...The Importance of Self-Esteem in Child Development Anastasia Jones Bakersfield College The Importance of Self-Esteem in Child Development Self-esteem is a vital part of a child’s development. The development of a positive self-concept or healthy self-esteem is extremely important to the happiness and success of children and teenagers (Child Development Institute, 1999). Self-esteem is how the individual sees themselves; an individual's perception of their own abilities. But it doesn’t stop at one’s self perception, the perception and expectations of important people in their life, e.g., caretakers also shape a child’s self esteem. A child’s self esteem changes at different ages. They will need different types of support in different stages in order for them to have a healthy self-esteem. Babies don’t have a sense of self yet, but you are able to start building it by answering to their cries, smiling and just being loving. This is letting the baby know that they are loved and develops a sense of security. They are secure because they know that there is someone who loves them and that they are apart of something, such as family, a group of friends, or some type of community. Without this a child won’t have a sense of belonging and feel rejected. This is why it’s important for a child to have a family, group, community, something that makes them feel accepted. We want children to feel accepted and have a sense of purpose so that they believe in themselves. When there...
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...Deciding how you will raise the child, what school they will attend, how will you discipline, are questions many parents or soon to be parents ask. Adults whether it is the mother or father or the caregiver, are huge influences on a child’s life. Praising children at the right time and because of the right reason is critical. Parents and care givers need to ensure that they are properly praising the child for the right reasons. A good example would be if the child was aked to clean their room and they immediately went into their room and cleaned up all there toys. This would be an excellent example of proper praising. Unfortunately this example is not realistic and can be a frustrating situation. Some parents will bribe the child to do a task and when the child pushes back the parents will then bribe him/her. Some parents praise the child for doing some of the task asked of them. When I was a child my mother would ask me to complete a certain task. After I had completed the task, my mother would praise me for doing a good job. One day, I was asked to do a task that I always do but this time I went above and beyond. When my mother saw the work I had done, she praised me more than she did before. As a child I saw this as an opportunity to ensure I always get praised for my work. What are the advantages and disadvantges of physical punishment? . How can adults help children develop self-esteem? 2. How and when is it unwise to praise a child? 3. How do caregiving and...
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...Through the video and three articles, I have read that growth mindsets seem to be a better way of learning if taught at a young age. The younger a child is, the more their brain has room to consume newer information. When a child learns earlier on that there is a better option than giving up, they can then grow up to continue that mindset and help improve the production of their jobs, as the article “How Companies Can Profit From a ‘Growth Mindsets’.” states. I have also learned that the growth mindset can improve the overall thought process of a person and help them feel better about themselves through proper praising. Instead of praising children through intelligence, praising them when they truly need it is key. When the child is praised properly they learn that learning something and not being able to grasp it right away is not at all bad; it is just that the brain has not found a way for it to work for that person yet. In Dweck’s Ted Talk, she talked about the word ‘Yet”. The word is very important within the Growth mindset....
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...Evaluation time is set before the school year ends. This technique has been very effective in our institution because the employees already know exactly what is expected of them at the start of the year. They are guided as to what tasks they have to accomplish first based on the priority list, what goals have been achieved, and what are still needed to be done. The employee’s goals may be revisited and reviewed periodically to determine their need to adjust. Secondly, the One Minute Praising which aims at catching people doing something right rather than catching them doing something wrong. An example of this is when we teach our child to walk. We do not expect him to start walking as soon as he stands up. He may fall in his attempt to walk or stand. When he has done a few steps, we kiss and hug him or make him feel he has done something worth praising. The child then, tries to do more until he finally learns to walk. Just like the child, the employees may be encouraged through praising....
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...Anna Quindlen said,“Children should have enough freedom to be themselves - once they've learned the rules.” Children should be free to be who they are but once you bend those rules you have to know how to make them follow your rules. In this essay, I will talk about the tip on how to be a good parent, and what not to do as a parent. Being a good parent has a lot of rules and tips,/ if you let your kid disobey the rules and walk all over you what does that make you in your place. You have to set boundaries and limits to what's okay and what’s not okay. One thing that you should definitely do with your child is, make warm memories (Gills 1). Also, mothers need to take charge and stay committed to what you say to your children (Gills...
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...relationship. This quality time can include playing, talking, and simply enjoying one another’s company. During this quality time, it can be beneficial to talk to your child about the feelings he experienced throughout the day. For example, ask him when during the day he felt the saddest and when he felt the happiest. Then, share the same about your day. This provides an opportunity to learn about one another and build a strong foundation for the relationship while also teaching about feelings. Use Encouragement Liberally: Positive discipline focuses on encouragement over praise. Instead of praising kids for a job well done, encouragement focuses on a child’s efforts, even if there isn’t a successful outcome. Encouragement should celebrate a child’s improvements while motivating him to keep trying. Encouragement can help kids recognize their full potential. It also teaches them to be more independent as they will begin to see what they are capable of doing on their own. The key is to encourage kids in a way that makes them feel appreciated and recognized, as positive discipline is based on the belief that all kids need to feel a deep sense of belonging. Modeling how to handle mistakes is an important part of positive discipline. For example, when you make a mistake with parenting, acknowledge it and apologize to your child. This teaches kids the importance of taking responsibility for their own...
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...Kenneth Blanchard & Spenser Johnson – THE ONE MINUTE MANAGER Read a Story That Will Change Your Life! The One Minute Manager is an easily read story which quickly shows you three very practical management techniques. As the story unfolds, you will discover several studies in medicine and the behavioral sciences which help you to understand why these apparently simple methods work so well with so many people. By the book’s end you will also know how to apply them to your own situation. The book is brief, the language is simple, and best of all ... it works! That’s why The One Minute Manager has become America’s national sensation, featured in People magazine, and on The Today Show, The Merv Griffin Show, and other network television programs. 1 Kenneth Blanchard & Spenser Johnson – THE ONE MINUTE MANAGER Books by Kenneth H. Blanchard, Ph.D. MANAGEMENT OF (with Paul Hersey). ORGANIZATIONAL BEHAVIOR: UTILIZING HUMAN RESOURCES ORGANIZATIONAL CHANGE THROUGH EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP (with Robert H. Guest and Paul Hersey). THE FAMILY GAME: A SITUATIONAL APPROACH TO EFFECTIVE PARENTING (with Paul Hersey). PUTTING THE ONE MINUTE MANAGER TO WORK (with Robert Lorber, Ph.D.). Books by Spencer Johnson, M.D. THE ONE MINUTE FATHER THE ONE MINUTE MOTHER THE PRECIOUS PRESENT: THE GIFT THAT MAKES A PERSON HAPPY FOREVER THE VALUETALE SERIES: THE VALUE OF BELIEVING IN YOURSELF, The Story of Louts Pasteur THE VALUE OF PATIENCE, The Story of the Wright...
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...and also be reassured that they are in a safe place and enjoy going to school. The staff provide psychological security by: Teacher: They care for the students and support the children in lessons and to make sure the children are safe and that the classroom is safe for the children’s learning environment. They help the children with work or concerns they may have. Teaching assistant: If they take children out of class they work with the student and make sure that the environment that the children are working in (out of class) is safe. The teaching assistant makes sure that the students or student knows exactly where they are going so they don’t get scared or afraid when taken out of class. They discuss any concerns that the child may have and report it to their class teacher. Office staff: They have a security camera above the main entrance door so they can decide if they should buzz them in or not. They are...
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... I believe that giving focus or attention to negative ones is as important as giving focus on the positive ones. As parents we are considered as the first teachers of our children, we teach our children the learning that we have learned while growing up. Our children and so as we as parents are not perfect, as we do good thing we also commit mistakes and so as our children. It is important that we let them know if what they are doing is right or wrong, because as parents we have this responsibility to our children to guide them become a better person. They look up to us as their role model, and most of them want to follow our foot step. If we will only focus on praising their good deeds or actions, how would they know that not doing bad is as important as doing good. For example, if you caught your child stealing money and you ignore this without even letting him/her know that it is wrong to steal he/she will not know it and he will grow up believing and knowing that stealing is okay and right to do but if the time you caught him stealing and you let him know that it is not good or correct to steal, he will grow up knowing that it is not right thing to do, the act of stealing will not be repeated. This is also the same to educators. As educators we do have a responsibility to our students to let them know the positive and negative actions and the results of each action. We need to teach them and let them feel and realized that positive actions are things to be repeated...
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...growth mind-set, students care about learning. When they make a mistake or exhibit a deficiency, they correct it. For them, effort is a positive thing” (p.181). These types of students have an intrinsic motivation. They do not care what other people think, if they make a mistake they see it as a chance to learn. These students do not view being smart as an effortless thing, it is something that takes some struggle and a lot of hard work. How most children obtain the view of their intelligence typically has to do with how children are being praised. According to Dweck (2009) “praising students' intelligence gives them a short burst of pride, followed by a long string of negative consequences” (p.182). While it is nice to be praised, it needs to be worded carefully so, children do not form a fix intelligence. It is important to praise the child’s effort rather than just praising the end result implying that the child got that result from being smart. I have always done pretty well in school and because of that many people had told me that I am very smart. Since this type of praise was probably not worded the best I developed a fixed intelligence. I thought school was supposed to be easy for me and that I should not struggle because I was told I was “smart”. When things did become difficult I would get easily frustrated. Today I would still measure my own intelligence as being partially stuck in the fixed intelligence category. I want to be able to tell others, especially my family,...
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...defending it and advocating for justice for all the people. Hector’s leadership helps Trojan defeat the Achaeans by pushing them back to their ships and later burning them. However, just like many other warriors, he is also full of pride. Hector is a great man who is family-oriented. The motivation for Hector’s fighting is the responsibility to his family, as well as, the city. His parents are the leaders of Troy; his father is the king and his mother the queen. As he fights for the protection of his city, Hector is also protecting his parents. Moreover, his interactions with his wife and son show a high level of responsibility for their wellbeing. Hector shows his love for the family when he holds his child in his arms and prays for him. He prays to Jove their God to make his child follow his footsteps or even perform better. He continues to pray that he becomes the hero that his mother will be proud of when he goes battling to revenge the lives of their soldiers (McCarty, Ambrus & Homer, 2004). Hector is also a man who is performing his duties as required. He even goes ahead to criticize his brother Paris claiming that he lacks the courage to fight for his city even after leading it to the trouble that resulted in war. He criticizes Paris saying that he has brought disgrace upon himself for stealing another man’s woman....
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...effective and serve as lifelong lessons the writer suggests that this must be conveyed to children, and explain why they are being celebrated and awarded. To conclude, both writers make an important point of encouraging and motivating children. They recognize that this is important to their development; However, they disagree giving trophies to everyone. Diller believes that constantly praising children for little or no effort exhibited will negatively impact them. Diller disagrees with this approach, but insists that children should be taught that tenacity, hard work coupled with involvement and teamwork are the defining factors of a successful person. While Heffner believes the opposite to be true. Heffernan differs as she sees trophy giving as important and encourages everyone for just being on the team as trophies aid in boosting children’s self-esteem, as a result, Children should be recognized and rewarded for their efforts regardless of the outcome. Neither writers have clearly given significant study or proof which highlights participation trophy as a detriment to the development of a child into adulthood. Though they have made references neither arguments are convincing; a contributing factor may be...
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...look after the children, the husband goes to work and gets all the money. Girls began to see that there was more to just being a housewife. Many women were beginning to work. This left such an impact that many girls began to see that there was an ambition, an ambition to be an ‘independent women’. A women who achieved things on her won starting with her education. Artist like destiny’s child (independent women) and Ne-yo (Miss independent) have written songs praising women who are dependent on themselves as young girls listen to their ‘idols’ they see this as an ambition in life. Research has shown that girls achieve better GCSE results than boy because they ‘behave’ better than boys do during classes. A study of performance in school showed that marks are not determined just by academic ability but also attentiveness and how organised you are. Girls have shown to have more of these traits than boys; this therefore gives them an advantage over the boys, which research has shown. Research form universities blame the fact that teacher also look at how well the child is engaged and how often the child loses control. These factors are said to benefit girls making their marks compared to boys, rise. "GCSEs require a degree of solo work and are not viewed as 'cool' in a laddish culture." Some believe that because boys supposedly do not deem a lot of revision and staying in to complete homework is a contribution why girls achieve better GCSE results than boys. Some argue that because...
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...He gave birth of her children, but she becomes careless of her children. Her children want to play with her, but she ignores it by screaming. She always feels tired of doing thing at home. Everyone is working at home, being a good husband and wife makes families happy. The narrator states in a story of “A sorrowful woman” He got up an hour early did the shopping, cooked the breakfast, took the boy to the nursery school (Godwin, 1996).” She got a good husband who is doing everything for her, not only for her but for his child. Husband has good character in the story and wife has crazy character. The woman’s egoism can be vividly mentioned in the statement “she was a young queen, a virgin in a tower (Godwin, 1996).” She is a male dominant woman because she is always aggravated with her husband and her child, and being a wife and husband in the setting has equal rights and duties to do with the...
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