...Styles of Love Love is not always what it may seem to be. There are so many ways to be in love or think you’re in love someone. It is not easy to understand the meaning of love for someone as a friend or as a lover. Researchers have come up with many different names for forms of love. There are many scenarios for each form of love. There is a girl name Erin who met a great guy named Joe, in high school. It started off just saying “hi” to each other to sitting next to each other on the bus. After a couple months Joe asked her to be his girlfriend. The first couple of years went well at least what Joe thought. Erin was into talking to other guys and seeing if there were other options while being in the relationship with Joen. She began to break up with Joe and start seeing another guy to see how bad Joe would want her back. As soon as Joe knew she was seeing someone else, he would ask to be with her again. The games continued on for almost 7 years. Joe finally began to realize the relationship was just a bunch of games. He wanted to take a break from this and move on. This relationship began on a great start but then ended on a bad note. Joe learned that Erin like to see “if the grass was greener on the other side” all while being with him. He saw the games she played with him and realized love was not to be this way. With the lesson learned he began to reevaluate life and see what true love is to be without...
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...Styles of Love Melissa Smtih PSY/265 Novemember 16, 2012 Tyrn Stevenson Styles of Love John and Sarah have a friendship style of love. John met Sarah in their junior year of high school. They have been best friends for years. They have always hung out together and talked on the phone for hours. One day after years of friendship John started feeling stronger feelings for Sarah. He was afraid to tell Sarah because he has always heard of people ruining their friendship by having sex. Months passed and Sarah and John were talking a walk together and she said “John I love you”. John then said “I love you too you are the best friend I have ever had”. Sarah told him she was in love with him. John then came clean and said “really I have been in love with you for months”. This was four years ago, today they still have a relationship, but there is little intimacy. Kacy has gone through many relationships and he has finally found someone that he wants to please and it only makes him happy to make her happy. The woman he is in love with is Kate and they both have a selfless love style. They always think about the other one before they think about themselves. Many of their friends tell them to think about themselves first, but they are very happy making each other happy. The differences in these two styles of love are with friendship love there is little physical intimacy. Selfless love gives without asking for anything in return. In both of these love styles marriage...
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...Styles of Love | Marcia Brandon | Professor Iwamoto PSY265 June 7, 2013 | Styles of Love Possessive, excited love (mania) can start out as something interesting and fun at first. Mark and Sarah meet at a bar and get a long great. They decide to exchange phone numbers and plan a date for next week. The following week they hook-up and go out to dinner and the movies, Mark is feeling really into Sarah, but after this date Sarah isn’t feeling the same kind of connection as she did at the bar. At this point Sarah decides she only wants to be friends with Mark. However, Mark feels differently and start sending her flowers, visiting her unannounced at work. At this point Mark can’t stop thinking about Sarah, he is losing sleep, having a hard time with eating, and he has become obsessed with Sarah. This level of mania is very unhealthy and is starting to scare Sarah. The unwanted attention, starts to feeling as though he has become overwhelmed with her. At this point things have become very bad for Mark, and can lead to bad things for Sarah as well. Selfless love (agape) is a love that is very giving. The person becomes willing to give-up just about anything to make the other person happy. They value the love of his or her partner more than him or herself. This form of love can become easily abusive. The person receiving this love may take advantage of the loving person, taking him or her for granted. John and Becky have been together for a few months now....
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...What is Your Love Attitudes towards Romantic Relationship? Social relationship especially love relationships are core of human life. Universally, love is reflected as one of the most important feelings that are experienced by most people and being in love leaves memorable social and psychological mark. Love can be defined in numerous ways, however according to Berscheid and Walster (1974) love is ‘an emotional and passionate experience between two individual’. Although conceptions of love vary widely, the most prominent and influential approach to psychology is Lee’s (1973) love styles and Lee (1988) quoted ‘it is the relationship that is styled, not the lover’ (p. 49). These love styles consist of Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania and Agape, divided into primary and secondary styles (Lee, 1973). According to Lee (1973), ‘Eros’ represents powerful physical and emotional attraction to the partner and is also know as ‘love at first sight’; ‘Ludus’ is a playful, distant, noncommittal style that treats love as a game; ‘Storge’ values the long-lasting friendship aspects of love. Storgic lovers were often friends initially however becomes affectionate and settle down together. The secondary styles are the compound of two of each primary styles known as ‘Pragma’ is a practical attitude towards love. This love style is not emphasized on intense physical attraction, but is a conscious search for partner that fits a set of rational criteria. Pragmatic lover is a combination of Ludus...
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...Course Date Love Types Introduction Love styles are modes of operation that show the various ways in which people love. John Lee captured these types of love in 1973 in his classic book titled ‘Colors of Love’. There are six types of love, they include; Eros, Ludus, Storge, Mania, Pragma and Agape. This subject is very interesting and is often found in many films. When Harry met Sally and War of the Roses are two classic films that borrow heavily from love styles. When Harry met Sally is a 1989 film in relation to the creation of a relationship; it is a romantic comedy. The two main characters are friends for a period of twelve years before becoming lovers. The film raises the question, “can women and men ever just be friends?”. It also addresses many household concepts that are encountered in a relationship, this include; “transitional person” and” high maintenance” girlfriend. It entails storge, where the individuals involved first become friends before they become partners. War of the Roses is also a 1989 film on breaking down of a relationship. It is about a wealthy couple who seem to be in a perfect relationship until things begin to fall apart and a gruesome divorce battle takes the center stage. The relationship between the Roses also starts of as friendship. The divorce becomes outrageous and it gets out of hand as the couple goes as far as trying to kill each other. Outline of Love Types Eros is a passionate, romantic, physical, sensual and emotional love. In such a...
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...narrator, lives in Indianapolis, Indiana, where she is forced by her overprotective mother to go to cancer support groups as an effort to meet friends. The bond demonstrated between Hazel and her mother was both a believable and a relatable mother-daughter relationship. It is at this support group, that Hazel meets her best friend and first love, Augustus Waters. Their relationship shows how much more meaningful life can be if you have someone to share important experiences with. It also amplifies that although the couple is young and both have suffered from hardships, including cancer, it does not get in the way of the pair building a relationship, a skill that many could learn from. Throughout the novel, Hazel does not let the illness that she has been marked with stop her from having goals or dreams. It is shown through the authors writing style, that the target audience is young adults. John Green is able to do this successfully by having the story told through the eyes of an adolescent, creating the tone and dialogue as though it is told by a teenager, making it relatable to a younger audience. The dialogue between Hazel and her love interest, Augustus, is both romantic and playful, when Augustus...
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...happy for this development… In the essay is the writer, Susan Cheever, telling about Central Park and the city-life by using her own memories. She has therefor made herself first person narrator, and all the statements and opinions is from her point of view. She is starting chronologically with her first memory from Central Park, where she mentions her father’s homecoming from World War II. She is from there, in steps, going through her life and memories from Central Park until the release of the essay in 2012. This indicates a timeline from about 1945 until 2012. The narrator is using many adjectives and metaphors to describe the park and her connection to it, which gives the text an almost lyric and romantic style. “Unfortunately for me and my already full-blown love affair with Central Park…” (p.8, ll.69-70). In this essay Susan Cheever is using a lot of contrast, one og the biggest is the contrast between city-life and country-life. Contrast: City - Country Theme: Identity Structure:...
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...been a downpour. The use of sibilance adds to the effect of the weather, both in the title and the content, ‘Shining Streets’, ‘skies’, ‘sooty’ and ‘solid’. When reading the poem the sound of rain can be heard through these words. In addition to this, onomatopoeia also adds to the effect with the word ‘splash’ in the seventh stanza. There are different types of language used within the poem, the rhyme scheme used is easy to follow and uses an ‘a, a, b, b, c, c, d, d’ couplet sequence. Further to this, each of the lines consist of eight syllables and each of the stanzas consist of four lines. This style is kept consistent throughout, making the reading of it easy to follow. Continuing with style of language, Noyes uses archaic language, which suggests this has not been written in the recent years, ‘portly pride’, ‘O love’. It could be established that Noyes has kept the style consistent to mirror the descriptions and to keep the poem flowing. Subjective language is used, especially in the last stanza where an opinion is portrayed, ‘And who would sail for Greece or Rome, When such a highway leads him home?’. The reader could be persuaded to look at their own home towns and see the magnificent imagery, rather than the thinking of a dark and damp scene. There is also use of enjambment, this could symbolise the flow of the...
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...Mary Amaral Ms. Masso URI Writing 12 August 2014 The Bell Jar- Elements Of Voice Elements of Voice: diction, detail, imagery, syntax, and tone. 1. Diction - Oblog (pg. 3) Diction can be defined as style of speaking or writing determined by the choice of words by a speaker or a writer. Diction or choice of words separates good writing from bad writing. It depends on a number of factors. 2. Detail – “I still have the makeup kit they gave me, filled out for a person with brown eyes and brown hair; an oblog of brown mascara with a tiny brush, anda round basin of blue eye shadow just big enough to dab the tip of your finger in, and three lipsticks ranging from red to pink, all cased in the same little glit bx with a mirror on one side”. Imagery means to use figurative language to represent objects, actions and ideas in such a way that it appeals to our physical senses. This is considered detail and imagery (#3) for the following reasons: * Included observations, color to description, visual imagery, verbal representation of sensory experience, both because you can visualize all of the make up and the colors. - Another example of detail from the book “The Bell Jar” is (pg. 210) “I looked with love at the lineup of waiting trays- the white paper napkins, folded in their crisp, isosceles triangles, each under the anchor of its silver fork, the pale domes of soft-boiled eggs in the blue egg cups, the scalloped glass shells of orange marmalade”. This description...
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...Also what your own goals are and what your plans are to obtain them. As well as what your self discipline is | What concerns, if any, do you have with academic writing and reading? | My concerns mostly is the writing part of it all. I love to read, I just have a hard time putting things on paper. But. I know I will learn through all these exercise | What two university resources will you use to strengthen your writing and reading skills (refer to your Student Resources Worksheet)? | I believe the two resources that will best benefit me will be writepoint and guides. | What is your personal learning style (refer to the Ch. 1 Aplia homework)? | My personal learning style is like more hands on mode3. | What are two obstacles you might need to overcome (refer to your Life Factors and personality assessments)? | One of my biggest obstacle is time management. Plus another would be financial. | What strategies can you use to overcome these obstacles and be successful? | One strategy would be time management like having a calendar or schedule. Where I can keep track of everything as long as I can remember to write everything down. Plus having a routine and sticking to a strict schedule. | How does knowing your personal learning style help you be successful? | By knowing what’s best for me and hope I learn better. Plus finding the right tools and system that best...
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...Sexual Persuasion "The Flea" by John Donne, and “To His Coy Mistress” by Andrew Marvel, are two greatly similar poems about expressing love through sex. In both poems the speakers propose a sinful offer that they back up with reasonable arguments. In “The Flea”, the narrator is trying to persuade a woman to have sex with him by symbolizing a flea, while the narrator in “To His Coy Mistress” is using the idea of carpe diem to convince his lover that she must take advantage of her youth and surrender her virginity. The men design the arguments to induce thoughts of sensual nature that can be used to trick the women into accepting their sexual offers. Though the poems display their themes in different styles, both poems use clever metaphors, symbols and imagery to present a persuasive approach. While “The Flea” seems to be a rather shallow attempt to get a lover into bed, the powerful imagery and symbolism lends the poem to a much deeper analysis. Donne utilizes the most common yet filthy creature, a flea, in an attempt to bestow upon his lover a feeling of not only unity, but, ultimately, an obligation to sleep with him. The flea represents an imaginative metaphor that extends throughout the poem and incorporates great irony as the creature bites both of the lovers and feasts on the mingling of their blood. The speaker uses this imagery of the physical merging of the two lovers’ blood to evoke a sense of literal unity. He states, “And in this flea our two bloods mingled be” and...
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...to some degree”(ID) will be “ Indirect thought, mimetic to some degree” (IT): “Free indirect discourse” (FID) will be “Free indirect thought” (FIT); “Direct discourse” (DD) will Be “Direct thought” (DT) and “Free direct discourse”(FDD) will be “Free Direct thought” (FDT). ITC, FIT, DT and FDT correspond with Leech and Short’s distinctions (in definition and symbol, except for ITC which correspond with their IT). I will give examples of DTS, TS and ITS: DTS: The bare report of a thought, without any specification of how the thinker felt or the language the thinker used to think. E.g., ‘He wondered about her love for him’ TS: Summary which represents thought in that it names in greater detail the thought act: E.g., ‘He wondered if she had another lover or if she was capable of love’ IT: Indirect thought which gives the illusion of perceiving aspects of the style of the thought act. E.g., ’He thought she had another bloody lover, he’d kill ‘em if ‘e ever saw ‘em.’ As is...
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...on Kirsten’s life. He is the one who inspired her to spend her life performing, and provided her with one of the only tangible items she has had since before the pandemic - the copies of ‘Station Eleven’. Arthur is a stronger part of Kirsten’s identity than her street address growing up, or her mother’s face. I think the reason Arthur is such a strong part of her memory and identity is because Arthur’s heart attack and subsequent death was the moment which marked the transition between pre- and post-pandemic life. After her family died, Kirsten had to become more mature and take care of herself. Arthur’s death is her last memory of her childhood, so this defines her childhood for her. Observations about the author’s writing style How does the writing style develop the plot/mood/setting/theme/character? How does it impact the reader’s response? Example(s) Page The author alludes to other art forms (like the fictional comic book, ‘Station Eleven’) and other artists’ work and lives (like Shakespeare’s). The theme of mortality is prevalent both in Shakespeare’s pre-pharmaceutical life and the novel’s post-pandemic life, while the theme of leaving one’s previously comfortable life and never being able to return is present in ‘Station Eleven’’s plot and the novel’s plot. This serves as a way for readers to draw comparisons between Shakespeare’s life, and the life in the comic book ‘Station Eleven’ to the novel’s events. For instance, the prevalence of constant death due to illness...
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...illustrate each character's emotions. Luke Havergal written by Edwin A. Robinson is a poem about a man who has lost a lover and being talked into following her into the afterlife. Annabel Lee written by Edgar A. Poe is a poem also about a man who has just lost a lover and is remeniscing on their life together and how she was pretty much stolen from him. In the both poems, the diction the authors chose to use is what helps set the style of the poem. It also helps the reader understand the characters and the situation. In Luke Havergal, the it tells the reader who the subject and narrator are. For example “Out of a grave I come to quench the kiss” (18). We know the narrator is saying they’re coming from beyond the grave so it’s probably a ghost or spirit. Because of the word kiss, we would assume a romantic relationship between the two. But the narrator uses the term ‘quench’. The dictionary definition of the word quench is to satisfy a thirst by drinking. If the narrator would kiss the subject to make him feel satisfied it’s possible that they didn’t love each other at all. The subject could have possibly loved the narrator but the narrator did not return those feelings. In Annable Lee the the narrator creates this atmosphere of a day-dream. The opening lines a god example; “It was many and many a year ago, in a kingdom by the sea”(1-2). It’s a similar opening to that of a fairie tales “Once upon a time, in a far away land”. And this state if reverie continues even after the death...
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...blond hair appears flattened out of gold.” I think by using figurative language Percy wants to better explain what specific place and object, which is in my opinion very effective because it makes essay look more understandable. Percy’s choice of words is great too, which entertain readers. 4. As I mentioned before Percy’s use of metaphors in his essay “Invasion” is very effective since he’s got a very nice choice of words that attract readers. Percy uses extended metaphor very effectively too. He compares to unlike things and continues it throughout few sentences. But comparing to short metaphors extended one doesn’t help him as much as short ones because of its size. 5. There were several instances where Percy used straightforward style such as in these sentences: “The last time I was there, January, I trudged into a coffee shop to warm up. Ahead of me in line stood a teenager. He was wearing sunglasses, designer aviators. His hair was...
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