...Attachment Style and Relationships Laurie Henry Psy/220 November 10, 2013 Charlene Sears-Tolbert Attachment Style and Relationships Part 1 According to the Robert Sternberg triangular theory of love the three dimensions passion, intimacy and commitment all play essential roles in forming relationships. Passion mean strong emotion, excitement, and physiological arousal, often tied to sexual desire and attraction Baumgardner & Crothers (2009). These emotions can become overpowering and create feelings of love, joy anger and hatred. Intimacy involves closeness it is a special friendship, having a feeling of connection and trust. Commitment is the conscious decision to stay in a relationship for the long haul. Committed relationships are more serious because it involves a shared decision to invest in the relationship. Relationships are a major complexity in our lives. Forming these relationships and maintaining them have a great deal to do with our early attachment styles. Depending on how secure or insecure an individual is can determine their ability to give or accept certain components that build relationships. Early life disruptions to our process of attachment with parents will have major consequences for how we as adults will then deal with attachment as adults. This may show up as diminished capacity to modulate arousal of stimulus from internal or external sources, impairment in developing healthy relationships, and the ability to cope with stress (Siegel...
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...few. From the very beginning of our lives, our need for human contact and closeness is glaringly obvious. Our attachment styles, be they secure, avoidant, or anxious, are formed while we are just infants. These attachment styles tie directly into how we, as adults, execute the different dimensions of love (passion, intimacy, and commitment), in our various individual love relationships. Individual Attachment Styles “Both nature—the infant’s inherent need to bond and belong—and nurture—parental responsiveness—contribute to attachment.” (Bolt, 2004, p. 25). Recent research has been shown to indicate that temperament has a base in genetics and that it is not all left to nurturing, as was previously believed. Personally, I am glad that science has begun to discover what I always have suspected to be true! A parent can be warm and responsive, yet their child could still grow to have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, however the opposite is true as well. I have personal experience with this, which is why I am certain of its validity. Secure Attachment Style Our text describes the secure attachment style in the following manner: “Infants who experience warm, responsive parents show secure attachment.” (Bolt, 2004, p. 23). This is the most prevalent of the three attachment styles, with roughly sixty percent of infants showing this particular style when placed in an unfamiliar environment. When a parent displays warmth and responds to their child, if the child is left...
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...Attachment Styles and Relationships Jennifer Oliver PSY/220 Adam Miller Part One When you have two individuals and they share an emotional attachment, we call this an attachment style. According to Bolt (2004), there are three main elements. Care, commitment and closeness. I like to remember them easily by calling them the 3 C’s. Attachment styles start at birth. It is important to realize that although nature and nurture are both important elements that help develop our attachment style they are not the only factors. Our parents, close relatives, even siblings can help us develop our individual attachment style. The first attachment style is closeness, from the time we are infants, we experience either the closeness of our caregivers or the absence of it. Closeness, when we are infants and even in other stages form emotional bonds. It is basic human nature to want to be close to those we feel love for. Infants who are not exposed to closeness in their early development can become anxious and scared. In some cases this is never overcome, in others as the child grows, they may experience other more stable and secure relationships and be able to overcome the closeness issues from their childhood. The second component in attachment style is care. This is a crucial element important to our development. Humans naturally want to feel safe and secure and to know that they are cared for and that there are those who would protect them at all cost. A child...
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...Attachment Style and Relationships Anna Sylvester PSY/220 Darren Iwamoto In one’s life we all develop an attachment style based on the way we were raised as a child. There are three main attachment styles called, Secure Attachment, Avoid-ant Attachment and Anxious Attachment styles. Individuals with secure attachment tend to be more open to people. They feel more comfortable depending on others and worries less about whether they are accepted by others. Those with avoid-ant attachments are less invested in their relationships, they fear commitment and feels uncomfortable when others try to get too close to them. Then there is the anxious attachment, individuals with an anxious attachment are okay with others getting close to them, but often feel like others are reluctant to get as close to them as they would like. Anxious attachment individuals often fear that their spouse may leave them or that they may not love them. Their obsession to get really close to their partner can sometimes scare their partner away. These attachment styles shape your adult relationships and better understanding of them, can help each individual in their love relationship. Secure Attachment, a secure attachment is a bond that is developed when a child is raised with a very nurturing parents or caregivers. These parents or caregivers...
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...INDEX 1. Tables p. 2-6 2.1. Table 1: Biographical Information of Parents p.2 2.2. Table 2: Biographical Information of Children p.2 2.3. Table 3: Authoritative child-rearing style p.2 2.4. Table 4: Authoritarian child-rearing style p.3 2.5. Table 5: Permissive child-rearing style p.3 2.6. Table 6: Uninvolved child-rearing style p.4 2.7. Table 7: Kind of prosocial behaviour: Empathy p.4 2.8. Table 8: Kind of prosocial behaviour: Awareness of p.4 wrong-doing 2.9. Table 9: Kind of prosocial behaviour: Cooperation p.5 1.10 Table 10: Kind of prosocial behaviour: Helping p.5 behaviour 1.11 Table 11: Kind of prosocial behaviour: Awareness p.5 of someone else’s problem 1.12 Table 12: Kind of prosocial behaviour: Accommodating p.6 others 1.13 Table 13: Total scores for prosocial behaviour p.6 1.14 Table 14: Total scores for child-rearing styles and p.6 prosocial behaviour 2. Question one: Report p.7 3. References p.8 Table 1 Research participant | Age | Gender | Ethnic group | Marital status | Working or stay-at-home-parent | Average time spend with child per week | Number of children | 1 | 29 | Female | White | Married | Stay-at-home | 40 Hours | one | 2 | 36 | Female...
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...Attachment Style and Relationships Part I Robert Sternberg created a theory called the triangular theory of love. This theory is based on three dimensions called passion, intimacy, and commitment. Passion is what motivates a person to pursue someone he or she is attracted too. This motivation is a component of love attraction, romance, and sexual desire. When I think about the word intimacy it makes me think of two people close to each other. I imagine two people loving and caring for each other. These two individuals also trust each other not because they have to but because they want to. Intimacy is not something that can be forced. Commitment in my mind is a decision. It is the choice one makes to stay in a relationship. An example of a commitment would be wedding vows. I believe all three dimensions are needed to fulfill a loving and lasting relationship. Passion is what drives two individuals together. This is what starts the “getting close” step of the relationship. As the two people get to know each other they begin to get close to each other. This closeness is known as intimacy. These two individuals have complete trust in each other and can openly tell each other what they are feeling. These steps then lead to commitment. The two individuals have grown close enough to each other that they are now ready to commit themselves to each other. Sternberg’s triangular theory of love forms other types of love relationships. There are seven different types...
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...THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN LEADERSHIP STYLES AND EMPLOYEES COMMITMENT IN EAST AFRICA BOTTLING S.C (COCA-COLA) A TERM PAPER: THE COURSE OF ADVANCED ORGANIZATIONAL BEHAVIOR AND DESIGN BY: SIRAK TEFERI ……….…. MKMW/601/06 SUBMITTED TO: TESFAYE SEMELA (Professor) The Relationship Between Leadership Styles and Employees Commitment Table of Contents 1. INTRODUCTION........................................................................................................................................................1 1.1. SIGNIFICANCE OF THE TERM PAPER ON THE STUDY OF ORGANIZATIONAL BEHAIVOR ...................................................................................................................................................................2 1.2. IMPLICATIONS OF THE STUDY TO MARKETING MANAGEMENT. .........................................3 1.3. ORGANIZATION OF THE TERM PAPER ................................................................................................3 2. MAIN BODY OF THE TERM PAPER .................................................................................................................4 2.1. THEORETICAL LITERATURE .....................................................................................................................4 2.1.1. The Concept of Leadership .................................................................................................................4 2.1.2. The Development of Leadership Theories .................
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...Realism into Impressionism: Relationship, Characteristics and Style of the Movements Western Governors University IWT1 Task 1 Realism into Impressionism: Relationship, Characteristics and Style of the Movements Throughout time, people have expressed themselves through art in many different forms. Whether it is architecture, literature, music or visual arts; the art form is influenced by the artist, their experiences, imagination, surrounding cultures and history. Some art movements are a drastic change from previous movements, whereas others carry on characteristics from other movements or revive a movement from centuries earlier. It was not uncommon for different genres to exist during the same time periods. Romanticism, Realism, Pictorialism, Impressionism, Art Nouveau, and Victorian Photography were all movements that existed in the 19th century and early 20th century. (MindEdge 3.03; 2014) Some of these movements were an escape or a rebellion against the norm of mythological or glorified subject matters. Two movements whose painters are often times considered to be members of both genres are the Realism and Impressionism movements, such as Edouard Manet and Edward Degas. However, what influenced one movement was not necessarily the reasons for the characteristics, style or subject choices of the other. Visual art and artists, during the mid to late 1800’s to the early 1900’s, observed many changes take place in France. The changes experienced with the...
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...Profiling in our Society Today Have you ever felt targeted by police officials and looked at as a criminal? To be accused of a crime but not because you have done something wrong, but because of your ethnicity or religion. To be discriminated against not just by citizens with in our society but the security officials and by the government we as citizens are supposed to confide in and feel protected by. If you can relate to this question, then from one aspect you understand the emotional feeling tied to being profiled. In the article “Ethnic and Religious Profiling Violates Civil Liberties” the author Lee’s purpose is to provide valid arguments of how the events of 911 have fueled the increased acceptance of ethnic and religious profiling against Arab and Muslim immigrants. The author strongly articulates her point and uses several sources as arguments, but her use of circular reasoning fails to persuade her reader. The authors evidence and reasoning is much stronger when pervasive pattern is summarized, well informed evidence bringing to light the issues we face towards profiling is not going away. Reading Lee’s essay there was flow that was evident from the introduction and throughout the body to the conclusion because the author keeps to the same idea in the introduction as in the conclusion that immigrants faced injustice and were profiled for terrorism because they were Arab or Muslim. The author executed clear topic sentences that goes hand in hand with the overall flow...
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...cancer . This book will have you laughing and crying by the time you reach the end, it is certainly a book worth reading. Hazel Grace Lancaster, the 16 year old cancer sufferer, protagonist and narrator, lives in Indianapolis, Indiana, where she is forced by her overprotective mother to go to cancer support groups as an effort to meet friends. The bond demonstrated between Hazel and her mother was both a believable and a relatable mother-daughter relationship. It is at this support group, that Hazel meets her best friend and first love, Augustus Waters. Their relationship shows how much more meaningful life can be if you have someone to share important experiences with. It also amplifies that although the couple is young and both have suffered from hardships, including cancer, it does not get in the way of the pair building a relationship, a skill that many could learn from. Throughout the novel, Hazel does not let the illness that she has been marked with stop her from having goals or dreams. It is shown through the authors writing style, that the target audience is young adults. John Green is able to do this successfully by having the story told through the eyes of an adolescent, creating the tone and dialogue as though it is told by a teenager, making it relatable to a younger audience. The dialogue between Hazel and her love interest, Augustus, is both romantic and playful, when Augustus...
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...the reader by the time he or she finishes reading the paper? Does every aspect of the paper relate to the main point? Audience Are the point of view, format, diction, and style consistent with the needs and expectations of the audience? Following Does the paper satisfy all of the requirements of the assignment, Directions including length, use of sources, format, etc? Does the paper satisfy the conventions of its kind (does it follow the unique qualities of a term paper, summary, review, research report, narrative, lab report, etc.) Support Is a clear distinction made between assertion and support? Is there sufficient amount of support? Is there a sufficient variety of support, including such facts, statistics, examples, anecdotes, quotations, illustrations, hypotheticals, etc.? Structure Is there an introduction, body, and conclusion? Are paragraphs cohesive? Do transitions signal relationships between ideas Syntax Has the paper maintained logical word order, correct grammatical structure, coordination, subordination, and effective closure of independent or sentence units? Diction Is word choice appropriate for the audience, purpose, assignment, and rhetorical stance? Do the words convey meaning accurately and effectively? Is the style clear, authentic, graceful, and compelling? Standard Is the paper written in the dialect and conventions of standard- Usage written discourse? Spelling & Does...
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...characters not only because he is the narrator, but due to the dynamic change of his character we see at the end of the story. Baldwin effectively uses the first-person narration of Sonny’s brother in order to convey the theme of communication. Throughout the entire story of Sonny’s Blues, the narrator and his brother interact through exchanging words countless times. The question posed is whether or not the narrator can truly hear what his brother is saying to him. Through an examination of the narration style and the ways in which the characters are composed, we can see how Baldwin develops the theme of communication throughout Sonny’s Blues. Directly at the start of Sonny’s Blues we can identify the first-person narration. “I read about it in the paper, in the subway, on my way to work. I read it, and I couldn’t believe it, and I read it again.” (p. 75) Over and over again Baldwin uses “I” and “my” allowing the reader to easily detect the first-person narration style. The limited first-person narration will be crucial in the development of the theme of communication due to reader’s abilities to know narrator’s thoughts and feelings, but not Sonny’s. We know that the narrator is limited and not omniscient due to the fact mentioned before; the narrator does not have the ability to know what Sonny is thinking. This inability to know what Sonny is thinking is pivotal in the way Baldwin builds the theme of communication between the brothers. Due to the fact that the...
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...attitude to face work situations throughout working life. It is the way that can access more information on the specific area of interest within my profession, organically as well as allowing me access to new discoveries, studies and creations that are being developed. What concerns, if any, do you have with academic writing and reading? What two university resources will you use to strengthen your writing and reading skills (refer to your Student Life Worksheet)? The Center for Writing Excellence provides a convenient online resource. The center for writing excellence help with everything from brushing up on grammar basics to putting the finishing touches on a paper. What is your personal learning style (refer to the Ch. 1 Aplia homework)? I consider my personal learning style in Mode 4. I like to influence and lead others. I`m consider myself as entrepreneur, risk taker and leader. I really enjoy take action and complete projects. At my job I drive all business development and Sales Consultant experience. What are two obstacles you might need to overcome (refer to your Life Factors and personality assessments)? After taking the Life Factors assessment the two obstacles that I might need to overcome are...
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...a neglected and disparaged corner of Irish experience into an arena for burlesque humour and biting satire.” “McCabe is a true original,” says critic and novelist John Banville. “Like Roddy Doyle writing about life in working-class Dublin suburbs, McCabe has used the stuff the rest of us didn’t bother with and made a peculiar kind of rough poetry out of it. He catches that particular kind of bizarre, insane world of Irish country life in the 50’s and 60’s. People like O’Faolain and Frank O’Connor wrote about it in lyrical mode, McGahern wrote about it in tragic mode, but McCabe writes about it in a kind of anti- black comedy that is absolutely unique.” Such aspects of McCabe’s unique style are vividly captured within the given extract from the novel, where McCabe’s unique hybrid bog-gothic style is clearly evident. The theme of Francie Brady’s alienation and separation from society is a dominant concept that develops and intensifies throughout the novel. Alienation refers to the sense of being separated and isolated from others, of not belonging, and in the specified extract McCabe successfully develops the reader’s understanding of Francie as an outsider in a society neither accepts nor understands him due to his inherent since of difference. McCabe presents the alienation of the protagonist Francie Brady as socially, physically and emotionally alone and insecure, using the situation of Francie finding that his best friend Joe was away at boarding school, followed by the...
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...Readers learn more about Arthur’s character from this passage alone. He did not want to leave his home island because it was unpleasant. In fact, Arthur himself admits that the island was beautiful, but he had to leave because it was too small for him. This wanted more stimulation and excitement than the island could offer, and this manifests itself in his romantic life, as he is unable to be faithful or focus on any one person for very long (e.g. his many relationships and divorces). This detailed imagery about Arthur’s hometown of Delano Island creates a greater contrast between his life before and after moving to Toronto. It helps the reader understand that Arthur did not merely go from a suburban landscape to the urban city of Toronto, but the change between his tranquil life in British Columbia to his chaotic life in Toronto was drastic. “The island is all temperate rain forest and rocky beaches, deer breaking into vegetable gardens and leaping in front of windshields, moss of low-hanging branches, the sighing of wind in cedar trees.”...
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