Taken from “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
Published 1937

Six Ways to Make People Like You

1) Become genuinely interested in people. 2) Smile 3) Remember that a man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language. 4) Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 5) Talk in terms of the other person’s interest. 6) Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1) The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. 2) Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong. 3) If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 4) Begin in a friendly way. 5) Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately. 6) Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. 7) Let the other person feel that the idea is his. 8) Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. 9) Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. 10) Appeal to the nobler motives. 11) Dramatize your ideas. 12) Throw down the challenge.

Nine Ways to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment. 1) Begin with praise and honest appreciation. 2) Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. 3) Talk about you own mistakes before criticizing the other person. 4) Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. 5) Let the other person save face. 6) Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. 7) Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. 8) Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. 9) Make the other person happy about doing