schooling has a lot of different benefits not having to worry about time, and it has been said that it makes kids smarter. When your child goes to a school you have to make sure to get them on the bus, then off the bus especially with smaller children. It takes a lot of time and you have to have a plan for what is going to happen every day your child attends school. In most schools there are so many kids it is hard for children to get that individual time, well not for home schooled children they can get all the one on one time...
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...relationships between the parents and their children, Greg, Dennis and Sharlene, are all different. The parents have extremely high academic expectations for their children, and every child reacts differently to them. Greg, chose to rebel against his parents rules,...
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...can do to make a difference. Young couples, or families just getting started, should know that adoption is a positive option for starting a family. Adopting a child can change a family’s life. By adopting, families are helping children feel loved and safe. Adoption can be a struggle, useful for homosexual couples, good to get children out of inadequate countries, and a way to give a child what the birth parents could not. Adopting a child, or more, is both a struggle and exciting. Spending hours upon hours making phone calls and filling out paper work all to make a new addition to your family. The adoption process is where an individual or couple achieves the legal status of being the parent of a child that is not their own (Butler and Kirkby 3). The individual/couple must work with a child’s social worker to be able to adopt that child. Almost everyone is eligible for adoption, although different agencies may hold different requirements. It does not matter whether they are married or single, their age, their income, or their...
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...wholesome manner. It does not allow a hierarchy of priests or intermediaries between Allah and human beings, no farfetched abstractions and no complicated rites and rituals. Everybody can readily understand the Quran and follow in the footsteps of the Prophet (may Allah exalt his mention), to the best of his or her ability, assured by Allah that He will accept the deeds that each soul has the ability to offer (what means): "On no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it can bear." [Quran 2:286] When we read the Quran or the Prophetic traditions, we find instructions regarding all aspects of life: political, social, economic, material, ethical, national and international. These instructions provide us with all the details needed to perform a certain act. The Prophetic traditions go as far as showing us all the steps we need to follow, even the etiquette of using the bathroom: supplications to be said upon entering it and leaving it, how to clean ourselves properly and so on. To summarize, Islam governs a Muslim's life in all its aspects. This is the reason why it is not only a religion but also a way of life. Islam does not recognize any kind of separation between religion and life. It openly rejects the Western saying: "Render unto Caesar what is Caesar's, and unto God what is God's"; for everything should be dedicated to God alone and a Muslim is required to submit himself completely to the Will of Allah in all his affairs (what means): "Say: ‘Truly...
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...You are the parent of a 16-year-old boy. You come home and find the door ajar. Inside, you discover your son’s friend looking in a kitchen drawer. He says he is trying to leave your son a note. On the counter next to him is a lock pick and some of your jewelry. The boy smells of marijuana. You tell the boy to leave immediately and he does. Do you call the police, call the boy’s parents, tell your son, or do something else? Write a 1,400- to 2,100-word paper, explaining your response. Format your paper consistent withAPA guidelines. I am the parent of a boy who is 16 years old. One day I came home to find that his friend was inside our home when no one was home. The door was ajar and I walked inside to find a friend of my son going through a drawer in our kitchen. He told me that he was simply trying to leave a note for my son, but on the counter beside him lays a lock pick and some of my jewelry. My son’s friend has the scent of marijuana all over him and when I tell him that it would be best if he leaves my home he does so without incident. This scenario requires very serious consideration. This is a child who is a friend of my son. In order to determine the best course of action many things need to be taken into consideration. The decision that I make could have drastic implications for this child’s life and could alter the course of his future forever. Should I call the police? Do I tell the child’s parents? Should I tell my son? What other options should...
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...offspring of these parents will look like this one? Why or why not? A: All the offspring of the parents would make the baby dragon look like its mother, as you can see. the baby dragon has no traits from the father whatsoever, other than two legs, but the baby dragon is identical to the mother....
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...is unsurprising that the evil in the world is inscrutable to us. To illustrate, he utilizes the good parent analogy. We view the relationship between God, a perfectly loving being, and humans as analogous to that of good parents and their children. Loving parents permit the administering of a painful injection for vaccinations to their young child. The child cannot comprehend this suffering, but this does not allow the claim that the medicine (evil) is pointless, nor does it undermine the love of the parents (God). Criticism of Wykstra Wykstra’s response is deemed inadequate as some argue: A) God should comfort humans, just as you would expect loving parents to comfort their child. B) A perfectly good being would reveal his reasons to you for allowing this suffering, just as a parent would to their child. In response to A, we ask the question: Why does a parent comfort their baby? Not because the baby will understand, but partially because they are helpless to do anything else. These acts can be seen as more a form of ‘self comfort’ for a parent. Subsequently, self-comforting acts are not expected of a perfectly loving being. Next, the issue that a perfectly good being would feel obligated to inform you of his actions. It can start to sound very self-entitled when we put it in the manner of ‘That’s the least he could do, we would understand’. Will knowing the reasons make a significant difference in the suffering? Given the gap in cognitive abilities, humans may not be...
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...Why chinese mothers are superior I remember one thing from my upbringing that made a big impression on the person, I am today. One thing that my parents always kept reminding me about when I was a kid, was that I could loose in games and my opponents could win. My parents would in that way form my thoughts in a way, so that I definitely not would be a bad looser that would cry and get upset because of a lost game. Because to loose sometimes in life is something everyone will experience once in a while. Some people can not handle this scenario as good as other people. This is because of the differences in the upbringings from child to child/parent to parent. Upbringings are actually very different from culture to culture. The writer Amy Chua wrote an article in The Wall Street Journal, January 8th, 2011 with the title “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, in which she explains how her kids were raised and where she also in general writes about how different upbringings can be in opposite cultures. The sender of this article is the John M. Duff, Jr. Professor of Law at Yale Law School, Amy L. Chua (October 26, 1962). She joined the Yale faculty in 2001 after teaching at Duke Law School. Prior to starting her teaching career, she was a corporate law associate at Cleary, Gottlieb, Steen & Hamilton. She specializes in the study of international business transactions, law and development, ethnic conflict, and globalization and the law. As of January 2011, she is most noted for her...
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...for him to not die but that does not stop Johnny from dying then Dally states “‘oh damnit, Johnny, don’t die, please don’t die…” pg(149) Sense Dally cares so much about Johnny he is sad that he is dead. Dally does not cry often but when Johnny is dying Dally has a meltdown and hits the wall. When Johnny is already dead he leaves Ponyboy the book Gone With The Wind and he put a note inside the book. Ponyboy read the note and in the note Johnny writes about a sunset and then tells Dally to watch one “Tell Dally to look at one he’ll probably think you're crazy, but ask for me” (pg 178) Johnny wants Dally to realize that there is still some good in the world because Dally does not care...
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...body. Girls are slightly lighter and shorter than boys at ages 6-8, and then at age 9 it gets reversed. Around the middle childhood age the lower portion of the body is growing fastest, children appear to look long-legged. Girls end up having slightly more body fat and boys have more muscle. Between ages 6-8 the child should be able to do independent things like dress themselves, and tie their shoes. Children also start to develop more independence from their parents. It becomes important for a child to have friends and a social life. They pay more attention to friendships and teamwork. They feel that it is important to be liked and accepted by friends. There is also late middle childhood, which is from ages 9-12. Children at this age become more into have friendships and independence, but there is also a lot of peer pressure at this age. If children are confident with themselves they will be less likely to be bullied. But by now the child will start eating more and can start to become obese. Parents need to make sure that what their child is eating is healthy. The more obese the child gets the less active they get, and they will be picked on for being overweight. They will start to hit puberty by now, especially for girls. They will start to develop breast, and have to start wearing a training bra. Everyone will hit puberty at different times, and if a lot of the girls have hit puberty and some haven’t they could be made fun of. For the boys, they will start to get a deeper voice...
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