...How to help myself: To stop a phobia: * Rehearse supportive coping statements until they are internalized. “This is just a thought, it has no validity”, “I’ve handles this before I can handle it again”, “I don’t know the future but I can enjoy the now”. * Exposure- for me it would probably be vides, pictures, etc… making myself picture the worst case scenario. Worry exposure *repeated prolonged exposure to fearful images (worst case) of what you’re worried about. Include ways you would deal with it and cope. * reduce frequency of behaviors- for me it would be how often I talk to people and message people about my issues…. * learn to fix the issue, work on changing your attitude towards it--- accept what you cant change. Replace thoughts * This is just a thought, it doesn’t mean its real or true or will happen. * I need to stop messaging about it, and talking about it. * Accept obsessions without making them go away. ADJUSTMENT PERIODS CAN LAST SEEVRAL MONTHS – look up how to adjust to a major life change. * Unlearn responses to phobias while relearning new ones Stop anxious self- talk (what if, and worrying about possibilities). * Negative self- talk comes from mistaken beliefs about yourself and the way the world is. ( chapter 8/9) * If you believe that the future will suck and you cant do it or be yourself or be successful- then it will be true… stop the mistaken beliefs and it will be okay! To fix anxiety/ depression address...
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...self help * * The self help I choose was a NA meeting at noon at Magnolia Park. The reason I choose that meeting is due to the atmosphere and the people.I usto attend this meeting when I as required to go to meetings. I like that meeting because it is at a park and its not in a closed room. The crowed is very welcoming when you go there. * The meeting opened by leader having someone read the first step prayer. We ended the meeting with the serinity prayer. Today they had 5 newcomers. Which of course are the most important people at the meeting. There were 3 sets of sponsors and sponsee interaction. There were 3 birthday`s. One was a 1 year, one was 5 years, and one amazingingly had 27 years. The recovery was amazing. * What I like the most about the meeting was the warm welcoming feeling like its a family. They made sure to demonstrate that the newcomers the most important person there. They greet you with open arms and you feel like you beling. I have been to meetings that you don't feel welcome. I would go to the meeting again. * The things I disliked in the meeting is that there to long. They don't time the people who are sharing so not everyone got a turn. Another thing I disliked was the treasury secretary of the meeting inly had 2 months instead of the 6 months required. * I would describe the meeting as a family. There very welcoming with open arms. There is no discrimination or judgment on being a newcomers. I will recognize this meeting as to...
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...thus far. I created this world that is full of progress. I proudly claim personal responsibility for my life. Taking this step required a skill that needs to be learned by many individuals. The acceptance of inner acknowledgment that we are solely responsible for all our own choices in life - even when life deals us a challenging hand – our acceptance will give us an upper hand. Taking control of that challenge frees us to seek out and accept help for ourselves. In taking on this task we should ask ourselves a simple question, how responsible are we in dealing with the part we played in being who we are today? And if we don't feel like we, ourselves, are responsible for our present situation, then who is the responsible party? Why are we so programmed to blame someone other than ourselves? One of my favorite quotes is by Alexander Graham Bell (1827), and he said, “A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with. A man is what he makes of himself.” In entering adulthood, we consciously (or unconsciously) choose how our self-esteem develops, but most of us seem to always have the thought that, “if it was not for her,” or “if I could only go back and do things different.” We must learn to work out our disappointments, anger, hostility and depression over those regrets and focus on our NOW. Who we are now, and where we are going with this life now. In starting this process it is wise to make a list of those parts of our lives that are inconsistent with the lifestyle...
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...Ranch is more than a place, it’s state of mind and a way of life” Guests are therefore empowered to take command of their lives through fitness, healthier living, integrative wellness and learning how to deal with stress, all which leads to longer and happier lives. At Canyon Ranch the idea is that one can relax, be happier, get health and experience a more fulfilling life. People have been in quest of this goal for as long as anyone can remember therefore its Canyon Ranch’s aim to be the answer to that quest.. There have been different avenues in which to achieve this and at different levels of involvement. Self-help groups, social interaction, clubs, books, articles, and various DVD’s on the subject. But a Canyon Ranch experience is so much more than any self help book or aid can be but of course at a much higher price. Yet with 230 different services no self help book can match that kind of appeal. At one of the Canyon Ranch locations (with the use of the word “location” is intended to be generic) as Canyon Ranch conspicuously doesn’t necessarily call itself a resort, a spa, a golf course, a club or vacation destination as it’s all of these. They do have individual spa clubs but Canyon Ranch is best known as being the total of all these descriptive entities wrapped up into one. Thus simply referencing the name Canyon Ranch conjures up the image of these nouns with even more to go around. The spa clubs...
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...The world around us seems to be filled to the brim with self help books, podcasts, and workshops about helping someone get the life they desire. You name it, someone has created a ten or twelve step program that can change your life and bring you happiness after four payments of $49.99. One of the reasons why there’s so many similar works in the world of self help literature is because it sells. Thomas Aquinas’ Summa Contra Gentiles may not be looked at as a traditional self help guide to happiness by most, but Aquinas makes very compelling arguments on his study of the relationship between honor and happiness, and why honor won’t bring eternal happiness. To understand the relationship between honor and happiness, it’s important to first...
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...company had a great reputation in the industry. 2. What drew you to emergency medicine? * I discovered a passion for paramedicine and the work didn’t seem like work but felt very satisfying at the end of the day. 3. What are a few traits you think a successful paramedic needs to have? * I believe a paramedic has to be able to handle a lot of pressure and stress while remaining focused. I also believe a paramedic must possess a strong stomach as there is a lot that a paramedic must see on a daily basis. I believe a paramedic must also be able to stay in satisfactory shape as there will be a lot of times when a paramedic will need to use their strength to help patients into the back of ambulances. The most important trait I believe a paramedic should have is leadership skills. When people are in need of help, a good paramedic will remain composed and keep their eye on the objective of stabilizing the patient and getting them to a hospital as soon as possible. 4. Can you tell us about a time when you experienced a team failure and how you dealt with it? * One time a few years ago I was working as a private consultant for a client and the client had a situation where they were losing a lot of money due to out dated technology my client was using. Our task was to start reviewing and implementing a new software but the clients president pulled the plug on the funding and put the software implementation on hold. The team was let down because the software did not have...
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...squishy sector that just keeps on growing: the self-help industry. Americans spent $11 billion in 2008 on self-improvement books, CDs, seminars, coaching and stress-management programs–13.6% more than they did back in 2005, according to Marketdata Enterprises, an independent Tampa-based research firm that tracks everything from adoption agencies to funeral homes. Latest forecast: 6.2% annual growth through 2012. Infomercials–peddling everything from weight-loss programs to quick-and-easy real estate schemes–pulled in $1.4 billion in 2008, down 5% from 2007 but still the largest by sales volume of any self-help medium. The hot growth area–up nearly 11% in the last year, to $527 million–includes “holistic institutes” (think the two Chopra Centers, run by alternative-healing guru Deepak Chopra) and “training” companies (such as Dale Carnegie Training, a professional-instruction franchise that aims to hammer home the principals of the author’s best seller How To Win Friends and Influence People). In Pictures: Eight Ways To Market To The Modern Mom In Pictures: 12 Innovative Marketing Techniques In Pictures: Seven Ways To Get The Word Out Locally Who buys into this stuff? Mainly middle-aged, affluent females living on either of the two coasts. What are they getting for their money? In a word: hope. “[The gurus] aren’t selling you the features–they’re selling the image,” says Steve Salerno, author of Sham: How the Self-Help Movement Made America Helpless. “Whatever they...
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...hopeful they would increase their chances of excelling in what they set out to do. The secret can also help an individual’s creativity to improve because it can inspire them to see things differently. For a client who is doubtful about their own potential as a person, it could empower them to see the good in themselves. The motivational messages presented in this movie can be very powerful in helping people overcome their challenges. The movie speaks of a breast cancer survivor and “The Miracle Man” who used the secret and became healthy again .Although this may not seem convincing, it could bring hope to person’s life. Although this movie is a great self help guide, I wouldn’t recommend it to a client. If they experienced a devastating situation in their life it could be very troubling for them to believe that they attracted it. The movie states that all the negative experiences in our life are due to us attracting it. This means that the victims of 9/11, cancer patients, and every victim of the Haiti catastrophe, were the creators of their own suffering. They also say that it is life changing to accept it as our own mistake. I believe that these suggestions are completely wrong. Nobody would want to attract illness, disaster, or hardship into their life. In this part, I think the secret is mistaken. In conclusion, I think that the secret is a great personal development and self-improvement movie. However, I do recognize that it has a defect in the ideas it proposes. I think that...
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...Personal development includes activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations. The concept is not limited to self-help but includes formal and informal activities for developing others in roles such as teacher, guide, counselor, manager, life coach or mentor. When personal development takes place in the context of institutions, it refers to the methods, programs, tools, techniques, and assessment systems that support human development at the individual level in organizations.[1] At the level of the individual, personal development includes the following activities: • improving self-awareness • improving self-knowledge • building or renewing identity/self-esteem • developing strengths or talents • improving wealth • identifying or improving potential • building employability or human capital • enhancing lifestyle or the quality of life • fulfilling aspirations • defining and executing personal development plans • improving social abilities The concept covers a wider field than self-development or self-help: personal development also includes developing other people. This may take place through roles such as those of a teacher or mentor, either through a personal competency (such as the skill of certain managers in developing the potential of employees) or a professional...
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...STYLES INVENTORY(LSI) Introduction: Thinking and Behavior "The quest for leadership is first an inner quest to discover who you are” (p.391).[1] --Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner--- Self-awareness is foundational to effective leadership and organization success[2]. Research in leadership and organizational behavior indicates that managers who are blind to who they are, and to the effects they have on other people in their organizations, place their effectiveness and their careers at risk. A frequently cited axiom is "the first commandment of leadership is to know thyself." For example, in their studies of managerial and executive derailment, the Center for Creative Leadership found that successful managers: (1) understand their values, personal styles, and strengths and weaknesses; (2) know the impact of these values, styles, and strengths and weaknesses on their ability to effectively work with others and achieve their goals; and (3) are quick to reflect upon and learn from their own experiences. Despite these advantages, we often resist opportunities to increase our self-awareness or to acknowledge error. We fear that learning something new about ourselves will be painful -- doing so may require us to change our treasured and habitual ways of seeing, thinking, and behaving. Self-awareness is also an important barometer to ensure that even the best leadership practices don't become destructive. As Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner caution us in "The Leadership Challenge"...
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...distant. He had a very nice your lady that he dated from our church but he could never really adjust or connect with her, and that’s when I started to believe he had been abused in prison. He would have headaches for days and sometimes he couldn’t sleep for days. I am telling this story because I would like for our son not return to prison, but if that’s not possible please make sure he can receive the counseling that he really needs to keep him on the right track mentally. If you could see him when he comes to church all the young men loves hanging around him, because they love hearing him playing the drums and rapping his music. Since he has been in jail this time he is already trying to improve himself. He asked his dad to send him self help books by Robert Greene, 48 Laws of Power, and The Art of Seduction. If Michael could be given probation, mandatory counseling for depression, community service and steady work to keep his mind occupied he will again be a model citizen. He has so much talent and ability, where he can teach and encourage other young men to take the right road, and not adhere to peer...
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...millionaire mindset club essential book summaries HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie INTRODUCTION When Dale Carnegie first sat down to write How to Win Friends and Influence People he really didn’t realize exactly what a best seller it would be, nor did he realize that over 70 years later it would still be in print - and be acclaimed as ‘the best all time’ self-help book in the world. The book was first published in 1937 and was developed from the real life experiences of hundreds of people, rather than from just one person’s opinions. The idea for the book was brought about by the results of an investigation conducted by the Carnegie Foundation that was carried out to determine how people became financially successful. The investigation found that success took only fifteen percent of actual technical knowledge, and that the actual key to success rested on the other eighty five percent. This eighty five percent was identified as possessing skills in human engineering: the ability to get on with others well, your individual outlook and people skills. These results came as a shock to many at the time as these skills were not widely taught in courses or classes. A new concept had been discovered and a large hole emerged that needed to be filled by a new peopled-skilled class. This is how the Dale Carnegie Course In Effective Speaking and Human Relations was born – and the book a mere set of ideas on memo cards which were discussed and lectured on. These...
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...(page 7) I first read this book when I was 15 years old and had to live in a hostel for the first time, to prepare for my JEE. It was a very difficult time for me, I felt homesick, scared about my academics and was finding it difficult to cope with the new environment. It may sound too good to be true but I read and implemented the advice in How To Stop Worrying and Start Living and it really helped! It helped me to control my worrying and live a balanced life. I still reread the book regularly and especially when I need a boost. As Dale Carnegie says, it is not the kind of book that you should only read once. This book should be used as a workbook for life. It is for me. Hence I chose this book to write a review, hoping that it would help someone find it in times of need. There are so many reasons why I think this is a...
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...“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.” -Albert Einstein- There are many who believe this day has arrived. In a world of smartphones, emails and text messages, a unique and negative situation is developing – the deterioration of one’s interpersonal, conversational and social skills. How important are these skills? If you want to maximize your business and/or career potential they are an absolute necessity. In business you not only need to communicate, but you also have to educate, stimulate and motivate. The obvious positive aspect of face-to-face or at least voice-to-voice is the enhanced ability to read body language or measure tonal response. But there is so much more in developing the skills necessary and how best to use technology to accomplish them. It starts with what doesn't change, human nature and developing an understanding of the principles and methodology based on it. What changes are the tools we use and how we use technology to communicate. Understanding what motivates people, how to foster teamwork and collaboration are fundamental needs of any organization. Do you know what "drives" employee engagement? Studies have shown that if an employee is dissatisfied with their immediate supervisor, there is an 80 percent chance that they are disengaged. This statistic reinforces the significance of building positive relationships in the workplace. Similarly, having a “caring” manager is one of...
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...Cherie Smith 01/20/13 Week 2 Homework: LSI Conflict Results Your LSI ConflictResults LSI ConflictMain Menu LSI ConflictSelf-Development Guide Self Improvement Planner LSI ConflictHelp Name: D03095628 Date Survey Taken: 1/20/2013 LSI Conflict Circumplex LSI Conflict enables you to identify and understand how both your thinking patterns (or "styles") and coping behaviors influence your ability to deal with conflict situations. In doing so, the inventory provides a point-in-time picture of your particular orientation to conflict, reflected in the circular graph or "profile circumplex" below. LSI Conflict measures three conflict orientations: Constructive (colored blue), Passive/Defensive (colored green), and Aggressive/Defensive (colored red). Higher scores for the 11, 12, 1, and 2 o'clock styles reflect a CONSTRUCTIVE conflict orientation. Individuals exhibiting these styles deal with conflict effectively; they see conflict situations as opportunities for personal growth, treat opponents as respected equals, and tend to have a goal beyond winning or losing which enables them to benefit regardless of the conflict's outcome. Higher scores for the 3, 4, 5, and 6 o'clock styles reflect a PASSIVE/DEFENSIVE conflict orientation. In general, individuals with these styles are threatened by conflict and assume a passive approach. They believe conflict is unnecessary and destructive and prefer to avoid it. Higher scores for the 7, 8, 9, and 10 o'clock styles...
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