...a very good speaker. I say "um" a lot. Sometimes I have to pause when I lose my train of thought. I wish I were a better speaker. But I don't wish I were a better speaker like I wish I were a better writer. What I really want is to have good ideas, and that's a much bigger part of being a good writer than being a good speaker. Having good ideas is most of writing well. If you know what you're talking about, you can say it in the plainest words and you'll be perceived as having a good style. With speaking it's the opposite: having good ideas is an alarmingly small component of being a good speaker. I first noticed this at a conference several years ago. There was another speaker who was much better than me. He had all of us roaring with laughter. I seemed awkward and halting by comparison. Afterward I put my talk online like I usually do. As I was doing it I tried to imagine what a transcript of the other guy's talk would be like, and it was only then I realized he hadn't said very much. Maybe this would have been obvious to someone who knew more about speaking, but it was a revelation to me how much less ideas mattered in speaking than writing. [1] A few years later I heard a talk by someone who was not merely a better speaker than me, but a famous speaker. Boy was he good. So I decided I'd pay close attention to what he said, to learn how he did it. After about ten sentences I found myself thinking "I don't want to be a good speaker." Being a really good speaker...
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...a very good speaker. I say "um" a lot. Sometimes I have to pause when I lose my train of thought. I wish I were a better speaker. But I don't wish I were a better speaker like I wish I were a better writer. What I really want is to have good ideas, and that's a much bigger part of being a good writer than being a good speaker. Having good ideas is most of writing well. If you know what you're talking about, you can say it in the plainest words and you'll be perceived as having a good style. With speaking it's the opposite: having good ideas is an alarmingly small component of being a good speaker. I first noticed this at a conference several years ago. There was another speaker who was much better than me. He had all of us roaring with laughter. I seemed awkward and halting by comparison. Afterward I put my talk online like I usually do. As I was doing it I tried to imagine what a transcript of the other guy's talk would be like, and it was only then I realized he hadn't said very much. Maybe this would have been obvious to someone who knew more about speaking, but it was a revelation to me how much less ideas mattered in speaking than writing. [1] A few years later I heard a talk by someone who was not merely a better speaker than me, but a famous speaker. Boy was he good. So I decided I'd pay close attention to what he said, to learn how he did it. After about ten sentences I found myself thinking "I don't want to be a good speaker." Being a really good speaker...
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...miserable please tell me how to make him love me again? Imad Says: Take advantage of new technology; text and send e-cards. With so many of us pressed for time, why not use technology to “keep in touch” during the day. A compliment, an affection or a quick “Hello, You are being thought of” via text can spark anyone’s day. E-cards are fast, and convenient. There are many sites that allow you to send them for free. You can find any type of sentiment from cute and funny, to serious and romantic or teasingly sexy. The bonus is that you can include a personal message along with it if you’d like. Hold hands, hug and give quick kisses often. Nothing is as good for the soul and the emotional health of a person as the human touch. As teenagers, we hold hands, give quick kisses as hello and goodbye and cuddle as we sit close. Why not keep that sense of youth no matter how old we are or how long we have been have together as a couple? Holding hands keeps a connection and closeness, no matter what we are doing. An enthusiastic hug uplifts us; a quick kiss says “glad to see you”. You must convince your husband to take you for a date often this is a good thing for you and him it makes a relationship fresh and clean. Write old fashioned love letters this makes your husband remember of the old days which you and he spent with each other this is a good sign of a ion going relationship. Make love often with passion not too much love because it could be over exaggerating and he would certainly get bored...
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...parenting live in the society from the talk show of Oprah Winfrey | Presentation is realistic and is formatted like a talk show. It is well-organized, creative, interesting, and meaningful. | / | | It is interesting and meaningful because they were debating on same sex marriage, gay adoption and parenting that had been occurred exponentially in the society. Besides, they even shared their experience being the “special one” in the regular society | Effective listening skills are used | / | | We need to pay attention in this video because both the panelists and guests were debating about the gay marriage perception and disagreement in the society | Presentation content flows smoothly. | / | | The presentation was smooth but there were some arguments when the panelist brought out the sensitive issue | Characterization is consistent in both spoken responses and mannerisms | / | | The lesbian/gay couples and the panelists consistently showed their stand and feeling to the audience respectively | Presenters speak loudly and clearly, unless characterization dictates otherwise. | | / | The panelists presented their opinion and questions loud and clear. Also, the homosexual couples did voiced out their thought and rights for equality as homosexual | Adhere to the time limit | / | | There is a 30 minutes time limit for the talk show. However, the panelists did not finish their debate although it has reached the time limit | The Talk Show has an interesting and creative...
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...Am I Talking to Me? By Izzy Gesell The Power of Internal Dialogue to Help or Hinder Our Success Good communication skills are high on everyone's list of relationship "must-haves." Successful communication can be described as the transmission of thought, feeling or action so that is satisfactorily understood. Usually, the skills referred to are of the interpersonal variety. I think it's just as important to understand your internal communication, referred to as your self-talk, Self-talk is defined as the ongoing dialogue we have with ourselves that determines our behavior and it turns out we talk to ourselves all the time. This self-talk both reflects and creates our emotional states so when the self-talk is negative we become more stressed, less confident and more concerned with what other people think. We often tend to believe our self-talk is real and objective, not always aware that it comes from a feeling or belief we have. The good news is that we can transform our life experiences by learning how to defuse the power of negative self-talk. This entry will look at what self talk is, how it works and describe 5 kinds of negative self-talk. Part 2 will describe 5 additional kinds of negative self talk and offer a way to turn negative self talk around into positive action. HOW SELF-TALK WORKS In the memorable subtitle scene of the movie "Annie Hall." Woody Allen ("Alvy" and Diane Keaton ("Annie") are on the balcony off Annie's apartment. With a cityscape in the background...
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...When caring after senior citizens it’s important to remember that they lived for long time and don’t like to be treated without respect. As a carer is good to show respect when communicate with senior citizens, to make them feel that they are not invalid and are able to make some decisions about what they want: for example let them choose what they want to do or eat. Also I would be very patient, not talk over them, be friendly and smile so that they are comfortable to talk to me about anything and have a good relationship with the citizens. In addition I will have to speak with them clearly, ask them what the name they would like to be called. Make eye contact and show interest that you are listening to make communication effective. Disabilities: I will communicate with a disabled person with emotional problems with respect and manner that is the best for their needs. It is essential for a carer to have a good relationship with the service user. As a carer looking after someone with emotional disabilities i will communicate through them with a lot of: Patient: if they are not ready to talk it is important to be patient with them and respect their emotions and feelings. Talk things of their own choice: don’t over talk them it’s vital to let service user to talk about things they want to talk or discus about. Give them time: don’t rush as a care, give them all the time they need to express their feelings or problems. Show interest and listen carefully to...
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...Description How has the concept of “good” parenting changed from 1950-2008? A good parent wants what is best for his or her child no matter what. In the early years, parents taught their children the basics: how to do things, discipline, communication, right from wrong, etc. Through the years these basics are still being taught. One change is that parents are dealing with more epidemics in their children these days. Parents have to learn how to handle and work with the children with special needs. Another change is that back then you saw more mothers doing the parenting but in some cases these days the father steps in and plays the role of the mother. A main concept that has been altered is discipline. In today’s society, some people see spanking as a sign of abuse and think that talking to them and explaining what they did wrong is a better technique. However, this is true at times but if it was the 1950’s, taking a child out back and giving them a good spanking was just what they needed. That is how the concepts of good parenting have changed over the years. Annotated Bibliography Sources One Book Source: Evans, J, & Llfeld, E. (1982). Parenting in the early years: good beginnings. Ypsilanti, MI: High/Scope Educational Research Foundation. This book talks about parenting in the early years and gives information on the development of an infant’s lifestyle and learning of the terms that parents can understand. It’s also talks about how infants grow and the problems...
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...inevitability of change and the passing of time. In the poem the main characters are mothers who are now living after the peak of their lives where their only objective is to look after and satisfy their children and husbands. Larkin shows the reader this through the play by using various poetic techniques in each of the stanzas. In stanza one Larkin talks about how the mothers are getting much older and have left their glory days behind them: “summer is fading”. This is metaphorically telling the reader that they are more than half way through their lives as the good years are now fading away and leaving them. They are now fading into autumn which shows that they are getting older. “Young mothers assemble” shows us that the older mothers have now been replaced by these “young mothers” who are still in the peak of their lives or as Larkin would say, their summer. The theme of the inevitability of change and the passing of time is made clear through this stanza, especially in the first line. Larkin shows this as he talks about the seasons being stages in life as there isn’t anything the mothers can do to stop it happening just like someone getting older. He also shows that there is change in the mother’s lives as they have been replaced by younger mothers. In the second stanza Larkin talks about the memories that the mothers have had of the good old days and how that life is behind them now: “And the albums, lettered” This talks about the memories they have of their...
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...PhD Student (in Computer Science (in NLP/ML)) Mark Dredze (Johns Hopkins University) Hanna M. Wallach (University of Massachusetts Amherst) Version 1.0, March 20, 2012 Being a graduate student can be extremely rewarding and a lot of fun, but it’s also hard work. Like anything in life, there are ways to succeed and ways to fail. Hopefully, you will find a good support network that can help you learn what it takes to be a good graduate student. However, not everyone is able to find such a network, and it’s important to learn these lessons early. This guide was written based on our experiences as graduate students and our experiences advising graduate students, specifically, PhD students in NLP and machine learning; however, we hope many of the points are applicable to a wider audience. Where possible, we have indicated when advice is field-specific. Beyond that, the advice is listed in no particular order. No doubt there will be points with which you disagree. That’s totally fine -- there are certainly points about which even we had differing views; however, before you decide to ignore these points, it’s well worth taking the time to understand why we included them. Becoming a PhD Student Why Get a PhD? This question is dealt with extensively in other documents, so we will not discuss it in detail here; however, we want to emphasize the importance of asking this question. Getting a PhD will change your career path dramatically. Not only does getting a PhD mean you will spend...
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...Introduction: At first let’s talk about the general relationship between Bahrain and USA, will USA effects almost every aspect in our lifetime from our culture, education, society and more and this essay will focus on media, technology and religion. Body: Paragraph 1: At the beginning we will talk about the media which is a very important aspect in our life because media with its different types can changes the way we think and our lifestyles, For example the internet which is a very vital thing nowadays, because no one could live without it. The internet can be used In a good way like searching for information and so on. Furthermore let’s talk about another type of media which is movies, especially Hollywood movies which we can get effected by either in a good and a bad way because some movies show a lot of violence and are good like comedy or drama. I remember this time when my mother told me that when she was young she used to go to the movies all the time with her sisters to watch Bahraini movies for only 100 fils. Media can affect our lifestyles in a good and in a bad at the same time we just have to chose the right side of it. Paragraph 2: Another subject is technology, that effects our life especially in this time because technology makes everything seems much easier and if we are going to talk about Technology and USA in the same paragraph we have to mention (Apple) which almost everybody has an apple device with them and absolutely this made people more connected...
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...How to Make an Effective Presentation I. Presentation Language A. Welcome the Audience • Good morning, ladies and gentlemen. • Hello/ hi , everyone / Good afternoon everyone. • First of all, let me thank you all for coming here today. B. Introduce Yourself • Let me introduce myself. I’m_______________from group_____________. • For those of you who don’t know, my name is________________________. C. Introducing your group members • There are_____ members/ people in my group, including me, Mr. _________, Ms. _______, and Ms._______________. D. Saying what your topic is • As you can see on the screen, our topic is_____________________________. • Today’s topic is_________________________________________________. • What I’d like to present to you today is_______________________________. • The subject of my presentation is____________________________________. • Today Im going to talk about_______________________________________. • What Im going to talk about is______________________________________. E. Explain Why Your Topic Is Relevant for Your Audience • My talk is particularly relevant to those of you who___________________. • Today’s topic is of particular interest to those of you who______________. • My topic is very important to you because___________________________. • At the end of this talk, you will be familiar with_______________________. F. Structuring the Presentation • I’ll begin by explaining the term____________________________________. • I’ll...
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...When you're talking relationships there are a lot of things that come to mind and one of those is how to take a friendship to the next level into a relationship. However, you shouldn't ignore the topics of safe sex and birth control. Courtship is a gradual process that takes a lot of time in getting to know the person better. Many people who start dating have started off as friends with the person they're dating, so they know things about them that makes them potentially good partners in a relationship. However, this doesn't mean that it's easy to talk to them about safe sex. There are so many books giving advice on what to do when you begin dating someone, how to talk about safe sex and things to look for while you're dating that person. The unique thing with self-help books is that each writer's views are different so it doesn't sound repetitive even though the concepts are the same, but the views are very different, including those surrounding safe sex....
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...After giving my evangelization talk for the first time in class on Monday, I have learned many ways in which I can improve the delivery of my speech and make the message much stronger. In reflecting on my talk, the student assessments, the video, and looking back through my notes all proved to be helpful tools in improving the effectiveness my talk can have. I was quite hesitant to watch my video for the first time, but after getting over my initial embarrassment of being filmed I was able to distinguish some of the areas in which I needed to improve the most. The first thing I noticed when watching the video is that I need to use my notes less. When I watched the example videos in class, they were much more effective in drawing the audience in and I think this is largely due to the fact that they did not stand behind a podium and read off of their notes like I did. I think the podium acted as an unnecessary barrier between the...
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...to explain them as best as I can. Social and personal Identity in today’s society is very much blurred, the individual person has his or her own identity that she relates to but when viewed as a whole in today's society people get lumped together with all the same “people” whether that be race, class, gender or status. The first article I will talk about is Tim Wise’s "Preface" and "Born to Belonging” in this article Wise talk about being born to belonging and what he means by this is that white people that are born into white homes don’t usually have to work that hard to get far in life such stated in this quote “We, are unlike people of color, born to belonging, and have rarely had to prove ourselves deserving of our presence here” (Wise 3). What this quote talks about is that the white race is generally seen as the better race, and because of this white people won’t have to work as hard to get good jobs and have a good income. This is a social identity that he presents here and this is one of the examples that I think make social identity a bad thing. It classifies certain people and either being good or bad. Wise also talks in his article about African Americans and how they have constantly been held back in society “by 1860, three years after the supreme court, in its Dread Scott decision announced that blacks could never...
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...t he fine art of small talk How to Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills— and Leave a Positive Impression! new york To Jared Fine Holst and Sarah Fine Holst, my inspiration and motivation. And the gentle wind beneath my wings, Steve Tilliss. C ontents Preface ix chapter 1 What’s the Big Deal About Small Talk? 1 chapter 2 Get Over Your Mom’s Good Intentions 12 chapter 3 Take the Plunge: Start a Conversation! 27 chapter 4 Keep the Conversation Going! 37 chapter 5 Let’s Give ’Em Something to Talk About 49 chapter 6 Hearing Aids and Listening Devices 66 viii . contents c hapter 7 Prevent Pregnant Pauses with Preparation 84 chapter 8 Conversational Clout 108 chapter 9 Crimes and Misdemeanors 114 chapter 10 The Graceful Exit 139 chapter 11 The Conversational Ball Is in Your Court! 154 chapter 12 Make the Most of Networking Events! 159 chapter 13 Surviving the Singles Scene 165 chapter 14 Feel-Good Factor 185 chapter 15 Holiday Party Savvy 192 chapter 16 Carpe Diem 195 Acknowledgments 201 Preface W hen I first got into the business of helping people cultivate conversation skills, I ran into a lot of skepticism. Invariably, executives would scoff at the idea of a housewife’s trivial initiative to overcome boredom. Then I would get clandestine calls for assistance from folks with prestigious titles...
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