...Mother Copes with Loss of Brother “I have learned not to take things for granted. Life can change in an instant”. At 5:10 pm, on April 8th, 2005, Nicole Greiss received a phone call telling her that Justin Breen and Jeffrey Rentschler had died at 4:50pm. Jeffrey Rentschler was Nicole’s cousin and Justin Breen was Nicole’s 16 year old brother. This happened in Bernville, PA on a backroad on a cold rainy spring day. This is something that Nicole still copes with today. “I had a childhood filled with love and laughter. Not only was he my brother, but he was my best friend. When I heard what happened, it is almost as if the world and my heart had stopped. It never really started back up”. Nicole Greiss is nine years older than her brother Justin. Justin was born on January 13, 1989, whereas Nicole was born in 1980. When Justin was born Nicole was 8 years old about to turn 9....
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...The two poems successfully bring about the emotions of sadness and loss by conflicting feelings dealing with death. Both the poems are narrated from the parent’s view addressing his or her child that has died or is about to, and this brings about emotions of grief in the reader as well. The two poems set the mood and atmosphere in the first stanza. In “Refugee mother and child” Chinua Achebe says “for a son she would soon have to forget” brings about sadness and loss because she cannot do anything about it and tells the reader the poem is about a dying son she cannot save. The reader can imagine what she is going through as a mother watching her child knowing he is about to die soon. In the poem “On my first sonne” the first thing the father says is the word “farewell” and from this the reader can tell the poem is about the father bidding farewell to his treasured son. In the same way Chinua Achebe tries to bring about sadness so does Ben Johnson as they both watch what they have lost or are about to loose. ‘On my first sonne’ and ‘Refugee mother and child’ both have many bib... ... middle of paper ... ...ild” does not have much punctuation which is effective because it makes the reader think about the meanings behind these lines. Even though “Refugee mother and child” is more applicable and easy to understand for me “On my first sonne” was better, it is well written because it has many visual images. What I like best about this poem is that Ben Jonson does...
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...how is the theme of loss and separation explored in remember, a mother in a refugee camp and poem at thirty nine? The three poems Remember written by Christina Rossetti, A Mother In A Refugee Camp by Chinua Achebe and Poem at Thirty-Nine by Alice Walker share the same theme of loss and separation. Remember explores the pain of losing loved ones. A Mother In A Refugee Camp emphasizes the relationship between a mother and her child living in a refugee camp. Poem at thirty nine is a poem about the reminiscences of a loved one. Remember expresses the pain in losing and letting go of a loved one. This is shown through the techniques of imperatives and contrasts. The first few words said by the speaker are "remember me". This is very effective in expressing the personas demanding tone. This quote can have multiple interpretations such as speaking in a selfish tone or a concerned tone. The usage of ‘remember’ , shows that there is a sense of fear the speaker holds that their lover might forget them too quickly. The title itself consists of this word which shows the power of the word and the entire poem. The speaker at first appeals to her lover to remember her after death, but as the poem progresses she dispels her selfishness. As the poem unfolds the reader understands that there is separation between two lovers. The reason of the separation becomes clearer when "gone far away" is used. This quote conveys the concept of death. The speakers sorrow is stressed by the reappearance...
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...that allow it to be valued by a contemporary audience. You will need to refer to other sections of your text to validate your discussion. Good morning teachers and classmates, the dramatic reading I will be doing today is of Gwen Harwood’s Poem, “Mother Who Gave Me Life” <Read “Mother Who Gave Me Life” (MWGML)> Throughout this poem I think Gwen Harwood explores a universal theme of loss as a distinctive feature throughout her poems, in particular loss of loved ones, which can be valued by contemporary audiences today due to it being an issue that is faced by everybody in their life at some point. When a loved one is no longer part of an individual’s life, one may experience grief and as a result realise the role and importance of that loved one. From my perspective, Harwood presents the concept of loss of loved ones through MWGML with the euphemism “You left the world so”, which highlights that her mother was not only a loss to her life but also a loss to the world, suggesting that she had great value and respect for her mother. There is a similar significance placed on her mother’s life that is stressed with the use of alliteration in “lived nearly thirty thousand days”. This presents the idea that she lived daily as a mother contributing to the lives of her children. Harwood also introduces a cloth motif in her poem, through the line “when she died she was folding a little towel” to highlight the importance of her day to day life. Harwood then sustains this motif later...
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...HOW DOES STEVEN HERRICK EXPLORE THE THEME OF GRIEF AND LOSS IN “LOVE, GHOSTS AND NOSE HAIRS”? The Australian author Steven Herrick, explores the theme of grief and loss in the novel Love, Ghosts and Nose Hairs. He explores different ways that family members deal with the loss of the maternal figure. He also explores the life of Jack, a sixteen year old boy dealing with the loss of his mother. A lot of strong relationships were lost, and each family member dealt with the loss in completely different ways. Herrick shows the readers what it is like to lose a family member and the ways that some people could deal with the grief of that loss. While reading the book the themes, characterisation, language and symbolism. Herrick explores the different methods used to deal with grief and loss in the book Love, Ghosts and Nose Hairs. Herrick uses poetry...
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...changed while trying to get someone to find her lost body. Alice uses messages like loss, and isolation in The Lovely Bones. After being murdered by her neighbor Mr.Harvey at the age of 14, Susie Salmon finds herself in a beautiful land, not Heaven, which is where she can comment and watch the lives of her friends and family. Susie’s body was never discovered and her parents suffer. The pain gets too much for her mother, so she leaves, but years later returns. Susie’s...
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...The article from Kellie Goldsworthy on grief and loss has better explain to me the grieving process and loss. Since I am currently in the short-term unit, I do not witness as much deaths as I did in the long-term unit. However, currently there is a resident who recently was placed on hospice on my unit. This resident has been refusing eating, becoming very weak, and is not talking as much now. The resident is always laying on her bed. The daughter has taken her vacation time off from work in order to be there for her mother. Since I have been seeing the daughter there every day, I have noticed how much this is affecting her. At first she did not want to accept the fact that her mother is in her last stage of life. The daughter use to ask to...
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...In Alice Sebold’s novel “The Lovely Bones” the Salmon family has to find their own way to cope with the loss of Susie. The Salmon family was built on a weak foundation ready to crumble under any extra pressure. The biggest fracture was that her mother, Abigail, wanted a career not a family. The event of her first child’s death brings her resentment to the surface. This triggers her affair and causes her to feel guilty which eventually leads to her abandoning her family. Her father becomes consumed with the loss of his daughter withdrawing from his wife. Her sister, Lindsey, is the strongest of the family and has the most to cope with living in this small town: the heartbreak of Susie’s tragic murder, her mom abandoning her, and the actions that Jack performs. Not to mention she’s about to begin puberty without a female role model. She is by far the most noble and passionate in her grief. She learns to put outsiders in their place and stand by her beliefs. She learns to thicken her skin and deal her circumstances without looking weak....
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...28, no. 6, July 2004, p. 568. EBSCOhost, search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&db=f5h&AN=13966818&site=ehost-live. Burke, Laurie A. and Robert A. Neimeyer. "Complicated Spiritual Grief I: Relation to Complicated Grief Symptomatology Following Violent Death Bereavement." Death Studies, vol. 38, no. 4, Apr. 2014, p. 259. EBSCOhost, doi:10.1080/07481187.2013.829372. Anderson, Miriam J., et al. "Psychological and Religious Coping Strategies of Mothers Bereavedby the Sudden Death of a Child." Death Studies, vol. 29, no. 9, Nov. 2005, p. 811. EBSCOhost, doi:10.1080/07481180500236602. (Scholar) Nolen-Hoeksema, Susan, Louise E. Parker, and Judith Larson. "Ruminative coping with depressed mood following loss." Journal of personality and social psychology 67.1 (1994): 92. Schnider, Kimberly R., Jon D. Elhai, and Matt J. Gray. "Coping style use predicts posttraumatic stress and complicated grief symptom severity among college students reporting a traumatic loss." Journal of Counseling Psychology 54.3 (2007): 344. (Book) Faulkner, William. As I Lay Dying (by) William Faulkner. London: Chatto and Windus, 1970....
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...Sarah C. Powers Stautzenberger GEN 090 English Skills and Development Ms. Constance Plungus October 31, 2011 The loss of my mother was devastating and tragic. In 1998, my mother suffered from a brain aneurism that burst. I was 17 yrs old, and lost my best friend. Mom was strong willed and humorous. She finished college on the deans list, and raised four children by her self. She was the matriarch of my family, She was a great woman who cared for humanity. Sadly she also suffered the disease of addiction. Unfortunately that series of events left my poor mother in a nursing home not able to care for her self. Physically she is here, mentally she is not. The loss of my mom brought broken hearts, lost souls and God willing the dawn of a new day. My experience with addiction is that is can be life threatening. In my family alone, I have lost two aunt’s and a mother due to addiction. Before it took their lives, it changed their whole perspective on life. For example, my mother was always loving and compassionate. As an addict she was mean and hateful. The disease of addiction can and will take everything from you and your family. I lost the person who taught me how to be strong and proud no matter what the situation. My mother was an honorable woman and I suffered a dear loss. Addiction is fatal. There are many effects to the person who is an addict. Relationships with family and friends will be damaged. Families become disappointed...
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...bond to the deceased (CB) has emphasized its adaptiveness and given limited attention to when it may be maladaptive. The attachment literature on disorganized– unresolved attachment classification in relation to loss, or ‘‘unresolved loss,’’ is informative in identifying CB expressions that are indicative of failure to integrate the death of a loved one. In this article, an important linkage is identified between a prominent indicator of unresolved loss that involves a lapse in the monitoring of reasoning implying disbelief that the person is dead and the clinical writings of J. Bowlby (1980) and V. D. Volkan (1981) on maladaptive variants of CB expression. The aim is to highlight the value of the attachment literature on unresolved loss in clarifying the conditions under which CB is likely to be maladaptive. There is increasing agreement among bereavement theorists and practitioners that an ongoing attachment to the deceased can be an integral part of successful adaptation to bereavement (Klass, Silverman, & Nickman, 1996). This position, commonly known as the ‘‘continuing bonds’’ perspective, is counter to that presented by Freud (1917=1957) in his classic work ‘‘Mourning and Melancholia,’’ in which he proposed that successful adaptation to loss required the bereaved to detach his or her psychic investment in the deceased, or ‘‘relinquish’’ his or her attachment to the deceased, in order to complete the mourning process. Much of the bereavement literature...
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...bond to the deceased (CB) has emphasized its adaptiveness and given limited attention to when it may be maladaptive. The attachment literature on disorganized– unresolved attachment classification in relation to loss, or ‘‘unresolved loss,’’ is informative in identifying CB expressions that are indicative of failure to integrate the death of a loved one. In this article, an important linkage is identified between a prominent indicator of unresolved loss that involves a lapse in the monitoring of reasoning implying disbelief that the person is dead and the clinical writings of J. Bowlby (1980) and V. D. Volkan (1981) on maladaptive variants of CB expression. The aim is to highlight the value of the attachment literature on unresolved loss in clarifying the conditions under which CB is likely to be maladaptive. There is increasing agreement among bereavement theorists and practitioners that an ongoing attachment to the deceased can be an integral part of successful adaptation to bereavement (Klass, Silverman, & Nickman, 1996). This position, commonly known as the ‘‘continuing bonds’’ perspective, is counter to that presented by Freud (1917=1957) in his classic work ‘‘Mourning and Melancholia,’’ in which he proposed that successful adaptation to loss required the bereaved to detach his or her psychic investment in the deceased, or ‘‘relinquish’’ his or her attachment to the deceased, in order to complete the mourning process. Much of the bereavement literature...
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...man that the mother lets into their house – and that is probably true. But I believe that it also refers to the change in Mat, how his innocent, unknowing heart suddenly learns of pain through his mother’s care of the man. Mat was living in a turbulent time and place, where it wasn’t unusual to have disputes settles out of court. It was a harsh world, which Mat’s deceased older siblings hadn’t been able to overcome. There were (line 37) “uncountable ways for a boy to get hurt, or worse”. Mat’s mother was a strong woman, which wasn’t unusual in her time and place. She loved her son, but didn’t smother him, even though she had already lost 3 children – she knew that the hardships of life couldn’t be ignored, they had to be faced, so she let grow up like everyone else, although she was sensibly careful on Saturdays, since the town became a dangerous place then. In the text “Men of the West. Life on the American Frontier” the author, Cathy Luchetti, describes how men were shocked at women’s capability, when they moved to the “wild west”, since they had always thought that they were childlike and stupid. Nancy Feltner was a perfect example of how women can rise up and take charge, if given the chance; she even commanded quite a bit of respect from the men who entered her house (line 86). Mat was mildly surprised, when his mother let the hurt man into their house, but he wasn’t surprised to see his mother treat the man. He already knew that this was what his mother would do for him...
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...‘A Mother in a Refugee Camp’? The poems ‘War Photographer’ and ‘A Mother in a Refugee Camp’ both show the theme of injustice. The poets have presented this theme through many different ways, including through the language, form and tone. The poems both have a similar tone of suffering and loss. The idea of suffering suggests there is injustice and that individuals are suffering for the wrong reasons. In the first stanza of ‘War Photographer’ the line ‘with spools of suffering set’ uses sibilance to create a sound that is sinister and puts across the thought of suffering. The tone of suffering and loss also occurs in ‘A Mother in a Refugee Camp’, the line ‘She soon would have to forget…’ suggests to the audience that the mother knows she is going to lose her child and there is nothing she can do about it, presenting loss. This also presents the theme of injustice and suggests that the mother has lost her son unfairly. The language the poets use also present the theme of injustice. Both poets use effective language to get across the theme of injustice. In ‘War Photographer’ the line ‘running children in a nightmare heat’ makes audiences feel guilty and angry because we think of children as young, innocent and unable to protect themselves. Bringing across the theme of injustice that innocent children are being affected by the war, and they should not have been brought into it all. The poet also uses the innocence of a child to present the theme of injustice in ‘A Mother in a...
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...hearing loss, which is a form of sensorineural hearing. Sensorineural hearing loss results from dosage to the inner ear hair cells or auditory nerve, while induced hearing loss occurs when very loud sounds damage hair cells. One example of this is listening to loud music. These hair cells are very small, and also very fragile. Dead hair cells can never be replaced. Once they are gone, they can never be replaced. A study showed that was you are sixty-five years old, more than forty precent will be gone. Emily can not get a hearing aid because, hearing aids are no help in case of sensorineural hearing loss because auditory messages are blocked from reaching the brain, as of yet there is no cure for high frequency hearing loss. Emily can receive treatment, which focuses on improving hearing rather then restoring it. Many cases the auditory nerve is actually intact. Emily can act on her hearing loss by getting a Cochlear Implants. Its job is to bypass hair cells and stimulate the auditory nerves directly. I think that this will help Emily because if the auditory nerved is intact, it is possible for Emily to still hear and will not be forced into deep anxiety. But if in fact its not, then its nothing she can do to help herself. When Emily hears the strange noise, because of her hearing problem, it reminds her of her mother. Many people are driven into compulsive behavior because of events in their lives. Emily event in her live that causes compulsive behavior is when her mother was...
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