Relational Leadership/Emotional Intelligence
Professor Keller
July 12, 2015

Critical Thinking - 6

This week’s lesson on Assertiveness and Independence had me looking back with a bird’s eye view, on how I have applied both in my life. I understand Assertiveness is warranted in some issues, though difficult it maybe, it required me to be direct in certain events. Understanding sometimes, my decision may be hurtful, I still must consider others, which I always do. It also had me looking back on how independence was instilled in me during my childhood. From this, I understand that Independence is not about being easily influenced to follow others just because it sounds good or it being the most popular thing at the moment. It means, I can sort through people’s opinion and input, and select what is best for me. From this week activity on Assertiveness, l learned, from activity 11a, in certain instances, I was assertive, for instance, when I believe someone is treated unfairly. However, passive, when my husband, ask about a particular movie I really did not want to see and responded, without saying anything. Activity 11b, consisted of a quiz, which showed my scores: comfort 23 and assertiveness 12 in certain issues. As it pertains to Independence the activity was to watch a video on Anthony’s Actions on, You tube. It displayed how parents are helicopters to their children (always to the rescue). Therefore, causing a child to depend upon their parents. Thus, hindering them from becoming that independent adult later in life. The lesson this week helped me to see in certain issues, I should be that assertive, aggressive and/ or passive person. However, I must also recognize at what time each should be used. I understand that using any of the three at the wrong time could cause more harm than good in situations. I also understand and truly believe that being an Independent person is vital. In essence, independence is just allowing individuals a way of expressing his or her own principles and standards. From, this week’s group session, it allowed everyone to see how we are more assertive at work than home or with our families. We also discuss how being independent is important, especially since we are all parents. This was a great group session.