Hold Me Tight Hold Me Tight, by Dr. Sue Johnson is a book that discusses the principles that are most successful in creating loving, strong relationships. Many of the ideas throughout this book are very similar to the ones that John Gottman writes about in his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. She even mentions him a number of times in this book, referring to some of the ideas that he incorporates in his work. Johnson separates her book into three main sections; “A New Light on Love,” “Seven Transforming Conversations,” and “The Power of Hold Me Tight.” Each section focuses on a different area, but they all contribute to the main theme of the important things to remember in order to create a happy relationship. The first section, “A New Light on Love,” begins by describing the type of research and work that Johnson does. Johnson focuses on a certain type of therapy that she calls EFT; or, Emotionally Focused Therapy, a therapy based on studying the emotional moments that define a relationship (Johnson 5). Johnson strongly believes that romantic love is all about the attachment and emotional bonding within a relationship (6). The main thing that people look for while trying to find a suitable mate, is, although it is normally subconsciously, is someone that they can depend on. Everyone wants to find someone who they can share an emotional connection with, and someone that they can feel comfortable around. As opposed to Gottman, who says that there are many reasons for fights, both large and small, Johnson claims that the majority of fights are actually just protests over emotional disconnection (30). The emotional starvation that can result causes a “demand-withdraw pattern,” due to one partner feeling deprived and desperate to regain the feelings that they once were having (34). In Gottman’s book, he focuses on the main ways to dissolve