...discuss things and compromise without feeling that they are being taking advantage of, or their opinion is not even considered. By not being able to have a reasonable solution between both parties in a marriage this sets up for problems in the future. The problems will most likely lead to a couple feeling there is nowhere to go in the marriage, and find that they are unhappy. There are also many reasons that a couple fill a divorce is needed. Divorce offers both people in the relationship a better since of happiness, a stable life for themselves and the family, and divorce allows a person to regain their identity. The option of filing for a divorce is a tough and very difficult decision that is brought onto a couple when faced with a family problem. Once the idea of divorce is considered or brought up, either by one of the people or both people in the marriage feel that the relationship cannot be repaired or worked on. In a marriage both people want to have a sense of self worth and also for both people to be happy. By filing for divorce the couple may improve their overall happiness. A problem has occurred somewhere along the lines between the married couple and they are unable to come up with a solution that would make both people in the relationship feel happy. Being happy is one of the main reasons that a couple decides to get...
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...After being married for five years and divorcing I believe that I have a clear understanding of what makes a happy marriage. In my opinion a happy marriage begins with the persons seeking marriage finding their true identity. I believe that when you know who you are that you will make clear and concise decisions. Some people marry when they do not know who they are in life or what they want out of life which results in an unhappy marriage. I also believe that being equally yoked is very pertinent to having a happy successful marriage because how can a married couple be one or in union with one another when they have different beliefs towards very important matters. I also believe that good lines of communication will create a happy marital atmosphere considering when you communicate you remain on the same sheet of music. The last thing that I will include is finances because when you are stable you are able to remove some unneeded stress that many people face due to the lack of funds. There are also many fundamental differences that separate unhappy and happy married couples such as happy married couples are deep rooted in their marriage when problems and situations arise they work hard and fight to keep everything together. However when unhappy married couples face trials and tribulations throughout their marriages they are ready to throw in the towel and yell I want a divorce because they do not feel that they have anything to...
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...Monitor on Psychology journal, Daniel Gilbert began his speech about marriage (2010.) While growing up, Gilbert’s mother had told him to aim for three things in life, “finding someone nice and getting married; building a fulfilling, well-paid career; and above all having children” (Munsey 2010.) Before I read this article, I used to think that getting married made things better. You would be closer to one another, trust more in one another, and build a better relationship with one another. I have been with my partner for almost four years, and even though marriage is one thing on our list, we haven’t felt that it has been something we have to do right away. I have a four and a half year old daughter from a previous relationship. Since my partner and I have been together, it seems that the more time and time goes on, the more the four of us grow together as a family. There are some things about this article that I completely agree with and some that I will definitely disagree with as well. As twenty-three women who has lived with the same man for almost four years, and have risen a little girl together seems fair enough that I can consider myself basically married. There is no paper that states that, but I believe that our history and current state very well proves that. There are three main topics that this Harvard professor discusses and that is bottom line, being married and happy, money and finances, and marriage and kids. In my personal opinion I believe that I can give my opinion...
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...Gay Marriage Gay marriage, moral, immoral, equal rights, unconstitutional just some of the words that are spoken when this topic is brought about. This topic is a touchy one to say the least. When talking about same sex marriage or union it can be argued in many different lights. Some argue the morality, some argue about equality, some argue just about using the term “marriage” to refer to it. My point of view on this topic is solely on how I feel about it as an individual not to be considered right or wrong but just to get an understanding of how I feel about the subject. Two individuals committing to one another for life to me shouldn’t matter on gender. I look at us all as human beings and truly believe the meaning of life is the pursuit of happiness and love. So to deny two individuals that, weather they are same sex or different races, religions, whatever to me seems wrong. My first opinion of this subject will be referring to the equal rights as Americans. I feel that same sex marriages should be allowed and they should be given all the rights as traditional marriages. Why should we discriminated against who someone chooses to be with? We as a country grow and progress, we’ve changed over time to give women rights, African Americans same rights because they are just people like everyone else. They are part of this country what makes this country what it is, so I believe everyone should be given the same rights. No matter how people feel about it. If we went by how everyone...
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...Juliet is set during the Elizabethan period, where society favoured men over women and the women had to obey the men. Fathers were the ones who decided who there daughters would marry and they cant refuse the marriage because if they did they would bring shame upon the family and most likely disowned by them and if this happened they would have nowhere to go as women didn’t really have jobs apart from housework and looking after the children. I think that this society is bad because it is biased towards men and doesn’t give the women a choice for what they want to do in there own life. In Act 1 Scene 2, we learn that Lord Capulet is a fair and just man ‘for men so old as we to keep the peace’ this shows us that he doesn’t want to make the fued between the Montagues anyworse and wants to stay away from all the violence and try to get on with his own life with his family. Paris asks Capulet if he can marry Juliet ‘ but now, my lord, what sat you to my suit’ but Capulet is cautious about allowing Paris to marry Juliet because he feels she is still too young ‘ my child is yet a stranger in the world; she hath not seen the change of fourteen years’ this shows that he is not ready to let his only child go into the world without him yet as she hasn’t had any experience of what its like for women and he wants to protect her from all the bad things in the world , like any father would want to. This is emphasised by the possessive pronoun ‘My’ which shows that he feels that she is his...
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...2015 Women that are to Sorrow In both stories A Secrets Woman and “A Sorrowful Woman” are about two woman centered on ideas of marriage and family. However, marriage and family are viewed and experienced in two different ways. Karen van der Zee shows a married life style with the perfect children and family in her dream; it’s what Faye, the protagonist of A secret Woman, wants for her happiness. While Godwin’s protagonist, marriage and family has already come true, and searching for a resolutions why she is suffocating of her home and eventually leads to her suicide. Both of the Protagonist in the stories have experienced a dramatic crises in their lives. In A S Secret Sorrow, Faye’s dramatic crisis comes before her marriage. She is discomposed because she can no longer have children, and she fears that her being unable to have children will prevent her from marrying the man she loves. Both Fays and her husband Kai always wanted marriage and children, and she assumes that it’s only under those conditions to be truly happy. Faye feels that she is incapable of having children now is a flaw. “Every time we see some pregnant woman, every time we’re with somebody else’s children I’ll feel I’ve failed you!” (36). Faye’s fears is not getting married to the man she loves and not having children. In “A Sorrowful Woman” The dramatic crisis comes after her marriage and family has already started. Unlike Faye, she would be blissful in this woman’s shoes, the protagonist of Godwin’s story is...
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...Should Live a Happy and Peaceful Life I was a young black woman, married with two wonderful kids; a boy and girl, I had a brand new car, I had a great paying job and was working on purchasing a new house. I had pretty much what many women wanted, but something just wasn’t right. I battled with myself for years. Then one night, when I was home alone lying down in my bed, thinking, I started crying like a little baby. I cried for almost an hour. I realized my life was a lie; I was unhappy and felt I was fighting a war I was losing. I was married to a man that didn’t love me. He only loved what I was able to provide for him. He cheated on me, physical and emotional abused me, when he was able too. I sat there and asked myself why I would stay in something that made me so miserable. I began to wonder what to do. It occurred to me, that I might have gotten myself too tightly wrapped up in this marriage and have lost myself. I remembered what my grandmother once told me “Stephanie, don’t let a man take away your happiness” In that moment, I realized that my marriage was over. Well, according to me it was. Now, all I had to do was break it to my husband. Of course, it was difficult. We were both hurting. I hated letting him down, but I could not live a lie. So, I mustered up the courage to end the marriage that appeared perfect to the outside world. I knew I had to change things so that same night when my husband came home, I told him, I wanted out of this marriage and informed him...
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...Breanna Westbrooks Ms. H Marriage & Family paper 24 February 14 Marriage and Family Once said by Winston Churchill, “There is no doubt that it is around the family and home that all the greatest virtues, the most dominating virtues of human society, are created, strengthened, and maintained.” Marriage is a socially recognized union between two people, which may pave the way to starting ones family. Usually, when one thinks of the definition of family, the picture of a mother, father, and children come to mind. Yet, as a society if we were asked what family means to us there would be different definitions for most people. With that being said, before you can begin a family usually two people decide to be together in a committed relationship. This leads to wanting to take things to the “next level” or making the decision of making another person their partner for the rest of their life, normally done so by the male party by proposing to his mate indicating the longing to be with this person forever. Given by dictionary.com, marriage is the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitment. Just like many other things in life, if you want something to last and work then you must be willing to put in the effort that is required to have pleasing results throughout the marriage. When deciding to marry someone, you then make the decision of making a commitment to your partner, but to yourself as well...
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...In Daedalus, the two excerpts “The Economics of Happiness” by Robert A. Easterlin and “How Not to buy Happiness” by Robert H. Frank, claim that money can play a significant role in happiness. Happiness is usually described as a way of living a good life and satisfied with yourself. However, the idea of happiness does change often; including the methods of becoming happy. When people think of money; they think of expensive gadgets and high paying jobs. Money is not always the answer to everything; it is only a factor of achieving happiness. Money is not the only way to achieve happiness. There are other ways to achieve happiness, these ways can be making a new friend, finally finishing a painting or checking off a goal on a bucket list....
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...life, we expect a marriage life to be happily ever after like the children’s stories, Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty, but it isn’t always the case. In reality, some marriage life does last forever but some doesn’t. As for mine, it only lasted for a couple years till I finally draw the line and said, “No more of this miserable life.” As time goes on, I have been living in a more stable and happy life compared to the married life I have before. How and why did I do it? Basically, I did it by re-socializing to adapt and cope to the married life I have now. What do I mean by re-socializing? It means that I must learn from my past experiences and make a dramatic change in the area concerning my behaviors, attitudes, expectations, and values to improve my new life. Before I get into my behavior change, I want to give a brief discussion on the topic why people get divorced. There are many reasons why people get divorced, but I will list a few of the important ones. First reason has to do with the break-down in communication and disclosure. This occurs with when both party starts to limit the communication between them. When one stopped talking to the other, it showed a lost of interest to be with the other one. If this goes on, both parties will eventually have negative thoughts such as, he or she is cheating, he or she don’t love me no more, or he or she is up to something no good. These kinds of negative thoughts aren’t good in a marriage life. Another reason...
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...Financial stability has always been regarded as the most important factor in ensuring a happy marriage. It is the pillar that holds a family together just like how pillars (the foundation) are imperative in preventing buildings from collapsing (good analogy). Without financial stability, marriages often end in divorce. A recent poll by the Jiayuan match-making website has shown that sixty percent of 1000 women are not in for ‘naked marriages’ this means that more women will only decide to tie the knot if their spouse owns a house. This just further proves (word choice - emphasizes) the importance of financial stability in marriages and that it plays a big role in ensuring happy marriages. So, what exactly is financial stability? In my opinion, being financially stable does not necessary mean that one needs to be rich and can afford a very extravagant lifestyle. Instead, it should simply be when one is debt-free, is able to afford and pay for the expenditure of their family and have the monetary means, savings, income to meet the needs for today and the future. (good definition of key terms) “Money can't buy you happiness.” (Dialogue) I believe most of us are very familiar with this quote and are now wondering, if money can’t buy us happiness, how or why does financial stability ensures a happy marriage? Couples get married not only to justify (word choice - as a testament of) their love for each other but also in view to start a family. (explanation) In today’s fast-paced...
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...To Be Happy or Not To Be Happy? That Is Your Choice. Over the past decade, the concept of happiness has enjoyed much resonance among researchers. Economists and psychologists have made tremendous strides in determining the best measures of happiness, ways to increase happiness, and why happiness is important. Marketers have been working under the assumption that promising happiness will pull consumers to their products, but happiness is not something you promise, cultivate, or measure. Happiness is a choice. Particularly in the face of the struggling economy, advertisers have increasingly looked to connect with consumers on a simpler and fundamental level by promising happiness. For example, Nesquik claims, “You can’t buy happiness, but you can drink it.” Dunkin’ Donuts promotes a breakfast sandwich as “The happiest sandwich on Earth.” Through intentional campaigns, marketers have also sought to cultivate happiness. Coca-Cola launched the “Open Happiness” campaign, which recognizes life’s simple pleasures and encourages consumers to take a small break from the day to connect and share happiness with others. BMW developed a “Stories of Joy” global communication campaign that hosts consumer-created videos highlighting the joy of driving. However, happiness is not a product that can be bought; it is a constant choice in choosing to be happy in every circumstance. There are also innumerable attempts and theories in psychology about happiness to explain the nature of reason...
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...T.L.E Mark Anthiny Osting COMPUTER Mark Anthony Osting I. Introduction Marriage is far more profound than our contemporary culture would lead us to believe. It is a life-long commitment that restrains self-centeredness, self-indulgence and self-gratification. It is the one relationship that effectively prepares and conditions us for community. By restraining self-centeredness and promoting love of another, marriage becomes the foundation for social order. When this commitment labeled “marriage” is reduced to nothing more than a mere contract between two consenting persons, or worse just another option, it ceases to restrain our self-centered passions. Self-centeredness harms not only that relationship but also others as well until it spreads throughout society like ripples in a pond. Abandoning the “others before self” concept of marriage for the self-serving concept of contractual relationships between autonomous individuals makes us increasingly narcissistic, ultimately leading toward moral and social collapse. II. Questions A * Where did you meet each other? * How many children do you have? * Where did you married? * Who supported to your marriage? Answers: * Kami ay nagkakilala sa Taiwan at magkasama kami sa trabaho. Ang trabaho naming doon ay bilang English teachers. * Isa lang ang aming anak. Pangalan niya ay si Jarriet dahil sa aming panagalan na John at...
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...together. It makes two individual come close and are attached to each other with affection. Love is a feeling which makes two different personalities bond together. Love is a universal feeling, meaning it is there in every relationship. For example it is there in friendship, it is there in an adult relationship and it is there in parental relationship. A happy marriage is the result of nothing else but Love. It is said that opposites attract each other. And also we see two different individuals with different choices living together. They stay together, do all things that makes them happy, stand by each other in times of difficulty, respect each other’s preferences, and above all still happy and enjoying instead of different tastes. Is it a miracle? No, but not less than miracle. It is Love. Love is a feeling which brings people come close. Even though if there is distance, people still want to go and meet their loved ones. They manage their time somehow and take the initiative. Why? Because they have affection for their loved ones. It is also said that love is blind. It can happen to anyone. When a person is in love, he/she does not see what other person looks like or what assets does he/she has. Love has no limits. It can happen in any age and to any gender. There are people who fall in love at the age of 60 and there are people who are in a romantic relationship as soon as 16 years of age. So, love has no boundaries. Love is not just what is there in...
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...They deserve to be happy and marry whom they love. They have the rights as the heterosexual couples. It has become more egalitarian, and it is considered to be a human right. Marriage should be made available to couples regardless of their genders. Many people say it might be against many religious beliefs. There's a lot of people that are too afraid to let people know what their sexual choices are. The same sex marriage has been a widely debated in many countries for a very long time. It's a really important issue because it concerns basic moral and human rights. Theres many gay couples have come out and expressed their sexuality choices. Although there's a lot of people the think it should be legalized. There's also a huge number...
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