...Abusive Relationships For many years; humans have celebrated marriage as a beautiful union, between two “lovers” who swear to be beside one another and care for one another, in sickness and in health. Unfortunately, some decided to break this sworn vow and intentionally harm their spouse. This form of abuse can happen in many way including emotionally, physically, or physiologically. While many people are unaware of it, spousal abuse occurs frequently in today's society. Spousal Abuse can range getting yelled at getting hit, and from intimidation to stopping one's access to finances. According to the United States Department of Justice, spousal abuse “a behavior in any relationship that is used to gain power and control of another intimate partner” (U.S.D.O.J.). Spousal abuse is usually a pattern and habit so it is very hard to stop once it happens it will more than likely happen again. Walking away from this abusive relationship is harder than most think. A study done at Harvard Medical School concluded, “Isolation and fear may prevent a women from leaving,” (“Recognizing”). There are many things that can stop a person from not leaving an abusive relation; one very important reason would be children. Many people believe it is best not to disrupt the child's life, and therefore stay in the relationship. However, it is never a good a idea to expose children to this abuse. Lipkint 2 Generally, when we think about abuse we picture all the poor woman who've suffered at...
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...When it’s been like this for so long, you don’t remember how else it could be. How could an emotionally abused child know about anything else? Hollywood portrays positive relationships between parent and child--but you’re told no real family is like that. Experiences such as my father killing my kitten is something that most children don’t see, but that was something that has since made me afraid of all that he was capable of. I remember being so excited to enter into middle school because, for whatever reason, I thought the yelling, scrutinizing, and manipulation would stop then. That’s not how it went though--it continued then got even worse in high school. It was hard for me to concentrate, complete my work, or even believe in myself. It’s hard to imagine you can do well in school when the man you’re supposed to look up to is continually telling you that you’re inadequate. I was constantly criticized over things...
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...anchor’s perplexity over why it does not make sense to stay in an abusive relationship. I used to not understand it myself. I always believed that if it happened just one time, it would not happen a second time. However, it is not as simple as one would think. If you think about it, that is a normal reaction to a situation where there is no emotional investment in the relationship. When someone begins a relationship, both parties typically show the best sides of themselves. Think about it for a moment. Who begins a relationship by saying to the other person that if you fall in love with them they will eventually berate, beat, rape, and instill fear in you where you will eventually doubt every thought and decision...
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...The first limitation that would be faced would be gaining access to the women required for the survey to be possible. The women may not want to share their stories out of fear of their abuser or because they do not wish to relive the experience. This would also possibly cause a limitation in accessing the women due to confidentiality clauses within crisis centres or gaining the trust of police officials in order to access the files. The next limitation would be finding a safe way to contact the women who are still in abusive relationships. The women may feel that by discussing their relationships, it endangers them with the abuser and may cause a backlash. Another limitation is that the women who are in abusive relationships, may not define...
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...There are a multitude of reasons as to why individuals remain in an abusive relationship this can stem from the dynamics of the relationship in itself to the abused individuals own conflicts due to past trauma. As an individual who works with survivors of domestic and sexual violence I will provide one insight into this question. It is important to understand various dynamics that play an essential role into why individuals remain in abusive relationships; however, if you fixate on this and this alone you will be left baffled. Even when you think you know why they choose to stay unless you have done extensive work with that particular client you may not know all the dynamics. I have clients who for the first few months are actively ready to leave the relationship and even do so, then turn around after 6 months and return to the abusive relationship. I have learned to educate myself on the topic and by understanding the complexity has helped me to be present in the moment with clients regardless of where they are in the process. One of the most common reasons is because often they are told if they leave the...
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...Abusive Relationships Abusive relationships can cause many physical disagreements that can be life threatening like physical and emotional violence, fear, and even self-condemnation. It can also cause mental emotional depression and physical problems including death. Abusive relationships influence millions of relationships each day and teenage girls are at higher risks. The significance of these relationships can cause life changing repercussion. Physical and Emotional Abuse Physical and Emotional violence can cause mental scars that can last even a lifetime. Sometimes emotional abuse can be onerous to recognize because it does not leave any visible scars. Threat, imtimidation, putdowns, and betrayal can cause lack of self-confidence and low...
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...Throughout my life, I have encountered many challenges and obstacles that the majority of people, especially children do not go through. One setback that crippled my life was my ex-boyfriend. Abusive relationships can absolutely destroy a person and their life, inside and out. I had been friends with this boy for six years beforehand, and we dated for approximately seven months. However, things were not the perfect relationship I had hoped for. During The first few weeks of our relationship, things were okay. We fought every now and then, but I had assumed this was normal. However, as the relationship went on, things turned down the wrong path. The fights were everyday, several times a day, and they were nothing but him screaming at me for...
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...My first encounter with an abusive relationship was at the tender age of nine. I had lived with my grandparents ever since I was born due to my mother being very young and devastated because the person she thought would be her one true love for the rest of her life had left her without a trace of why or where to. Therefore, my grandma was the person who took care of me since birth. She taught me from a very young age that love was the most important thing in the world and so that is what I believed. But that was all about to change. After nine years, my mom found someone else and we were all extremely happy for her! She seemed more motivated in life and overall happier. She began spending time with me and I really enjoyed being around her. Overtime we got closer and learned more and more about each other. It was nice to have someone else there for me apart from my grandparents. But I had no idea what was coming. On February 2009, my mom announced to the family that she was pregnant. My grandparents looked worried but nevertheless they congratulated her and told her they would be there for whatever she needed. My mom followed by telling them that she was planning on moving in with her boyfriend and starting the family she had...
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...Experiencing Relationship Difficulties? You, like many couples before you who walk through our door, may feel very stuck and pretty hopeless about your marriage or relationship. When you made a commitment to your partner, you never imagined that the two of you would ever have the kinds of emotional distance or conflict in your relationship or marriage that you are now experiencing. Amid these conflicts you may be asking yourself, have I made a mistake? It is a normal part of marital development to come to a place in the relationship where the dream of how you thought things would be, and the reality, do not match. Many people make one of three choices. They can leave, possibly trying to get it right with a different kind of person....
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...Debunked: 7 Popular Myths About Relationships 1. “We’re not compatible” Compatibility is a myth. It is mostly respect that partners lack for each other. Experts have said that there is no such thing as compatibility. But then why do so many relationships break because of incompatibility? The reason is simple: there’s a clash of ideals. One or both partners have high standards which they think that the other person is unable to meet. This is the sole cause of incompatibility. Compatibility is a choice. person-couple-love-romantic 2. “You can’t have it all” Many people argue that if you have a fantastic career you can’t have an awesome family life and vice versa. This is totally BS! The argument in its favor is invisible there is no correlation between a fantastic career and life partner. In life there will always be ups and downs. Sometimes your family will demand more of your attention, sometimes your partner. What you need is someone who is willing to walk through all that with you....
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...There are many reasons relationships can break down, Duck suggested 3 main reasons in 1999. Firstly, lack of skills; this refers to to inability to connect with one another for example if someone lacks social skills they will be unable to communicate their satisfaction or attract with their partner, this leads to an unrewarding outcome and the relationship may breakdown. This theory of thinking your partner isn't interested is supported by extramarital affairs, Boekhout(1999) used university students to say what would lead to an affair; for males it was lack of sexual stimuli and for women it was lack of emotional satisfaction. Both suggesting that their partners aren't interested in them either sexually or emotionally. This study lacks population validly as only university students were used, therefore it can't be generalised to the majority of the population. The reasons for to have an affair may change with age and the marital statues of the couple. This is supported by real world application, couples who struggle with social skills can take part in a Couples Coping Enchantment training, this sensitises couples to the idea of equity and aid them in communicating. Cina et al (2003) compared to groups of couples a controlled group who didn't receive CCET and the test group who did, she found that the test group had a better quality of marriage after receiving the training. This study despite having a large participant number can not be generalised to the entirety as it has cultural...
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...was “Romantic Relationships and Substance Use in Early Adulthood: An Examination of the Influences of Relationship Type, Partner Substance Use, and Relationship Quality” by Charles B. Fleming, Helene R. White, and Richard F. Catalano. This article covered the effects that varying type of relationships have on substance use, and being as I went through these different stages right out of high school so I can relate and appreciate the data. This article was very easy to relate too and to understand how relationships can change you for worst or better, and the way that the data is delivered was straight forward and clear cut so I was able to interpret it clearly. The information that is given in this article was well researched and delivered, and being that this was a research paper it would give good starting points for where I should begin my own research. Although this paper was focused on a limited age range (early adulthood 18-20) it was extremely thorough in retrieving data and offers many areas where you could continue the research and look more into a specific relationship type. This paper covers the opposing affects that differing stages of relationships play on drug use, heavy drinking, and smoking, but this study only focuses on the transition between graduating high school and entering college and gives a small glimpse into what the roles play later in life. The most interesting piece of data that this article had was not only does being in a relationship gives the people...
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...The Simple Gift – Essay model A person’s relationship with others and the world around them influences their experience of belonging or not belonging. Discuss this view with detailed reference to The Simple Gift and TWO other related texts. Relationships and experiences contribute to an individual’s sense of belonging or not belonging. This view is clearly evident in The Simple Gift by Steven Herrick and the two related texts _______________ and __________________. The Simple Gift explores the characters of Billy, Caitlin and Old Bill. At the beginning each character feels a sense of not belonging, but this changes as their relationships with each other develop. Billy feels like he doesn’t belong in his world. He is neglected and abused by his father which is conveyed in the poem ‘Sport’. Billy expresses his father’s aggression through the line, ‘gave me one hard backhander across the face, So hard I fell down.’ He also shows his contempt for school in the poem ‘Wentworth High School’ when he begins to sign his name ‘Billy Luckett rhymes with…..’ The only place Billy does experience a sense of belonging is expressed in the poem ‘Westfield Creek’, which he describes as ‘my favourite classroom.’ The language used in this poem is much more positive. Billy’s relationship with Bendarat gives him a sense of belonging, that is carried through in his relationship with Caitlin and Old Bill. At first Billy doesn’t feel he belongs, he uses alliteration to express his preference...
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...Blueprint for Essay Introduction: *--Topic: Is our relationships with others important and do they need to be maintained? Can we learn from our experiences? Through these experiences, can we overcome life’s challenges? -- Lead: Social connections not only give us pleasure, they also influence our health. --Happier, have fewer health problems, and live longer --Building strong relationships with other human beings are essential for people to grow, learn and gain experience. --Learning to let go from bad relationships helps with experience and matures the person. --Three Day Road perfectly portrays a healthy relationship transform into a toxic one. -- Thesis statement: Author Joseph Boyden illustrates human growth through sustaining healthy relationships, beginning new ones, and cutting off the toxic. --Point 1: The preservation of a healthy relationship sets up an atmosphere for both parties to help and learn from each other. The two improve as a person all together. -Proof: - Niska and Xavier have a strong bond; she nourishes him with stories to keep him alive. (People help each other in relationships) -Niska is like a mother figure to Xavier -Elijah and Xavier were always the best of friends. Started to bond since residential school, and had a connection as strong as two brothers -Both help each other improve -Xavier teaches Elijah hunting skills in first scene of book. -“What do we do, Xavier?” (pg 2), Xavier reacts quickly by...
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...Bloomed or Doomed? Relationships can be rewarding, yet they can cause frustration and hardship as well. Though there are many types of relationships, each requires a dependency or interaction between counterparts. Many people have a different perspective of what ingredients are needed for a successful relationship or marriage. Some people think they can be compatible only with someone who is very similar to themselves, while others feel that opposites attract. Even though there are many variables to a successful relationship and marriage, there are some crucial elements that need to be constant. If those elements are ignored, the connection may be lost. Jhumpa Lahiri’s stories “A Temporary Matter” and “The Third and Final Continent” demonstrate the need for communication and adaptation between two individuals to have a successful marriage. Communication is mandatory in almost every aspect of life where more than one person is involved. It can mean the difference in any outcome if there is too little or more than enough. Communication can come in many forms such as verbal, non verbal, and physical. As every relationship begins with two strangers who come to know each other better through communication, a lack of communication can cause those who once knew each other to become strangers once more. In Lahiri’s story “A Temporary Matter,” Shukumar and his wife Shoba become very distant from each other after the tragedy of their stillborn child. They create as much space as possible...
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