...courtship in their short stories Both Thomas Hardy in 'Tony Kytes the Arch Deceiver' and D. H. Lawrence in 'Tickets, Please' portray courtship differently. I will compare and contrast how they portray courtship in each story. Tony Kytes the Arch Deceiver is set in the 1890's. The story takes place in a small town and is set before the war where but 'Tickets, Please' is set in pre 20th century during world war one. During the 1980's men had all power, control and respect. Men controlled the world and women. In these times women relied on men for survival. In the 20th century men lost a great deal of power they once had. Now women have almost an equal amount of power. Now it is much harder to get and please a woman compared to the 19th century. This situation is similar in Tickets, Please as it is set in the 20th century. Women began to work during times of war. They started earning respect and women's rights came into play. They became independent so were able to survive, not needing men so expectations began to rise. Men had to be more serious aboutp:discover" MX: 3 ST: urn:schemas-upnp-org:service:WANIPConnection:1 bing a small coal mining town. There are no significant events at the time of Tony Kytes unlike in Tickets, Please as this was the time when suffragette groups were fighting for women's rights. In Tony Kytes the story is told by a third person narrator but one which does not play a main character. For example 'I shall never forget...
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...The Absence of Men in Little Women In her critical essay, “The House-Band”: The Education of Men in Little Women, Anne Dalke argues that the success of the women lies not in their independence, but in the remaking of the men on a female pattern. According to Dalke, the March women could not self-actualize without the men re-orienting their way of thinking. Male and female roles were clearly defined in the nineteenth century, but Dalke points out that by crossing the gender line, the men are able to realize their own identity, and become nurturing husbands and fathers. By learning new ways of being men, and reworking their masculinity they become equal partners to their wives, and respected members of the March family circle. Dalke presents a strong feminist view of the March women, but points out their success lies in the equal involvement of both partners and their mutual commitment to nurture each other. I agree with Dalke’s interpretation, but would also recognize, that it is the absence of a maternal figure in the lives of the men that ultimately attracts them to the March family. Furthermore, the willingness of the men to change their attitudes is because they are not capable of functioning in the expected traditional male role. The women choose independence over conformity but in an untraditional way, they teach the men the value of equality within a marriage. The women become equal with their men but only within the confines of their home, a small step perhaps...
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...When a candidate is running for president, they tell us what we want to hear; to get our votes. It is very understandable the reasoning behind it but at the same time we start believing all their word. By the time they are elected our new president of these United States, they have the support of everyone they fooled into believing their blind promises. We fall into their guarantee of topics they claimed they were going to address, and problematic issues they stated would change as soon as they were elected into the White House. As soon as they get inaugurated they still have no idea what is in store for them, the promises made to the public are suddenly pushed to the end of their priority list. Maybe they really wanted to fulfill the people’s demands but were soon faced with the reality that they probably won’t be able to do what they set out to do, due to agendas preset before they even thought about running for presidency. We’re faced with the let down of a broken promise. As a citizen you get promised many things, a lot of those promises are legal promises as in the Constitution of the United States and others that were just promised to get a reaction. In The Promise of America a book with excerpts of different promises made to the American people, Thomas Jefferson’s historical “The Declaration of Independence”, was read on July 4th 1776, and was signed by 56 members of congress. In the “Declaration”, Jefferson states our true promises that defy this great nation that we...
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...Marriage and Divorce and the Way They Impact Women There are a lot of factors that contribute to the reason why divorce has increased in the last twenty years. Some argue financial difficulty, serious illness, career failure, job loss, or even midlife crisis. Rarely does a person hear the possibility that it is because women have become more independent. A woman’s role in today’s marriage has changed drastically from the past. Women are evolving into being more independent outside the marriage. Women now have the same rights as men; therefore, they have more independence and impacts the way they view marriage and divorce. At the turn of the 20th century, if women found they were not happy in their marriage, they began to explore other options. Women decided that divorce was a viable option in order to get out of an unhappy marriage; consequently, the number of divorces grew. No matter how independent women have become, there is still inequality that puts men in front of women when divorce is involved. Women that choose divorce seem to suffer more financially because the workforce still pays men more than women in most careers. Women who opt for divorce and have children run a higher chance of poverty due to lower income compounded by the need to pay for childcare. In a situation where the husband’s income is relied upon, a no fault divorce can contribute to a woman’s struggle after divorce. Often after divorce women are poverty stricken. Men may be required to pay alimony and child...
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...GE 117 Compare and Contrast Essay 05/20/2014 Marriage vs. Living Together This essay intends to identify some differences on marriage versus living single. In more recent generations, men and women have argued this amongst each other for what seems like eternity. Traditionally, a man meets a woman or vice versa, they get to know each other then eventually decide to get married and live their lives together. There seems to be a recent trend toward people staying single. I am one hundred percent certain that every man and woman has lived the single life at one point or the other and that lifestyle came with many ups and downs. Freedom in ones’ personal space is probably the greatest selling point of being single. No one can truly explain the joy in having the freedom to leave and return home whenever they chose to. Being able to go out whenever and wherever you want is an added bonus. Being single offers people the idea of non-commitment so they can be free to hang out with whomever they desired or date many different people. Being single may be a viable option when it comes to personal finances. Usually single people even single parents do not spend a lot of money on food as such. Frozen dinners or quick to prepare meals like macaroni and cheese are probably on a single person’s menu at home. A single person normally rents an apartment or room as compared to owning a house. Depending on the State in which a single person lives, there may be tax breaks that would profit...
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...roles of women was consumerism which took off in the 1920’s and continued to have an impact on women until the 60’s/70’s, which to a small extent gave women an increased sense of independence, through working and self-expression. Industrialisation and the growth of cities laid the platform for mass consumerism in America, by the 1920s, the development of downtown department stores gave accessibility to a vast array of new goods and cities became the centre of cultural change. Mass entertainment was also popular with amusement parks, dance halls and movie theatres resulting in a new visibility of women in the public sphere. The department and chain stores created accessibility to an array of new goods. Women...
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...Co-habitation Cohabitation is when two people who are romantically involved choose to live together without making the commitment of marriage. Cohabiting couples are typically emotionally and sexually intimate. Cohabitation can refer to either heterosexual or same sex couples. The number of couples cohabiting is increasing and is the fastest growing family type in in the UK. There are over 2 million cohabiting couples in Britain. About a quarter of all unmarried adults under 60 are now cohabiting which is double the number in 1986. The number of cohabiting couples is expected to double again by 2021. Why is cohabitation increasing? Many people want to live in a companionship without marriage. Half of all marriages end in divorce which scares many people out of getting married. By cohabiting it feels like marriage, without the risks. Increased cohabitation rates reflect the decline in stigma attached to sex outside of marriage. 1989 only 44% of people agreed that premarital sex is not wrong at all but by 2000 62% took this view. Many couples state the primary reason for living together is to...
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...Development Holland’s Theory Ginzberg’s theory Gender And Career Choice Why People Work Career Transition Learning Unit Objectives Development Across the Lifespan Discuss about the personality development of early adulthood. Explain Social clock: Ravena Helson, Social and PD in adulthood : Daniel Levinson, Intimacy vs Isolation: Erik Erikson, Relationship development: Bernard Mursntein and Triangular Theory of Love: Robert Sternberg Discuss on issues about selecting a Partner as well as Marriage, Conflict in marriage and divorce Discuss issues related to Career. What makes people happy? Money? Materials? Objects? According to research, happiness in young adulthood is usually derived from feelings of independence, competence, or self-esteem (Sheldon et al, 2001). Therefore, the components of happiness: Fulfillment of psychological needs. Building relationships in Early Adulthood: Liking and Loving During early adulthood, romance, love, marriage and children are often the focus of life. The development and course of relationships are emphasized. Having children, receiving a promotion at work, and getting divorced are examples of events that mark a moment in adulthood on the social clock of life. The social clock describes the psychological timepiece that records the major milestone in people’s lives. It...
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...belong in their future career field. In this period of time, it is hard to advance in a career field without having education further than a high school diploma. Hence, the reason many people are starting families and careers later in life because they cannot simply graduate high school and get a job to support a family comfortably. This situation makes the changing from being an adolescent to an adult much more drawn out. Our culture creates this outlook on how we should live. In other countries it is harder to go to school and most people jump straight into adulthood rather than having such a long emerging period. A lot of times emerging adults take a lower standard of living in order to leave home sooner, allowing that person an independence and self reliability they have not yet experienced. After a taste of the life on their own, most young adults end up moving back home at some time for numerous reasons. From my own experience, I can say that if you have lived on your own, moving back home is one of the most difficult things to try to settle back into. Although, if it is done at the right time, leaving home can help a person grow toward adulthood a substantial amount. People who are not ready for the experience end up ultimately hurting themselves by trying to move their lives forward to quickly. Moving out before you are ready can cause some people to less further their education, rather...
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...relationship. The lyrics in “Everything I’m not” by the Veronicas depict that romantic partners hold negative emotions towards one another when they are involved in an unhealthy relationship. The key components that identify the instability of the relationship mentioned in this song are jealousy, social comparison and infidelity. Jealousy, generally considered a negative aspect in interpersonal relationships, can eventually be led by possessing an insecure attachment style. “Everything I’m not” boldly starts off with the Veronicas echoing the words of the guy, “‘Oh no don’t go changing’, that’s what you told me from the start.” The Veronicas explore on the fact that the relationship ended because of the man. The lyrics, “Cause the girl that you want, she was tearing us apart. Cause she’s everything, everything I’m not,” looks at social comparison because she compares herself to the other woman’s beauty and intelligence. This explores further on the phenomenon that romantic love is an attachment process since it is a process by which affectionate bonds are formed between adult lovers just as affectionate bonds are formed earlier in life between human infants and their parents. Romantic relationships are most commonly initiated with passionate affection. Otherwise, partners in a romantic relationship experience serious issues....
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...today are likely to end in divorce. New forms of the family are rising, such as lone parents, same sex marriages and cohabitation. These changes mean that families and households today bear little resemblance to those of fifty years ago, and the "typical family" no longer seems to exists. One of the reasons for the changing pattern of marriage and divorce is the changing role of women. Feminists might argue that women's expectations of life and the quality of their relationship have risen during the last century, and so are less likely to accept a traditional housewife role. Around three quarters of divorce petitions are initiated by women, which would imply that more women are unhappy with they're marriages than men are. On top of this; the employment of married women has dramatically increased, and now it is the norm for married women with children to also be in employment. This change is reflected in TV shows and films, as the mother role is no longer portrayed as only being a housewife, but also as a working mother with her own career. Being employed increases women's financial independence, therefore reduces the dependency on their husband, and so they could escape from unhappy marriages. I think this is an important reason in the increased divorce rate, especially the increase in employment. This is because by earning they're own money and not being dependant on their husband, they don't need to tolerate an unhappy marriage on the basis of not having anywhere...
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...potential audience; an audience that is addressed as white, heterosexual, and relatively youthful and affluent. They emerged out of a hybridization of genres driven by a desire to maximize audiences by creating drama that appealed to both men and women. The feminization of crime genres such as cop shows (Cagney and Lacey) and legal dramas (LA Law, Ally McBeal) allowed for an exploitation of the generic pleasures associated with the masculine, public world of work and the feminized, private world of personal relationships. Their responsiveness to changes in the socio-political context had also allowed for an engagement with liberal feminist issues arising from women’s relation to the law and to work. A focus on women as protagonists, whose actions drive the narrative, replaced the marginal and narrow range of roles available previously to women characters in these genres. Although it shares their incorporation of feminist themes and their focus on the liberal, heterosexual, white, metropolitan, career- oriented woman, Sex and the City is very different from most dramas. It gives insight on how women are perceived in today’s society. They have, or want it all, are independent, and the show, Sex and the City, is used as a tool to correct most views about women. One of the consequences of the multiplication of channels has been a diversification in television’s address to audiences. Specialist channels catering to particular social groups or taste cultures have proliferated...
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...when marriage was a solely in the center of society in this story. Men wore the pants in the family back in this time, women were just there to make the men look good, and bare their children and keep the satisfied. Edna Pontellier married when she was young; she was married off by her father, Lorence promise to take care of her, financially. Edna married him, but did not love her husband. Edna was living a life of unhappiness and she had trouble playing the role of a wife and mother, her husband never gave her any appreciation to the work that she does to taking care of him and his children. Edna got out of their bed and entered the next room, there she waited a while and then returned back to the bedroom and sat on the edge of their bed, putting her head down on her pillow, she said nothing to Lorence, when he was questioning her she refused to answer him. He put out his cigar and went to bed when he laid his head down he was fast asleep in no time. (Choplin, Kate, 1899; Chapter 3) Women back in this time had no say to anything; it was all up to the husband, the women was belittled like they were not intelligent, unable to deal with anything, children and home. The husband was the only one allowed to work outside the home, was the only one allowed to make money, he was the breadwinner of the family, he was the one that was supposed to support his family, supply the family with all their needs, while the women stayed home and went to social groups, while others took care of...
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...different stages of love during early and middle adulthood described by. Psychologist Elaine Hatfield: there is compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love involves feelings of mutual respect, trust and affection, while passionate love involves intense feelings and sexual attraction. The Evolution of Social and Intimate Relationships Relationships during early adulthood can be a series of emotional and social changes. It often involves balancing intimacy and commitment with independence and freedom. According to Erikson, young adults face the controversy between intimacy and isolation. To solve this conflict, the individual wants to maintain a sense of independence while still having intimacy. A major task in early adulthood is to find a partner that is similar in age, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, education, and other attributes. Romantic love is found but has strong components of sexuality and infatuation, sexual desire is the most important ingredient. As for friendships, women have more close friends and the friendships involve more self-disclosure and an exchange of mutual support. Friendships are very important during this time of life....
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...Literature Review Women in Pakistan, to the social and cultural conditions, have more disadvantaged than the women in modern western democratic societies. Educated and professional women in urban areas, who are from upper class of the society, enjoy much better status and rights than illiterate women in rural areas. In rural areas, women are discouraged in attaining higher education just for the sake of avoiding the time when women can lead man while in urban areas, women are encouraged to get educated, so girls energetically join the technical courses but after getting technically or professionally qualified they are not granted permission to work, this is the reason we don't find girls at offices as much as we find men. In villages, girls are usually not asked whom do they want to marry; parents just fix wedding dates of their daughters to the groom of their choice. Such injustices discourage females at higher level. If education does not prevail, the problems of Pakistan will reach at a stage which will make this country very vulnerable. Statically, Pakistan has made reasonable march since independence in many fields including education. Less than one million students were enrolled in schools at the time of independence, and, astonishingly, 12 million school- age children are enrolled. But more than 12 million children are doing job, putting their lives in danger and missing quality education. As a matter of fact, full enrollment at primary education is still not a reality...
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