...Blaming the Victim Sarah Schwartz Baker College Comp 101 Blaming the Victim 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime (safehorizon.org). Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. I am that 1 of 4 woman who have experienced an abusive relationship. I was always asked why I didn’t leave or why I didn’t say something, instead of my abuser being asked why. Women are always asked why didn’t you leave, why did this happen, or why didn’t you say something. This can also be called victim blaming. Most of society thinks focusing on the victims of an abusive relationship will help them understand why it happened, but in reality they should focus on the abuser to understand why. Society does a lot of victim blaming, whether it is the news, police, court system or the victims own family. They focus is on the victim rather than focus on her perpetrator. Take the nationally known story of Janay Rice (pro football player Ray Rice’s Wife), the news and social media immediately focused on Janay, rather than her husband (the abuser). She was called weak, asked why she didn’t leave and even accused of covering for him. The only focus on her husband was what this means for his football career and endorsements. When I saw these reports I on the other hand, was upset and wondered why he did what he did. Society...
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...This paper identifies the characteristics of blaming-the-system and how it is associated with social inequalities that exist in Saskatoon. Like earlier studies that rely on cross-sectional data, this analysis follows similar methods that applies to a much smaller scale. In a blaming-the-system approach, we tend to hold that systemic discrimination exists within the social system. Applying this approach on the city of Saskatoon, it becomes clear that classism is still an issue that affects the majority of the citizen. To help us understand the ideology behind this approach, let’s consider why population groups such as Aboriginal people experience poverty at a significantly higher level than the rest of the population. A systemic explanation...
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...Bullying- I think that bullying is best defined by saying: a unsecure person looking and prying on someone that they see they can take advantage of either physically or mentally. I think the physical part is mostly in young adults and children. I think the mental bullying come into place in the work place and a lot in relationships. I think it is important to define the word bulling accurately because there are several types of bulling. It could be physical.it could be mental. It could also be verbally. The reason I say verbal and mental is because verbal you could call someone names and etc... Mentally you could play with someone’s mind by placing thoughts of threats and losses. I think in the two article the same problem was punishment. Who should get punished and should there be a standard for bulling. I think that this is a problem due to fact that there are different types of bulling it is hard to set a standard when at most times we are talking about children and who is to say if they are aware of the severity of being a bully. I think this affects the victim mostly because they never get justice. I think it’s hard to make right are take back the effects of being on the receiving end of being bullied. I don’t think that my definition of bulling has changed after reading the articles. I think that it was reinforced by both of the articles because they was on two different topics but surrounding the main subject knowns as...
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...Our book defines subculture as “groups united by sets of concepts, values, symbols, and shared meaning specific to the members of that group”. This could be any number of groups: bikers, hippies, fandoms, the list goes on and on. One subculture that I frequently saw at my school were the skaters. So to be a skater you have to share the same values, symbols, and meanings. Personally, I feel that one of the core values of the skater is individualism-- they don’t really like to conform to society so therefore as long as you be yourself and express yourself you are showing this individualism. When you think of a skater what do you see? Personally, I see a male with kind of shaggy hair, always wearing a cap (usually on backwards), with skinny jeans, a baggy sweatshirt, and Vans-- you’ve got to have the Vans on your feet to be a skater. This look could be the symbols of a skater. And then as far as the shared meanings of being a skater, you just have to always be improving your skating ability and trying out your “sick” tricks. This subculture often opposes the dominant culture-- older generations do not approve of their shaggy hair and funky clothing. Often times skaters get referred to as “bad guys”-- people sometimes think that they get mixed up with drugs, alcohol, and have some bad run ins with the police; I don’t think that this is part of their subculture, just something that a few of them do. This stereotype is another aspect of their values opposing dominant culture. Society...
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...Aditi K. Srivastava College Writing I Michael Miller It’s your fault "Ladies, do you think rape is something men do out of a desire for control, empowered by years of patriarchy?" The video begins with an unconventional opening dialogue immediately catching the attention of men and women alike. This three-minute video starring a famous Bollywood actress known for her unusual acting skills and boldness, Kalki Koechlin, immediately became a social hit and had four million views within a very short time. Everyone was talking about it. The reason? A satirical approach to this burning issue gripping the entire nation, to sell the idea of stop blaming the rape victims; a ‘tradition’ which has been going on in our nation since forever. "You've clearly been misled by the notion that women are people, too. Because, let's face it, ladies: rape, it's your fault." The video continues. With a white backdrop and a catchy instrumental music playing, the actress continues talking to the camera. She says that scientific studies suggest that women who wear skirts are the leading cause of rape. Sarcastically she asks her audience if they know why. “Because men have eyes.” There is nothing funny about this statement, the plain sarcasm beaming in her eyes. She is wearing a very trendy ‘chic’ skirt paired up with a black tank top, which immediately contrasts with what she...
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...Victimization Amira Shade Professor Robert Roth CRJ 105 Crime and Criminal Behavior November 1 , 2014 Abstract The purpose of this paper is to discuss when a criminal attacks a victim whether it may be physical or not it can cause harm to the victim in different ways. Many situations can lead to a person becoming a victim of a crime and this paper will discuss some theories of victimization. Also, there researched can be used to obtain data on crimes that were not reported to law enforcement from victims. 1. Introduction Over the past several decades the tendency was to blame the victim when it came to the psychology and the dynamics of victimhood. Although, in past years blaming the victim was common, more recently this has changed. It is politically incorrect to exploit the role of victims in instances of crime cases. No matter what the circumstances or the case the victim does not deserve to be blamed for their own victimization. Many may feel that due to their particular lifestyle or where the victim may live precipitates causes for someone to become victimized. In many instances it has been thought that the victim’s behavior precipitates why they may be victimized. They are said to put these criminal acts in motion by exhibiting provocative or risky behavior. This may include picking arguments or even possibly using other gestures. (Miethe, 1993) Even though victims should not be blames for their own victimization, criminologist...
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...Be Nice To Her - Essay “Be Nice to Her“- is the title of the short story first published in Canada 1984. The title is an often mention quote in the short story. The quote is a recommendation that the 8 year old main character, Elizabeth, received from her mother. A recommendation that quickly escalated to a request, and finally an order as she kept disobeying her mother. She failed to adjust to the order her mother had commanded due to many regular fears that the mind of a child can have - the primary ones in this case being: Group pressure and the fear of one day becoming the victim. The author, the narrator and the main character is the same person, her name is Elizabeth. Elizabeth was kind of chubby and in addition to that she wore glasses. The nickname, sucky, had sticked to her ever since kindergarten because she enjoyed sucking her thumb. She had reached the third grade, and the mild form of bullying had died out over time. Luckily for Elizabeth the chances of getting picked on again was very slim - an even chubbier, shorter girl with bigger glasses was in her class, her name was Celia. Besides not having the ideal look and personality to fit into her third grade class, she was also diagnosed with diabetes (at this point in time an incurable disease). Her class mates didn’t want to play with her during recess, only if she agreed to be the ender when they were skipping. After school the other girls didn’t want to walk with her, they always outran her. They didn’t want...
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...1. When is “bullying” really bullying? * Purposely hurt someone emotionally or physically. * When the life of the victim is affected. * When someone picks on an individual for fun. * Abusing someone who’s weak and defenseless. * The victim tends to isolate himself from people to avoid being harmed. TYPE OF BULLY | FIRST YEAR | SECOND YEAR | THIRD YEAR | FOURTH YEAR | TOTAL | | M | F | M | F | M | F | M | F | M | F | Bully | I | | | I | | | | | 1 | 1 | Victim | | | | I | | I | | | 0 | 2 | Bully-Victim | II | II | III | | III | II | II | I | 10 | 5 | Non-bully & Non-victim | II | III | II | III | II | II | III | IIII | 9 | 12 | Total | 5 | 5 | 5 | 5 | 5 | 5 | 5 | 5 | 20 | 20 | CONCLUSION/DISCUSSION A. According to APA bullying happens when someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. The respondents also mentioned that bullying happens when the victim’s life is affected. B. Given the results above we can see that in the first year males one is a bully, two are bully victims and two are non-bully & non-victim. For the first year girls, we have two bully-victims and three non-bully & non-victim. Second year boys has three bully-victims and two non-bully & non-victim while girls has one bully, one victim and three non-bully & non-victim. Third year boys has three bully-victims and two non-bully & non-victim, girls has one victim, two bully-victim and two non-bully...
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... Shreya Jindal #9 Core 3/4 The Bullied Documentary Bullying is tragic and hurts everyone. Theodore Roosevelt once said “Knowing what's right doesn't mean much unless you do what's right.” Jamie Nabozny was faced with many tragic incidents as he was constantly bullied for having a different sexual orientation than the average teenager.he even ended up in the hospital after a severe beating. Jamie Nabozny, in the Bullied documentary, portrays and inspires others that no one should be judged and bullied for being different. Bullying can scar someone both emotionally and physically for the rest of their life. Jamie Nabozny was both physically and verbally bullied and he carries the incidents on for the rest of his life. While still in his teenage years, Jamie Nabozny felt the need to run away from his home town because he had felt that his life was threatened. Being treated in such a manner even urged him to attempt suicide. The bullies also threatened Jamie everyday and once banished him to the hospital for 5 days after a particularly horrifying attack, leaving Jamie with permanent physical scars. The thoughts of bullying consumed Jamie and took up every ounce of his strength with “I’ll kill you if you tell anyone” echoing in his brain. The result of bullying are clearly drastic and no one should ever be left with the permanent scars like those of Jamie to remind him of when he was bullied for being different. Bullying will not only take drastic toll on the victim, but also...
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...The Effects Bullying Has On Teenagers Among the many challenges facing teenagers in today’s society, the most general and most feared is bullying, and the consequences, it has on teenagers. “Nearly 30 % of teens in the United States (or over 5.7) million are estimated at being involved in bullying, a target of bullying, or both.” (JAMA) Bullying brings with it an astronomical amount of negative effects, some of which can stay with the victim long after the bullying has stopped. These effects are self-esteem, mental health, and a reduction in grades. According to Dombeck, “Bullying is an attempt to install fear and self-loathing. Being the repetitive target of bullying damages a teenager’s ability to view themselves as a desirable, capable, and efficient individual.” (Dombeck, MP-10) When living teenage years having exceptional self-esteem it, is very significant, to demonstrate how much they love and appreciate themselves. Victims have demonstrated that bullied daily they might be deprived of their self-esteem, and begin dissatisfaction for themselves because they have this weakness. With no self-esteem, they seem to gravitate to be controlling and bossy with others because of the frustration they feel toward the bully. They become very hard on themselves. According to a teenager “I am ugly, no one likes me, I can not make friends.” A separate effect is changes in mental health. The Victims sleep habits are plausible, and they stay up late, so the end up getting...
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...Bullying Essay Bullying is not a case anybody wants to experience in their life. Believe it or not – I’ve been a victim of this sort of case before. Bullying is not something to joke about; it’s a very serious case. People, of all sorts, get bullied because they have their own disabilities, disorders, or weaknesses. If you ask me, it’s ridiculous! Why do people bully others for being different and expressing themselves out toward the world, nobody knows… Maybe these people feel empowered and have an ambition to make other feel less about themselves so that they can feel more about themselves. For instance, a friend of mines, let’s call her ‘Alex’, was always picked on in a Christian school for expressing her ideas and was marked at the ‘Under-lord’s daughter’ because she has different tastes in music and different types of clothing – trying her best to stand out. She felt uneasy and unwelcomed with the girls around her that disrespected and hurt her (emotionally, of course). Now, you may think that I’m talking about myself since I admitted I was bullied before, but no, my story is a little different. I was almost bullied for no reason. 5th Grade was the hardest year for me, being preteens and getting ready for middle school. I used to be an outgoing and happy-go-lucky girl until 5th grade popped up for me… I was immediately judged as I stepped in the room with my striped purple shirt and baggy jeans and right away nobody liked me. Every day I was picked on because I wasn’t...
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...The Effects of Forgiveness Therapy Journal Article Revi Liberty University The Effects of Forgiveness Therapy Summary Emotional abuse is one of the lasting effects of spousal abuse that will last longer than any bruise. Long after the abuse, women tend to demonstrate many lingering psychological effects, as this type of abuse may represent a betrayal of trust that may lead to negative outcomes for the one being abused (Reed & Enright, 2006). Spousal psychological abuse is s horse of different colors to include criticizing, ridiculing, jealous control, threats of abandonment, harm, damage to personal property, and purposeful ignoring (Reed & Enright, 2006). Some lasting effects from the psychological abuse include depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, learned helplessness, and even ongoing resentment of the abuser. Out of many that suffer the emotional/psychological abuse, few seek treatment. There is little treatment recommended for this type of abuse as there is lack of evidence that any may work. Brief therapy is recommended with a focus on anger validation and interpersonal skill building, however, forgiveness therapy is a new form of treatment that focuses on forgiving an injustice and with helping with anxiety and depression as well as improving self-esteem (Reed & Enright, 2006, p.920). This therapy targets the ongoing resentment that can lead to the depression, anxiety, anger, and other psychological disparities (Reed & Enright, 2006...
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... Bullying From All Angles Zoe Larson-Bullying is like a cancer. It’s deadly, but can be cured. This torment negatively impacts the victim, the bully, and the bystander. A quote from once first lady Eleanor Roosevelt, said “ No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. Bullying can really hurt the victim in a way you would never see because it hurts on the inside. It can also show on the outside like cutting or by isolating yourself from others. Most bystanders won't do anything because they are scared they will end up being bullied. How they respond directly affects them. Effects of bullying on the victim can have a very big impact. Statistics from factretriever.com states half of all children are bullied at sometime during their school years. More than 10% are bullied regularly. Cliques can also have a big impact on the victim because they can pretend to be friends him/her for awhile and then they can start to alienate the victim. Facts from factretriever.com also say some parents let their child or children go into plastic surgery just so they won't get bullied. For example, also from factretriever.com , Samantha Shaw, a 1st grader, went in for a procedure to pin her ears just to limit her chances of getting any harassment. After a short time the victim can start to have thoughts about some things like suicide or wonder why does everyone hate me? What did I do to be treated like this? Some victims think it's appropriate to commit suicide because most of the time...
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...Current Business Research Project Paper RES/341 March 21, 2012 Current Business Research Project Paper According to "Research Methodology" (2012), “business research can be defined as Business research is a systematic and organized effort to investigate a specific problem encountered in the work setting that needs a solution” (para.1). Laura M. Miller wrote “Physical Abuse in a College Setting” in this peer review Ms. Miller identified the purpose of the research. In this paper I will explain the problem that’s under investigation. There were several methods used in the research paper that I will describe. Last but not least I will conclude what the result of the research was. This article identifies the purpose of the research; after numerous reports of abuse between college students in relationships. According to research those students involved in an abusive relationship is more likely to stay with their abuser long term. The purpose of this paper is to inform readers how common it is for college students to find themselves in abusive relationship and never report their abuser. It has been determined that most victims have been in abusive relationships in the past. The business problem under investigation in this article is the victim giving accurate identification for their abuser. The main reason this happens is lack of knowledge and denial that abuse is incurring in their relationship. Stets and Pirog-Good (1989) reported that only approximately 40% of the men...
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...Defining bullying: a new look at an old concept Bullying is an old concept, one that can be traced back to the sixteenth century, if not earlier. Shakespeare has a character, Pistol, hero-worshipping his king, Henry V, with the words, 'I love the lovely bully, I kiss his dirty shoe.' Admiration for the powerful and successful still exists (witness the popularity of the ass-kicking stars of World Wrestling Entertainment). But without doubt the word 'bully' has changed its meaning in more recent years, in response (I believe) to a growing intolerance towards those who continually abuse their power. The term is now being used in a quite different way. And more and more people are giving their attention to the problem of how bullying can be reduced in the community at large, and especially in schools where educating young people about how they should use and not abuse their power has become a matter of vital concern. I happen to think that much of our work in tackling bullying is hamstrung by arguments and disagreements about how we should define 'bullying.' I hope it may be useful to think about how people have sought to define the word. Appealing to the widespread, deeply-seated dislike of bullies, Tattum and Tattum (1992) proposed the following definition. "Bullying is the wilful, conscious desire to hurt another and put him/her under stress" Thus bullying was conceived as a desire (Rigby, 2012). Anybody who wants to hurt somebody - and knows it - is then, by definition...
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