The analysis of own video is necessary to make oneself aware of his or her weakness and strengths. As part of our interpersonal communication assignment, students had to use their empathetic listening skills in their video presentation. The purpose of this video demonstration was to execute the way of empathetic listening skills and help people to make their own decisions. Attending, understanding, responding and remembering, the stages of learning styles (Adler, Rodman & Sevigny, 2011, p. 131), played an important role, where I noticed few challenges while demonstrating my empathetic skills in the video. Nonetheless, I learned many effective ways as regards how to use appropriate skills for proper circumstances. In addition, I learned that …show more content…
As a human nature, people tend to jump at the solution right away, but I listened to the issue rather than trying to fix it. When we try to offer a solution, it might make the situation worst (Adler et al., 2011, p. 152). So, I did not advise what to do, instead I asked "what strategies she had thought about?" This helped her to make own decision that she thought would be best for her. Furthermore, I presented non-verbal listening skill by maintaining an eye contact with the speaker, as well as responsive facial expression that have powerful impact while communicating (Adler et al., 2011, p. 186). In addition, for me, the most effectiveness of this communication was paraphrasing and perception checking. I paraphrased what speaker told me to verify that I understood the message, as well as allowed the speaker to share her concerns. Example by Trenholm & Jenson suggested that paraphrasing is a form of active listening that involves restating the speaker's comment in listener's own words, what the listener thought the speaker had told (as cited it Weger, Castle & Emmett, 2010, p. 35). I avoided being judgmental and used words like- it seems like, as I hear that, to paraphrase what I understood from the message. Additionally, I have learned that perception checking is an excellent way of understanding others. Perception checking is a helpful tool to help listener understand what others are thinking before jumping to the conclusion (Adler et al., 2011, p. 54). This understanding about perception checking is useful to me, as a learner because in the video demonstration I addressed question like, "Now, having this conversation, how do you feel?" which was the better way for me to understand the speaker`s