Loving Your Husband In her recently published book Loving Your Husband, Patsy Loden discusses several ideas on how to transform your marriage and honor your covenant. This statement sounds much easier than it actually is. However, with effort and dedication from both spouses, this goal can become realistic in many marriages. Loden states from the beginning of her book that marriage does not come with a manual; therefore, not all these techniques will work for every marriage. Unfortunately, good marriages do not just happen. Loden tells her readers that marriage takes preparation. The Lord said in Titus 2:3-5 that the older woman ought to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and children. We must allow God’s principles to become our nature. It is not just something we can jump into and become a professional.
Commitment is an extremely important part of the marriage covenant. A woman who is committed to her husband can result in a magnitude of different things. This creates trust and respect within the marriage. A problem that women have is that they are constantly trying to change their husbands into the spouses they want them to be. However, we must “teach our husbands without words – and he may change.” Sometimes it is not what we say, but it is what we do.
Loden gives examples of strong Biblical women who were tremendous influences in the lives of people. None of these women changed the behavior of others, but influenced them by their good actions. Loden quotes “The only person you have a right to change is yourself.” When we criticize and talk negatively about our husbands, we are slandering him. Slander is a sin according to the Scriptures. Rather than slandering our husbands, we are to be their helpers and encouragers in every way we can. If we treat them with love and respect, then we will reap the rewards God has promised us.
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