A THEORY ON THE INEVITABLE CONDITIONING OF THE HEART TO LOVE

The heart, figuratively speaking, is conditioned to love anyone or anything even if it despises or abhors it in the beginning. It is only a matter of time. Since the development of a human being does not stop when he reaches adolescence or adulthood, he is still therefore capable of changing and adapting to outside forces even as he grows older.
To prove this theory, think of your own family members and be aware that you did not choose any of them to become your relatives. They all have their shortcomings and negative qualities, and yet you still love and appreciate them in ways you cannot even explain. The same thing goes for a certain kind of food you once disliked. You may not have appreciated its taste at first, but as you continued to eat it habitually, either by force or by will, you seem to notice its good qualities more and more through time and tend to ignore the things you once hated it for. Thus, this theory can be applied to people. The heart (again, figuratively speaking) has an inevitable tendency to love, either romantically or platonically, any being as long as it coincides with the following factors: * If the subject sees or spends time with the specific being habitually through a long period of time; and * If the being shows pleasant behavior to the subject as time goes on, even if he/she was initially unpleasant

Since human beings are capable of adjusting to different situations or predicaments, it is very likely that through time, the subject will learn to see the negative characteristics of a certain person as simply small flaws that are part of the person’s good personality as a whole. And as the subject adjusts, he is then inclined more and more to form a deeper relationship, whether intimate or not, with the person.

QUESTIONS: 1. What prompted you to come up with this theory? * My observations on people, the course I’m taking up, and probably the effect of watching too much movies have all prompted me to come up with this theory. 2. What philosophical assumptions did you have and how did these influence your theory? * Again, through my observations, I’ve realized that people are wired to adjust to the environment and to the people around them. Kind of like Charles Darwin’s “Survival of the Fittest” but on a lighter level. 3. How long have you been testing your theory? * I have been testing this theory for three years now. 4. What kinds of evidences have you used and how is your theory being sustained? * Movies such as “The Notebook,” “The Great Gatsby,” and Disney’s “Tarzan” have all contributed in proving my theory. I have also proven it on people such as myself, and on my brother regarding his relationship with his best friend for almost ten years now, my mother, and on many of my friends.