...has parked in your favorite parking spot so you have to walk farther to get to the entrance in the rain. These types of little things can lead to conflicts with feelings of anger, so it is so important that we learn to forgive and move forward. Forgiveness is like a science, there is always room for more research or studies to determine how people are adapting to ways that help give them the ability to forgive or try to understand why some are holding back forgiveness. Mark 11:25 “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your...
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...ENABLING FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION IN FAMILY THERAPY Interpersonal conflicts are almost inevitable within families. The closeness and intensity of family relationships along with differences among family members in knowledge, desires, values, abilities, etc., account for much of this turmoil. Family members are often deeply hurt in the course of their conflicts and sometimes there is a significant breach of trust, Occasionally a family member will consider a certain offence unforgivable and will not seek reconciliation. Usually, however, family members try to recover a sense of personal and relationship wellbeing by endeavoring to forgive and reconcile. This can be a long and arduous process. Therapists are often consulted to facilitate such healing. My purpose in writing this paper is to share my understanding of some of the complexities involved. The perspective that I adopt is a social constructionist or ‘bringforthist’ stance. I assume that through caring conversation, it. is possible to bring forth preferred ways of thinking and interacting that can lead to forgiveness and reconciliation. MUTUAL HURTS The duration and effects of any particular conflict between family members depends on how differences are managed in the nuances of ongoing family interaction: Conflicts vary from brief disagreements that are hardly noticeable, to extremely destructive emotional and physical battles that last for years. During any major episode of conflict, all parties involved tend...
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...respect, and understanding. According to the analysis of the theological principles involved in reconciliation, forgiveness and truth are the most paramount virtues of the Christian ways. The aim of the Christian involvement in the public reconciliation domain is to develop a truthful public relationship. Public theology helps in explaining the responsiveness of the indigenous perspectives concerning diversified policy matters. This paper aims at discussing some of the theological principles applicable in the indigenous reconciliation in Australia as well as the lessons that Christians derive from participating in public reconciliation debates. Reconciliation in Indigenous Australia The theological principle of forgiveness has been embraced in the political platforms as a way of ensuring reconciliation. The catholic and the Methodist churches have proposed forgiveness as a way of achieving a conflict free society among the indigenous people. The churches mentioned have also accommodated a large number of people with whom they have connected the secular politics. Forgiveness and truth values have been essential in increasing such reconciliation attempts in Australia. The theological principles have helped in reconciliation since they teach the virtues of forgiveness and truthfulness at individual levels. These values help in shaping individual behaviours towards conflict resolution (Catsam 2009; 12). Such attempts by the Christians...
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...brief synopsis of a system that could be integrated into churches to teach higher levels of forgiveness. It further explains the reasoning for the need of forgiveness due to all of the benefits that having a forgiving character can bring. Those who forgive more easily have a tendency to present with reductions in anger, depression, anxiety, grief, PTSD, and stress. They also have higher levels of self-esteem, hope, and positive attitudes. Even though the idea of forgiveness has been taught from early civilizations and documented in the pages of the Hebrew Bible and New Testament, the benefits of forgiveness have not been explored until approximately twenty years ago. It was not until 1984 when social scientist, Smedes and again in 1990 Worthington and DiBlasio sought to explore these possible benefits and to develop models of forgiveness (Magnuson & Enright, 2008). The two most popular models are Enright's process model and Worthington's REACH model. Enright's model which has four basic steps; the first is to begin to uncover the hurt or shame caused by the offense; the second step is to purposefully decide to forgive, the third step is to work towards forgiveness. One must begin to develop empathy for their offender. Not for the purpose of justifying their offense but to better understand why they acted in such a manner. The fourth and final step is to receive the healing of forgiveness. At this stage one learns to let the pain go and not to dwell on the incident. The second...
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...people seeking help for troubled marriages far outnumbers those seeking help for depression, family tensions, alcohol or drug abuse, anxiety, spiritual concerns, past traumas, or crises. Most Christians value marriage. God approves of the permanence of marriage (Malachi 2:14), and Jesus and Paul advocate marriage (Matthew 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:2–12; Luke 16:18; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11). God hates the pain and brokenness that oozes from divorce. Popular culture saturates our minds with the idea that obliterating the bonds of marriage can relieve the pain of marital conflict. In contrast, pastors advocate the virtues of marriage from the pulpit. The Christian who lives with daily marital conflict, hurt, and anger is pinched in a vice. Seeking help from the pastor, troubled spouses are sometimes disappointed when this counseling doesn’t work. Too often, Christians—who are separated, divorced, or living a life of conflict and anguish—twist free by leaving the church. This is not a satisfying solution to marriage partners or to pastors. Six Bridge Planks to Reconciliation Between Troubled Marriage Partners Plank 1. Decide whether to reconcile. While we are admonished in Scripture to reconcile and live at peace in as much as it depends on us, there are some conditions where reconciliation is not immediately advisable. When partners are potentially or likely physically dangerous to each other, reconciliation might need to be postponed until a partner’s safety can be assured...
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...Conflict Resolution Conflict is a state of disagreement between two or more parties. This disagreement can be realized in both peaceful and violent manifestations. A clash of interests, values, actions, or directions often sparks a conflict. Conflict occurs on many levels-within the individual when a person confronts their own competing desires; between individuals such as in a marriage; between groups of individuals, such as work groups; between societies or cultures, such as different religions or ethnicities; or international conflict which may become a fully fledged war. Causes for conflict are many but all conflicts have as their root cause self-centered behavior, when one's personal desires, or those of one's own group, are pursued without regard for the needs of the other or for the larger society to which both belong. The result of such selfishness is the breakdown of harmonious interactions or the initiation of aggressive and destructive behavior. Conflict theory attempts to explain social conflict through the idea that all participants in a group or society attempt to maximize their personal benefits and are therefore at odds with all other members of the population. Conflict resolution is the ending of a conflict, or at least reduction of its severity. It may involve conflict management, in which the parties continue the conflict but adopt less extreme tactics; settlement, in which they reach agreement on enough issues that the conflict stops; or removal of the...
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...Abstract Regardless of situations in one’s life there comes a time when they are going to be faced with conflict. Conflict is inevitable, even in a marriage. However, it is how the conflict in a marriage that will determine how it affects the longevity of the marriage and the effects it has on any children involved and if the affects become detrimental to the parties involved. When there is unresolved conflict in a marriage it not only has an effect on the emotional well-being of those involved but also has an effect on the mental, spiritual and physical well-being of all individuals involved. This paper will discuss how conflict in marriage affects those involved as well as the longevity of the marriage itself. Studies have shown that conflict and disagreements within a marriage have and affect or couples and the relationships versus couples who are willing to confront their issues and talk their problems out. Individuals were studied over a ten day period using two separate groups to see how they dealt with conflict. The first group consisted of 128 individuals and their conflicts for a ten day period were recorded. The second group consisted of 75 couples in a laboratory setting. The couples were monitored to see how they related to their mate and how they responded to conflict in which they faced. This was to measure the commitment level of each of the mates before the discussions they had and after their discussions...
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...Conflict Resolution and Mediation The concept of power is relative to the level of control exercised over resources deemed as necessities. Although there are a variety of ways to define power, there are a few elements that constantly appear. One of the constant elements in power is dependence. The next element is influence. Another element is the skill and strength to move resources into action (Blader & Chen, 2012). The power imbalances as it relates to distributive, integrative and designated power can impede one’s ability to manage work-related conflict. This paper will present a synthesized meaning of conflict of power, determine how power can constrain or exacerbate conflict, discuss ways for leaders to integrate conflict mediation into organizational culture, and include examples of scenarios in the analysis (learners.ncu.edu, 2013). Conflict of power comes from both conceptual and perceptive points of view. Conceptually, power is an expression through notions of symbolism as result of the relationship that exists between people (Dahl, 2007). The concept of power has more of an extrospective reference but also includes an introspective approach. The concept of power is exemplified through rank and file. Even if a soldier does not personally know an officer, it is the extrospective approach to power that has the soldier solute the officer. The soldier gives respect to the position a higher rank. The respect of position is called designated power (Wilmot...
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...Bonesetter’s Daughter, displays that family is stronger than power, love is wider than fields, the bonesetter is more broken than the bones he heals. This entire story is based inside the mind of Ruth Young, daughter to LuLing Young, and granddaughter to Precious Auntie. Each character's personality unveils as they enter their past, it begins with present Ruth, then moves to Ruth’s childhood, and in the end Lulings childhood and her interaction with her mother (Precious Auntie).To the Young family healing is more than physical it is emotional. The conflict between mother to daughter fractures them like bones- shattered, broken, and painful; yet with those ruptured pieces, they heal and sculpt themselves into strong women. No matter how broken, they may be, they will always heal and come unit to become stronger than steel. The conflict happening in The Bonesetter’s Daughter...
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...Social media in our world can sometimes cause a lot conflict among people. One concept that tends to happen a lot on social media is flaming. “Flaming is a cyber term for an abusive, attacking written message between internet users” (Rothwell 247). Therefore, flaming causes a lot of problems in the social media world. Conflict seems to happen on social media when flaming occurs. In the article, “Justine Sacco is Good at Her Job, and How I Came to Peace With Her,” the author explains how people on twitter were sending abusive comments to Justine and that is one example of flaming on social media. Another thing that can cause conflicts on social media is emoticons. “Emoticons are graphic notations that indicate emotional information” (Rothwell 247). Emoticons can be very offensive to certain individuals. Some people can use emoticons in situations that don’t necessarily need them and therefore that can cause conflict among others....
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...each other like family, but they don’t always act as such. Current conflicts between Muslim extremists and the Jews they kill or drive out of their newly seized lands have raised doubts about the moral compasses possessed by such extremists and how those beliefs could have descended from their abrahamic ancestor (Pullella). In the realm of Judaism and Islam, the religious moral compass’s magnetic north is weighted based on the definitions of...
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...Even so, she is not fully committed as she was quick to find a reason of faulting ken by bringing up the story of when he shared details of her studies with the father. On the other hand, Ken’s orientation is based on win-lose such that he is not ready to listen or even buy into the explanation of Jan. His attitude and tone show aggression and unwillingness to participate in solving any crisis between them. In order to create a more successful conflict outcome, they should both acknowledge that they are competing and need to collaborate with each other. Ken should have accepted the apologies from Jan as he had expressed his dissatisfaction and they were heard. In addition, Jan still valued their relationship and demonstrated that she did not want it compromised over the issue. 6. Identify two places in the dialogue where Jan and Ken missed opportunities to manage conflict successfully. Specifically, describe what they did do and then explain which of the conflict management skills should have been applied to create a more positive conflict resolution. Situation...
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...opinions in situations in their lives together. Marital conflict is not a matter of a difference in opinions. Marital conflict stems from a development of unfortunate series of circumstances that have caused a rift in the unity of the partnership of the marriage. The source of marital conflict consists of issues that have boiled up to the point of a severe lack of communication. When married couples stop communicating with each other, they grow farther apart in their marriage. If married couples have the opportunity to identify the causes of marital discord, they will develop healthier ways to resolve the complex issues within their marriage. In general, all couples have dealt with issues with finance, parenting, and domestic duties. This case study analysis will discuss the facilitator’s report of the relationship dynamics of a conflicted couple, Steve and Cindy. This analysis will focus on the identification of key strengths and weaknesses between the couple, how the couple’s personalities might be influencing their situation, and developing a strategy to counsel and support the couple. This analysis will highlight conflict resolution skills that the couple may be able to employ as a way to build upon their foundation within their marriage. Case Study 2: Steve and Cindy Introduction When a couple enters marital counseling, they are seeking to identify potential relationship issues and resolve complicated conflicts. In counseling, counselors help couples focus on the...
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...Simon Wiesenthal author of The Sunflower and main character reflects on his time as a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp. The Sunflower depicts the inner self conflict of forgiveness. The Sunflower is very detailed placing reader alongside Simon and his journey through emotions that countless would not have thought twice about. Following the main characters, the plot and a personal response to the book will hopefully allow future readers to open their minds as well as allowing the reader to discover within themselves to ask what would you do? () The Sunflower explores the (feeling) of forgiveness. What is forgiveness? Forgiveness is a disposition or willingness to forgive. As humans, we have almost a reluctance to forgive. Allowing us to...
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...actively tried to do damage to us, not looking at the significant age or maturity factors. Looking back at two faced best friends, lying boyfriends or girlfriends or jealous co-workers reminds us how desperately we looked for solutions that would work in the interest of helping us win. Oscar Wild once said: “Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them more”. Although forgiveness is a beautiful act of kindness, being annoying towards enemies is the perfect tool to achieve ones goal, which is winning. It creates distraction, provides with an invincible armor, and most importantly no one wants to be around an annoying person, which will keep the enemy distant. Primarily, annoying the opponents by forgiving them creates a distraction and will confuse them. Forgiveness is the last thing they would have expected from someone whom they are bullying. Enemies usually are prepared to fight, physically or verbally, and they are pumped up with anger and frustration. Forgiving defuses the situation, and in some way takes “fuel” out of the opponent. That also gives people a reason to start a dialog and resolve their conflict. Distraction takes the attention away from someone, and what’s most important is that it helps achieve peace, which is our main goal. For instance, we see this in children’s interactions, when several kids are playing together. There is often a child that wants to cause trouble. If all other kids “feel into it” and fight or get upset, the troublemaker will continue his/her...
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