In “Unless You’re Oprah, ‘Be Yourself’ Is Terrible advice” from Adam Grant, he reports on a study that shows that telling others to be themselves is terrible advice for most people. Grant describes an experiment by A.J.Jacobs in which he tried to be totally authentic for a few weeks, but found that others, even his family, did not like his honesty. Brian Little, a psychologist, explains that how much we aim for authenticity depends on a personality trait called “self-monitoring”: “If you’re high self monitor, you’re constantly scanning your environment for social clues and adjusting accordingly. You hate social awkwardness and desperately want to avoid offending anyone” (Grant), but low self-monitors find more problems being accepted because