...To A Good Marriage Marriage is known as the oldest institution that binds two people together to an everlasting relationship. Marriage is sacred and one of the greatest commandments is to love one another. Making a good marriage takes a lot of work. Right after a couple gets married, the couple will often feel like their marriage will never have any problems. They think that they will love each other for the rest of their lives, that they will have a good marriage forever. However, as many married couples discover, having a good marriage does take a lot of work. In addition to have a good marriage couples must also have important characteristics. These characteristics such as love, communication and spending time together are like the building blocks of a good marriage. Marriage usually starts with one thing, and that thing is love. It’s because how can you marry someone if you don’t feel loved or if you don’t love that someone. Love brings couples together There are a variety of other general characteristics of a good marriage that couples shows towards each other, like respect for each other’s boundaries and privacy. You can see that it’s just the simple things that really make a marriage work. People have come to find out that communication is a key factor in maintaining good and lasting relationships, Communication should always remain open if we want our marriage to succeed. Lack of communication is one of the main reasons why many marriages end...
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...Pride & Prejudice: Marriage Austen uses the marriages of Charlotte, Lydia, Jane, and Elizabeth in “Pride and Prejudice” to show the good and bad reasons behind typical marriages during the late 18th century in England. The marriages of those four characters illustrate the different motives women had behind getting wedded. Charlotte Lucas accepts Mr. Collins’ hand in marriage as soon as he proposed to her even though she had only known him for a short period of time because he was financially stable. Charlotte is described to be simple with no outstanding qualities; as she is twenty-six years of age, she has a different opinion on marriage from the Bennet daughters as they are younger. She marries Mr. Collins for practicality and survival as she tells Elizabeth, “I ask only a comfortable home; and considering Mr. Collins's character, connections, and situation in life, I am convinced that my chance of happiness with him is as fair as most people can boast on entering the marriage state.'” (P&P pg 124) Her family members are happy when they hear the news as they no longer need to support her – her new husband will take care of her and finances. Women married at a young age; Charlotte’s age was considered old, and it being rare to find a groom for an old bride, Charlotte’s brothers were relieved that she would not die unmarried. Austen uses the marriage of Charlotte and Mr. Collins to represent women that marry wealthy men in order to be financially secure, which...
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...Philosophy Final Paper For this paper I chose the topic of gay marriage. I chose gay marriage because I know that there has been a lot of controversy over the subject. People either say gay marriage is unnatural, immoral, and wrong or to not let them marry is discrimination and not equal treatment. The first article is arguing for gay marriage and the second article is arguing against it. While both articles give some good arguments, the first article is definitely the stronger of the two. I myself am against gay marriage, but both of these articles pose good points, but also some flaws. The first article I read was from USA Today arguing that the problem with not allowing gay marriage is that it’s not equal treatment. They start out the article with giving a premise saying that traditionalist only see marriage in religious terms and that they say by common definition, marriage involves a man and woman. I think this argument is weak because the premise isn’t really supporting the conclusion, its just saying that a certain group of people thinks that way. After this they propose the premise saying that judges look at marriage as far from a religious matter and that the state gives married couples privileged treatment under law. I think this premise is weak because it doesn’t really explain how they homosexuals are treated unequal, it’s just saying what privileges married couples get. Next he goes on to give the premise that homosexual couples, even some together 20-30 years...
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...What is marriage per se? We always believe that marriage (or matrimony) has always been a formalized relationship between a man and a woman, recognized by law and society, by which they become husband and wife. There are several competing definitions of marriage. To start with, Webster’s New Explorer Desk Encyclopedia defines marriage as “a legally and socially sanctioned union, usually between a man and a woman, that is regulated by laws, rules, customs, beliefs, and attitudes that prescribe the rights and duties of the partners and accords status to their offspring (if any).” Merriam- Webster dictionary has a little different meaning of marriage in the second statement. It defines marriage as “(1) the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law; (2) the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage.” A gender-neutral meaning of marriage from the book of Haviland, Prins, McBride, & Walrath (2001) entitled Cultural Anthropology: The Human Challenge states that “A non-ethnocentric definition of marriage is a culturally sanctioned union between two or more people that establishes certain rights and obligations between the people, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.” The word marriage has evolved over time by law and soon became more accepted today in our society as couples spent more years of living...
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...Same sex marriage as defined in our text book, Doing Ethics, refers to the marriage in a full legal sense of gay and lesbian couples. (Vaughn 2013, p 451) Marriage between a man and a woman was instituted by God with Adam and Eve. According to the scripture, Matthew 19: 4-5, New Testament, Jesus reaffirms this “He answered, Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female: and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one?” However, the media is supportive and liberal in their views of views if same-sex marriage. Even the Merriam-Webster dictionary defines marriage as the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law. But as the second definition, it states, the state of being united to a person of the same sex or a relationship like that of a traditional marriage. Same-sex marriage is one of the most controversial issues in the world. According to our text book, Doing Ethics, William Bennett warns of the dire consequences of legalizing same sex unions. He states that “the legal union of same-sex couples would shatter the conventional definition of marriage, change the rules which govern behavior, endorse practices which are completely antithetical to the tenets (a principle or belief, especially one of the main principles of a religion or philosophy) of all the world’s major...
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...Gay Marriage Research Paper Did you know that only 17 states in the United States have officially legalized gay marriage? Some of these states include: California Maryland, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and New York. Maryland became the first state to pass a statute banning marriage between same-sex couples on January 1st, 1973. Then, President Bill Clinton signs the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) into law on September 21st, 1996. The DOMA mandates unequal treatment of legally married same-sex couples. 3 years later, California becomes the first state to create a domestic partnership statute, on September 22, 1999 allowing same-sex couples to receive some, but not all, of the protections afforded by marriage. (History and Timeline of the Freedom to Marry in the United States). Gay marriage should be legalized in all states because it will boost the economy, it will provide health benefits for the couples , more children will get adopted, and because it can allow same-sex couples to visit their spouse in case they are at the hospital. Making gay marriage legal will boost the economy for sure. Why you ask? It is because the more marriages there are, the more money the state earns. Same-sex couples spend at an average of $9,039 on their weddings, while 31% spent $10,000 dollars or more. New York statistics show that after the first year of legalizing gay marriage, they gained $259 million dollars. (CNNMoney) . Also, according to a 2005 Stanford study cited by the Fiscal Times...
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...Conjugal versus Revisionist Marriage: The ongoing debate in the U.S. over what constitutes marriage. What is Marriage? Are there qualifiers for what relationships can be classified as marriages? This paper will examine the arguments for defining marriage through the lens of Western Moral Tradition. According to the U.S. Government marriage is define as, §7. Definition of “marriage” and “spouse” In determining the meaning of any Act of Congress, or of any ruling, regulation, or interpretation of the various administrative bureaus and agencies of the United States, the word “marriage” means only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife, and the word “spouse” refers only to a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife. (Added Pub. L. 104–199, §3(a), Sept. 21, 1996, 110 Stat. 2419.) Where does the official United States Federal definition stem from? The answer to that question is not a single source but a series of teachings handed down from Western society stemming, arguably going back to ancient Greece and ancient Jerusalem. The legal use of marriage is not just for religious purposes but also for tax, property rights, and child rearing. Recently, a cultural divide has invigorated a debate on redefining marriage to include same sex or non-traditional unions as marriages. The debate is largely two sides each defining the specifics of what marriage entails. The first is referred to as conjugal view and the latter is revisionist view. Conjugal...
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...In the article ‘A Poor Excuse for Marriage’, the author brings forward a very good point. The idea that marriage gets a woman out of poverty is a myth. In some cases, a woman with ah good paying job could marry a man with the same good paying job and still end up poor. Marriage does not guarantee that if the woman is in poverty that she would get out of it. No one, be it government or individual has the power to tell anyone to get married. Marriage should be an important decision that is thought out carefully before undertaken. A marriage just for the sake of getting out of poverty is the same as an arrange marriage in my book. The 22-year-old woman in the article is doing what is best for her and the child and not what society may think. I...
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...THE EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN CPANCF.COM (352) 336-2888 Originally submitted 1/1/2001 and previously published in Gainesville Family Magazine All Rights Reserved: Clinical Psychology Associates of North Central Florida Gainesville and Ocala, FL | The Effects Of Divorce On Children by Lesley Foulkes-Jamison, Ph.D., Private Practice, South Carolina When parents decide to divorce or separate, their child or children are faced with multiple stressors. Just knowing that things are going to be different after a divorce, but not knowing exactly how can be frightening for most children. Children from divorced families have to learn to cope with the many changes in their family. The amount of contact with one parent, often their father, will be reduced. Children may have to move from their family home or change schools. They may have a decreased standard of living. They may have to live in two homes. They may have more responsibility placed on them. The custodial parent may be physically and psychologically less available for children due to increased demands. Often, children initially focus on these immediate negative effects of the family breaking up, and do not find comfort in knowing that other families that have divorced eventually do okay. Adjustment to divorce can take up to two years or even longer. Many children will adjust to their parents' divorce, but some will continue to have significant...
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...Cultural Differences between Gay & Straight Marriages There shouldn't be a such thing as gay marriage or straight marriage. Getting married should be ambiguous regardless of the genders of each party. Equal rights should be achieved in that anybody could get married. If homosexual people were allowed to marry, there is no way this would affect how straight people get married; it would just allow more couples in love to show that through the government. Would it hurt straight marriage, maybe not, but that should not be the question, so much as would those who oppose gay marriage or gay anything be allowed to oppose it once it was legalized. Not too many years ago, it was not legal for two men to have sex with one another and it was listed as a mental illness as well that was to be treated, not accepted as good. The real question then should be, is gay marriage good for the nation and for children? We already know that divorce and single parents raising children are not good (though not technically bad either and each case varies) for either. With no parents to guide children we have seen crime rates rise, suicide rise, confusion of identity arise, the decline of the public school system, increase cost in welfare, blended families where research has shown that abuse is higher. When two dads or two moms split, who gets custody of the children? If a pastor refuses to marry two gays, will he or she be accused of a hate crime and fired or placed in prison for following...
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...legitimate alternative lifestyle to heterosexual monogamy. Homosexual “marriage” and adoption should not be sanctioned by the state. This is because Marriage is a two-in-one flesh communion of persons that is consummated and actualized by acts which are reproductive in type, whether or not they are reproductive in effect (or are motivated by a desire to reproduce). Reproductive acts are unique in that they belong to a class of acts by which children come into being/are made. They are the ONLY class of acts by which children come into being as participants in an organic community or family established through the parent’s marriage Marriage is naturally ordered to the good of procreation as well as to the good of spouse unity. Unity is possible because of men and women, in reproductive-type acts, become a single reproductive principle. In marital acts of a male and female the bodies of persons who unite biologically are not reduced to the status of mere instruments because The end, goal, and intelligible point of sexual union is the good of marriage itself. Therefore, Homosexuality is not an alternative lifestyle to heterosexual monogamy. Homosexual marriage should not be sanctioned by the state because it alters the nature of marriage and the founding of a family. This occurs as the nature of marriage turns into simply a long-term erotic relationship. Once same-sex marriage is recognized, it severs “marriage” from its purpose of procreation – in which case there is no reason...
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...finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord”. Officiating Minister: Rev. Allan T. Raya This wedding ceremony is special to me because the bride is my sister and the groom is my disciple. Let me remind everyone on the reason why we are here today. We want to celebrate with the couple as well as become a part of them in their special day. [Marriage was not invented by man, but instituted by God. It was divinely designed not only to be the basic building block of society, but also to provide an earthly analogy of spiritual truth.] I do hope that this ceremony will be a reminder to those who are married to bring back the spark of their intimacy as well as those who are single to be prompted on the value of right process. Above all the fascination and the grandeur of the ceremony let me bring you into the heart of worship as we ponder the word of God. He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. Proverb 18:22 Building a family is a pursuit of every individual and marriage is a pre-requisite to that. But before marriage there should be an attraction and commitment between two persons. In other words love precedes marriage. However, we Christians think in different perspective. Especially in our organization and church that emphasize the reformed persuasion. We re-count our salvation (justification), daily actions (sanctification) and even marriage on the paradigm of Covenant Theology (escathological). Therefore, marriage is not just two...
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...Getting married is one of many important stages in life. There are two types of marriage in the world nowadays: love marriages and arranged marriages. So, which one of them is more likely to last? Even though people prefer love marriages because they want to make their own choices, it has been proven that an arranged marriage is more likely to last because of several reasons. The first reason that make arranged marriages last longer is the families’ experience in the process of choosing the right partner for their children. The parents have been living long enough and have gained a lot of experience. Together, with their love and their knowledge, the parents can realize their children’s weaknesses and strengths and also their needs and wishes....
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...Topic: Gay Marriage Student Name Institution In the recent past different stakeholders have tried to define what constitutes the institution of marriage. In effect, some states give marriage licenses to gay couples, while others have approved “civil unions” yet many other states have forbidden same-sex marriages (Rauch, 2013). In 1996, the federal government passed the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which defined marriage as “…a legal union between one man and one woman” and that “No state shall be required to give effect to any public act, record or judicial proceeding of any other state respecting a relationship between persons of the same sex is treated as marriage” (Rauch, 2013). Consequent to this law, same- sex couples were denied civic advantages otherwise available to heterosexual married couples, and states were not expected to credit same- sex marriage licenses obtained in other states. In 2013, the United States Supreme Court withdrew DOMA section that disapproved gay marriage. However, it left intact the authority of states to acknowledge, or fail to acknowledge, the legality of the same- sex marriage license gotten from a different state (Rauch, 2013). Some legal means that can be used to bring the gay marriage debate to a standstill include the majority rule...
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...Your Husband, Patsy Loden discusses several ideas on how to transform your marriage and honor your covenant. This statement sounds much easier than it actually is. However, with effort and dedication from both spouses, this goal can become realistic in many marriages. Loden states from the beginning of her book that marriage does not come with a manual; therefore, not all these techniques will work for every marriage. Unfortunately, good marriages do not just happen. Loden tells her readers that marriage takes preparation. The Lord said in Titus 2:3-5 that the older woman ought to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and children. We must allow God’s principles to become our nature. It is not just something we can jump into and become a professional. Commitment is an extremely important part of the marriage covenant. A woman who is committed to her husband can result in a magnitude of different things. This creates trust and respect within the marriage. A problem that women have is that they are constantly trying to change their husbands into the spouses they want them to be. However, we must “teach our husbands without words – and he may change.” Sometimes it is not what we say, but it is what we do. Loden gives examples of strong Biblical women who were tremendous influences in the lives of people. None of these women changed the behavior of others, but influenced them by their good actions. Loden quotes “The only person you have a right to change is yourself...
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