...a detached observation especially in our case bullying. Most people know or have heard of bullying within the school, sports, mass media, by peers, at work, even in religion and by family but the latter is the one that is the least acknowledged or reported. Where do we think bullying starts or is learned first? Most times it is at home in the family between siblings or from mother to daughter or father to son or even children to parents. In these cases, the word used is not bullying but other words that are less damaging consequently sibling rivalry or just being boys, sometimes personality conflicts. What happens when your family are bullies? Even in the household, it is very common for siblings to pick on each other but at what point is it just playful antics or classified as bullying. The eldest or first born will try to establish a hierarchy over the younger ones or the differences held by step brothers and sisters. What about the other dynamics of parents being bullies? How does a child feel when their parent is the bully, whether physically or emotionally? Most parents would not think that they are bullies but just want the best for their...
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...Sibling Rivalry Assignment A Summary: The text ‘’When the Bully Is a Sibling’’ writing by Anahad O’Connor is about how a sibling is a bully. The text shows different opinions on how these skirmishes between siblings needs recognition. Corinna Jenkins Tucker thinks that bad behaviors among siblings that are crossing the line into being abuse deserves more attention. New research is showing that sibling conflicts can cause psychological wounds as damaging as the pain caused by bullies in school. The reason why the bullying between siblings have not been studied so much is that everyone thinks it is ordinary for siblings to fight and is widely considered as a harmless rite of passage. Parents have an incredible big influence on the sibling’s behavior. The problem with parent is that they favorites their children, and puts them into categories like ‘’the smart one’’ and ‘’the atlete’’. That was some different reasons and opinions on bullying between siblings. Outline: In two different texts, we are seeing some positive and negative aspects of sibling rivalry. In the text ‘’A nasty case of sibling rivalry’’ we hear about Joanna Briscoes relationship to her little brother, and how they actually saw the conflict as being a matter of life or death. It was a fight between aggression and strategy. The psychotherapist Philip Hodson says: ‘’they have entered an evolutionary struggle for the milk supply (also known as the love supply)’’ according to Phillip Hodsons saying, we are...
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...CHAPTER TWO Review of Literature Introduction Current educational research on bullying imbedded in bullying programs instruct Educators on how to handle different aspects of bullying episodes and, on how to instill an understanding of student’s perceptions of bullying incidents, however, not all teachers have the same perception of bullying interactions. Everyone comes to the table with their own set of definitions and perspectives based upon their background and upbringing. There is a need to examine these varied perceptions and understandings and how people in schools define and respond to bullying. There are critical gaps in the existing research on this subject and by identifying and understanding teacher perceptions of bullying in this time frame of 2013, response to incidents involving student bullying will provide useful insights while also providing future researchers points of comparison. The purpose of Chapter Two is to support examination of my body of research and to determine similarities and differences in teacher perceptions of bullying in their schools. Background information will be provided to the reader on the kinds of bullying and their definitions, and what affects accompany bullying episodes and current existing attitudes about bullying. Review of the Related Literature Bullying has been come to be defined as the repeated aggressive behavior that can be either physical, psychological to...
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...crimes per 1,000 students enrolled in 2009–10. During the same year, 60 percent of schools reported one of the specified crimes to the police, amounting to about 689,000 crimes—or 15 crimes per 1,000 student’s enrolled.” http://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=49. That is a lot of school related crimes and those are just the ones that are being reported. What do I consider a violent act? When I think of violence I tend to only think of the actions that produce physical harm to a person. But the definition of violence” is an extreme form of aggression, such as assault, rape or murder. Violence has many causes which include frustration, exposure to violent media, violence in the home or neighborhood and a tendency to see other people’s actions as hostile even when they’re not.” American Psychological Association; Violence; http://www.apa.org/topics/violence/index.aspx. When I think of school violence and where it happens I would believe it to be of what happens in schools classrooms, hallways and any part of the school building but in fact it expands to all school property. So when our children are riding the school bus or walking to and from school it is considered school time. Bullying occurs in different ways at home, at school, trough the social media, video...
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...BULLYING A bully is a person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people, according to Merriam-Webster. The example of a bully has since evolved from the 1950’s Walt Disney version of the big, tall fat kid who goes around terrorizing the other ten year olds. The new aged bully no longer steals your lunch money, pushes you around and calls you names, now it’s far more psychological than it appears. But what are the affects that a bully has on the person that they harass and push around. The story we always hear is the bully will eventually get what’s coming to them and the defenseless kid rides happily off into the sunset. Is that true and is that what really happens? Reports have shown that 77% of students have reported being bullied in school and in fact an estimated 160,000 students miss school each day for the fear of being bullied. When your child comes running home from school upset that one of the bullies at school has been picking on him, as a parent your first initial react could be that your child may just need to ignore him or your other reaction to the situation could be that you’d like to go up to the school and talk with the teacher or principal. The proper way psychologist say you should react to speaking with your child is to try to be empathetic and ask them, “What do you think might help?” This will help make your child feel that everything is fine and that the problem will be addressed and give them a feeling of reassurance...
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...in the paper which tries to explain or clarified some reasons why some children would resort to bullying others. The Strain Theory spoke about the victim who is the bullied would retaliate because of the strain condition that he or she is under. The Pecking Theory is where they relate the behaviour of animals on how dominance is displayed by over another in the animal kingdom. The Scapegoat Theory explains the act of minority groups and the so called depression that exerts from their behaviour It also brought to the forefront besides the theories mention that some of the children who are victim of such behaviour of bullying would not talk about it because of the consequences that they feared of being further victimized, if the bully was to find out. The main aspect of the paper was that the people who were bullied actually became criminals and sometimes committing suicide in the interim. The aspect of bullying is a social problem in schools across United States of America and throughout the world. But how it is managed and tackled in society could avoid detrimental result. How Relevant are the findings in our today...
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...powerful. This behavior is normally repeated and can involve one or many kids. Bullying is more than verbally attacking someone. It includes making threats, physically attacking someone, spreading rumors, and even excluding someone from a group. (Bullying, 2013) (Stop Bullying, 2012) (Bullying, 2013) Everyone plays a role in bullying whether you are the bully or standing back and watching. The kid who bullies other kids could have many reasons for being a bully. They might think it’s the cool thing since their friends are bullies, or the child could be learning from their parents or siblings. A child that is a bully might have one of many reasons to be a bully. Family can play a large role on a child. If the child doesn’t feel loved by their family, aren’t disciplined or are overly disciplined, or are beat up by their older siblings, they might be a bully. The child may also model the behavior of their family to know what is right. Peers of your child can also be a factor of bullying. If your child’s friends bully others and have a positive feeling about violence, your child may become a bully. They will feel that being a bully will enhance their social power and deflect taunting away from them and...
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...A bully is defined as a person who uses superior strength to influence or intimidate another person or to force him or her to do what they want.In Zimmerman’s article on” Homophobia hurts straight men, too,” it talks about a college student who committed suicide after his roommate videotaped him and another boy having sex. Bullying can be found almost everywhere in homes, on the internet, and especially in schools. Bullying has a lot of repercussions that affect people in many ways. Recently, bullying has been blamed for the rising number of teenage suicides all over the country. No one is born to be a bully, it is a taught skill (Kropar). A victim of bullying doesn’t ask to be hurt; it’s a product of ignorance from today’s society. State agencies like the Department of Education could start implementing stricter rules to protect students. Bullying has become a problem that needs to be addressed as soon as possible to protect victims everywhere. Children who are raised by a family that has no structure or morals are at higher risk of becoming bullies. For example, a child that grows up in a substance abuse home usually gets abused by their parents physically and verbally especially when those parents are tweaking for the next high. As a result they tend to express their feelings by inflicting pain on others because they can’t take out their pain on their parents for fear of getting abused more. Another reason could be due to parents getting a divorce leaving this child to...
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...A six year old child calls another child ugly. Should this child be charged with bullying? I would say absolutely NOT! So where do we draw the line with the anti-bullying law? Who decide what exactly can be considered bullying? I believe that our society has forgotten how to teach our children to love themselves despite what someone else might say! It is a shame that children are taking their lives because someone is bullying them. The recent rise in adolescence suicide is evidence of this. I believe that these issues are solely based on a child's self-esteem. I think the responsibility lies on the parents to teach their children how to love themselves. It is silly that simple childhood name calling can cause a child to be arrested. What happened to the old saying of teaching a child to have "tough skin?" No, instead we blame the school and everyone else for not protecting the child. Children need to be taught how to have high self-esteem. We have become a generation that seems to lack time and interest in our children. A parent's daily reminder that a child is pretty, or smart, or has nice eye, can help build a child's self-esteem. Yet, instead we work long hours trying to achieve this American dream of the rags to riches ideology. We now choose to blame the system for our lack of involvement. Bullying is unavoibable, but it is the adults who need to change how they respond to it by not running to the courtrooms. We’re talking about kids. Kids — and I don’t want to ruin anybody’s...
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...of attachment behaviors. Once established, an attachment relationship becomes the basis of an internal working model that the child applies to future interactions with the attachment figure and with others. 2. What factors influence the parent’s bond to the child? For parents to form a strong bond to their infant, what is most crucial is not immediate contact at birth but the development and repetition of mutually reinforcing and interlocking attachment behaviors. 3. How does the child’s attachment to the parent change across infancy, early childhood, and middle childhood? Beginning around 6 months of age, which signals the presence of a clear attachment. Attachment behaviors become less visible during the preschool years, except when the child is stressed. School-aged children exhibit less safe behaviors than infants and preschoolers do, but extended separations can still be stressful. 4. What are the characteristics of parent-child relationships in adolescence? The child’s basic attachment to the parents remains strong in adolescence, despite an increase in parent-child conflict, the greater independence of the teenager, and the increased role of the peer group. 5. How does the behavior of securely and insecurely attached infants differ? The secure infant uses the parent as a safe base for exploration and can be readily consoled by the parent. Insecurely attached infants display a variety of patterns, including ambivalence toward and avoidance of parents. ...
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...Bullies Behind Bars Creating and Enforcing Bullying Laws in the United States ENG120 Abstract In the past decade there have been a growing number of teenage suicide attempts and successes. Many of these come from some form of bullying and harassment in our schools. Bullies leave scars on our children that last long into their adulthood; if they are lucky enough to make it to adulthood. This behavior has long been accepted as “boys will be boys.” Well boys are no longer boys and girls are sometimes more cruel than boys. It’s time we as parents and adults tell these bullies that their behavior has consequences and we as a society will no longer accept their behavior. Creating and Enforcing Bullying Laws in the United States. After my parents split up, life as I had known it for 9 years had changed. My father was gone and we were now living in a small apartment and my mother was on food stamps. I didn’t get my clothes from the store any longer. My clothes came from the church and lots of kids in school let me know it every day. I was called poor, told I was wearing others trash, called names and even tripped a few times. It only lasted a month or so, and then they moved on to the next one and left me alone. Today the bullies are going worldwide on the web. They are harassing you until you want to crawl in a hole and die and unfortunately some do just that. I was fortunate that my bullying experience was short lived, but it never left my mind. When I had my daughter...
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...abuse turns into the child becoming a bully, and bullying to someone committing suicide. The abuser is usually an individual who has high anxiety and has not learned to deal with it like others. Most people would disagree or argue that child abusers can be AND are bullies. I think you are what you see. These kids grow up in abusive homes with no one to turn to for guidance. Tim Field, a prominent British anti-bullying activist, states, "Being bullied by a serial bully is equivalent to being stalked or being battered by a partner or being abused as a child and should be accorded the same gravity." He saying child abuse and bullying have the same consequences as someone getting beat to death. Being abused as a child can result in negative behavior in the future. You either turn into a bully or look at the negative and turn it to a positive. Look at your situation and help someone else from going through what you have. Field founded the UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line and also wrote and published a book, Bully In Sight based on his own experiences. I think when a child is bullied they were a victim of a violent parent, a close family member, or a friend. Whatever the case may have been, research study done by Melissa Holt, showed that out of 700 fifth grade students 14% were bullies, 12% were victims, 8% bully-victims and 66% not involved in bullying (Holt).This shows what’s going on in our schools. I think a lot of children bully others because of what they have seen...
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...I. Introduction What is bullying? A bully is defined as a person who uses superior strength to influence or intimidate another person or to force him or her to do what they want. Bullying can be found almost everywhere in homes, on the internet, and especially in schools. Bullying has a lot of repercussions that affect people in many ways. Recently, bullying has been blamed for the rising number of teenage suicides all over the country. No one is born to be a bully, it is a taught skill (Kropar). A victim of bullying doesn’t ask to be hurt; it’s a product of ignorance from today’s society. Agencies like the Department of Education could start implementing stricter rules to protect students. Bullying has become a problem that needs to be addressed as soon as possible to protect victims everywhere. Bullying has become a main issue and as time goes on it seems as if there is nothing that can done to prevent it from happening. Whether the bully hassles that person or they see it happening to someone else down the road, it is something everyone encounters every day no matter where they go. To understand the actions of bullying, people first need to understand what a bully is. There is no specific type of a bully or their victim; they come in all shapes and sizes. Some bully because they have a hard life at home, others may bully because they simply find joy in making others feel smaller than they do personally. It is easy to identify why people are victims of bullying, but pinpointing...
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...same children in the same bully and victim roles. It differs from harassment and discrimination in that the focus is rarely based on gender, race, or disability. Children bully because of abuse at home, feelings, and inferiority. The consequences and effects of bullying are that the bullies suffer mentally in future, commit suicide, or suffer from depression. The solutions of bullying are to get together, talk about it, and educate people. Children bully because they are abused at home, to achieve popularity, they are in need of money to fulfill their wishes and desires, they are hungry and they need to eat at drink because they don’t get fed at home, they are coping with a serious family situation, they have learned violence at home, they have displaced anger, they feel powerless and out of control, and they lack self-esteem. People may bully because they are jealous of someone and they may not know how it makes other people feel and the person who is bullying may be bullied him or herself too. The consequences and effects of bullying are very bad. According to statistics from Smithtown Elementary School, by age twenty-three children who were identified as bullies in Middle school suffered from depression and low self-esteem than their peers who were not bullies. By age twenty-four, sixty percent of identified bullies had a criminal record. Bullies are less likely to finish college or locate long-term employment. Children who are labeled as bullies by their peers require more...
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...to take a look at the components, and types of bullying. How does bullying affect self-esteem? What are the gender and sexual orientation influences, and the effect of family interactions? The effects of bullying causes emotional distress, depression, fear, worry, anxiety, humiliation, loss of self-esteem, and can lead to suicide. The goals of the bully, is to be dominant over their victims, control their victim, and to project on to the victim, feelings of vulnerability. Power imbalance is an important factor for the bully, because they view their victims unable to defend themselves. (2011, Conflict with Character) Bullies seek weak, vulnerable victims, and the victims are left with feelings of helplessness. Bullying is often progressive, and victims are bullied through various methods, which include direct, verbal and indirect bullying. Direct bullying includes shoving, pushing, spitting, or hitting, and kicking. Remember, bulling is not a joke, or an accident, it is direct harassment done on purpose. Direct bullying is an aggressive method, taking advantage of age, size, and strength of their victim. More often than not bullies pick on the same victim over and over. While not limited to males, they often use the direct style of bulling. Verbal bullying abuses through words, and can be as aggressive as threatening, yelling, intimidating, and then often laughing at their victim. Verbal abuse comes in the form of criticizing the way the victim looks, dress,...
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