...OMPARE AND CONTRAST Compare and Contrast Two Short Stories Both Kate Chopin in "The Story of an Hour" and James Thurber in "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" discuss the relationship between married couples. As will be set forth in this paper, the authors reach similar conclusions through very different methods. Neither character relates well to his/her spouse and both are in an unhappy marital situation. It is fairly certain that both Mitty and Mrs. Mallard are loved by their spouses and according to all outward appearances, are in good marriages. Both long to be free, but both have trouble admitting that fact to themselves in a way that will allow them to do something about their situations. Both short stories examine the ironic reality that far from making some people happy, love can be a prison. Alienation, isolation, and the basic need for freedom of spirit are themes running through both stories. The authors make their points with very different uses of form, style, and content. The short story narrative is used by both authors. Both have a clear time frame, well developed characters, well defined settings, and are told from the third person omniscient perspective (Clugston, 2010). Chopin writes a brief scene from Mrs. Mallard's life which stuns the reader with the knowledge that Mrs. Mallard is joyful at the news of her husband's death. The story covers the space of only one hour, but that hour is filled with revelations about Mrs. Mallard (as cited in Clugston...
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...Li`aan' refers to a situation where a person accuses his spouse of adultery. In this article we examine the claim made by a christian writer that only husbands have the right to practise Li`aan' in islam, or in other words only husbands ( according to the christian writer ) have the right to accuse their spouses of adultery. The case of Li`aan' is explained in Soerah 24:6-11. Soerah 24:6-11 And for those who launch a charge against their spouses, and have (in support) no evidence but their own,- their solitary evidence (can be received) if they bear witness four times (with an oath) by God that they are solemnly telling the truth; And the fifth (oath) (should be) that they solemnly invoke the curse of God on themselves if they tell a lie. But it would avert the punishment from the wife, if she bears witness four times (with an oath) By God, that (her husband) is telling a lie; And the fifth (oath) should be that she solemnly invokes the wrath of God on herself if (her accuser) is telling the truth. If it were not for God's grace and mercy on you, and that God is Oft-Returning, full of Wisdom,- (Ye would be ruined indeed). The christian missionary comments: a woman apparently cannot charge her own husband similarly. A woman apparently can only defend herself against charges brought against her. She cannot play the equal role of the man as accuser. Response: The above comment made by the christian missionary is not correct and untrue. The scholars of ourdialogue...
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...These symptoms are a reflection of deep emotional pain and will distract and destroy a marriage if one does not seek help. In marriage, depression is triggered by many factors including loss of a job, new baby, financial constraints, feeling unappreciated or wanted, illness of a spouse or child and divorce or separation. It also manifests itself differently in men and women; therefore it’s important to pay attention to your spouse especially if there is a sudden change with their lives. For men, they may indulge in alcohol and drugs to avoid talking about situations affecting them and this may outwardly be portrayed when they become abusive, irritable, always tired, lose interest in activates the once enjoyed e.g. sex. In women, it can be visibly seen if they become withdrawn, inattentive or always deep in thought. It may be triggered by many aspects including postpartum depression after giving birth, hormonal and physical changes or even taking care of new born plus other overwhelming activities like abuse, relationship strains and poverty Reach out In marriage, the vows that you took are an integral part of fulfilling your purpose on earth. If you notice a sudden change of behavior by your spouse, please feel responsible...
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...Finding Love in the Wreckage: Estimating Spousal Altruism with Data on Fatal Car Accidents Ilya Beylin, Anup Malani, and David Abrams1 Abstract. This paper estimates the degree of altruism among spouses by examining how often the driver of a car sacrifices himself or herself in order to save a spouse. Holding constant the magnitude of a collision, a driver can maneuver the car to distribute the risk from a collision between the driver and a passenger. We quantify spousal altruism by the degree to which drivers riding with their spouse redistribute the risk from a fatal accident to themselves – as measured by ex post mortality – as compared to drivers not traveling with their spouse. We find that drivers with their spouses are at least 37% more likely to sacrifice themselves. This implies that they value the lives of their spouses at least 37% more than the lives of other individuals. A driver’s position in a car provides him with exclusive control over the pedals and steering wheel. At the time of an impending accident, this control enables him to adjust the total amount of risk facing the car’s occupants and how that risk is distributed. In other words, his maneuvers will have allocative and distributive effects on the occupants’ risk. The driver’s distributive choices reveal his relative preferences for himself over his passengers. The manifestation of injuries amongst the occupants allows observation of those relative preferences. A theory of spousal altruism – indeed any...
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...year old Nassau County resident. He owns a bank account valued at $200,000, an IRA account valued at $100,000 and a home valued at $800,000. His total monthly income of $3,000 includes the minimum required distributions from his IRA. Marty has one son that he trusts completely and to whom he would feel comfortable transferring his assets. His son is not a caretaker child nor is he blind or disabled. Marty needs nursing home care – likely for the rest of his life. (a) If Marty were MARRIED at the time of application for Medicaid benefits: i. Describe an appropriate Medicaid plan under the PRE-DRA 2005 rules. Well the PRE- DRA 2005 rules indicate a look pack of five years when applying for Medicaid. In this case for Marty with a spouse you can eliminate the house because as long as his wife is still living in the house it would be exempt. As far as his other assets his wife can apply for spousal refusal five years prior and can then transfer assets over to the son. ii. Describe an appropriate Medicaid plan under the POST-DRA 2005 rules. The Post- DRA 2005 rules indicate a look back of about 60-month look back date. In Marty’s case of being married he can still transfer assets over to his wife or son prior to the 60 months required to look back. (b) If Marty were UN-MARRIED at the time of application for Medicaid benefits: i. Describe an appropriate Medicaid plan under the PRE-DRA 2005 rules. In Marty’s case he could put his home in a life estate transferring...
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...Intro to Law and Family Code As stated in our Constitution, Family is the basic unit of the society and with that, it should be protected and guarded by Law. Before such a term “family” is called as one, Marriage happens. Marriage therefore is by all means, creates and gives importance to Family life. It happens for a reason and that is to build up unity between two parties - it is by which Marriage that Family is being fulfilled. What happened in the Movie was that marriage was visible and one proof would be that they call each other husband and wife and that they have a child. And unfortunately, the marriage faltered due to some cases happened in the movie. It was presumably concluded that the wife really killed her husband which resulted her to be imprisoned to a more or less 6 years. She was deprived of seeing her son and the like. The truth was that her husband didn’t really die at that point where both of them had their lone moments at the beach. The husband did very well on his plans and schemed very carefully of what should be done and that is pretending that he’s lost and was killed by his wife. He was successful with his plans while the wife suffered from physical and mental encumbrances. The catch would be that if the woman caught her husband alive, she could file a petition for legal separation using the following grounds as stated in and written on the Philippine Constitution: • Final judgment sentencing the respondent to imprisonment of more than six...
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...to leave our parents and cleave to our spouses. However, it is very healthy to keep good friends in your circle. It is necessary to build a strong healthy marriage, while maintaining healthy relationships. You must communicate to your friends’ boundaries and expectations. Let your friends know how your priorities have changed since you are married. Every married couple should desire to be married well. Being married well takes commitment, dedication and planning. Married Well Planning and keeping a schedule, for your marriage life, work, school, and even your friends will require you to keep a set schedule to live by. It may seem like a lot of work, but it will create an environment that will allow you to become married well. You will develop a habit of checking with your spouse before making plans that could possibly cause a conflict for a prior engagement. You never want to break arrangements with your spouse to go out with friends unless this is a mutual agreement. You do not want to start a new marriage with any type of suppressed resentment. Being married well is not just about being happy. It’s about love, respect, admiration for your spouse and the strong desire to please them. Being married well is not just about giving up your friends to be married; it’s about setting boundaries at home, with your friends, school and even at work. Being Fully Present Bishop T. D. Jakes, says “when you are at home with your spouse, be present! No texting or continuing...
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...I see working hard, they see hardly working “My Mother Never Worked” by Smith Smith-Yackel. One has to be cautious about stories; especially ones which might have truth to them. Smith writes a story about her mother’s life. Starting from the time her mother graduated from high school she has been a hard worker. She first worked as a full-time manager at a general store after becoming a full-time farmer’s wife. This is where the real work began: cleaning, milking, growing, weeding, canning, cooking, sewing, knitting, raising eight children and the list goes on. Later in her mother’s life she gets into a car accident which leaves her paralyzed from the waist down but even that did not stop Smith’s mother from working hard as a mother and a farmer’s wife. But when the social security operator reconnects with Smith she gets a harsh call of reality when the voice on the other side of the phone says, “…your mother never worked” (32). The purpose of this story is to show that no matter how much work you do if the government does not consider it work, it will not count as a “job.” There are many elements of style and structure in this story which include the setting, characters, events, the atmosphere, and style and how these relate to Smith’s purpose. The setting of this story takes place on a farm in Willmar, Minnesota from 1921 to 1970. There are many elements that depict the time frame in this story from the years of the pregnancies “In 1937 her fifth daughter was born […] 1939...
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...The Lift that Went Wrong “I wanted revenge; I wanted to dance on the graves of a few people who have made me unhappy. I’ve done it and got more than I ever dreamed of” (Anthony Hopkins). Revenge is a very poor way of retaliating to a situation. Mrs. Foster, a perfectionist, is being teased maliciously by her husband and is sick of playing games with him. Mr. Foster tries to push his wife into hating him or even making a fatal mistake towards their relationship. In the story, The Way Up to Heaven, Roald Dahl shows how a husband and wife can fall out of love by the wrong kind of teasing. When a false-hearted man falls out of line with his cruel intentions, a woman fails to listen to her hard and commits a great sin. Mrs. Foster makes an obsession out of being late to different occasions. Mrs. Foster’s nerves would start to get to her and she would twitch if the mere thought of being late would slip into her head. The twitch was a “tiny vellicating muscle in the corner of the left eye, like a secret wink” (156). Mrs. Foster would also “flutter and fidget about from room to room until her husband, emerged from his privacy” (156). Mrs. Foster has more than physical affects that happen as a result of her problem. She thinks that she will be late for her plane flight while exaggerating and using statements like “I know, I know, I know I’m going to miss it” (159) and “Now I really will miss it!”(159) to add more stress on herself. Mrs. Foster also...
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...FAM 555: Ministry to Fathers Reflections of the Gold Sword: What a Wife Really Wants Daniel Greenberg October 30, 2012 God has called to make up our gold sword and become better husbands and fathers. Smalley and Trent came up with seven basics that can make the real difference in the establishment of our gold sword. Developing a plan with these seven reflections should be the basics and the foundation for a family. The first reflection is deciding to honor our loved ones. “First, honoring others begins with giving honor to God” (ST, pg.53). Honoring someone else means placing high value on them. We need to make a commitment to build security in the lives of our loved ones. We can strengthen our grip on the gold sword when they are secure in our love. Honoring each other involves praying to each other regularly. The four aspects of honor are God, security, praise, and protection. If we can handle these four things, our gold sword will strengthen. The next reflection is to understand and appreciate a person’s natural strengths. There is a need to realize that there are differences that are going to occur in any marriage and that they can be potentially hazardous. The book describes the four types of personalities (lions, beavers, otters, golden retrievers) and it is important to blend our personalities with our loved ones. Understanding our partners personal strengths can be a tremendous help in overcoming weaknesses. Developing meaningful communication is the next...
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...wife could possibly have anything in common with a blind person, let alone a blind man. The husband has never encountered a visibly impaired person, so his assumptions of how they should act and look are based on television shows. He assumes that this blind man will move slow and not laugh (Carver, 34). Along with his prejudices, the husband appears to have a poor relationship with his wife, as well as others. It seems as if he does not have the social skills to have one that is meaningful and lengthy. The husband reminisced about a poem his wife had written years ago, and that she read it to him. He had recalled “I can remember I didn’t think much of the poem” (Carver, 35). The husband does not appear to be a supportive person, let alone spouse. Another quote that shows this is when the husband is...
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...The polygamy is a word that comes from Greece and if we translate it, the meaning will be “often married”. The polygamy has an interesting meaning where the marriage is done with more than just two partners as it happens at most societies. In most countries out there the polygamy is not a practice that is tolerated and the laws are usually making it illegal. This word is usually referring to the type of marriages where there are two or more spouses, but in the vast majority it will refer to two wives or more. At the same time there are also tons of cultures from all over the world that have absolutely no problem with accepting polygamy as a normal thing and this means that there are no laws to prevent men to have more than one wife or even when a woman has more than one husband. The polygamy term can create a lot of confusion, especially since people confuse it with the bigamy term. The bigamy however will only refer to have two wives, while the polygamy refers to having two or even more and they all live in the same house. Other terms that refer to this domain are polygyny – There in this situation a man will have many wives at the same time. The term polyandry refers exactly to the same thing as the polygyny, except for the fact that the wives will have at the same time more husbands. Group Marriages – Are yet another interesting term where there is one single family unit, but with many husbands and wives all at the same...
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...Outline Quality I see stand out is being strong; to endure a lot of life’s moment with a smile 1. To be a mother is a job in itself. A. To endure child birth B. To be a single mother when your husband is deployed C. To function on a daily basis while holding on to doubt, pain. To be strong for family. 2. Greatest or worst experience in world-military spouse a. Changing of locations, deployments, orders at the drop of a dime b. Long nights, lonely days c. Wondering what will be or happen and what if?? d. Mom and dad. 3. Army veteran A. hundred degrees at day and night, sometimes real cold at nigh B. separation from family, newborn child C. long nights, even longer days, goodbyes My Rock, My Wife By Robert Dukes Robert Dukes Ms. Cadora English Comp 1301 January 20, 2011 Not one person in this world is the same. They may possess similar qualities but will carry themselves in their own unique manner. Defining women would be the most arduous task for anyone in this world and for men it's next to impossible. Sometimes, women themselves don't know how creative and unpredictable they can be! Their brilliance makes life easy, their smiles are a harbinger of joy and they are blessed with the power to create life! My wife Melissa has many qualities that make her who she is. She’s loving, compassionate, resilient and hardheaded. The one that stands out to me the most at any given point is the strength she possesses and...
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...No One Grieves the Same Death is the end of a life. When someone dies that is close to us, we feel a sense of overwhelming grief. Not everyone express their grief in the same way especially men and women. Men are usually the strong ones and do not show their emotions outwardly. Then there are the women who show their emotions by crying and having outburst of anger. Robert Frost illustrates in his poem “Home Burial” how even though the husband and wife are both grieving for the death of their child, they each handle their grief in different ways. “Home Burial” revolves around a husband and wife who are at opposition over how to deal with the death of their child. The entire scene in the poem takes place on a staircase. At the beginning, the wife, Amy, is at the top of the stairs and her husband is at the bottom. By the end of the poem, he is at the top of the stairs and she is at the bottom. The opposite’s ends of the staircase represent the conflicting ways they deal with their grief. Amy expresses her grief with Amy is suffering from extreme sorrow over the loss of her first born child and is unable to stop grieving. Her grief causes her to lash out at her husband because she feels he is being insensitive and unaffected by the death of their child. Amy first begins to feel as if her husband’s grief was not as great as hers when she saw him “making the gravel leap and leap in air”. Amy feels that if her husband had any feelings at all that he would...
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...Cathedral There are three major characters in this short story. Two of which stay unnamed throughout the story, the husband and the wife. The third character is a middle-aged blind man named Robert. He is an old friend and previous employer of the wife. It has been ten years since they had seen each other in person, but they kept in consistent contact by sending each other recorded messages on tapes. When Robert’s wife Beulah passes his old employee, the young wife, more than happily opens her home to him. “Cathedral” takes place in the household of the husband and wife. The wife’s old friend comes to visit and he stays the night after a lot of traveling for his wife’s funeral. The husband is uneasy about Robert staying in their home, not because he is a stranger to him but mainly because he is blind. He arrives just before dinner. They have a few drinks, eat, and return again to the living room to continue drinking. Robert and the wife talk for a while about events that have occurred in the past ten years they have been apart. The husband intentionally being rude turns on the television. This story seems to be set in the mid 1940’s or 1950’s. This is evident because the husband asks Robert if he has one. “My dear, I have two TVs. I have a color set and a black-and-white thing,” says Robert, and he can somehow tell that the television they are watching is a color set. The majority of “Cathedral” occurs in the living room. Hours pass and the wife falls asleep...
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