...Power of Love & Relationships Introduction If you have ever been in a relationship then you have experienced attraction and some form of love. Often times we wonder how we ended up in a particular relationship or why it went wrong. Then we look at relationships of people we know who are still together after many years and wonder what the trick is to having a relationship like that. The only way to answer these questions is to look at the various factors which contribute to the forming of attractions, love and relationships. We also need to understand the different types of love so we understand the differences in the love we feel for family, friends and partners. Having the ability to distinguish between the different forms of love can help to keep us from mistaking close friends for potential dates or partners. Six Factors of Attraction Attraction can be a tricky thing to understand. There are times we will find someone we are physically attracted but for some reason beyond the initial physical attraction nothing else is there. This is because there are multiple factors to attraction, six to be exact. Have you ever become friends with someone who you did not like upon meeting them? This is rather common. It is in part due to the mere-exposure effect which is our tendency to like people more when we are exposed to them on a regular basis (Myers, 2010). The frequent exposure may cause a friendship to form between unlikely candidates. Frequent exposure can...
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...Love and Relationships: Then and Now Love at first sight can seem unattainable. Some people claim to have known that they were supposed to be with someone the second they met them, and some say that one cannot experience love at first sight because one does not really know someone until they spend quality time with the person they believe that they are meant to be with. The concept and accepted, societal definition of a real, serious relationship has changed so much throughout history, and Taming of the Shrew and 10 Things I Hate About You are two examples that show this progression. In the 1600’s, relationships and love were very rare, men just wanted to marry the most beautiful woman; whereas in modern times, relationships are portrayed as much more casual. In Shakespeare’s play, Taming of the Shrew, marriage is a very important concept, but it is very different than it is now. It is the fathers job to give away his daughters to the most wiling suitor, or the man who makes the best deal. If a suitor is interested in pursuing and marrying someone, the suitor will approach the daughter’s father and meet with him. They write a contract, willing things to the suitor and the father’s daughter for when the father dies, such as large proportions of land, or his home. If the daughter has multiple suitors, the father will choose who presented him with the best contract, not necessarily who loves his daughter the most or who his daughter wants to be with. Petruchio and Katharina’s...
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...Power of Love and Relationships Ashford University Psychology 301 Professor Michelle A. Abstract “We tend to like those who are similar to us in values and interests rather than those who are different. We prefer to not over benefit or under benefit in a relationship, but have a relationship characterized by equity. We also tend to like those who like us and only us” (Feenstra, 2013). In this paper I will describe the factors of attractions and what attracts us to one another. Also I will discuss why we are likely to befriend someone from another culture than someone from a similar background with a similar physical aesthetic. The human need to build bonds and relationships will also be discussed. If we have an innate need to belong, the attachment to our emotions, social bonds, and our fear of deprivation will be outlined. I will also explain the three types of love and describe the differences and similarities between them. Sternberg’s triangular theory of love will be discussed as well. Power of Love and Relationships In life we cross many people and our interaction and relationship differs every time. Feenstra states that first-year students were more likely to develop a friendship with someone they sat next to during an introductory session than those they were not sitting near (Feenstra, 2013). This is true as I have witnessed when I was a student on campus. I tended to gravitate towards those who were in my class. “The most important factor in our liking...
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...Power of Love and Relationships Within this paper I will be discussing power of love and relationships, by describing the factors of attraction. What attracts us to one another? Why are we less likely to befriend someone from another culture than someone from a similar background with a similar physical aesthetic? Be sure to identify and describe all six factors in attraction. As well as discuss the human need to build bonds and relationships. Do we have an innate need to belong? If so, why? How is this need attached to our emotions, our social bonds, and our fear of deprivation? Then lastly explain the three types of love: companionate, passionate, and compassionate. What are the differences and similarities among them? What is an example of each type? How does Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love distinguish romantic love, from empty love or infatuation? Attraction Within the discussion of what attracts people to one another? The textbook states “we like those who are close to us… , …we like those who are attractive… , …we like those who are similar to us… , …we like those we have equitable relationships with… and …we like those who are hard to get.” (Feenstra, 2013) It is easy to understand the first of these as the likelihood or meeting and establish a relation is more likely with people that are in our general proximity. But with age of the online community and social networking company that are out there is a growing connection that are being made with people that...
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...Scorpio in a romance. Unlike guys of other signs, Scorpio has a special preference – showing his affection through texts. If he is interested in you, he will never stop the conversation no matter how much the cost is. Texting is one of the best ways to get to know somebody, according to some Scorpio natives. When it comes to love relationships, people mainly focus on the physical connection; however, the Scorpio guy expects something deeper than that. He is more prone to the emotional connection. At first, he probably sees you as an ordinary person like anybody else, although he may think you attractive inside. How to make him open up about his feelings? The ultimate answer is – gaining his trust. Once he talks comfortably about his private matters to you, you can dream...
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...Joanna Antonopoulos Love hate relationship. That’s how I would describe my relationship with science. I can’t recall the first in class science experiment I did in school, but towards the end of 5th grade, I ran against other 5th graders in a science fair and the objective was to build your own experiment and use the scientific method. Well, I decided to do an experiment on what water can conduct electricity so I took 3 different types of water: such as: distilled, tap, and undistalled water. With those 3 different waters, I put the lightbulb wires in the water and only the distilled water was able to conduct electricity. I wish the schools I went to, payed more attention to science rather than art. I feel like it would have been...
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...Student’s Name: Course: Tutor: Date Love, commitment and pure relationship In 1980, Sharon Thompson conducted an investigation about the attitudes values and sexual behavior of American teenagers. She discovered major differences between the way boys and girls discussed this topic. She found that the boys were not in a position to talk much about sex. The boys only talked about sex in a briefed manner that appears it only occurs at different intervals in time. What she discovered on girls was contrary to the boys. The girls seemed to understand this topic very well that they discussed lengthy on the topic with very little contribution from the interviewer. Sharon concluded that girls are more addicted to love and romance than boys. Thompson concluded that romance gears sexuality in a way that sexual activities are seen as a way an ultimate relationship. However, this affects mostly the girls because girls breaking their virginity is considered as a loss while boy’s first sexual experience is considered as again. Boys tend to force sexual activities while girls prefer to take it slow. Virginity in girls is seen as something given up. Thompsons concluded that sexual diversity exist along the persistence of romance thoughts although it is not easy at times. This was discovered from the lesbians interview where they found it irresistible than the heterosexuals. Thompson discovered that girls she spoke to did not have to fight to attain sexual freedom. These...
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...years pass, I will always remember the warm summers and the cold winters that I spent as a little girl in Strawberry Valley. * Body: * Setting * I had a love-hate relationship with those three hour drives to the mountain. * Scenery (Desert) * Dry/Barren * Rocks * Car games * A-Z * I Spy * Climax (tr. One weekend…) * Caves * Four wheeling * Fishing * Spending nights around the fire * Ending * Family * Time with dad * Ability to get lost within what mother nature has created * Conclusion (tr. In the end) * Although I no longer get to take trips to the mountain, it is a memory that will stay close to my heart forever. Mountain Memories From a young age, I can remember the smell of the trees and turns in the road that led us to the cabin. This was a drive that I remember taking several hundred times throughout my childhood. These drives took me far from the big city to a small village where I could truly embrace Mother Nature’s creation. No matter how many years pass, I will always remember the warm summers and the cold winters that I spent as a little girl in Strawberry Valley. I had a love-hate relationship with the three hour drives to the mountain. Trips from Las Vegas to Strawberry Valley mostly consisted of the dry and barren desert. As I watched out my window, I could see a...
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...The Bean Called Peanut When given this writing assignment, I first thought of all the things I know about a peanut. I thought of the simple things like a peanut is a nut that is brown and grows inside a pod. What I did not immediately think about what the actual purpose of this essay—to write about what I observed about the peanut given to me by my instructor. I had grabbed five peanut shells out of the large bag that probably came from Costco. I chose one to observe and I decided on the one that seemed to have the most character on the outside. At first sight, the pod seemed to be brittle and weak due to the breakage of the outer shell which exposed the root-like veins. It was disproportionately shaped where one side was almost twice as large as the other side. The first thing that came to my mind when I looked at the shape of this peanut was the ultrasound picture of a fetus. It was bent in the center and one side looked like a head. I was immediately distracted by the thought of whether the peanut was salted or unsalted, so I licked the shell to find that it was salted. The texture against my tongue was rough and almost fuzzy and I could also feel the pores and veins of the inner part of the shell. I began to rub the shell with my finger and experienced similar feeling as I did with my tongue, but against my skin it reminded me of the how the bottom of my dog’s paws feel. I examined the imperfections of the shell and found a small pin size hole at the tip of...
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...How are the thoughts and feelings presented in the extract from Origin of the Species? Compare to War of the Worlds. The extract from Darwin’s Origin of Species – ‘Recapitulation and Conclusion’ – presents Darwin’s final ideas of Natural Selection and to convince and challenge the scientific community, as well as the general population due to the religious controversy. Similarly to Darwin’s extract, the novel ‘The War of the Worlds’ by H. G. Wells also challenges traditional thinking and presents ideas of Natural Selection. However, indicates a sense of fear and shock at the rate of changing opinions which are presented through language, structure and form. Both the extract and the novel present ideas of change in the fields of science and religion. Darwin presents the idea that science is much more powerful than originally thought. Although, does not dismiss religion, therefore creating a balanced argument, which makes his theologies more accepted by the readers. ‘…not as special creations, but lineal the descendants…’ This quote is representative of Darwin’s controversial ideas as he is disagreeing with past assumptions by suggesting a limit to God’s power – ‘not as special creations...’, highlighting that man or God has...
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...Assignment: Attachment Style and Relationships Week 2 | Write a 350- to 700-word response summarizing the three dimensions of love and how they interrelate to identify a specific type of love relationship. Read Chapter 11.Write a 700- to 1,050-word response explaining how you believe an individual’s attachment style can affect the types of love relationships he or she has. Respond thoroughly and specifically. Remember the importance of grammar, spelling, punctuation and style. Note that you MUST use the text to support your responses, demonstrating that you have learned the material through the required reading assignments. | There are three different love and attachment styles that define what kind of relationship an individual has with another human being or beings. The three that are usually used to describe a person’s attachment to another are passionate, intimacy and companionate types of love. There are many differences in these types of relationships which will be described here. Passionate or love that attracts has characteristics that are more external than internal. This means that their love is based more on sexual attraction and sex than it does on love. This type of love is also compared to the term “Romantic Love.” When asked to describe what this meant by people, the leading attribute of this type of love was stated as being “sexual in nature, not happiness, loyalty, or sharing”, according to Pamela Ragan and her colleagues, (1998) In the...
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...representative sample. In addition, girls who witnessed violence are nearly twice as likely as boys to experience posttraumatic stress disorder later in life. . Nonlove This love consists only of intimacy component. Among individuals who experience this kind of love interwoven physical and emotional closeness. However, this kind of love usually only happens in the friendship. Both sides feel there is a close relationship is warm, but not accompanied with deep emotion (passion) and long-term commitment. You certainly do not mind if a friend should continue their studies or changed jobs to another city, right? In love this friendship no attachment that forces each party to always be together. 2. Infatuation Often called love love at first sight. This love is likened to come from the eye and then down to the heart. When he saw the object of love, passion to always arise together. Though maybe you do not actually have the closeness that exists with the object of love. Passion is the only component of love that exist in these types of love relationships. There is no emotional closeness that exists and also there is no commitment. That is why, infatuition easily arise and are also easily lost. 3. Empty Love In this affair there are only components of commitment. Lots of love-turned-love hollow as time passes. Relationship that at first feels warm and passionate, sometimes turn into a hollow because the components...
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...that doesn’t stop them from seeing other people. These two eventually become involved with the relationships of Jay Gatsby and George Wilson, which eventually leads all of these relationships into ruins. Tom and Daisy ruin all that they touch when they both crush Gatsby's loving affair with Daisy, Wilson's love for Myrtle, and the love in their own marriage. Tom and Daisy's power of destroying love can be seen early in the novel when the reader discovers that Tom and Daisy have ruined the love in their own marriage. When Tom and Daisy are married it is clear that the love in their relationship expired soon after the wedding ceremony. The love in their relationship is clearly all gone when Daisy has her child and Tom is nowhere to be found, and most likely with another woman. Though, the worst part about this loveless marriage is that it seems that Tom and Daisy have accepted their relationship as dead, due to Daisy knowing that Tom is cheating on her, but refuses to take action against it. Tom and Daisy’s power of the destroying love in any relationship they come in contact with is shown in their own marriage because it shows us that no relationship is safe from their corruption. Tom and Daisy’s inability to keep love in their own relationship opens up our minds to just how efficient they are at sucking love from the hearts of those they know, since they can’t help but suck the love right from their own marriage....
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...The Nature of Relationships in Different Cultures Hofstede defined culture as “the collective programming of the mind which distinguishes the members of one group from another”. From research analysis Hofstede was able to classify the different countries on a continuum from extremely individualistic to extremely collectivist. Relationships in individualistic and collectivist societies differ in the degree to which they are voluntary or non-voluntary. Individualistic societies generally have a high degree of social & geographical mobility, allowing frequent interaction with a large number of people and thus a greater choice in romantic relationships. Collectivist societies have less social and geographical mobility thus people have less choice about whom they interact with. Also, Interactions with strangers are rare and are often tied to other factors such as family or economic resources. Cultures also differ in the degree to which relationships reflect the interests of the individual or the family. In individualistic societies, individual interests are deemed more important & romantic relationships are more likely to be formed on the basis of love & attraction. Also, relationships tend to be short-term as one can end the relationship if one is unhappy whereas In collectivist cultures, relationships are more likely to reflect the interests of the entire family and are long-term. This is because, one cannot end the relationship despite being unhappy because they need to...
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...Attraction: Power of Love and Relationships Every so often the question arises, what is love? In antithesis to shared beliefs about attraction by many human beings it is not something that is mystical nor is it something that can hardly be assumed but there are lots of rules that oversee the manner. Love is a word that carries many meanings. Even though there are people who become attracted to others in the same way, still it occurs for various reasons with each individual. The paper that I am writing is about love and relationship. This paper will be addressing the factors of attraction, the human need to build bonds and relationships, and the three types of love which are, companionate, passionate, and compassionate. In the world that we live in and the many differences that we have with one another like race, backgrounds, and cultures love is the one constant that we all share in common. Love is what connects us to others all around the world. When you allow yourself to become connected with another human being you automatically set yourself up to be exposed to love. As the emotional human being that we are we learn to what love is and how to express it from the time that we are children during our childhood until we become adults and we begin to express love in our adulthood. On our journey from childhood to adulthood we learn that every relationship that we encounter is different from the one to the other. These relationships depend on the factors that are...
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