...Flaubert’s “Madame Bovary”, but also short stories by the Russian writer Anton Chekhov. The topic of adultery could be explored in many different ways and where most writers focused on the social problems of infidelity, especially when committed by a woman, Chekhov presented the relationships between the lovers and their families. Furthermore, I feel like the characters always give some kind of justification for being unfaithful, may this be a sensible reason or not. Therefore, for the purpose of this paper, I would like to further explore the “justifications” given by the cheating parties, the way it affects their relationships with their spouses and family, but also the role that society plays in the way that they handle their respective affairs. Furthermore, I will take a look at the way in which the characters deal with the guilt that they have, concerning their spouses and personal consequences. For this reason, I will be examining two short stories by Chekhov, “The Grasshopper”, published in 1892 and “The Lady with the Dog” from 1899, as well as the play “Three Sisters” from 1900. Furthermore, I would like to start with a brief look at the socio-historic context that the texts were written, in particular, what women social status was and how it was affected by adultery and give a short overview of three important novels on adultery. 1 Overton, Bill. Fictions of female adultery. 1684-1890: theories and circumtexts. 1st Ed., New York: Palgrave Macmillan 2002, p. 3. 1 ...
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...health issues and other disagreements can strain a marital relationship but such problems may not cause as much heartache and desolation as infidelity (Fife & Weeks, 2008). This is because unfaithfulness undermines the foundation of a relationship. Nevertheless, an affair does not necessarily have to mean the end of a relationship. Given time to heal and with a common goal to rebuild the relationship, it is possible for a couple to emerge from infidelity with a relationship that is stronger and more sincere than before. It is difficult to determine exactly how many couples have had affairs, but one study found 37% of men and 20% of women admitted to being unfaithful (Rutherford, 2008). Men tend to have affairs for sexual reasons while women stray more for emotional reasons. In other words, men may be seeking sexual gratification in an affair while women may be seeing emotional gratification of the need to feel special. Does the discovery of an affair mean the marriage is over or irreparably damaged? Not necessarily. Fifty percent of marriages stay together following the discovery of an affair. Two thirds do not divorce if the couple seeks counseling (Rutherford, 2008). Living with the after effects of an affair may be very unpleasant. The fact that one’s partner committed infidelity is likely to destroy that individual’s self-respect. He or she may begin to wonder about their own personal value. Surviving an infidelity must begin by repairing one’s self-respect. It is common...
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...Consensual Relationship Agreements Case Study Leadership and Organizational, Bus 520 2012_April_22 Argue for the use of Consensual Relationship Agreements (CRA) in your current (or future) workplace. Organizational culture reflects the shared and learned values, beliefs, and attitudes of their employees. In reality, organizational culture is the personality of the organization—which sometimes is difficult to fully express in words. This is the norm for most employees in the organization, they sense it and know it is their daily behaviors. Organizational cultures may vary from having a weak ethical culture to a strong one. "Consensual relationship agreements," the legal name for the love contracts, became the office buzz word about eight years ago in the wake of former President Clinton's relationship with former-White House intern Monica Lewinsky. White House Corporate counsels grew fearful that an affair involving one of their executives could end in a big-bucks liability payout. “Consensual relationship agreements” help employers avoid legal liability if an office romance has an adverse outcome for the parties involved. This relationship is voluntarily and occasionally involuntary which brings about sexual harassment. It should be encouraged that most workers, especially senior executives, sign a "love contracts" that shield employers from liability if intimacy later congeals into a sexual harassment lawsuit or some other discord. The contracts, most common in...
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...not tall or cynical Governail, she later figures that she actually likes him but what she can’t figure out is that why she likes him. After much thinking, she still ends up to be puzzled about it. At the same time Mrs. Baroda is eager for this friend to leave as she asks her husband about when Governail is leaving. Finally one night Governail breaks his silence as he starts a conversation with Mrs. Baroda, who isn’t really paying attention to his words but his voice. She realizes that she desires him especially when she desires to touch his face and lips; however she controls those sentiments because she considers herself a respectable woman. The next morning she leaves the plantation to visit her mom and avoid Governail and her feelings for him. After some time, Gaston wishes to invite Governail once again, to which Mrs. Baroda refuses but later changes her mind saying that she has overcome everything. Now what has she overcome? The feelings that she had for Governail or the obligation to be the “Respectable Woman”? However, her words and actions leave us only to believe she was going to go against her values. Analysis In "A Respectable Woman," Kate Chopin delves into the...
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...instance of interpersonal conflict was most difficult. However, I chose a conflict that has been ongoing since the show’s inception. The communication issues between Olivia Pope and Abby Whelan has developed, much in the way that their relationship has evolved. Both characters are strong and powerful women and, as it is with such personas, their communication tends to lack finesse. In episode 4 of the 5th season, aptly entitled “Dog-Whistle Politics,” Olivia and Abby finally have an epiphany with regards to their communication issues. Olivia opts to go public about an extramarital affair she has been having with the President. Abby had questioned Olivia several times about this situation and Olivia lied. Every time she was questioned, Olivia denied having feelings for the President, as well as having an affair. Upon seeing a news interview that Olivia does, during which she confesses the affair, Abby is crushed about the deception. A confrontation in the White House occurs between the two. It was during this exchange...
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...(approximately 100-150 words). James Gansman was a lawyer and senior partner at Ernest & Young’s New York office. He was looking for an affair on AshleyMadison.com. He focused on the fine details of severance pays and compensation for executives at takeovers. Over time, Gansman came into contact with Donna Murdoch who he sent stock tips and hints to after they had become comfortable with each other and had moved to daily phone calls and messages. Eventually the communication became more than just trading tips for personal favors. Murdoch shared tips with another man she met online who happened to become her supervisor and she shared tips with her father who was charged with securities fraud earlier on. Over time, the SEC caught wind of her trading activities and started an investigation on her which led to a full blown criminal investigation about her activities. She eventually; after many tries; decided to plead guilty for a lighter sentence and gave up all the information she could about Gansman. Eventually Gansman was barred from the state of New York and was not allowed to practice law there anymore. He was sentenced to one year and one day in jail. By the SEC case, Gansman settled on a $250,000 case, Murdoch was charged $404,054 which was waived due to inability to pay and her father was charged with $265,924. Murdoch has not been sentenced on the criminal case yet. 2. Identify (lists) the ethical issues that have arisen in this case. (about 100 words) * Extramarital...
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...being on the cutting edge, but on an individual level, many people are not willing to try new things." What's holding us back? A fear of failure. "Corporate America has very little tolerance for failure," Lee reports. Compensation is typically based on tasks well-done, not spectacular (and costly) failures that could eventually produce breakthroughs. Bosses preach innovation, and yet they hover over workers, poised to slap wrists. Lee's study concluded that rewarding employees who repeatedly try new things and fail leads to more innovation and more long-term success. But the more prevalent mixed-message style of management has employees so scared and rigid that they innovate less than they would have if their bosses had never uttered the word at all. Even if environmental conditions allow for high failure tolerance, some people will take setbacks to heart instead of to mind. Such people let a disappointment seep into their sense of self like a poison. University...
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...watch SCANDAL tonight. Sound familiar? This show has broken down barriers but also has created an interesting dialogue concerning one of the most tumultuous plots on television. The primary leads to the show, The married President of the United States and a single Washington hotshot fixer are in the erotic love affair that has millions glued every Thursday on ABC. Married!!! Affair! SUPPORTIVE AUDIENCE??? How is this possible? Yes, this is television, but “the other woman” is usually considered a home wrecker. The cheating husband is a scoundrel. Why is this the exception? There now seem to be progressions of “just how wrong is it?”? The forbidden love between Olivia and Fitz, and millions of viewers that cheer them on at the expense of the First Lady. It’s the “cheering on” that intrigues me. It has created a long-standing debate on fidelity and how we as a society have become desensitized that this is a factor. Is adultery becoming less scandalous? There are several terms in how we define adultery. The media has even renamed this definition. You’ve heard them, “ hook-up, flings, and fooling around,” these expressions are just an alternative interpretation of the word adultery. The phrase is gentler to the ear and seem softer to the mind but mean the same thing. This...
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...Divorce Time to Say Goodbye When it comes to breaking-up and ending a relationship, the song by The Manhattans released in 1976 says it best “Let’s Just Kiss and Say Goodbye”. The song has deep and meaningful words, even though it is about a man ending his side relationship with his lover, it holds true for any relationship that is ending, especially a marriage. There are several reasons why people decide to dissolve their marriage. No matter, how they arrived at the decision, the end result not only affects them but it will affect the children, pets, family, and friends. They must determine the best way to inform their loved ones about the dissolution of the marriage. They must also decide who will have custody of the children and pets. When a man or woman is fed up with their spouse mishandling of finances, lack of communication and unfaithfulness; they feel divorce is the best solution. Money is a touchy topic regardless of the situation but there are several reasons why people may mishandle their finances. Although, the reasons may vary, some couples divorce over finances because of bad investments, addictions, and lack of maturity. A person should never invest their money into anything without a lack of understanding because when something sounds too good to be true it usually is and the damage it does cannot be changed. Addictions are no longer limited to drugs and alcohol; gambling and porn is on the rise as well. Gambling and purchasing porn can...
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...Gritty Realism During the 1890s, many women were limited to what they were allowed to do. They could not go to school, have a job, or even vote. Men viewed women as though they were only meant to bear children and be a housewife. However, a writer by the name of Kate Chopin was a voice for women all the over the world. Two of her most famous writings are “The Storm”, and “Story of an Hour”. Within these two writings, she discussed issues that many other women writers would have avoided. Another writer who was famous for his portrayal of gritty topics was Ernest Hemingway. One of his most memorable writding is titled “Hills like White Elephants”. These writers were able to write about challenging realistic new ideas such as freedom after the death of a love one, abortion, and adultery. Although some of these stories are deemed gritty, Hemingway’s “Hills like White Elephants” deals with realistic issues couples often face. These writings also have ironic undertones such as, when Mrs. Mallards dies from seeing from dead husband and the girl who thinks about abortion, but notices greener fields on the other side of the track. Furthermore realism is when an author intends to tell real life events to his/her audience. Realism can appear in many different aspects of society. When it comes to writing, realism focuses on the average individual, and can be heard as a voice for the ordinary human being. There is a focus on realistic people and events. For example in...
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...Tangled Web #2: Were the punishments for James Gansman, Donna Murdoch, and Gerald Brodsky fair? This is an opinion question in which everyone has their own judgment on. I personally think that the punishments for James Gansman and Gerald Brodsky were somewhat fair because they both did something wrong. The sentence for Gansman should have been harsher because he was really the one who gave out the information. Gansman was being really unfaithful to Ernst and Young by giving out private information. He had agreed that he wouldn't leak anything when he first joined the company. His sentence was not very big, but the fact that he was not allowed working for Ernst and Young anymore seemed very fair and a good punishment for him. I am sure that in the future if he tries to find another job it would be difficult for him. On the other hand, Donna should have gotten a sentence too because she shared the information to Gerald. She also was breaking the law. If she got a sentence, it definitely should have been harsher than Gansman's. Murdoch being freed is somewhat ridiculous. #3: Is Ashley Madison based on an ethical business model? In my opinion Ashley Madison is somewhat based on an ethical business model. They have turned the business into something that is in the limit of the law. It also replicates rules like any other business. Though, since it is a dating site it is also not totally on the business side. In my opinion it is kind of half and half. On one side...
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...Consensual Relationship Agreements Case Study The Purpose of this project is to examine the Consensual Relationship Agreement Case (CRA) Study. In developing the project concepts will be identified in the areas of organizational behavior models of individual, group, and organizational processes; how ethical decisions are made, and concepts of individual differences, personality traits, and perspectives. According to Hellriegel & Slocum (2011) the characteristics of a Consensual Relationship Agreement is defined as an written agreement in which consenting romantically involved staff members acknowledge their relationship is consensual and voluntary; to avoid actions that others may find offensive in the office; follow the employers workplace rules of conduct to include anti-harassment and anti-discrimination; relationship must not affect work performance and behave professionally; report actual or perceived harassment immediately; and not engage in favoritism. After reviewing a second CRA on the internet, an employer and employee confirms that a sexual or romantic relationship between employees is consensual and voluntary. (Bloomsbury Business Library, 2007) In analyzing the case, Consensual Relationship Agreements, the following categories will be addressed: (1) Argue for the use of Consensual Relationship Agreements in Your current (or future) Workplace; (2) Create a counter argument against the use of CRAs in your current (or future) workplace; (3) Discuss...
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...dominance-based relationship in their marriage. They lived customary lives in which Kimiko was loyal and dependent of her husband. Though in his absence, infidelity caused a rift between the two sides of the family. Kawase disregarded his family's "loneliness" (56) the night in San Francisco where Asaka "stayed the night" (54). Kawase and Kimiko have a relationship in which their roles are similar to those of a samurai and geisha. Although they are married, Kawase only gives so much concern for his wife while staying in San Francisco. Instead of returning home to her, he put it off to spend time with a woman whom he had an affair with. The samurai, similar to Kawase, did not fully commit to a geisha as she was used for pleasure or entertainment. Kimiko likewise respected and highly regarded her husband as would a geisha to a samurai. The two's extramarital affairs exemplify the samurai and geisha's satisfying but disloyal relationship. Though the geisha and samurai's roles and Kimiko and Kawase's roles contrast, aspects of the marriage are what make up the other association. Considering that Asaka was originally a geisha, her relationship with Kawase was one of brisk "expediency" (53). Kawase made sure "all his relations with women contained a tacit understanding...
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...Healing and Surrender: Two different ways of coping with emotional impasse and self-induced isolation Compare and contrast essay Student Number: T00557209 Assignment 3 ENGL 1001 Nir Light July 20th, 2015 “Death by Landscape” by Margaret Atwood and “To Room Nineteen” by Elizabeth Lesser are both stories of self-induced isolation, in which the protagonists are unable to expose their predicaments to the people around them. Lois, the protagonist in “Death by Landscape,” isolates herself due to the traumatic disappearance of her childhood friend, Lucy. Suzan, the protagonist in “To Room Nineteen,” is trapped in an emotional impasse caused by conforming to her roles as wife and mother, and being reasonable and intelligent, unable to express her true feelings. While Lois surrounds herself with landscape pictures, and finds a resolution in them, Suzan’s isolation progresses, until she surrenders to her predicament and ends her life. Despite the different ways they resolve their predicaments, both protagonists find relief in their choices. In “Death by Landscape”, Lois is traumatized by Lucy’s disappearance and by being condemned wrongly for causing her death. Enveloped by her trauma, she lives her life in emotional detachment from her husband and children. She can hardly remember getting married or nursing her boys (35). Wilderness provokes her trauma, and she avoids it. She does not expose her predicament to people in her social circle, and they think she purchases her...
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...There are many reasons relationships can break down, Duck suggested 3 main reasons in 1999. Firstly, lack of skills; this refers to to inability to connect with one another for example if someone lacks social skills they will be unable to communicate their satisfaction or attract with their partner, this leads to an unrewarding outcome and the relationship may breakdown. This theory of thinking your partner isn't interested is supported by extramarital affairs, Boekhout(1999) used university students to say what would lead to an affair; for males it was lack of sexual stimuli and for women it was lack of emotional satisfaction. Both suggesting that their partners aren't interested in them either sexually or emotionally. This study lacks population validly as only university students were used, therefore it can't be generalised to the majority of the population. The reasons for to have an affair may change with age and the marital statues of the couple. This is supported by real world application, couples who struggle with social skills can take part in a Couples Coping Enchantment training, this sensitises couples to the idea of equity and aid them in communicating. Cina et al (2003) compared to groups of couples a controlled group who didn't receive CCET and the test group who did, she found that the test group had a better quality of marriage after receiving the training. This study despite having a large participant number can not be generalised to the entirety as it has cultural...
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